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This is a warning because some of the details in this podcast episode might be distressing. The names have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved, but these stories and experiences are based on actual events. So take care of yourself.
Recognising the Signs of Abuse: Hey there, gorgeous selves. It's Cheryl here. Welcome back to another episode of ABGW, the podcast where we celebrate everything that makes you you.
Amazing, brilliant, gorgeous, and wonderful. Now, today's episode is a special one because we're diving into something super important, and that's recognising those sneaky signs of abuse that might be lurking in your life, whether that's emotional, psychological or even financial. No more flying under the radar here. We're getting real, we're getting empowered. And yes, we're doing it with a sprinkle of fun because life's too short not to. So grab your favourite cup of tea or that secret stash of chocolates, and let's get ready to start this healing journey together. Are you with me? Let's go.
Imagine this for a moment: You’re in your own home, the place that’s supposed to be your sanctuary. But instead of feeling safe, you’re always on edge, like you’re walking on eggshells. The air feels thick, your muscles are tense, and you’re not even sure why. There’s this knot in your stomach that just won’t go away, and you’re constantly second-guessing yourself—what you say, do, and even breathe. That’s not how home should feel.
Abuse isn’t just about physical harm. It’s often much sneakier, showing up as emotional, psychological, or even financial control. It can start so subtly that you might not even notice it at first. Maybe it’s those little jabs at your self-esteem or the way you slowly disconnect from family and friends. Over time, it chips away at who you are until you hardly recognize yourself one day.
But here’s the good news: Awareness is power. When you can name what’s happening, you can start to change it. As Eckhart Tolle said, “Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” By learning to spot these signs, you’re permitting yourself to step out of denial and into the truth. This awareness can lift that heavy weight off your shoulders, bringing clarity and reducing anxiety. The more you trust your intuition, the more confident you’ll feel about making bold decisions.
Let me share something personal. Growing up, I thought constant criticism, tension, and silent treatment were just part of everyday family life. I thought everyone experienced it. I remember the dread I felt every time I heard footsteps on the stairs, bracing myself for what might come next. It wasn’t until much later that I realized what I’d been through wasn’t normal—it was abuse. Maybe you’ve had similar experiences, or maybe this is the first time you recognise these patterns in your life. Realising this is the first step toward change. It’s acknowledging that your feelings are valid and that what you’ve experienced is real. Once you do that, you start the healing process and take back your story.

Thank you for joining me on this episode of ABGW. If today’s chat about recognizing the subtle signs of abuse resonates with you, take a deep breath and know you’ve got this. Healing isn’t a sprint; it’s a beautiful, messy, empowering journey. You’ve got a whole lot of power waiting for you.

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