• The Role of Flying Monkeys in Narcissistic Abuse: How to Protect Yourself
    Nov 18 2024

    In this episode, Coach K dives into the covert dynamics of narcissistic abuse, focusing on the role of “flying monkeys.” These individuals, knowingly or unknowingly, enable narcissists to continue their manipulation and abuse, often leaving victims feeling isolated, attacked, and misunderstood. Coach K unpacks the strategies narcissists use to recruit flying monkeys, the devastating impact on victims, and, most importantly, how to protect yourself and reclaim your peace.

    Whether you're navigating a narcissistic relationship or seeking to support someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable strategies to help you heal, set boundaries, and move forward.

    Today on I Am For Me:

    • What are flying monkeys, and how do they enable narcissistic abuse?
    • The tactics narcissists use to manipulate flying monkeys
    • The impact of flying monkeys on the victim’s emotional and social well-being, including isolation and gaslighting.
    • Strategies to protect yourself from flying monkeys, such as:
    • Steps to reclaim your independence and create a life free from manipulation.

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    15 mins
  • The Power of Sisterhood in Divorce
    Nov 11 2024

    In today’s episode, Coach K explores the vital role of women supporting women through the challenges of divorce, detailing the profound impact such solidarity can have during this transitional phase. She discusses how healthy female friendships provide emotional support, practical help, and a network of resilience and hope, emphasizing the importance of sisterhood in navigating the tumultuous experiences of divorce. Coach K underscores the psychological distress associated with divorce, including feelings of loss, grief, anger, and confusion, and how support from other women who have faced similar challenges can be transformative.

    Today on I Am 4 Me:

    • The Emotional Impact of Divorce: Understanding the deep psychological toll and the necessity of support during such times.
    • The Power of Sisterhood in Divorce: How women can bolster each other’s strength, resilience, and hope through shared experiences and empathetic support.
    • Building and Maintaining Support Networks: Strategies for creating and sustaining a supportive sisterhood that empowers women to navigate divorce.
    • The Stigma Surrounding Divorce: Addressing societal judgments and affirming that divorce is not a personal failure but a challenging life transition.
    • Empowerment Through Sisterhood: How a network of supportive women can help each other take control of their lives, pursue new opportunities, and face the future with confidence.


    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    14 mins
  • Troy Thompson, T2 Systems: The Importance of Fitness for Women
    Nov 4 2024

    In this inspiring episode of I Am 4 Me, Coach K is joined by Troy Thompson from T2 Fitness. Troy shares his journey from a young gym member to owning his fitness center and becoming a trusted fitness guide. Together, they discuss the importance of community in fitness, the value of structured, sustainable workout programs, and how women, especially those in their 40s to 60s, can embark on a health and fitness journey. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to reinvigorate your workout routine, this conversation offers practical advice, motivation, and insight on making fitness a part of your lifestyle.

    Today on I Am 4 Me:

    • Troy’s inspiring journey to owning T2 Fitness and how he became passionate about helping others
    • The importance of community and support in maintaining a fitness routine
    • The science behind 30-minute high-intensity workouts and how they benefit women’s health
    • Strategies for starting or reintroducing a sustainable fitness routine, especially for women over 40
    • How T2 Fitness offers personalized programs and guidance to make fitness accessible and enjoyable

    Connect with Troy Thompson and T2 Fitness:

    • Instagram: @t2fitness

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    38 mins
  • The One With The Most Status Keeps The Friends
    Oct 28 2024

    In today’s episode, Coach K explores the emotional and social dynamics that arise when a woman leaves a relationship or social group, only to find that the person with more status keeps the friends. This episode unpacks why people align with status, how this betrayal can affect one’s emotional well-being, and what steps you can take to rebuild your sense of self and social support. With compassion and insight, Coach K offers strategies to navigate this painful experience and reminds listeners that losing friends aligned with status can create space for more authentic and meaningful connections.

    Today on I Am For Me:

    • Why people align with social status after a breakup or separation
    • The emotional impact of losing friends to the person with influence
    • Strategies for reclaiming your narrative and staying grounded in your truth
    • How to rebuild a support system with authentic, supportive connections
    • Embracing personal growth, self-care, and resilience through the process

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    15 mins
  • Divorcing a Narcissist
    Oct 21 2024

    In today’s episode, Coach K offers guidance and support for those navigating one of life’s most challenging experiences—divorcing a narcissist. She breaks down the manipulative tactics narcissists use during divorce, such as controlling finances, lying to the courts, and alienating loved ones. Coach K also addresses the emotional and psychological toll this process takes, especially on children, and provides practical strategies to protect yourself and heal. If you are currently facing or recovering from this difficult journey, this episode offers insight, strength, and a reminder that you are not alone.

    Today on I Am For Me:

    • Recognizing the manipulative tactics narcissists use during divorce
    • Protecting yourself financially and emotionally
    • Strategies to minimize conflict and maintain healthy boundaries
    • Rebuilding self-esteem and reclaiming your narrative after leaving a narcissist
    • Supporting children through the emotional challenges of narcissistic abuse

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    18 mins
  • The Psychology of a Overt Narcissist
    Oct 14 2024

    In today’s episode, Coach K takes you on a deep dive into the psychology of a narcissist, exploring the traits, behaviors, and emotional patterns that define narcissism. Narcissists can have a profound impact on our lives—whether they are partners, friends, family members, or colleagues. By learning to recognize narcissistic behaviors such as gaslighting, manipulation, and the need for control, we can protect our emotional well-being and set healthy boundaries. Coach K offers practical strategies for navigating relationships with narcissists while prioritizing self-care, empowerment, and healing.

    Today on I Am 4 Me:

    • Understanding the core traits of narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
    • The psychological drivers behind narcissistic behaviors
    • Emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and love bombing: How narcissists control others
    • Strategies to set boundaries, maintain emotional well-being, and seek support
    • Reclaiming your self-worth and healing from narcissistic relationships

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    14 mins
  • Dr. Kate Reid: Healing from the Inside Out: Emotional Stress, Trauma, and Physical Health
    Oct 7 2024

    In today’s episode, Coach K is joined by her longtime friend and naturopathic doctor, Dr. Kate Reid, for a profound conversation on emotional well-being, its connection to physical health, and the unique challenges women face in modern society. Together, they discuss how unresolved emotional stress, trauma, and the demands on women today can manifest in physical health issues. They explore holistic approaches to healing, emphasizing the importance of treating the mind-body connection and addressing root causes rather than just symptoms. Dr. Reed shares insights from her transition from conventional psychiatry to naturopathic medicine and offers practical advice on how women can take charge of their health and prioritize themselves.

    Today on I Am 4 Me:

    • The connection between emotional well-being and physical health
    • How stress and trauma impact the body, particularly in women
    • Holistic approaches to healing and treating the mind-body connection
    • The importance of prioritizing self-care and building a supportive circle
    • Key takeaways for women navigating the demands of mid-life, careers, and relationships


    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    32 mins
  • The Psychology of an Affair
    Sep 30 2024

    In today’s episode of I Am 4 Me, Coach K takes us on a deep and compassionate exploration of the psychology of affairs. She unpacks the emotional and psychological reasons that lead people to stray in relationships, while offering understanding rather than judgment. Coach K discusses how affairs can affect all parties involved—the person who was betrayed, the one who cheated, and even the third party. Through empathy and insight, she addresses the painful aftermath of infidelity, offering guidance on how to heal, rebuild trust, and find a path forward. Whether you are navigating the effects of an affair or seeking to strengthen your relationship, this episode provides valuable perspectives on emotional wellbeing, communication, and personal growth.

    Today on I Am 4 Me:

    • The psychological and emotional reasons behind why affairs happen
    • The impact of an affair on all involved: betrayal, guilt, and social stigma
    • Healing and rebuilding trust after an affair
    • Communication and emotional intimacy as keys to preventing infidelity
    • Reclaiming self-worth and personal growth after a betrayal

    Connect with your host Coach K:

    Instagram: @coachkmartell

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    18 mins