In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary. How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode!

Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friend’s partner. (1:42)

When do you know if it’s not working anymore, and that it’s time to move on? (11:06)

Healthy reasons and ways to be ethically non monogamous. (14:49)

Self growth and how it shows up in relationships. (19:31)

Approaching a new relationship differently. Asking for what you want and using your own self knowledge to communicate better with your partner. (30:26)

Human Design and Attachment Styles: how knowing yours can benefit communication in a relationship. (45:35)

Evolving Agreements in Non Monogamy: adapting to needs throughout your relationships, from exclusive to soft swapping to same room to open etc. (51:38)

Learning Moments: don’t assume. Talk about it and move on, don’t hold resentments. (52:56)

Last (sexual) Nuggets: Role playing spiciness! (59:50)

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

In this conversation, Elle, Vee, and Arik Bruckner discuss the concept of paid companionship and its implications in society when approached in a serious, professional, safe, consensual and ethical way. Arik is the co-founder and CEO of Choice, a pioneering global online booking platform for paid companionship and intimacy.

This online booking platform is revolutionizing the paid companionship industry, extending beyond sex by offering a solution to loneliness and prioritizing safety.

In this chat, Arik shares insights into the origins of the Choice platform, the importance of destigmatizing paid companionship, and the various services offered. The conversation highlights the legal concerns, potential for education and understanding in reshaping perceptions around sex, intimacy and companionship.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Paid Companionship and Escort Sex Work

02:51 The Concept of Choice and Its Origins. Breaking the preconceived notions of paid companionship from sex work to non sexual activities.

07:28 Understanding the Market and Destigmatization and interview result Revealed from 700 sex workers across Europe, Canada, Australia and the US.

09:35 Safety and Legal Aspects

12:39 The Spectrum of Companionship Across Different Demographics.

18:00 The 250+ options services offered and growing and how it depends on the jurisdiction of where the services are offered.

20:08 What is a male wing person experience? It is requested often by women or groups of women or having a date to corporate event

23:31 How Choice verifies users, survey responses revealed from female customers to male customers and the feedback process to access user experience

26:40 The behavioral guidelines and required questionnaire for both parties after each event

25:26 A walk through of the user experience of Choice and why Choice doesn’t use user ratings

30:00 How Choice prioritizes safety through their verification process and using escrow account

32:34 The Legal concerns, Challenges and Misconceptions in the Industry

36:00 Stigmas and stereotypes to overcome, consent, authenticity and how paid companionship can compliment lifestyles

44:26 Sex Work Union Opinions, Policy issues around Legalized Sex Work and HowPaid Companionship differ in Various countries New Zealand, Amsterdam, Switzerland, Nordic areas

56:33 Sexual Surrogacy and Using Choice as a way to get real life education sexually as opposed to the current model of learning from prom aka sexual entertainment

01:03:21 Providers profiles have levels which indicate verification steps

01:07:45 Misconceptions Arik had about this industry, privacy concerns, and how he adjusted the platform based on surveys and feedback

Choice Website

Choice Instagram

Choice X

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook.

What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18)

Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05)

Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32)

"Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37)

Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07)

Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17)

Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33)

Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24)

Figuring out the root cause of jealousy: the relationship, you, or a little bit of both? (44:39)

Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06)

Conversations to have with your partner. (55:10)

Phobia vs engineering methods to mitigate jealousy. (1:01:27)

How to support a partner who is feeling jealous. (1:06:20)

Final "nuggets of wisdom". (1:13:43)

Find Kathy:
Kathylabriola.com

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

This week, Elle and Vee bring back Lolo and B from Episode 081: Long Distance ENM and Creating Sexy Spaces, and Lola Jean from Episode 074: Fetish Wrestling, Choking and Squirting Misconceptions to play WHOREible Life, a card game all about breaking down barriers and getting naughty AND deep!


Have You Ever: Been fucked with a strap on dildo? Favorite dildos, and what makes strap on sex good. (3:05)

Have You Ever: Paid for sex? What is the appeal behind role playing as an escort? (15:18)

Would you Rather: Use a ball gag or receive a rim job? (21:30)

Pubic Hair do’s and don’ts! (22:59)

Would you Rather: Be the focus of a gang bang with 4 or more or be in an orgy with 8 or more people? (29:44)

Different types of gang bangs? (32:14)

The Wheel of Consent. (34:22)

Would you rather: Give impact play with a flogger, or give or receive bite marks? (36:54)

What is possessive touch? How to feel desired without messing with labels and power sub/dom dynamics. (38:33)


What is primal play? (41:02)

Would you Rather: Go to a daytime orgy aka ‘dorgy’ or masturbate together next to your partner? (43:32)


Lola Jean:
@lolajeandotcom
www.lolajean.com

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

Elle and Vee have Summer back for an encore episode after she shared her experiences as a trained submissive under two doms in Episode 088: Inside the Mind of a Sub. This time, she discusses her experiences and the lessons she's learned from being a unicorn for an array of couples with lots of different dynamics, and the girls put in their two cents from their own experiences.

How do you become a unicorn in the ethically non monogamous lifestyle? (1:46)

Navigating couples’ dynamics as a unicorn and establishing your boundaries. Why you should keep texting in the group chat. (9:12)

Deferring to the wife/girlfriend, and holding their feelings in high regard. Feeling thankful for being invited in. (16:07)

As a husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend: the benefits of playing separately as a unicorn. (22:20)

Playing with a couple when you’re more attracted to one person than the other. (27:01)

BDSM vs ENM: rough sex vs vanilla sex. (32:30)

Questions to ask as the couple, and as the unicorn, before playing. (34:23)

Best threesome positions. (42:50)

Meeting couples on apps. Overcoming past experiences and being a couples’ first. (46:42)

Listener question: tips to stay safe when meeting new people as a single unicorn. (49:59)


What does this lifestyle (ethical non monogamy) bring to your life in the absence of having your own primary partner? (1:00:26)

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with Summer (FetLife: DaddysPrettyToy ) about her journey through a BDSM Dom/Sub relationship. She shares her experiences as a trained submissive, highlighting the positive aspects of her BDSM journey and the transformative power of a healthy Dom/Sub dynamic. Listen in for a detailed play-by-play of her scenes, insights into her daily tasks, and the reasons and methods behind her punishments.

How Fifty Shades of Grey and Playful Wrestling with Her Boyfriend Inspired Summer to Explore BDSM: She discusses how she found her first Dom and what motivated her to get into this lifestyle. (1:04)

Her First Dom/Sub Relationship: The Agreement and Lessons Beyond. (8:40)

A Day in the Life of a D/s Relationship: Sessions and Communication: Details of a typical day in her Dom/Sub relationship, including the dynamics of their sessions and the importance of clear communication. (11:43)

A Day in the Life of a Trained Sub: 8-10 Hour Sessions and Rules (13:12)

A Sexy Wax Play Scene: Building Trust, Aftercare, and Debriefing: Summer describes a wax play scene, the questions that were asked to build trust, why the scene was suddenly stopped, and the aftercare and debriefing discussion. (15:52)

Characteristics of a Good Dom and How It Can Be a Gift to a Sub. (19:09)

The Misuse of the Term 'Dom'. (20:17)

Shibari Rope Scene Play by Play: Summer compares the differences between her two Doms, the sexual skills she learned, and details a scene involving being frog-tied with shibari rope and using a TENS unit. (22:49)

Being a Good Dom Means being a Good Sub: Summer explains where her two dominants learned their skills. Exploring how BDSM practices push personal limits and how these experiences can translate into real-world scenarios. (31:00)

Punishments as a Sub: What Happens When You’re a Brat; A look at the various types of punishments a submissive might encounter, whether they enjoy them or not, and what happened when Summer was a "brat." (35:53)

People-Pleasing, Struggling to Say No, and Asking for Permission to See Other Men (40:21)

Ending a Sub/Dom Relationship for a Vanilla Relationship (44:20)

Finding the Right Dom for You: A play-by-play of how Summer met her Dom on FetLife, along with tips and questions you can use to find the right Dom for yourself. (46:20)

Insights into how her Dom helped with her personal wellness and growth. (49:15)

Reflecting on whether it's possible for Summer to pursue a monogamous relationship after such deep and intimate Dom/Sub experiences. (51:00)

Be intentional with your desires and sexual awakening. Tips to Be Safe when exploring BDSM. (54:00)

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. This episode is FULL of "nuggets", touching on everything from tantra to energy centers to how to up the intimacy in your relationship to why it might be better to practice tantra with someone other than your primary partner. You don't want to miss this one!

Why tantra and intimacy coaching?

Becoming orgasmic: orgasming with yourself and unlocking the ability to orgasm with others.

The pussy as an energy hub: taking on sexual partners’ trauma.

What is a full body orgasm, and how do we know if we’ve had one?

Orgasmic states and self mastery through tantra.

Releasing through tantric sex, and who should you practice with? Crying during sex, and holding space for your partner’s release.

How to find the right practitioner for a yoni or lingum massage.

Listener Question: “How can I get my wife’s spark back in the bedroom?”

Listener Question: “What’s a quick guide on tantric breathing?”

Intimacy Block: The ability to let go with people you don’t know or care about as much.

Looking at sex as something more than just the physical experience.

School of Intimacy: providing the foundation for better sex, relationship and tantric education.

Can you practice tantra with the same sex, when traditionally it's all about the yin and yang of the masculine and feminine energies?


Find Magda:

Website: www.magdakay.com
Instagram: @magdakayofficial
Youtube: @magdakay

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up and discuss their takeaways from two sex party events their friend group (the Joy Fam) threw, including recapping sexy stories, "a-ha" moments and reflections.

Implementing Lessons Learned: change your environment and have vacation sex! (0:33)

House of Love club night takeaways: Vee’s birthday celebration, and Elle’s first big night out since having a baby! Getting over new mom nervousness with costumes: How themes get you into the sexy mood - especially animal theme :) (3:56)

How to feel confident while carrying baby weight: MILK PLAY! Break the touch barrier by using breast milk play as an ice breaker? (5:56)

Sexy Story with The Greek: what makes a good single male in the lifestyle? Wolf energy. (11:11)

Feeling overwhelmed at a sex party when you’re the guest of honor, taking a backseat but staying involved. (18:27)

Joyunion: sex friends getting together with babies - it’s different but the same! (20:46)

TIP: how to get sexual if you’re not sure if you’re horny. Getting turned on by hearing another woman orgasming. (23:27)

Sexy story: Pushing past your own limits. Elle orgasms twice when she thinks she can only do it once. (27:13)

CREAM PIE STORY: Trying to do TVP (triple vaginal penetration), DVP (double vaginal penetration) and cream pies. (29:33)

TIP: take 5 minutes away from the overstimulation of the party to let your body relax and your dick to get hard. (31:46)

TAKEAWAY: The problem with peeing in the middle of the orgy. (34:26)

TAKEAWAY: The best orgy snack, and issues with dry mouth. (37:00)

Being a mom in an orgy and getting distracted during play. How to re-center yourself and focus on your body and sensations. (39:36)

Listener question: Our book recommendations for jealousy! (43:34)

Where to find us, and how you can support us:

Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod

Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!