In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary. How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode!

Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friend’s partner. (1:42)

When do you know if it’s not working anymore, and that it’s time to move on? (11:06)

Healthy reasons and ways to be ethically non monogamous. (14:49)

Self growth and how it shows up in relationships. (19:31)

Approaching a new relationship differently. Asking for what you want and using your own self knowledge to communicate better with your partner. (30:26)

Human Design and Attachment Styles: how knowing yours can benefit communication in a relationship. (45:35)

Evolving Agreements in Non Monogamy: adapting to needs throughout your relationships, from exclusive to soft swapping to same room to open etc. (51:38)

Learning Moments: don’t assume. Talk about it and move on, don’t hold resentments. (52:56)

Last (sexual) Nuggets: Role playing spiciness! (59:50)

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In this conversation, Elle, Vee, and Arik Bruckner discuss the concept of paid companionship and its implications in society when approached in a serious, professional, safe, consensual and ethical way. Arik is the co-founder and CEO of Choice, a pioneering global online booking platform for paid companionship and intimacy.

This online booking platform is revolutionizing the paid companionship industry, extending beyond sex by offering a solution to loneliness and prioritizing safety.

In this chat, Arik shares insights into the origins of the Choice platform, the importance of destigmatizing paid companionship, and the various services offered. The conversation highlights the legal concerns, potential for education and understanding in reshaping perceptions around sex, intimacy and companionship.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Paid Companionship and Escort Sex Work

02:51 The Concept of Choice and Its Origins. Breaking the preconceived notions of paid companionship from sex work to non sexual activities.

07:28 Understanding the Market and Destigmatization and interview result Revealed from 700 sex workers across Europe, Canada, Australia and the US.

09:35 Safety and Legal Aspects

12:39 The Spectrum of Companionship Across Different Demographics.

18:00 The 250+ options services offered and growing and how it depends on the jurisdiction of where the services are offered.

20:08 What is a male wing person experience? It is requested often by women or groups of women or having a date to corporate event

23:31 How Choice verifies users, survey responses revealed from female customers to male customers and the feedback process to access user experience

26:40 The behavioral guidelines and required questionnaire for both parties after each event

25:26 A walk through of the user experience of Choice and why Choice doesn’t use user ratings

30:00 How Choice prioritizes safety through their verification process and using escrow account

32:34 The Legal concerns, Challenges and Misconceptions in the Industry

36:00 Stigmas and stereotypes to overcome, consent, authenticity and how paid companionship can compliment lifestyles

44:26 Sex Work Union Opinions, Policy issues around Legalized Sex Work and HowPaid Companionship differ in Various countries New Zealand, Amsterdam, Switzerland, Nordic areas

56:33 Sexual Surrogacy and Using Choice as a way to get real life education sexually as opposed to the current model of learning from prom aka sexual entertainment

01:03:21 Providers profiles have levels which indicate verification steps

01:07:45 Misconceptions Arik had about this industry, privacy concerns, and how he adjusted the platform based on surveys and feedback

Choice Website

Choice Instagram

Choice X

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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook.

What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18)

Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05)

Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32)

"Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37)

Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07)

Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17)

Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33)

Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24)

Figuring out the root cause of jealousy: the relationship, you, or a little bit of both? (44:39)

Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06)

Conversations to have with your partner. (55:10)

Phobia vs engineering methods to mitigate jealousy. (1:01:27)

How to support a partner who is feeling jealous. (1:06:20)

Final "nuggets of wisdom". (1:13:43)

Find Kathy:
Kathylabriola.com

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