Episodes

  • Working Through the “Roommate Phase" with Postpartum Therapist Melissa Fairhurst

    Working Through the “Roommate Phase" with Postpartum Therapist Melissa Fairhurst
    Nov 20 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Fairhurst, a postpartum therapist and maternal mental health expert, to discuss the various challenges new parents can encounter with each other during the postpartum phase and ways to work through this overwhelming time. Melissa shares how her own postpartum experiences have informed her work, what the “roommate phase” is and why it feels so permanent when you’re in it, and how these unexpected moments of disconnect can arise with your partner. We also discuss the unspoken expectations we have about our partners before the baby arrives and how that can set us up for resentment, how it’s imperative to accept that the non-birthing partner can’t fully understand the birthing partner’s experience, and why it’s essential to normalize couple’s therapy. Melissa shares tips for communicating your needs to your partner, why it’s important not to let resentments fester, and why “I” statements are more effective than “you” statements. Finally, we discuss the importance of setting yourself up for support before the baby arrives, and ways you can try to prioritize fun to reconnect as a couple. Key Takeaway / Points:Melissa’s work as a postpartum therapist and how her own postpartum experiences inform her workOn the usage of the term “roommate phase” and why it feels so permanent when you are in itOn the unexpected moments of disconnect that arise with your partner when you become new parentsOn the expectations we have of our partners before our baby arrivesOn accepting that the non-birthing partner will never fully understand what the birthing partner is going throughOn the need for normalizing couples therapyOn the necessity of communication with your partner about needs, expectations, and why it’s essential to not let resentments festerThe power of speaking in “I” statementsOn rebuilding emotional intimacy as new parentsOn setting yourself up with support and resources before your baby arrivesOn the absence of support for mothers in societyOn prioritizing fun as a couple and strategies to reconnectThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Discover Cotton: The Fabric of Now at TheFabricofOurLives.comGo to Thrivemarket.com/cameron for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 giftVisit Carawayhome.com/CAMERON to receive up to 20% off your next purchaseGo to Deinde.com and use code CAMERON for 25% off from 11/22-12/3Visit NOBULL here and use code CAMERON30 for 30% off your orderVisit repurpose.com and use code CAMERON25 for 25% off your entire orderInstagram: Check out Instagram Teen Accounts!Follow Melissa:Instagram: @mommebe_wellWebsite: mommebewell.comFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr
  • 270: Wedding Planning with the Girl Who Doesn’t Keep a Calendar, Lucy

    270: Wedding Planning with the Girl Who Doesn’t Keep a Calendar, Lucy
    Nov 13 2024

    In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Lucy, for an update on all things wedding planning and how she’s feeling five months post engagement. We discuss what she’s thinking for a bachelorette party, what her vision is for bridesmaids dresses, and each of our dynamics with our mom, Cindy, during wedding planning mode. Finally, we talk about our partners’ relationship with each other and how they’ve integrated into the family, comfortably talking about sex as sisters, Lucy’s psychotic calendar behavior, and more.


    Key Takeaway / Points:

    • On wedding updates, from bridesmaids to bachelorette parties
    • On the wedding dress process and why Lucy isn’t loving it
    • On the dynamic with our mom, Cindy, during wedding planning
    • How to be a great Maid of Honor
    • On our age gap and how our relationship has evolved through the years
    • On talking about sex as sisters and being raised in a sex positive house
    • On Lucy’s psychotic calendar behavior


    This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.


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    58 mins
  • 269: Our Cultural Drama Addiction and The Power of Completing The Stress Response with Dr. Scott Lyons

    269: Our Cultural Drama Addiction and The Power of Completing The Stress Response with Dr. Scott Lyons
    Nov 6 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Scott Lyons, a holistic psychologist, author, and body-based trauma expert, to discuss why we are so drawn to drama as a culture and how fully honoring our stress responses can help us better adapt to stress. Dr. Lyons explains what he defines as “drama,” how trauma often takes us away from ourselves and others, and how overstimulation has become the cultural norm. He also talks about how media is designed to keep our attention away from ourselves, why we are so drawn to reality TV, and why stress is a social glue that bonds us. Finally, he shares how most of us aren’t completing our stress cycles, how he checks in with his nervous system during a stressful event, and how he gets out of his cortisol stimulus and brings himself back to center.Key Takeaway / Points:How Dr. Lyons defines “drama”How trauma takes us away from ourselves and othersOn the cultural norm of overstimulationOn the connection between seeking stillness and feeling safeHow media is designed to keep our attention away from ourselvesWhy are we so drawn to reality TV?How gossip bonds people and why stress is a social glueOn the numbing effects of cortisolOn the addictive rollercoaster of toxic relationshipsWhy most of us aren’t completing our stress responsesThe power of physically “shaking it out” after stressHow Dr. Lyons fills his cup and calms his nervous systemFind Dr. Scott Lyons’ book, “Addicted to Drama,” hereThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to quince.com/cameron for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsVisit Carawayhome.com/cameron or use “cameron” at checkout for an additional 10% off your purchaseVisit join.arya.fyi/cameron for 15% off your subscription todayHead to http://www.manhattanwellness.org/CAMERON to be matched with a perfect-fit provider and get your first therapy session freeGo to Deinde.com and use code CAMERON for 15% off your first orderFollow Dr. Lyons:Instagram: @drscottlyonsWebsite: drscottlyons.comPodcast: The Gently Used HumanThe Embody Lab: theembodylab.comFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    55 mins
  • 268: Reflecting on One Year as a Mom of Two

    268: Reflecting on One Year as a Mom of Two
    Oct 30 2024
    In this solo episode, I share the exciting news that I’ve developed a “Quiet Your Mind and Busy Your Hands” journal and adult coloring affirmation book! I discuss how this project came together and how it implements some of the top elements that have fundamentally shifted my mental health. I also reflect on the past year with two children and how we’ve been trying to embrace the chaos instead of resisting it. I discuss my son’s birth a year ago and the initial overwhelm that came with juggling two kids, the guilt I felt over not being able to attend to both at once, and the emotional shift that happened during the 7-9 month postpartum mark. I also share how my kids’ relationship with each other has evolved over the past year, why I just don’t love the newborn phase, why the mom I was for my firstborn’s year one is vastly different from the mom I am today, and more.Key Takeaway / Points:On developing the “Quiet Your Mind and Busy Your Hands” journal and adult coloring affirmationsHow I prioritize my mental healthHow affirmations have fundamentally shifted my mindsetOn resisting the stress of kid’s birthdays and letting yourself have fun in the chaosReflecting on my son’s birth a year ago and the initial overwhelm with two kidsOn the guilt over not being able to attend to both children at onceOn the shift that occurred during the 7-9 month mark postpartumHow my kids’ relationship has evolved over the past yearOn being honest about not loving the newborn phaseOn how different the first year of my kids’ lives wereOn the mom I was for my firstborn’s year one vs. the mom I am todayOn my relationship with my husband with two kids vs. oneBuy the Quiet Your Mind Journal and Adult Affirmation Coloring Book hereListen to Episode 145: “Breaking the ‘Manic Mom’ Mold” episode hereThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to puritywoods.com/CWC or enter code CWC at checkout for a total of 27% off your first orderGo to hibobbie.com and get 10% off your first subscription order with CONVOSWITHCAM10Visit NOBULL here and use code CAMERON30 for 30% off your orderVisit CozyEarth.com/cameron or use code CAMERON for up to 40% offVisit Carawayhome.com/cameron or use “cameron” at checkout for an additional 10% off your purchaseChoose a new way forward and visit kamalaharris.com/issues to learn more.Follow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    41 mins
  • #267: Driving the Change for Banning Assault Weapons with Kitty Brandtner, founder and co-president of March Fourth

    #267: Driving the Change for Banning Assault Weapons with Kitty Brandtner, founder and co-president of March Fourth
    Oct 23 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Kitty Brandtner, founder and co-president of March Fourth, to discuss the organization’s push for gun reform in the U.S. and why federally banning assault weapons is their singular goal. Kitty shares the string of events that led her to founding March Fourth, why radical gun reform viewpoints aren’t moving the needle forward, and why a federal assault weapons ban is the simplest and most effective path. She explains the history of assault weapons bans in the U.S., how we arrived at our current mass shooting epidemic, and how the mental health impact from gun violence has a ripple effect throughout a community. We also talk about bringing children up in the era of lockdown drills, holding onto hope and the recent progress that March Fourth has made, actionable items we can all take to help March Fourth’s initiative, and more.Key Takeaway / Points:What led to Kitty founding March FourthOn March Fourth’s mission and tempered radicalism On the history of assault weapons bans in the U.S.How we arrived at our current mass shooting epidemicOn the mental health impact of our trauma-filled realityOn bringing children up in the era of lockdown drillsOn hope and the recent progress that has been madeOn actionable items we can all take now to help March Fourth’s initiativeWhy calling our representatives mattersWhat Kitty does to fill her cupBuy the Quiet Your Mind Journal and Adult Affirmation Coloring Book hereThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit NOBULL here and use code CAMERON30 for 30% off your orderChoose a new way forward and visit kamalaharris.com/issues to learn more.Visit DrinkLMNT.com/cameron and get your free sample pack with any purchaseHead to http://www.manhattanwellness.org/CAMERON to be matched with a perfect-fit provider and get your first therapy session freeDiscover Cotton: The Fabric of Now at TheFabricofOurLives.comGo to leesa.com for 20% off all mattress orders and two free pillows Thrive: Go to ThriveMarket.com/cameron for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 giftFollow March Fourth:Instagram: @march_fourthWebsite: https://www.wemarchfourth.org/Follow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    58 mins
  • 266: Motherhood is a Communal Act with Cat and Nat

    266: Motherhood is a Communal Act with Cat and Nat
    Oct 16 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Cat and Nat – podcast hosts, co-authors, and best friends – to talk about blending families and what it’s like raising seven kids between the two of them and their spouses. We discuss how they came to such an integrated way of living and why non-judgment made it all possible, how our culture isn’t set up for communal support, and why it truly takes a village to raise children. They share the most exciting part about parenting teenagers versus the hardest part, how they navigate social media with teens, and why they’re developing a course on parenting and social media. Finally, they talk about the advice they’d give their younger selves with young children, why we often forget to embrace who we are as mothers and put so much pressure on ourselves to change, and how they do (or don’t) maintain sex lives with kids in the house.Key Takeaway / Points:How they’ve blended their families and why non-judgment made it possibleHow our culture isn’t set up for communal supportWhy it takes a village to raise kidsOn the most exciting part about parenting teenagersOn the hardest part about parenting teenagersOn navigating social media with teensOn tracking your kids’ locations and which app they useOn the course they’re developing for parenting and social mediaOn advice for their younger selves with young childrenOn embracing who you are as a motherHow they fill their own cupsOn maintaining a sex life with kids in the houseThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to puritywoods.com/CWC or enter code CWC at checkout for a total of 27% off your first orderGo to hibobbie.com and get 10% off your first subscription order with CONVOSWITHCAM10Visit NOBULL here and use code CAMERON30 for 30% off your orderVisit CozyEarth.com/cameron or use code CAMERON for up to 40% offDownload the Labour app on the Apple App store and use code CAMERON for your first free month or visit https://www.labourtheapp.com/Head to cuddly.com/CAMERON to make a donation to an animal in needChoose a new way forward and visit kamalaharris.com/issues to learn more.Follow Cat & Nat:Instagram: @catandnat @thecommonparentFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • 265: Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Baby

    265: Things I Wish I Knew Before Having a Baby
    Oct 9 2024
    In this solo episode, I share what I wish I knew before having a baby, from never being able to have the “perfect” timeline for having kids; to how friendships and relationships might evolve once you become a parent. I talk about the intensity of having your priorities completely shift to another person and away from yourself, why it’s so important to find what makes you feel like “you,” and why giving yourself a window of transition time during your days, especially during postpartum, can be a lifesaver. I also discuss the unpredictability of what works one day with your child versus what might not work the next day, the confidence that comes from being a parent, how important choosing your village is — from your partner, to your friendships — aand more.Key Takeaway / Points:On never having the perfect timelineOn your priorities shifting away from yourselfOn finding what makes you feel like yourselfGiving yourself a window of time to transition into different parts of your dayOn the energy it takes to feed another personThe unpredictability of what works one day vs. what doesn’t the nextOn the joy of watching your child experience the worldOn the confidence that comes from being a parentOn the judgment you experience as a momOn how important your village is, including your partnerHow your friendships might shiftListen to Ep 207: “What I Wish I Knew in my Twenties” hereThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to quince.com/cameron for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsVisit Carawayhome.com/cameron or use “cameron” at checkout for an additional 10% off your purchaseVisit CozyEarth.com/cameron or use code CAMERON for a 40% discountVisit DrinkLMNT.com/cameron and get your free sample pack with any drink mix purchaseVisit join.arya.fyi/cameron for 15% off your subscription todayHead to http://www.manhattanwellness.org/CAMERON to be matched with a perfect-fit provider and get your first therapy session freeFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    50 mins
  • 264: Navigating ADHD and Maternal Mental Health with Dr. Sarah Oreck of Mavida Health

    264: Navigating ADHD and Maternal Mental Health with Dr. Sarah Oreck of Mavida Health
    Oct 2 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sarah Oreck, co-founder and CEO of Mavida Health, to discuss the importance of maternal mental health care and, specifically, all things ADHD. Dr. Sarah shares what Mavida Health does and why they are filling a gap in the mental health space, why ADHD is a big part of their support platform, and how ADHD is often misunderstood, starting in childhood. She shares lifestyle techniques to help work with ADHD symptoms, why it seems like so many mothers are struggling with ADHD right now, and why it’s so important to know how your hormones affect both your physical and mental health. We talk about executive functioning and why it’s so important, how to communicate your mental health needs to your partner, and why task paralysis happens. Finally, she discusses the relationship between ADHD and overstimulation, and the struggle of being jealous of people we perceive as “making it work” better than we are.Key Takeaway / Points:What is Mavida Health and what do they do for maternal mental health?How ADHD is often dealt with in childhood and misunderstoodOn the differences between ADD and ADHDWhere I am with my ADHD right now and why I’m ready to go on medicationOn lifestyle techniques to help work with ADHDWhy it seems like so many mothers are struggling with ADHD right nowOn knowing your own body and being aware of how your hormones affect your mental and physical healthWhat is executive functioning and why is it important?On the various symptoms of ADHDHow to communicate your mental health needs to your partnerOn task paralysis and why it happensOn the relationship between ADHD and overstimulationOn being jealous of people we perceive are “making it work” better than we areThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit NOBULL here and use code CAMERON30 for 30% off your orderGo to hibobbie.com and get 10% off your first subscription order of Bobbie’s Organic Infant Formula and free shipping with code CONVOSWITHCAM10 Head to http://www.manhattanwellness.org/CAMERON to be matched with a perfect-fit provider and get your first therapy session freeDownload the Labour app on the Apple App store and use code CAMERON for your first free month or visit https://www.labourtheapp.com/Head to cuddly.com/CAMERON to make a donation to an animal in needFollow Dr. Sarah:Instagram: @sarahoreckmd @mavidahealthWebsite: www.mavidahealth.comFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron RogersCreative Lead: Amelie YeagerProduced by Dear Media. Guest: Dr. Sarah OreckSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 12 mins