• 122. Dominatrix and BDSM healing with Cabana
    Jun 18 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Buckle up because you are in for a ride today!

    Cabana and I are having a conversation about dominatrix, BDSM practices and the power of healing through pleasure.


    Timestamps:

    1:30 - Meet Cabana - mortician by day, burlesque dancer by night and so many other things!

    2:44 - Becoming a professional dominatrix

    5:00- Discovering both - a personal kink and a profession

    6:30 - All the best tops started on the bottom

    9:00 - If you have never been in a sub role, you don’t know what your subs are going through.

    11:00- Let go of labels and embrace new experiences by trying new things!

    11:15 - Power bottoming and service topping

    13:13 - If is not mutually pleasurable and enjoyable, than it’s abuse

    15:00 - Use the BDSM as tool to access and heal trauma

    16:05 - What is your worst memory?

    18:18 - Masturbate to memories that once upon a time were traumatizing experiences

    19:40 -The shame is hot

    22:22 - Why limit ourselves?

    25:40 - Hire a professional to help you access your desires

    28:45 - Worry about being emotional open with someone who are no in a relationship with

    32:32 - The End


    Follow Cabana on INSTA https://www.instagram.com/cabanamacabre/ and learn more about her https://www.cabanamacabre.com/


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥- a space for self discovery and self exploration of your relationship with self, pleasure and intimate infinite possibilities:

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    33 mins
  • 121. 'Coming out' as kinkster with Siggy
    Jun 11 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Join the conversation today as Siggy and I are talking about ‘coming out’ as a kinkster and polyamorous in the dating space.

    Timestamps:

    2:00 - If we are not ‘out’ is as if we are having a ‘secret’

    3:30 - We can be authentic without repercussions

    7:30 - Let’s dissolve the LGBTQ Community

    12:10 - Expressing our desires can be scary because is not ‘what you supposed to be doing’

    13:30 - Rejection is just a natural filter to move on, not a match

    17:15 - Going out on dates is fun

    20:25 - Take yourself on a date- can you have fun on your own?

    24:00 - You are an adult, you don't need anyone’s permission to do whatever you want!

    26:06 - The End


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥- a space for self discovery and self exploration of your relationship with self, pleasure and intimate infinite possibilities:

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    26 mins
  • 120. Shame around kinks and fetishes with Mike
    Jun 4 2024
    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast! This podcast is a double production: BARE Lifestyle podcast and The Palmer Show podcast. Join Mike and I in a conversation about the shame around kinks, fetishes and BDSM practices. Timestamps: 2:00 - What are the misconceptions of kinks, fetishes and BDSM practices that contribute to the feeling of shame? 4:00 - Fear of being judged and not accepted if revealing our sexual preferences 6:00 - Privacy vs Taboo 7:30 - You have to decide where you draw the privacy line on social media 9:00 - The day I published my book I was so sick, I thought I'd die (read my book: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant) 10:00 - Identity shifts 10:50 - How the societal view on kink, fetishes and BDSM practices influences individual's shame about their own preference? 11:00 - Judgment and self judgments 12:30 - Have you ever felt shame around your kinks and fetishes? 16:00 - You could ignore your desires, but they never die 19:00 - What will have to be the requirement that a man will say ‘No’ to it? 21:45 - Take the BDSM test https://www.bdsmtest.org/ 26:30 - How to ‘come out’ to your partners without experiencing shame? 28:35 - God did not put a desire in my heart to feel embarrassed, is there for me to have it 29:30 - How do you think religion and cultural beliefs impacted the shame associated with kinks and fetishes? 33:00 - Pleasure without consent is pain 34:00 - Finding the right support to heal trauma and deal with shame, guilt and fear 36:00 - Healing the trauma 37:00 - Is it easier to open up to my partner or my therapist? 42:00 - Everyone has a kink, but not explored it or express it 43:30 - How do men support each other? 45:00 - We are not all built for what’s expected of us as men/women 47:00 - Advice for those who struggle with shame about their kinks/fetishes. 47:30 - Book a FREE call and find out more about VIP weekends - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire 49:00 - Best solution for you is the next available step out of your comfort zone 51:30 - It’s impossible to satisfy everyone, so mind as well, satisfy just yourself. Period. 53:48 - The End Contact Mike at Mike@mikeandmikeproduction.com 🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥- a space for self discovery and self exploration of your relationship with self, pleasure and intimate infinite possibilities: King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/ Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/ ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant Contact me: * Email transformation@simonaspark.com * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed! xo Simona Spark
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    54 mins
  • 119. ‘My body, my choice’ with Crystal
    May 28 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Today’s topic: ‘My body, my choice’ with Crystal

    Key moments:

    1:00 - Meet my fabulous guest: Crystal

    4:00 - The decision of having a plastic surgery

    4:44 - ‘Why do you want to be plastic?”

    8:08 - Where is the line? When do we stop?

    8:11 - Plastic surgery can be an addiction.

    11:30 - Why go to the gym for one year when you can achieve the same results in one hour?

    13:13 - You have to train your body and mind to maintain the surgery’s results

    14:14 - I want to look good and young, and age beautifully

    15:30 - Women need to compliment women more

    16:30 - How we see ourselves is not how others sees us

    19:00 - Find your tribe

    20:00 - Follow Crystal on IG https://www.instagram.com/postop_crystal/ and learn more about her work here: https://linktr.ee/CrystalAlexi

    23:30 - Let’s all be kinder with each other


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥- a space for self discovery and self exploration of your relationship with self, pleasure and intimate infinite possibilities:

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    25 mins
  • 118. Self expression and the power of intimacy with Neal
    May 21 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Today’s topic: Self expression and the power of intimacy with Neal

    Key moments:

    1:00 - Meet Neal Conlon

    4:00 - Neal involvement in BDSM Community

    5:40 - Men don’t have the relationship with their bodies as women do

    11:50 - Healthy BDSM involves a ton of trust

    12:30 - Who are you outside of the dungeon and who are you allowing yourself to be while in here?

    14:30 - Showing up transparent and vulnerable requires healing

    17:30 - BDSM is a space to learn about yourself and how to trust yourself and others

    24:40 - Primal urges are part of human experience

    29:20 - Reason people don’t buy what you are selling

    31:16 - More of Neal Colon at https://nealconlon.com/, follow hin on IG @iamnealconlon/, and read his article at https://pressforward.substack.com/

    32:00 - Getting in touch with your own intimacy will open up amazing things for you.


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥- a space for self discovery and self exploration of your relationship with self, pleasure and intimate infinite possibilities:

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/

    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    34 mins
  • 117. BDSM Lifestyle with Hannah
    May 14 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Today’s topic: BDSM Lifestyle with Hannah

    Key moments:

    1:30 - Introducing my guest Hannah

    2:30 - Hannah got introduced to kink when she was 12 years old

    5:50 - Desire and need for the sex ed

    6:30 - Predators do not discriminate by age - stay safe!

    8:30 - Transparency and honesty requires vulnerability

    11: 00 - The conversations about BDSM lifestyle are taking place behind closed doors

    13:00 - Shame attached to our sexual desires is a major held back

    13:45 - Multiple partners is a choice and can be judge either way

    16:00 - Creating the safe space for materializing sexual desires

    17:00 - Join the King’s Dungeon and Queen’s Dungeon (link below)

    17:30 - Hannah’s invitation to do good https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-jessicas-fight-for-her-babys-life

    20:00 - Kink can help you heal sexual trauma

    21:11 - Moving from sex to intimacy

    23:50 - Transmute trauma and pain into pleasure

    24:00 - Don’t judge yourself

    26:00 - Self exploration is key


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    27 mins
  • 116. Why to adopt a BDSM lifestyle?
    May 7 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle podcast!

    Today’s topic: Why to adopt a BDSM lifestyle?


    Key moments:

    2:20 - Step out of your comfort zone

    2:50 - BDSM can be a safe space for healing

    3:33 - Reason #1: Move from ‘boring’ to ‘exhilarating’

    4:20 - Reason #2: New skills and tools to heal

    6:46 - Reason #3: Deeper level of trust and vulnerability

    7:50 - Always choose a trusting partner to ensure your safety

    8:00 - Do not practice BDSM without healing your trauma first

    9:40 - Take the FREE Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz

    12:00 - Closing season seven!

    See you next with opening Season Eight!!!


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    13 mins
  • 115. The 5 S’s for a kinky lifestyle
    Apr 30 2024

    Welcome to BARE Lifestyle!

    Today’s topic: The 5 S’s for a kinky lifestyle


    Key moments:

    2:00 - embracing kink, fetishes and BDSM practices as ways to increase pleasure, and tools for healing and connecting with self and our intimate partners.

    3:45 - S1: Self discovery

    4:20 - Free support here ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire

    4:30 - King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/

    5:45 - Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations

    6:00 - S2: Speak Up - open, clear communication with self and your partners

    7:17 - S3: Speed- slow down the process, specially the starting point

    9:40 - S4: Safety- all the time!

    10:18 - Safe words - choose what works for you and your partners

    12:12 - Spice it Up- expand your comfort zone by having fun

    13:33 - BDSM is a playground for adults- have fun!


    ** FREE Private Coaching Session - Spark Your Inner Fire - ⁠https://calendly.com/simonaspark/sparkyourfire


    *** 🔥Take the Kink Appetite Quiz to find out your BDSM inclinations: https://simonaspark.click/kinkquiz


    🔥Meet me in a dungeon 🔥

    King’s Dungeon - playshop for men https://simonaspark.com/kings-dungeon/

    Queen’s Dungeon - playshop for women https://simonaspark.com/queens-dungeon/


    *** Ready to explore/ discover/ invite BDSM practices in your sexlife? - Book a FREE Private session today - Ignite the Spark in the Bedroom https://calendly.com/simonaspark/ignite-your-spark-private-session


    *** Read my story: Raising My Voice. The Memoir of an Immigrant


    Contact me:

    * Email transformation@simonaspark.com

    * Follow and DM me on IG @simonasparkworld


    Let’s be Bold, Authentic, Radical, Expressed!

    xo

    Simona Spark

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    15 mins