As Christmas is upon us, I decided to dig up some lies on it, along with some of my childhood memories and how Christmas has differed for my kids. The biggest lie of all? When Jesus’s birthday occurs and what actually went down. I suppose it shall just remain another mystery. Happy Holidays.

Key Takeaways:

[3:05] My best Christmas time memory as a child

[6:32] Finding out Santa wasn’t real and Christmas magic

[8:19] December 25th is not Jesus’s birthday

[14:50] The tallest tree, candy canes, the movies, and Black Friday

[17:24] Trees take 15 years to grow, Rudolph, and Christmas was illegal

[19:48] Miracle on 34th Street, lit candles in the tree, and Christmas is not romantic

[22:18] Injuries, ugly sweater parties, the Grinch, and Santa Claus school

[25:10] What Xmas stands for, eggnog, singing, and mistletoe

[28:19] The story of Jesus’s birth is not accurate

Resources:

• Miracle on 34th Street

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I watched a movie on how Americans shop and consume, consume, consume. It was terrifying. It was even worse to see the devastating impacts it had on other countries and how quickly people will buy something new if it stops working.

Key Takeaways:

[4:57] How online shopping changed things

[6:40] Just one click has made it easy to buy more things

[8:34] Sell more by making an emotional connection

[13:15] People buy too many things and it has to go somewhere

[15:21] Making products not last long on purpose

[23:56] Recycling is a lie and other countries are suffering from it

[28:27] These companies hide the terrible things they’re doing

[32:04] Big companies keep trying to control people

[35:06] Clickbait and how the movie made this point

[38:11] What you can do to buy less

Resources:

• Buy Now

• The Social Network

• Painkiller

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The fitness and health industry thrives on lies upon lies. From saying that you’ll lose 30 pounds in 30 days to saying that weightlifting is dangerous as a woman. So many of these ideas shaped the younger me and I want women to know the truth about what they can do to live a fit life.

Key Takeaways:

[4:57] Strength training makes you bulky

[6:40] Cardio training burns fat and you have to sweat

[7:30] Working out everyday is the only way

[11:35] Your health is defined by your weight

[12:32] Exercise is hard and never fun

[14:20] 30 day fitness challenges will change your life

[15:51] Fat and carbs are bad

[18:45] Calories in, calories out mindset, eating less doesn't mean you lose weight

[20:07] Sweat equals a good workout and more fat burned

[20:48] Clickbait, take this supplement, and lose 30 pounds in 30 days

[22:11] Targeted fat loss is possible

[23:40] Taking supplements and diet pills will make everything better

[25:00] Intermittent fasting will make a huge difference

[25:42] Packaged healthy foods are better for you

[27:02] Women should not train like men

[29:51] Low intensity cardio won’t help you lose fat

[30:39] You should stretch before you work out

[31:45] Treadmills are better for your knees and muscle turns into fat

[32:59] The lies that are hard not to believe

[35:47] Weightlifting is bad for older people especially for women

[37:49] Deep squats are bad for you

[39:34] Weights and cardio should never be done on the same day

[40:42] Spot training will help you and so will detoxes

[42:45] There’s no one way to workout

[43:52] High intensity training is the best for fat loss

[45:27] CrossFit is all about competition

[46:49] CrossFit isn’t good for older people

[49:07] Trying new things is what CrossFit is all about

[48:58] What do you think is true in fitness?

Resources:

• Yes Fit

• Sasquatch Strength

• Southside Barbell

• Lunge Ladies

• Redefining Strength

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As I go into the holidays and my 9th year grieving, here are some lies surrounding grief that I never stop hearing. Some of them just piss me off and some of them I understand better as I’m farther along. Either way, the important part is that you can grieve how you want to, it’s not going to be linear, and take your time.

Key Takeaways:

[3:08] Grief can be temporary or forever

[5:21] Christmas plans

[8:08] Time does not heal all wounds

[10:35] I’m never going to be over it

[11:42] I’m not going to stop talking about Molly

[13:42] Being told I could have prevented her death

[15:30] Ignoring grief doesn’t make it go away

[18:30] Just because you grieve doesn’t make you a whiner

[22:18] God, death, and prayers

[24:21] Grief is not liner, you can’t hide from it, but it can also be beautiful

[27:34] The trajectory of grief plus, I don’t need to be told God needed Molly more

[31:59] Is grief easier for religious people? Do support groups make you sicker?

[34:22] There’s no right way to grieve and it doesn’t need to be controlled

[38:50] Grief being an obstacle and how religion treats it

[44:02] Don’t avoid your pain, move along with it, and not dwelling on self pity

[46:49] Doing drugs and alcohol to cope with death

[48:58] People forget the ones who die, but we can’t resent friends

[50:36] Take your time to grieve and what’s left of Molly in Gracie’s room

Resources:

• Kevin Thompson

• Just Playing House

• BeliefNet

• Substance Church

• Tides Program

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The school lunch program in this country is not healthy and creates a divide between the rich and poor. The amount of rules and regulations make it difficult to operate and none of these kids are getting something that is actually fresh and nutritious.

Key Takeaways:

[3:20] How the school lunch program works

[6:52] Schools buy lunches and the different menus for the wealthy and poor

[9:14] School lunch used to be fresh and healthy

[13:51] How much money these awful companies make

[14:47] So many kids can’t digest the milk given

[16:45] Cafeteria workers are not awful and not everyone gets the same food

[19:03] Schools have reduced lunch time and eliminated recess

[23:40] America doesn’t take into account cultural diversity

[25:04] Lying to kids and not making them healthy

[26:50] Criticism for hating on the FDA and having a choice with food

[32:13] The good happening

[33:39] My food experience, what’s yours like?

Resources:

• Leftover Podcast

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The food industry is full of lies because of greedy people that set out to make a lot of money and it’s costing Americans something even greater - their health. From lies about how great low fat is, to how fulfilling a bowl of Fruit Loops are, to how milk will make you healthy, the list of lies never stops growing.

Key Takeaways:

[0:43] Eating whole foods makes my body feel better

[2:54] Breastmilk, different diets, and religion

[5:47] I was made to clean my plate, my diet was not good in college

[7:41] Humans once lived off the land and their diets are different

[13:23] Many people of color are lactose intolerant and the school lunch program

[17:54] The food industry lies about what’s healthy like Froot Loops and milk

[20:14] The safest food is around the perimeter of the store? C. diff and E. coli

[24:59] Low fat foods are good for you, but really they just put a lot of sugar in

[26:27] Your arteries clog because of sugar not fat

[27:53] The food pyramid was influenced by lobbyists

[37:38] Different diets work for different people

[33:22] What’s happening in my life

Resources:

• The Food Pyramid

• Old Fruit Loops Ad

• Old Got Milk Commercial

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I’m having a not great week and it got me into the lies I constantly tell myself to feel better. The lies around grief, around my life changing, around my business working, around Kenny, and how I have a functioning life. In this episode, I also dive into the different types of grief and the lies that surround it.

Key Takeaways:

[1:45] I was always telling myself a story

[3:29] Going to self blame

[8:49] My relationship with Kenny

[12:42] I spend a lot of my life doing things I don’t want to do

[17:21] Making sure Jack’s life is not a carbon copy of Gracie or Molly’s

[18:53] Lies around grief

[21:59] My life has never been a normal, enjoyable family life

[25:25] The biggest lies I tell myself

[32:23] What am I doing with my life?

[34:07] Complex grief, delayed grief, exaggerated grief, and masked grief

[37:38] Self blame and self punishment

Resources:

• The Silence of Great Distance

• Fast Girl: A Life Spent Running From Madness

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My dad died and it made me think about his life and actions. The lies that he was told as a man that he had to uphold in society and how that made him treat people. It makes me wonder if much has changed, but him being dead has also given me a sense of peace because of the abuse.

Key Takeaways:

[2:54] My dad looked like he had a normal childhood, but was neglected emotionally

[7:29] My dad thought he was unloveable and had to be better than my mom

[8:30] My dad had immense pressure to be a great athlete

[13:41] Has any of the stereotyping really changed?

[14:48] Girls play hard to get, you need to push, and real men don’t cry

[17:34] Dancing is gay, men only want sex, and girls can do anything boys can do

[19:50] Men in leadership and having a specific path laid out for you in life

[21:41] Men must be independent, wealthy, not express emotion, and be athletic

[25:32] Lying comes from a place of fear and wanting to fit in

[28:46] Life, death, and mortality

Resources:

• Article on things men are told

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