As I go into the holidays and my 9th year grieving, here are some lies surrounding grief that I never stop hearing. Some of them just piss me off and some of them I understand better as I’m farther along. Either way, the important part is that you can grieve how you want to, it’s not going to be linear, and take your time.

Key Takeaways:

[3:08] Grief can be temporary or forever

[5:21] Christmas plans

[8:08] Time does not heal all wounds

[10:35] I’m never going to be over it

[11:42] I’m not going to stop talking about Molly

[13:42] Being told I could have prevented her death

[15:30] Ignoring grief doesn’t make it go away

[18:30] Just because you grieve doesn’t make you a whiner

[22:18] God, death, and prayers

[24:21] Grief is not liner, you can’t hide from it, but it can also be beautiful

[27:34] The trajectory of grief plus, I don’t need to be told God needed Molly more

[31:59] Is grief easier for religious people? Do support groups make you sicker?

[34:22] There’s no right way to grieve and it doesn’t need to be controlled

[38:50] Grief being an obstacle and how religion treats it

[44:02] Don’t avoid your pain, move along with it, and not dwelling on self pity

[46:49] Doing drugs and alcohol to cope with death

[48:58] People forget the ones who die, but we can’t resent friends

[50:36] Take your time to grieve and what’s left of Molly in Gracie’s room

Resources:

• Kevin Thompson

• Just Playing House

• BeliefNet

• Substance Church

• Tides Program

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