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  • The 7 Steps to Breaking Codependency For Good! | Terri Cole IG Live

    The 7 Steps to Breaking Codependency For Good! | Terri Cole IG Live
    Oct 18 2024
    Welcome to another transformative episode of "Women of Impact"! Today, Lisa Bilyeu sits down with the remarkable Terri Cole, author of "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High Functioning Codependency," to dive deep into the concept of high functioning codependency (HFC). Join Lisa and Terri as they explore how HFC manifests in even the most successful individuals, leading to over-functioning, emotional exhaustion, and self-abandonment. In this episode, you'll discover the importance of honest communication, prioritizing your own needs, and shifting from codependent to interdependent relationship dynamics. Lisa shares personal anecdotes, including experiences with her husband, Tom, to illustrate the journey from assumption to clear communication. Additionally, Terri provides valuable insights on avoiding "martyr syndrome" and making intentional choices that foster healthier relationships. Whether you're an empathetic helper or a successful leader, this conversation will equip you with the tools to reassess your behaviors and embrace a more balanced and fulfilling approach to life. Stay tuned for this eye-opening discussion! SHOWNOTES 00:00 Building support and empowerment for women online. 04:33 Codependency isn't limited to alcohol-related situations. 08:50 Managing family dynamics to avoid conflict is common. 11:24 Identify resentment to improve relationship dynamics. 13:38 Identify feelings, communicate openly, resolve imbalance collaboratively. 17:52 Navigating differing personal values and expectations. 22:21 Encourages mindful choices, reducing compulsive reactions. 26:01 Support loved ones by asking expansive questions. 27:35 Family roles transcend birth order expectations. 30:57 Book insights transformed my relationship with Tom. 34:51 Check out Women of Impact for interview. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Caraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchase OneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Pre-order “Too Much”: https://hfcbook.com/ FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    44 mins
  • Could You Spot a Psychopath? 5 Signs Detectives Missed for 40 Years | Paul Holes - PT 2

    Could You Spot a Psychopath? 5 Signs Detectives Missed for 40 Years | Paul Holes - PT 2
    Oct 17 2024
    Welcome back to part 2 of this episode of Women of Impact with cold case investigator Paul Holes, where we’re continuing to dive deep into how dangerous manipulators and predators hide in plain sight and use subtle, everyday behaviors to manipulate and control without you even realizing it. And Paul’s breaking down exactly what these predators, manipulators, and dangerous offenders do to fly under the radar, and the subtle signs you need to be looking for so you can spot their manipulation before it’s too late and you're under their control! So don't miss out on the final part of this eye-opening conversation with Paul Holes. And if you're loving Women of Impact, please take a moment to leave us a review or rate the show. Your feedback is incredibly valuable! CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Caraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchase OneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! Follow Paul Holes: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.holes Podcasts: https://www.smalltowndicks.com/ & https://open.spotify.com/show/4k4K2WpZFxlTGoCzY40hJb Get your copy of “Unmasked”: https://a.co/d/4e2uQNx FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • “Psychopaths Hide in Plain Sight”: 5 Signs Detectives Missed for 40 Years | Paul Holes - PT 1

    “Psychopaths Hide in Plain Sight”: 5 Signs Detectives Missed for 40 Years | Paul Holes - PT 1
    Oct 16 2024
    What do you do when someone you thought you could trust does something so out of character that you’re caught completely off guard? At first you don’t think too much of it, but then you start to notice there’s actually a pattern – of control, manipulation, and coldness. It’s those little manipulations where they deny something happened or downplay it that really start to chip away at your sense of reality, your confidence, and your sense of self – and before you know it, you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. The sad truth is, manipulators are masters at making you doubt your own reality, and by the time you realize what’s happening, you’re already trapped in their web. And that’s why on today’s episode of Women of Impact, we are diving deep into how these dangerous people – like psychopaths and predators you expect would be SO obvious to spot – are actually the ones hiding in plain sight and waiting for their opportunity. Here to pull back the curtain on exactly how dangerous people operate right under our noses is cold case investigator Paul Holes. This guy spent years hunting down some of the most elusive predators out there, including the infamous Golden State Killer. And what he’s sharing today is going to make you rethink everything you thought you knew about spotting danger. We go deep into: - Signs to look for when dating or meeting someone new that could be giveaways that something is actually “off” about them - Why some of the most dangerous people are often the ones who seem the most “normal” - How people like the Golden State Killer can hide in plain sight for DECADES, all while committing horrific crimes - And how YOU can spot those subtle signs of manipulation and control that most people don’t see until it’s unfortunately too frikin’ late The reality is guys, that psychopaths are often hiding behind the “normal” people you see every day – the barista making your coffee, your co-worker that everyone loves, or even your boyfriend that you’ve been with for MONTHS. But by the end of this episode, you’ll know the giveaway signs that a predator is trying to trick you and blend into everyday life, and how YOU can protect yourself and the people you love from these predators, abusers, manipulators who just want to get power and control over you. CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Caraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchase OneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! Follow Paul Holes: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.holes Podcasts: https://www.smalltowndicks.com/ & https://open.spotify.com/show/4k4K2WpZFxlTGoCzY40hJb Get your copy of “Unmasked”: https://a.co/d/4e2uQNx FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    55 mins
  • Stop Being a Doormat: How People Pleasing is Sabotaging Your Success | Patrice Washington (Replay)

    Stop Being a Doormat: How People Pleasing is Sabotaging Your Success | Patrice Washington (Replay)
    Oct 15 2024
    Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington. They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more. Pre-order Patrice´s book “Redefine Wealth for Yourself, How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life's Purpose” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RSNZQ7M?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420 [Original air date: 3-10-21]. SHOW NOTES: Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22] Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58] How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34] The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24] How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40] Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00] Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20] How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47] The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00] What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40] Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00] The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34] Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18] How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26] Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00] Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Caraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchase OneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • Why You Settle for Less: The Shocking Truth and How to Break Free | Stephan Speaks (Replay)

    Why You Settle for Less: The Shocking Truth and How to Break Free | Stephan Speaks (Replay)
    Oct 14 2024
    Why do we stay in bad relationships? If you find yourself in one bad relationship after another, it could be a sign that you’d rather be with anyone than be on your own. Many people become complacent and settle for less than they deserve just because they like the idea of having someone. But how do you know if you are settling for less than you deserve? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, & Bestselling Author Stephan Labossiere, a.k.a Stephan Speaks. They explore three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. Stephan explains the bad advice that makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. Furthermore, Stephan shares the fundamentals that every successful relationship needs and why a connection isn´t built, how to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. He explains why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone and what to do if your partner has changed in a negative way and how to differentiate tough times with when it’s time to break up with your partner. [Original air date: 3-17-21]. SHOW NOTES: Three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. [00:20] Why Lisa stayed with her ex-boyfriend before she met Tom. [1:41] This lousy advice makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. [2:01] The fundamentals that every successful relationship needs. [3:29] Why connection can´t be built, and even a great connection is not enough for a successful relationship. [11:23] How to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. [14:30] Why analyzing everything is sabotaging your relationship. [15:51] This is what kills most relationships and the three things you have to learn to build a successful relationship. [17:20] Why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone. [21:59] What to do if your partner has changed negatively. [29:10] How to differentiate tough times with when it´s time to break up with your partner. [34:45] This mindset is the reason for Lisa´s long-lasting, happy relationship with Tom. [36:59] Implement this communication habit to keep your relationship on track. [38:48] Why being authentic from the beginning is essential for a lasting relationship. [41:25] Stephan shares how to connect with him. [43:30] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Caraway: Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/WOI or use code WOI at checkout and get 10% off you your next purchase OneSkin: Visit https://oneskin.co and use code LISA for 15% off to make your skin look, feel, and act younger with OneSkin! FOLLOW STEPHAN: Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    52 mins
  • Love on the Rocks? How to React When Your Partner Isn’t Responding | Relationship Theory (Replay)

    Love on the Rocks? How to React When Your Partner Isn’t Responding | Relationship Theory (Replay)
    Oct 11 2024
    Normally, people are twice as happy and find their lives much more meaningful when they are with their spouse. However, current quarantines may be causing stress for some couples. The sheer amount of time spent together is uncharted territory for many relationships. On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. [Original air date: 4-1-20]. SHOW NOTES: How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Netsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/women Joi: Run over to Joi to get your levels checked. If you use my code NYBBS they are giving you a 20% discount to get started. https://choosejoi.co/nybbs FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    48 mins
  • How to Stay One Step Ahead of Predators, Manipulators, and Liars | Karen Conti - PT 2

    How to Stay One Step Ahead of Predators, Manipulators, and Liars | Karen Conti - PT 2
    Oct 10 2024
    Welcome back to part 2 of this incredibly revealing and unnerving conversation with top defense attorney Karen Conti talking all about how dangerous people like narcissists, conmen, and even serial killers will deceive and manipulate you to get what they want. And we’re diving even deeper into breaking down allllll the plays master manipulators like P Diddy, Jeffery Epstein, and John Wayne Gacy use to trick you, lie to you, and hurt you AND how YOU can protect yourself from the dangerous people that are hiding in plain sight and looking for nice, unsuspecting, and compassionate women like you and me to take advantage of! So don’t miss this final part with Karen Conti. And if you're loving Women of Impact, please take a moment to leave us a review or rate the show. Your feedback is incredibly valuable! Follow Karen Conti: Website: https://www.karenconti.com/ Order “Killing time with John Wayne Gacy”: https://a.co/d/0Idrn4B CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Netsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/women Joi: Run over to Joi to get your levels checked. If you use my code NYBBS they are giving you a 20% discount to get started. https://choosejoi.co/nybbs FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • How to Stay One Step Ahead of Predators, Manipulators, and Liars | Karen Conti - PT 1

    How to Stay One Step Ahead of Predators, Manipulators, and Liars | Karen Conti - PT 1
    Oct 9 2024
    Have you ever met someone that just oozed charm, made you laugh, was soooo damn charismatic, they just seemed like they were totally nice, normal, harmless person??…and then come to find out they were actually secretly a manipulative and abusive wolf hiding in sheeps clothing? And no one, ESPECIALLY YOU, can believe that the *seemingly* nice guy, is actually the guy who was prolifically cheating on his wife, stealing money from his employer, or even worse… and you had NO IDEA?!?! The thing is guys, dangerous people are lurking everywhere, and if you want to protect yourself from befriending, dating, or even becoming a victim of conmen, toxic narcissists, abusers, or worse, you HAVE TO know how to protect yourself. And that’s why on this episode of Women of Impact, we’re talking to defense attorney Karen Conti!! And she is revealing exactly what a dangerous person can, AND WILL, do to get what they want, and how you can protect yourself from their sneaky tactics used to deceive and manipulate you, like charm, humor, and even acts of kindness. We dive DEEP into: - The playbook master manipulators like P Diddy, Jeffery Epstein, and John Wayne Gacy use to trick you, lie to you, and hurt you - Strategies you can use to keep YOUR power and NEVER let a conman, abuser, or even serial killer take your power from you - How to spot the manipulation and lies every scammer, swindler, narcissist, toxic ex, and even serial killer will use to catch you off gaurd, take advantage of you, and frikin’ hurt you with - And sooo much more!!! So my homies, listen up coz I guarantee your assumptions about the behavior and personality of a dangerous person are going to change after listening to this!! Follow Karen Conti: Website: https://www.karenconti.com/ Order “Killing time with John Wayne Gacy”: https://a.co/d/0Idrn4B CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Netsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/women Joi: Run over to Joi to get your levels checked. If you use my code NYBBS they are giving you a 20% discount to get started. https://choosejoi.co/nybbs FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    47 mins