Episodes

  • Love and Betrayal

    Love and Betrayal
    Nov 28 2019
    On this show John will talk about when we hear the word “betrayal” we usually think about sexual infidelity but there are other kinds of betrayal and there are two kinds of agreements that are often broken, which can be experienced as a betrayal. John will talk about how we heal from a betrayal or abandonment and the stages people tend to go through. He speaks to how betrayal can be a transformative experience and what that look like? John will help the listener understand how to build trust after a betrayal and how commitment fits into the picture and how can we create a secure connection with another person so that we minimize betrayal and abandonment?
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    58 mins
  • Understanding the physiology of Shame and its role in development

    Understanding the physiology of Shame and its role in development
    Nov 21 2019
    Shame is a ubiquitous human experience. It is used in every culture to socialize children and to protect the tribe. Healthy shame has purpose, function and teaching us how to thrive in community. But toxic shame debilitates us and isolates us from humanity. It is different from other emotions. Our physiological reaction to shame helps us to maintain the interpersonal bridges that are imperative for our survival. It increases the likelihood of being embraced by and remaining a part of the tribe. It is the best solution for a seemingly impossible situation. But when shame is internalized and identified with, we spiral into self-loathing and form the belief that we are without value or purpose and therefor unlovable. Releasing the underpinning of toxic shame restores vibrancy, self-esteem, resilience and self-reliance.
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    56 mins
  • What happens after getting out of the cult called NXIVM

    What happens after getting out of the cult called NXIVM
    Nov 14 2019
    This show will look at the dark side of being a leader and promoting recruitment to hundreds of people into an organization that treated women like sex slaves. Sarah Edmondson will describe to the listeners how her mission to make the world a better place was manipulated and distorted, to meet the sexual gratification and power of a few. Sarah will share with the listeners the guilt and shame that she felt in introducing so many people into NXIVM and the journey of being shunned by those who did not believe what she was saying about the cult. This episode will help listeners to find courage to follow what they know is the right thing to do and make new decisions even when so much is at stake.
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    57 mins
  • Melting the Shame Freeze

    Melting the Shame Freeze
    Nov 7 2019
    In response to a difficult situation, our nervous system tends to do one of three things to survive. Fight – Flee or Freeze. We will talk about shame as a freeze state that affects both the body and the mind, turning attention inward towards a focus on “what’s wrong with me” and making it hard to function effectively. And we will look at ways the shame freeze can be melted.
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    56 mins
  • Using the Self to Heal Wounded Parts

    Using the Self to Heal Wounded Parts
    Oct 31 2019
    Through my training with Virginia Satir and Richard Schwartz I have learned how to help people access their Self and to facilitate the healing of wounded parts by the Self. The Self is that energy space that holds within it the capacity for compassion, curiosity and wisdom. Once accessed, it can help the parts unburden themselves from the pain of trauma that they carry. This is extremely empowering because the person becomes a compassionate witness and healer for themselves and through the process integration occurs. Integration can be thought of as differentiating and linking. This means that the therapy process is one of helping people identify their parts and then link the Self to them so that healing can occur.
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    57 mins
  • Breaking the Patterns of Shame

    Breaking the Patterns of Shame
    Oct 24 2019
    Learn about the three faces of Shame: 1.Emotionally dysregulated. 2.Feeling in deficit. 3. Dissociated from their own shame and vulnerability
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    57 mins
  • Using Creativity to Counter Shame

    Using Creativity to Counter Shame
    Oct 17 2019
    This episode will look at what shame is and how to use your creativity to transform it.
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    56 mins
  • The Dark Side of Addiction: Shame, Trauma, Pain and Suffering

    The Dark Side of Addiction: Shame, Trauma, Pain and Suffering
    Oct 10 2019
    This episode will explore addiction and the internal experiences of people who have lived in this kind of darkness, cast aside by family, friends and society both emotionally and physically. Shame is a destructive and debilitating shroud that is heavy, dark and excruciatingly difficult to overcome. Especially when one’s own behaviour and life choices play a part in developing shame. However as you will discover throughout this conversation, shame starts young and weaves its way into the unconscious psyche of these individuals setting them up to feel different before their own behaviour becomes to blame. Most people only see the external, focussing on the behaviour that is presented to the world, what is seen. Teresa shares some of her experience both personally and professionally of the actual internal conflict and suffering that is experienced in the darkness of addiction.
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    55 mins