Where Words Can’t Reach: Shedding Light on our Dark Side

By: Dr. Madeleine De Little
  • Summary

  • Do you find yourself, thinking you are not good enough or that you are not loveable? Often there are few words to express such experiences. This is probably based in the way we made meaning of our early relationships and is shame based. Burdened by shame, parts of us stay hidden for fear of being cast out by family and friends. This show assists you to understand the impact that shame has on the relationship with ourselves and others. Neuroscience also informs us that our buried unconscious memories hold vast amounts of information that the body knows, but the conscious mind does not. This program opens up a conversation about the world of shame, how it has been needed in our past and the cost that comes with holding on to it. We delve into the world of darkness by listening to professionals who help people transform their shame. In addition, we invite listeners like you to speak of their journey of shedding light on their dark side.
    Dr. Madeleine De Little
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Episodes
  • Love and Betrayal
    Nov 28 2019
    On this show John will talk about when we hear the word “betrayal” we usually think about sexual infidelity but there are other kinds of betrayal and there are two kinds of agreements that are often broken, which can be experienced as a betrayal. John will talk about how we heal from a betrayal or abandonment and the stages people tend to go through. He speaks to how betrayal can be a transformative experience and what that look like? John will help the listener understand how to build trust after a betrayal and how commitment fits into the picture and how can we create a secure connection with another person so that we minimize betrayal and abandonment?
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    58 mins
  • Understanding the physiology of Shame and its role in development
    Nov 21 2019
    Shame is a ubiquitous human experience. It is used in every culture to socialize children and to protect the tribe. Healthy shame has purpose, function and teaching us how to thrive in community. But toxic shame debilitates us and isolates us from humanity. It is different from other emotions. Our physiological reaction to shame helps us to maintain the interpersonal bridges that are imperative for our survival. It increases the likelihood of being embraced by and remaining a part of the tribe. It is the best solution for a seemingly impossible situation. But when shame is internalized and identified with, we spiral into self-loathing and form the belief that we are without value or purpose and therefor unlovable. Releasing the underpinning of toxic shame restores vibrancy, self-esteem, resilience and self-reliance.
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    56 mins
  • What happens after getting out of the cult called NXIVM
    Nov 14 2019
    This show will look at the dark side of being a leader and promoting recruitment to hundreds of people into an organization that treated women like sex slaves. Sarah Edmondson will describe to the listeners how her mission to make the world a better place was manipulated and distorted, to meet the sexual gratification and power of a few. Sarah will share with the listeners the guilt and shame that she felt in introducing so many people into NXIVM and the journey of being shunned by those who did not believe what she was saying about the cult. This episode will help listeners to find courage to follow what they know is the right thing to do and make new decisions even when so much is at stake.
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    57 mins

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