Today, I answer a question submitted anonymously through my Dear Fumi column! If you would like to submit your own question, you can do so anonymously here, on my site.

Here is the question that I answered:

"Hi, I wanted to ask your opinion on a dating situation I had recently since I agree with and like a lot of your content. I posted in another black women uncensored group and they were basically saying I'm the problem and should be grateful he asked me out somewhere and not to his house. I admit I could've communicated a bit better and let me expectations be more known but do you think i was completely in the wrong for wanting concrete plans? I have screenshots you can read with this. Not sure how to attach them."

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Yes, I NEED a Man: Successful Women Discuss Dating, Healing and Femininity - Feat. Sahar Khorramm

Chapters

00 - 04:56 - intro

04:57 - 08:17 - femininity and impostor syndrome

08:18 - 10:13 - big law 10:14 - 15:09 - hypergamy and the "I need a man" controversy

15:10 - 16:55 - importance of discernment

16:56 - 21:07 - blueprint to happy and healthy relationships

21:08 - 22:02 - mainstream brainwashing

22:03 - 26:18 - playing hard to get and manipulative dating

26:19 - 30:14 - sahar's dating history

30:15 - 35:20 - the "will I die alone?" panic + mindset that attracted love

35:21 - 38:42 - singleness is a gift

38:43 - 43:06 - let him show his true colors...

43:07 - 45:25 - dating for marriage45:26 - 46:50 - you need to self-nurture

46:51 - 57:38 - be mindful of his needs

57:39 - 1:01:09 - partner poaching and internalized misogyny

1:01:10 - 1:06:43 - nurturing masculinity

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Fumi discusses "The Bumble Fumble" Ad Controversy, and her thoughts on what it reveals about the problem with dating apps. She also shares the details of her journey from intentional singleness to dating while celibate for the first time EVER. I will explore the latest dating app controversy and share some valuable insights.

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Chapters

00:44 - intro

01:09 - background on the controversy + summary of the ad

03:09 - what the ad says about dating today

04:44 - where the Bumble model went wrong

05:34 - the problem with dating apps

07:02 - my celibacy journey + my reasons

10:32 - dating today objectifies women

12:08 - my intentional singleness journey + embarrassing realizations

14:50 - dating again after 5 years out of the dating scene

18:49 - date while you’re chasing your goals

22:41 - it is important to talk to men you’re attracted to

23:17 - what my celibacy journey is built on

25:00 - my journey dating for experience and why I don’t recommend it

26:27 - my experience dating as a celibate woman

27:53 - unspoken pressure a lot of women feel

29:03 - celibacy as a tool to decenter men

31:26 - bumble ad reveals an unfortunate fact

33:09 - the cost of compromise

34:12 - high value men are willing to respect celibacy

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Marry my Husband was a Kdrama sensation that had people talking! One particular aspect that has been the focus of many conversations is the complex relationship between the protagonist and her best friend, Su-Min.

On the surface, their friendship seems strong and supportive. However, as we delve deeper into the story, it becomes clear that toxic elements are present in their dynamic. This begs the question: how do you recognize a toxic person, especially when they are someone close to you?

There are several red flags to look out for when identifying toxic behavior in a person. These can include constantly putting you down, manipulating or controlling your actions and decisions, being overly critical or judgmental, and displaying jealous or possessive tendencies. I discuss this, and more in this episode.

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Inside the Minds of the Calmest Women on TikTok: Fumi and Danisha Carter are two fierce and inspiring women who have come together to share their experiences, insights, and advice on navigating womanhood and thriving in all areas of life. With a raw and honest approach, they discuss relevant topics for women of all ages. In this dive deep into developing unshakable confidence in the face of hardship and negativity, they share their struggles with self-doubt and how they overcame them to become the confident women they are today.

Whether facing challenges at work, in your relationships, or within yourself, this episode will offer valuable insights on building inner strength and resilience.

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