In this episode, we’re diving into the conversations I wish I could have had with the covert narcissist in my life. The words I rehearsed but never said. The truths I buried for the sake of “keeping the peace.” The sarcasm I bit back. The boundaries I swallowed. All of it. Because sometimes, the only way to make sense of the madness that is covert narcissistic abuse is to talk it out—even if it’s only in your own head.

We’re pulling back the curtain on:

• The emotional minefield of everyday life with a covert narcissist
• The way gaslighting turns simple moments into emotional warfare
• The mental gymnastics of the “circular conversation”
• The rage that gets disguised as “just a rough day”
• The slow erosion of your voice when you’re always managing their emotions

This isn’t just about venting. It’s about reclaiming the space to name what happened, to validate the version of reality you know you experienced, and to remind you that you’re not crazy. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not imagining it. You’re waking up.

So grab your tea, your journal, or just a quiet moment in your car, and let’s process together. Because your voice matters. Even if it’s shaking. Even if it’s only just starting to come back.

✨ Leave this episode knowing:
You don’t have to keep tapdancing around someone else’s dysfunction to be worthy of love, safety, or peace.
You get to stop shrinking.
You get to stop rehearsing.
You get to heal.

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At the end of every episode, I say, “I wish you so much peace on your journey of healing.” But today, I want to pause and really talk about what that journey actually looks like—because healing from covert narcissistic abuse isn’t what most people think.

When I first left, I believed healing meant I’d wake up one day and magically stop hurting. I thought it meant I’d feel strong and peaceful all the time. Instead, I felt confused, angry, exhausted… and sometimes even guilty for walking away.

What I didn’t know then—but deeply understand now—is that healing isn’t a return to who you were before. That version of you doesn’t exist anymore. And that’s not a tragedy—it’s a transformation. Healing is not going back—it’s becoming.

In this episode, I take you inside the real healing process: the grief, the guilt, the spiral staircase of progress. I unpack what we’re actually healing from—the chronic invalidation, emotional starvation, and deep erosion of self-worth that doesn’t leave bruises but leaves a lasting impact.

You'll hear examples that hit home, like standing in the grocery store frozen by the realization that you don’t have to buy his favorite cereal anymore. Or crying in the bathroom because someone raised their voice, and it took you back. You’ll also hear what healing becomes: the moment you say no without explaining, the first night you sleep peacefully, the sound of your own laugh returning after years of silence.

We’ll talk about:

• Why healing is not linear—and why that’s okay
• What it means to be on the healing path, even when it doesn’t feel like it
• How to recognize those quiet signs that you are making progress
• Why “being healed” isn’t a final destination—it’s a way of being
• And why grieving who you had to be to survive is part of the process too

🔔 Listen now and remember: Healing is happening inside of you, even on the days it feels invisible.

As always, I wish you so much peace on your journey of healing—because it’s real, it’s sacred, and so are you.

In this raw and emotional episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most devastating dynamics in families with a covert narcissist: when the parent doing all the emotional labor is unseen, while the other parent gets all the praise.

We unpack the covert narcissist’s relentless need for supply and scapegoats—and how this manipulative cycle plays out not just with their partner, but with their children. You’ll hear the heartbreaking truth of what it feels like to be the steady, loving, rule-setting parent while your kids are pulled toward the fun, charming, and performative parent who barely shows up... until the cameras are on.

This episode is for the parents who make the lunches, wipe the tears, stay up worrying, enforce the rules, and still get painted as the “problem.” It’s for the ones who feel erased, blamed, and heartbroken.

You’re not alone—and you’re not invisible.

Tune in for validation, practical healing tools, and the reminder that your love leaves a lasting mark, even if your children can’t see it right now. The truth will rise.

To the invisible parent: You are the anchor. You are the lighthouse. And one day, they will know.