What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it’s too late? Many couples break up not because they don’t love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help
(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles
(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups
(9:50) What is psychological safety?
(12:14) Signs you don’t feel safe in your relationship
(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason’sestimLisa’son Alan and Emilia’s RelaEmilia’s Coaching.
(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship
(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner
(24:14) The role of personal growth in love
(28:40) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss a real-life coaching session where a couple had to choose between an African safari and their long-term financial goals. They break down the law of trade-offs, the importance of communication, and why mapping out dreams together is key. Whether your bucket list includes travel, personal growth, or big life milestones, this episode will help you find a way to make it happen—without sacrificing your relationship.

Show notes:
(2:32) A client’s bucket list dilemma
(5:08) Men’s perspective on bucket lists & practicality
(10:25) The law of trade-offs: Dreams Vs. Reality
(15:17) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(16:35) Why couples should use a shared whiteboard
(19:00) How a couple reworked their roadmap to make a dream happen
(23:19) Why do some dreams get suppressed in relationships
(26:50) How to strategically plan bucket list goals
(29:43) Outro

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Discover the roles that shape love and how to bridge the growth gap. In this episode, Emilia and Alan share clear, simple insights to help you strengthen your bond. They show how small shifts in daily habits might slowly change your relationship. With real-life examples and heartfelt advice, they introduce three key roles—pusher, nudger, and inspirer—that each partner might play. Their conversation shows how being aware of your actions and leading by example can bring you and your partner closer.

Show notes:
(2:48) Exploring three relationship roles dynamics
(3:19) Understanding the “60 rule” in relationships
(4:22) Daily connection and bridging the gap
(7:02) Moving from agree-to-disagree to true integration
(17:03) Identifying the pusher's role in action
(20:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(21:23) Explaining the nudger role effectively
(26:06) Learning the inspirer role by example
(34:21) Growth integration
(38:39) Outro

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Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you’ll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?
(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner’s
(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate
(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards
(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships
(24:26) How to start raising your standards
(28:10) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!

Show notes:
(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships
(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity
(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity
(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system
(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity
(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life
(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship
(38:55) Outro

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Unlock the secrets to transforming your relationship. In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore four communication styles, which help you identify your default approach and how it affects your relationship. They share real-life examples, discuss the impact of past experiences, and provide practical ways to shift toward healthier, more effective conversations. Whether you struggle to speak up, avoid conflict, or tend to dominate discussions, understanding your communication style can strengthen your connection.

Show notes:
(2:44) The “iceberg” concept—what’s beneath communication struggles?
(4:21) Passive communication
(5:50) Assertive communication
(7:05) Metaphors for communication styles: Turtle, Puffer Fish, and Turtle Puff
(11:18) Passive-aggressive communication
(17:08) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(18:35) Aggressive communication
(22:14) Recognizing aggressive tendencies and setting boundaries
(26:39) The key to healthy relationships
(28:58) Outro

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Are you the kind of person who wants a better relationship but isn’t sure where to begin? What if the secret lies within you? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how personal growth fuels lasting, meaningful relationships. Through personal stories and real-world coaching experiences, they highlight why actions outweigh words, how self-discipline drives growth, and what happens when one partner outpaces the other. Tune in to learn how to break through stagnation and create the partnership of your dreams.

Show notes:
(1:59) The “Me” builds the “We.”
(6:42) Pretenders Vs. Doers in growth
(11:28) Real habits of growth-oriented people
(13:51) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(15:09) The impact of personal effort on relationships
(17:26) Balancing business and personal life
(22:57) Relationship Talks Event invitation
(24:38) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore why courage is essential for expressing your needs and creating deeper intimacy. Through real-life stories, playful anecdotes, and actionable advice, they discuss how fear and past rejection shape our ability to ask for what we need. Learn how to identify your core needs, overcome the fear of rejection, and build a more balanced partnership, perfect for couples and individuals committed to personal growth and meaningful connections.

Show notes:
(2:24) Funny story: Courage at a dance club
(6:29) What is courage, and why does it matter?
(8:31) The “Rainbow Slide” explanation
(14:37) How rejection shapes our fear of asking
(16:43) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(19:21) Identifying unmet needs in relationships
(22:49) Balancing conflicting needs in partnerships
(24:58) Risks of being overly selfless or selfish
(30:11) The "growth gap" in relationships
(32:18) Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!