Welcome to another gut-checking episode of Coffee & Chaos with T3, where we're diving headfirst into the emotional quicksand of blame, shame, and guilt. Pour yourself something strong (coffee or otherwise) because today's Talking Trash and Truths is about to get uncomfortably real about these three horsemen of emotional havoc. You know that heavy feeling in your chest when you've messed up? That voice in your head that won't shut up about that thing you did ten years ago? Or that instinct to point fingers when things go wrong? Yeah, we're unpacking all of that today – the good, the bad, and the downright ugly of these complex emotions that seem hardwired into our human experience. In this no-holds-barred discussion, we're exploring: The evolutionary purpose of blame, shame, and guilt (spoiler: they actually served a function) Why shame feels like emotional quicksand and how to stop sinking The toxic cycle of blame and how it keeps us stuck The surprising difference between healthy and unhealthy guilt How these emotions shape our relationships, decisions, and self-image

Welcome to another soul-stirring episode of Coffee & Chaos with T3, where we're peeling back the layers of a complex truth many of us live but rarely discuss: the delicate dance of adapting ourselves for others. Grab your favorite mug and join us for this week's Talking Trash and Truths as we explore the fine line between compromise and losing yourself. Let's be real – we've all done it. Changed our laugh because someone called it too loud. Dimmed our personality because someone said we were "too much." Shifted our dreams because they didn't fit someone else's vision of success. Today, we're diving deep into these moments of adaptation and asking the tough questions: When is it healthy compromise, and when are we sacrificing our authentic selves? In this raw and unfiltered conversation, we'll unpack: The invisible price tag of people-pleasing Why we sometimes lose ourselves trying to fit into others' expectations The generational patterns of adaptation (thanks, family dynamics!) How cultural and societal pressures shape our adaptation strategies The surprising link between self-worth and our tendency to shape-shift for others But this wouldn't be Coffee & Chaos if we didn't get practical. We'll share actionable strategies for: Recognizing when you're over-adapting Finding your voice when you've been silent too long Rebuilding your identity after years of people-pleasing Creating boundaries without building walls Maintaining relationships while reclaiming your authentic self We'll also tackle the guilt that comes with putting yourself first and why it's not selfish to have needs and boundaries. Plus, we'll discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback when you stop being everyone's yes-person. Whether you're in the midst of a major identity crisis or just starting to question your adaptation patterns, this episode is your permission slip to examine your relationships with others – and more importantly, your relationship with yourself. Join us for an hour of truth-telling, myth-busting, and maybe a few "oh sh*t" moments of recognition. Because at T3, we believe that understanding why we adapt for others is the first step to choosing when and how we do it. Tune in this Thursday at 7 PM EST for your weekly dose of reality checks and real talk. Available on all major podcast platforms and streaming live on our social channels. Remember: Your authentic self isn't too much – it's just enough. And sometimes the bravest form of adaptation is choosing not to adapt at all.

Welcome to another soul-stirring episode of Coffee & Chaos, where we dive deep into the complexities of human nature while sharing our favorite brew. Today, we're exploring a topic that resonates deeply with many empaths and sensitive souls: the critical importance of meeting emotional needs, with a special focus on the INFJ personality type and the phenomenon known as "INFJ Rage." INFJs, often called the Advocates or Counselors of the Myers-Briggs spectrum, are known for their deep emotional intelligence, unwavering integrity, and passionate dedication to helping others. Yet beneath their calm, compassionate exterior lies a complex emotional landscape that, when neglected, can erupt in what's known as INFJ Rage – a powerful response to prolonged emotional suppression and unmet needs. In this episode, we'll unpack why meeting emotional needs isn't just a luxury – it's a necessity for psychological well-being. We'll explore how INFJs, as natural givers, often find themselves in an exhausting cycle of meeting everyone else's needs while neglecting their own. This self-sacrificing tendency, combined with their inherent difficulty in expressing personal needs, creates a perfect storm for emotional burnout. Key points we'll discuss: The unique way INFJs process emotions and why they struggle to vocalize their needs The buildup to INFJ Rage: identifying the warning signs How chronic people-pleasing and boundary violations contribute to emotional eruption The importance of emotional reciprocity in relationships with INFJs Practical strategies for INFJs to communicate their needs effectively Why seemingly minor dismissals can trigger major emotional responses in INFJs We'll also delve into the fascinating paradox of the INFJ personality: how these typically peaceful, harmony-seeking individuals can transform when their core values are violated or their deep need for authentic connection goes unmet. Understanding this transformation isn't about justifying emotional outbursts – it's about recognizing the vital importance of emotional honesty and reciprocity in all relationships. For our non-INFJ listeners, this episode offers valuable insights into supporting the sensitive souls in your life. You'll learn why simple acknowledgment and genuine attention to emotional needs can prevent the buildup of resentment and maintain healthy relationship dynamics. Join us as we explore the delicate balance between giving and receiving, the power of emotional validation, and the transformative potential of meeting needs with awareness and intention. Whether you're an INFJ seeking to understand your own emotional patterns or someone who loves an INFJ, this episode promises practical wisdom for nurturing healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Grab your favorite coffee, find a quiet corner, and let's dive into this enlightening discussion about emotional needs, authentic connection, and the path to genuine understanding. Sometimes, the most powerful changes begin with simply acknowledging our own needs and those of others. #PersonalityTypes #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipWisdom #INFJ #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #CoffeeAndChaos

Come on in and hang out! Eliephant asked me to make a gift list on Amazon for you guys to use in case you want to send anything. I'm not good at asking for stuff or receiving anything, so please do NOT feel obligated to give or buy anything. I promised I'd try to set it up and I always keep my promises. I think I did it right. Who knows lol Amazon list portal https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/dl/invite/dZi590P?ref_=wl_share ♥♥♥ I GOT MERCH!!!!!! ♥♥♥ Hey! Trying something new! Check out my Merch shop at https://talkingtrashtruths.myspreadshop.com/ If you have merch ideas, let me know in the comments or hit me up on X or Discord. Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/TalkingTrashAndTruths X: https://x.com/TalkingTrashT3 Discord: https://discord.gg/dashm2SS You can help support this channel using the links below. Gifts are neither expected nor required, but ALWAYS very much appreciated. ♥ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/talkingtrashandtruths Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/izzwhknw1j Cash App: https://cash.app/$TalkingTrashNTruths Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/TalkingTrashAndTruths Clips and Intro/Outro by @WinningReality Are you navigating life after narcissistic abuse and finding yourself repeating patterns you don't understand? Pour yourself a cup of coffee and join us for this raw, unfiltered episode of Coffee & Chaos w/T3, where we're diving deep into the often puzzling behaviors that many survivors share on their healing journey. In this eye-opening discussion, we explore why you might find yourself hypervigilant in new relationships, constantly scanning for red flags you missed before. We'll unpack why some survivors swing between periods of isolation and people-pleasing, and why others find themselves unconsciously attracted to similar personality types that remind them of their past abuser. What makes this episode especially powerful is our honest examination of the "fawning" response – that instinctive need to appease others at the cost of your own well-being – and how it might still be affecting your personal and professional relationships today. We'll discuss why many survivors struggle with decision-making, second-guess their own judgment, or feel an overwhelming need to explain and justify their choices to others. But we don't just identify these patterns – we break down the neuroscience behind them. Learn how trauma rewires the brain's threat-response system and why these behaviors were once crucial survival mechanisms. Understanding this biological basis helps remove the shame and self-judgment many survivors carry about their post-abuse behaviors. This episode also tackles the complicated relationship many survivors have with success and self-sabotage. We'll explore why you might find yourself pulling back just when things are going well, or why setting and maintaining boundaries might feel simultaneously essential and terrifying. Special attention is given to: The paradox of heightened empathy alongside trust issues The exhausting cycle of overthinking and overanalyzing Why survivors often struggle with identity and self-worth after abuse The tendency to minimize personal achievements while maximizing perceived failures How perfectionism can be a trauma response Whether you're just starting your healing journey or years into recovery, this episode offers valuable insights into why you might be experiencing these behaviors and, more importantly, how to begin shifting them. We share practical strategies for developing healthier patterns while being gentle with yourself in the process. Join our community of survivors as we navigate these challenges together, always with a side of humor and hope. Because while trauma may have shaped these behaviors, it doesn't have to define your future. As always, we'll wrap up with our signature "Truth Bomb Takeaways" – actionable steps you can implement right away to start breaking free from these patterns. Remember: understanding these common behaviors isn't about judging yourself – it's about recognizing where you've been and choosing where you want to go next. Grab your favorite mug, find a cozy spot, and let's turn these insights into stepping stones for your continued growth and healing. Perfect for survivors, mental health advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the complex aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Content warning: This episode contains discussions of psychological abuse and trauma responses. #MAGA #TRUMP #ELECTIONDAY #survivor #BEHAVIORALTRAITS

Come on in and hang out! Eliephant asked me to make a gift list on Amazon for you guys to use in case you want to send anything. I'm not good at asking for stuff or receiving anything, so please do NOT feel obligated to give or buy anything. I promised I'd try to set it up and I always keep my promises. I think I did it right. Who knows lol Amazon list portal https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/dl/invite/dZi590P?ref_=wl_share Coffee & Chaos w/T3: Traits of Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse In a world where emotional manipulation often hides behind charming smiles and carefully crafted personas, survivors of narcissistic abuse emerge as unsung warriors of resilience, strength, and profound self-discovery. Join T3 in this raw, unfiltered episode of "Coffee & Chaos" as we dive deep into the complex landscape of narcissistic abuse survival – a journey that's equal parts heartbreaking and empowering. The Invisible Battleground Narcissistic abuse isn't about visible scars; it's a psychological warfare that leaves wounds invisible to the naked eye. These survivors carry stories of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional erosion that challenge everything they once believed about themselves and the world around them. But here's the powerful truth – they are not victims. They are survivors. Unmasking the Survival Traits Through candid conversations and expert insights, we'll explore the extraordinary traits that emerge from the crucible of narcissistic abuse: Hypervigilance as Strength: What appears as anxiety is actually a sophisticated survival mechanism Profound Empathy: The ability to read emotional landscapes with uncanny precision Remarkable Adaptability: Survivors who can reshape their reality and rebuild from emotional rubble Intense Self-Reflection: A commitment to understanding, healing, and personal growth Boundary Mastery: Learning to create and maintain emotional fortifications Beyond Survival: Thriving This isn't just a story of survival – it's a narrative of transformation. We'll discuss how survivors don't just escape narcissistic relationships; they emerge as more resilient, self-aware, and emotionally intelligent individuals. Real Talk, No Filter T3 brings her signature blend of compassion, humor, and brutal honesty to this critical conversation. Expect tears, laughter, and those "holy sh*t, that's exactly how I felt" moments that make you realize you're not alone. Trigger Warning & Support Content Advisory: This episode discusses emotional abuse and may trigger intense memories. We approach this topic with deep respect, compassion, and a commitment to healing. Resources: We'll share critical support networks, therapy recommendations, and community resources for anyone navigating their healing journey. Who Should Listen? Survivors of narcissistic abuse Mental health professionals Partners and family members supporting loved ones Anyone seeking to understand the complex dynamics of emotional manipulation Individuals committed to personal growth and healing Your Healing Matters Remember: Your experience is valid. Your pain is real. Your healing is possible. And your story matters. Grab your coffee, pull up a chair, and let's talk truths that transform. Streaming everywhere podcast voices are heard. New episodes drop every Wednesday. #CoffeeAndChaos #SurvivorsSpeak #HealingJourney

Halloween is all about the fear. Why do we feel so much fear though? I mean, are you lying awake at night, scrolling through your phone, feeling that familiar knot in your stomach? You're not alone. Join us on "Coffee & Chaos w/T3" as we dive deep into the heart of modern anxiety and unpack why we seem more afraid than ever before. In this raw and unfiltered livestream, we're peeling back the layers of our collective fears to understand what's really keeping us up at night. From the constant ping of notifications to the endless stream of global crises in our news feeds, we'll explore how our ancient fight-or-flight response is being hijacked by the modern world. But this isn't just another doom-and-gloom session. We're getting real about the science behind our fears, the social factors that amplify them, and most importantly – what we can do about it. We'll break down: How social media algorithms feed our anxiety by keeping us in a constant state of alert The role of 24/7 news cycles in making distant threats feel immediate and personal Why uncertainty about the future – from AI to climate change – triggers such profound fear The surprising connection between our hyperconnected world and feelings of isolation Whether you're dealing with social anxiety, environmental anxiety, or just a general sense of unease about the future, this conversation is for you. Key topics we'll cover: The evolutionary purpose of fear and why it's gone haywire How social media fuels our insecurities The impact of global events on our personal sense of safety Manufactured fear The role of God in combating fear Bring your questions, your experiences, and yes, even your fears. Let's transform our anxiety into understanding and maybe even find some humor along the way. Because sometimes, the best way to face our fears is to talk trash about them together. Join us live this Thursday at 12 PM EST. Hit that reminder bell and share this with someone who needs to hear they're not alone in feeling afraid. Let's get real, get vulnerable, and maybe even get a little lighter together. Because in a world that often feels scary, the bravest thing we can do is talk about it. #MentalHealth #Anxiety #ModernFear #TalkingTrashAndTruths #OnlineCommunity #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfHelp #DigitalAge #Wellness

I've been under the weather all week, so today is gonna be just us, chillin. Maybe we'll troll through my twitter feed and see what shenanigans people are up to. Also want to talk about the YSL trial, cause....OH LORDY!!! ♥

What do you do when the world is falling down around you? When nothing makes sense and evil seems to be in the driver's seat? Let's go over some steps we can take. Come on in and offer your suggestions on the topic. ♥