Come on in and hang out! Eliephant asked me to make a gift list on Amazon for you guys to use in case you want to send anything. I'm not good at asking for stuff or receiving anything, so please do NOT feel obligated to give or buy anything. I promised I'd try to set it up and I always keep my promises. I think I did it right. Who knows lol Amazon list portal https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/dl/invite/dZi590P?ref_=wl_share ♥♥♥ I GOT MERCH!!!!!! ♥♥♥ Hey! Trying something new! Check out my Merch shop at https://talkingtrashtruths.myspreadshop.com/ If you have merch ideas, let me know in the comments or hit me up on X or Discord. Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/TalkingTrashAndTruths X: https://x.com/TalkingTrashT3 Discord: https://discord.gg/dashm2SS You can help support this channel using the links below. Gifts are neither expected nor required, but ALWAYS very much appreciated. ♥ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/talkingtrashandtruths Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/izzwhknw1j Cash App: https://cash.app/$TalkingTrashNTruths Venmo: https://venmo.com/u/TalkingTrashAndTruths Clips and Intro/Outro by @WinningReality Are you navigating life after narcissistic abuse and finding yourself repeating patterns you don't understand? Pour yourself a cup of coffee and join us for this raw, unfiltered episode of Coffee & Chaos w/T3, where we're diving deep into the often puzzling behaviors that many survivors share on their healing journey. In this eye-opening discussion, we explore why you might find yourself hypervigilant in new relationships, constantly scanning for red flags you missed before. We'll unpack why some survivors swing between periods of isolation and people-pleasing, and why others find themselves unconsciously attracted to similar personality types that remind them of their past abuser. What makes this episode especially powerful is our honest examination of the "fawning" response – that instinctive need to appease others at the cost of your own well-being – and how it might still be affecting your personal and professional relationships today. We'll discuss why many survivors struggle with decision-making, second-guess their own judgment, or feel an overwhelming need to explain and justify their choices to others. But we don't just identify these patterns – we break down the neuroscience behind them. Learn how trauma rewires the brain's threat-response system and why these behaviors were once crucial survival mechanisms. Understanding this biological basis helps remove the shame and self-judgment many survivors carry about their post-abuse behaviors. This episode also tackles the complicated relationship many survivors have with success and self-sabotage. We'll explore why you might find yourself pulling back just when things are going well, or why setting and maintaining boundaries might feel simultaneously essential and terrifying. Special attention is given to: The paradox of heightened empathy alongside trust issues The exhausting cycle of overthinking and overanalyzing Why survivors often struggle with identity and self-worth after abuse The tendency to minimize personal achievements while maximizing perceived failures How perfectionism can be a trauma response Whether you're just starting your healing journey or years into recovery, this episode offers valuable insights into why you might be experiencing these behaviors and, more importantly, how to begin shifting them. We share practical strategies for developing healthier patterns while being gentle with yourself in the process. Join our community of survivors as we navigate these challenges together, always with a side of humor and hope. Because while trauma may have shaped these behaviors, it doesn't have to define your future. As always, we'll wrap up with our signature "Truth Bomb Takeaways" – actionable steps you can implement right away to start breaking free from these patterns. Remember: understanding these common behaviors isn't about judging yourself – it's about recognizing where you've been and choosing where you want to go next. Grab your favorite mug, find a cozy spot, and let's turn these insights into stepping stones for your continued growth and healing. Perfect for survivors, mental health advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the complex aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Content warning: This episode contains discussions of psychological abuse and trauma responses. #MAGA #TRUMP #ELECTIONDAY #survivor #BEHAVIORALTRAITS