In this episode I’m pulling back the covers—literally—on the top three sexual fantasies most women have but rarely confess. From the thrill of novelty and adventure, to the ego-boosting allure of multi-partner desire, and the power dynamics of dominance and submission, let’s explore what these fantasies really mean and how they connect to women’s need for freedom, safety, and pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro & welcome

00:20 – Why fantasies matter

00:46 – #3: Novelty & adventure

01:51 – #2: Multi-partner fantasies

02:51 – #1: Power play

03:51 – Final thoughts & free guide

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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In Part 2 of my conversation with Ally Iseman, (ICF certified relationship coach and erotic event producer) we dive deeper into the real work behind healthy, ethical nonmonogamy. Alley shares personal stories that reveal the emotional intelligence, honesty, and respect it takes to navigate multiple relationships — from processing breakups to setting boundaries and supporting each other through vulnerability.

We also bust common myths about open relationships, explaining how communication and consent are key whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between. Then, we take you inside the world of kink and play parties, exploring what really happens, how to approach these spaces safely, and why curiosity (not pressure) is the foundation of all exploration.

This episode is as much about self-awareness and personal growth as it is about relationships — proving that being “open” starts with how we communicate, not who we sleep with.

If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and start there, because you will want the full story!

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Beyond the Myths of Open Relationships

02:10 – Communication, Boundaries & Mutual Respect

05:20 – Processing Emotions and Breakups in Open Relationships

08:00 – Monogamy vs. Ownership: Redefining Partnership

10:40 – Kink, Curiosity & What Really Happens at Play Parties

13:50 – Finding Community and Safer Spaces

16:30 – How to Start Exploring (Responsibly)

18:50 – Final Thoughts: Openness Starts With Conversation

19:51 – Final words

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the guest:

Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after...

In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia), and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You’ll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: sex & midlife reset

0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd

1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables

3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction

5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia)

7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality

8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data

10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions

11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle?

13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity

15:05 – Karen’s reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy

16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion

17:26 – What’s next + Part 2 coming next

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the guest:

Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer,...

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I break down one of the biggest misconceptions in sexual health: that size matters most. From understanding real female anatomy to addressing midlife changes, we explore why pleasure, comfort, and communication matter far more than length or depth. With candid examples and practical advice, I challenge outdated ideas, tackle the myths created by porn, and encourage curiosity, consent, and conversation as the true keys to sexual connection — especially for women over 50.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters

0:22 – The truth about vaginal depth

0:55 – Why bigger isn’t always better

1:32 – Pain vs. pleasure in midlife

2:05 – What really drives female pleasure (clitoris & more)

2:44 – Porn myths vs. reality

3:05 – Communication, curiosity & consent

3:20 – Outro + Pleasure Playbook invite

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

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In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with journalist, performer, and intimacy coordinator Laura Desiree to break down misconceptions around sex work, intimacy on stage and screen, and the importance of authentic storytelling. Laura shares her journey from burlesque to content creation, discusses the realities and stigmas sex workers face, and explains how intimacy coordination is reshaping the entertainment industry. From personal safety to sexual healing, this conversation explores the courage, creativity, and empowerment found under the “red umbrella” of sex work—and why listening to sex workers is essential for modern sex education.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: Karen introduces the show and today’s guest, Laura Desiree.

02:30 – Defining Sex Work Today: What sex work means in modern society and the many professions under the “red umbrella.”

06:45 – Laura’s Journey into Sex Work: From burlesque beginnings to content creation and erotic performance.

11:25 – Breaking Misconceptions: Does sex work come from trauma? Debunking stereotypes and addressing stigma.

16:10 – Love, Safety & Relationships: How sex workers navigate intimacy, clients, and personal relationships.

20:40 – Intimacy Coordination Explained: Laura’s work creating safe environments for actors and performers on stage and screen.

26:15 – Eros Unbound: Erotic Storytelling: Laura’s live show blending confession, creativity, and sexual empowerment.

30:00 – Final 3 Questions: Laura shares her definition of sex, her best orgasm story, and her unfulfilled fantasy.

31:30 – Where to Find Laura Desiree: Resources, upcoming shows, and closing thoughts.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Laura Desiree is a dominant figure in erotic entertainment, celebrated for her work as a live-sex Intimacy Coordinator, journalist, adult industry consultant, and sought-after podcast commentator. She spent seven years as the host and producer of the groundbreaking web series Naked News, and now helms Eros Unbound, a confessional erotic reading event spotlighting sensual storytelling and creative expression. With over a decade of experience across broadcasting, adult media, and live performance, Laura is a trusted voice shaping the future of sex, art, and culture.

Why do so many women struggle to orgasm — and what can couples do about it? In this episode, I break down seven real, practical, and sex-positive truths about female pleasure. From communication to clitoral focus, safety to novelty, and why toys are tools. I share how orgasm is less about performance and more about connection and collaboration. If you want to upgrade intimacy and remove shame from the bedroom, this one’s for you.

👉 Download my free guide: 10 Things Every Man Needs to Know for more insights.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Why female orgasm is misunderstood

00:45 – Truth #1: Communication is foreplay

01:40 – Truth #2: Arousal takes 20–40 minutes

02:20 – Truth #3: It’s all about the clitoris

03:00 – Truth #4: The importance of safety

03:45 – Truth #5: Embrace novelty in the bedroom

04:25 – Truth #6: Toys are tools, not threats

05:05 – Truth #7: Let go of the goal

06:00 – Key takeaway: Orgasm is collaboration, not performance

06:30 – Outro + Free guide invitation

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

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Dating after divorce can feel intimidating, overwhelming, and even hopeless — but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea McGinty, America’s top midlife dating expert and author of Second Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50. From founding It’s Just Lunch Matchmaking to facilitating over 33,000 dates and 10,000 marriages, Andrea has seen it all. She shares no-nonsense strategies for navigating the modern dating world, choosing the right apps, spotting red flags, and building a game plan for your love life. Whether you’re newly single or simply curious about what’s possible, this episode proves it’s never too late for a second act in love.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Show Intro

00:35 – Today’s Topic & Guest Setup “Is online dating after divorce a nightmare…?"

02:35 – Why Dating After Divorce Feels Harder

04:45 – The Ocean, Not a Pool: Why Apps Matter

08:05 – Right App for Your City & Stage of Life

09:30 – Biggest Mistake: Quitting After Two Weeks

11:40 – Build a Dating “Business Plan”

13:45 – Values, Communication & Chemistry (The 3 C’s)

16:00 – First Relationship Post-Divorce: Are You Ready?

18:20 – Red Flags on Profiles

20:40 – Stop Texting Forever: Set the Date

23:00 – The Sex-on-First-Date Question

24:50 – Matchmakers vs Apps (Costs & Reality)

28:50 – Paid vs Free App Features

31:30 – Hope, Resilience & Process

35:10 – Phone Call or Not? Expectations & Boundaries

38:00 – First-Date Formats

39:30 – Who Pays? Regional Norms & Chivalry

40:20 – Where to Find Andrea + Outro

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

As seen on Oprah, WSJ, People, and CNN, Andrea McGinty is a professional dating coach, author, and entrepreneur with more than 25 years of experience. Having set up over 33,000 successful dates, she is the founder of two dating companies--It's Just Lunch and 33k Dates--as well as several other ventures, including BabyDagny and Pilatesworks.

Connect with Andrea McGinty:

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In this episode, I unpacks the truths about oral sex that most men have never been taught. From understanding the female body to slowing down, asking the right questions, and focusing on connection instead of performance, this episode reveals how to move from being a good partner to a great one. Men who listen and apply this will transform not just their partner’s experience, but their entire relationship dynamic.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Stop Guessing, Start Connecting

00:42 – Why Penetration Alone Isn’t Enough

01:15 – Understanding Her Anatomy (Clitoris & Vulva)

02:00 – The #1 Mistake Men Make

03:05 – How to Communicate About Intimacy

04:00 – Worship vs. Performance in Connection

05:00 – Final Tips: Why Presence Beats Perfection

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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