Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist.
We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife.
We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell.
If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher’s new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear.
In This Episode:
00:00 – Welcome and show intro.
00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause.
02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman’s” issue.
04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause.
06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs.
09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire.
12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult.
15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics.
18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits.
21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.”
25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis.
29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety.
33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth.
36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido.
38:40 – Wrap up and closing message.
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
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About the Guest:
Lauren...
8 mins