Think you're bad at follow-through? Lacking motivation? Think again. In this episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes unpacks the real reason you're struggling to do hard things—and spoiler: it’s not laziness. It’s your brain.

You’ll learn:

✔ Why your brain is wired to resist challenge—and how to outsmart it ✔ The five psychological phases of doing hard things (and why 90% quit at phase 3) ✔ How dopamine crashes sabotage your motivation (and what to do about it) ✔ Why hard things feel unsafe—and how to reframe discomfort as growth ✔ Step-by-step tools to build unshakable mental resilience (no bro-hustle required)

This isn’t just a mindset shift—it’s a full-on brain rewire.

Questions

✔ Why do I struggle with follow-through? ✔ What are the five phases of doing hard things? ✔ How can I build mental resilience without burnout? ✔ Why does my motivation crash when things get hard? ✔ How can I trick my brain into seeing discomfort as growth? ✔ What does neuroscience say about doing hard things?

📌 Key Takeaways: ✔ Your brain isn’t designed for success—it’s designed for survival. ✔ Resistance = proof that your brain thinks you’re in danger. ✔ Hard things feel unsafe because they require energy, uncertainty, and risk. ✔ Most people quit at phase 3 because the dopamine drop feels like failure. ✔ The secret to the top 10% isn’t talent—it’s building the skill of doing hard things. ✔ Every failure is evidence for resilience, not against it. ✔ Reframing discomfort as training shifts your entire experience of effort. ✔ You’re not lazy—you’re under-practiced in discomfort.

🕒 Chapter Timestamps: 00:00 – Why your brain avoids hard things (and what it means for you) 02:08 – How your brain mistakes challenge for danger 04:07 – What dopamine has to do with motivation crashes 08:19 – The fixed mindset trap and how to break out of it 13:16 – Why women don’t go for more—and how to change that 15:08 – How to rewire belief systems and build mental grit 18:54 – The five phases of doing hard things 21:46 – What phase 3 resistance feels like (and why most people quit) 25:33 – Becoming your own evidence: how resilience compounds 28:22 – Hard things aren’t punishments—they’re invitations 29:39 – Final thoughts: train your brain to expect challenge and rise

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