Episodes

  • 189. Finding Clarity: Two Techniques for Tackling Persistent Problems

    189. Finding Clarity: Two Techniques for Tackling Persistent Problems
    Sep 17 2025
    When a problem keeps showing up in your life like an unwelcome visitor, how do you respond? Maybe the same struggles keep resurfacing despite your best efforts—leaving work at the office, carving out time for what matters, or breaking free from patterns that no longer serve you. It can feel like these challenges are unsolvable, draining your energy, and stealing your peace of mind.

    These problems aren’t unsolvable; the challenge is often in how we approach them. We resist looking at what’s painful and dismiss our deepest desires as unrealistic or selfish. In this episode, I share two techniques that flip this pattern. You’ll learn how to create containers for difficult emotions, honor your desires without getting lost in logistics, and design small, doable experiments that move you forward when you feel stuck.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/189
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    25 mins
  • 188. Overcome Analysis Paralysis by Accessing Your Inner Mediator

    188. Overcome Analysis Paralysis by Accessing Your Inner Mediator
    Sep 10 2025
    Do you ever feel torn about what to do next? Maybe you’re juggling work deadlines, school drop-offs, or endless to-do lists, and each decision feels urgent. When different parts of you want different things, it’s easy to get stuck overthinking and second-guessing yourself, leaving you frustrated and unsure of how to move forward.

    In this episode, I share a three-step framework to help you gain clarity when you feel conflicted. I introduce the concept of your “inner mediator,” a calm, neutral part of yourself that can listen to all sides, weigh priorities, and uncover solutions that honor every perspective. You’ll learn how to identify the conflicting thoughts and feelings inside you, understand the core concerns behind each one, and create a way forward that feels aligned with what’s truly important.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/188
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    15 mins
  • 187. What to Do after You Don’t Follow through on Your Plan

    187. What to Do after You Don’t Follow through on Your Plan
    Sep 3 2025
    Do you find yourself making plans repeatedly but never following through? You set intentions to exercise, organize your space, or reach out to someone you care about, but it never happens. This pattern can leave you frustrated and stuck, questioning why you can’t just do what you say you will, even when it’s something you genuinely want.

    In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when plans fail, beyond the usual advice about motivation, willpower, or accountability systems. Resistance isn’t a flaw; it’s information. When you notice yourself avoiding a workout, skipping a task, or postponing a call, it’s often your mind and body signaling something important. Understanding that signal changes how you approach your intentions, and it can transform repeated patterns of inaction into insight and forward movement.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/187
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    16 mins
  • 186. From Autopilot to Alignment: Why Even Your "Bad" Habits Make Sense

    186. From Autopilot to Alignment: Why Even Your "Bad" Habits Make Sense
    Aug 27 2025
    Do you ever feel like you're stuck in autopilot mode, running through the motions without really asking if you're living the life you truly want? Most of us have at least one habit that feels out of alignment, whether it’s scrolling at night, overindulging, or staying in a draining job. We judge ourselves harshly, wondering why we can't break free. But what if these habits are not the problem? What if, instead, they’re signals that point to something deeper?

    In this episode, I offer a new perspective on habits, especially those we label as "bad." Instead of seeing them as flaws to be fixed, I invite you to understand the deeper, often protective reasons behind them. When we approach our habits with curiosity and compassion, we start to recognize that everything we do makes sense when viewed in the context of our life experiences and what we've been taught to value.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/186
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    18 mins
  • 185. Why Stress Hijacks Your Brain and How to Pivot in the Moment

    185. Why Stress Hijacks Your Brain and How to Pivot in the Moment
    Aug 20 2025
    Life is going sideways. You're snapping at your people, overthinking, doom scrolling, or eating all the snacks. You know things aren't going well, but it feels like you just can't stop, and you can't get out of the pattern. The momentum of these moments can feel impossible to interrupt, even when you're fully aware that what you're doing isn't working.

    In this episode, I'm sharing the neuroscience behind why we get stuck in these reactive patterns and how our brain's survival mode takes over when we're stressed. Through a simple three-step process, you can interrupt the stress spiral and access more choice. The key isn't waiting for the perfect moment or overhauling everything; it's about creating what I call "one-degree shifts."

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/185
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    19 mins
  • 184. Befriending Anxiety: How To Stop Fighting and Start Listening

    184. Befriending Anxiety: How To Stop Fighting and Start Listening
    Aug 13 2025
    Does anxiety make you feel like there is something wrong with you? It can feel uncomfortable, overpowering, something to manage or medicate away. We've been taught to see it as a flaw, a weakness, something broken that needs fixing. But treating anxiety as an adversary might be exactly what's making it worse.

    In this episode, I'm exploring a radically different approach to anxiety—one that sees it not as something wrong with you, but as a sophisticated signal system trying to help. I share how anxiety functions like a check engine light or cybersecurity system, alerting you to threats to your physical, emotional, relational, or financial well-being. Through practical examples and a simple outside-inside approach, you'll discover how to decode what your anxiety is actually signaling.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/184
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    22 mins
  • 183. The Power of Validation: The Unsung Hero of Habit Change

    183. The Power of Validation: The Unsung Hero of Habit Change
    Aug 6 2025
    Do you feel like acknowledging your struggles will make them worse, or that it means you're weak or indulgent? Many of us have been taught to push through challenges, minimize what we’re feeling, and judge ourselves for reacting in normal, human ways. But this mindset keeps us from fully understanding why we’re struggling in the first place.

    In this episode, I explore why validation is one of the most powerful tools for lasting change. Validation is simply the act of recognizing what's real, legitimate, and understandable about our experience. It’s about acknowledging what is true in the moment without judgment. When we validate our emotions instead of dismissing them, we create the clarity, confidence, creativity, and inner strength needed to make meaningful shifts.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/183
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    16 mins
  • 182. Rethinking How to Feel Better

    182. Rethinking How to Feel Better
    Jul 30 2025
    Have you ever tried to “think your way” into feeling better, only to feel stuck in the same patterns? It’s easy to fall into the belief that changing our thoughts will automatically change our emotions and habits. But what if the solution isn’t about forcing yourself to think better thoughts? What if it’s about understanding emotions in a deeper, more compassionate way?

    In this episode, I revisit the ideas I first shared on an early episode of the podcast about how to feel better. While I once believed that changing our thoughts was the key to lasting change, I now realize it’s only part of the equation. By shifting from trying to manage your feelings to understanding and relating to them, you can create the lasting changes you’ve been seeking.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/182
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    22 mins