(www.welcomed.com) Dan is a single guy who has many women in his life. They talk to him, tell him what they want and some want to have sensual experiences with him. As he learned the technique of DOing and about Deliberate Orgasm, his skills with women got sharper. In this interview he candidly describes key points to answer the age-old question-- What does a woman want in a man?

"Through thinking about it and me deliberately doing it. I did have performance anxiety at first. I didn’t think that I was going to be bad at DOing. The truth is I had these tools. I knew that that was going to go well and I also knew that no matter how badly I performed, my finger was going to touch her clit. She was going to feel good."

"Fixing her has been a huge thing that I have been flashing about in my mind since the Common Sensuality course. Don’t fix her. She doesn’t need fixing. A woman doesn’t need fixing and that is huge. That has become my personal internal credo, and then do whatever it is that I am going to do or then I approve. That’s the first thing that I think of. It’s working well for me. It is a viewpoint that I am being deliberate about now and I am looking forward to making it a part of who I am."

Online access to educational DOing videos and the entire transcript for this episode are available at the The Welcomed Consensus Podcast

(www.welcomed.com) Sensual researcher, Elle, gives us a candid account of exactly what inspired her to make an advanced female masturbation video. She describes how she masturbates, the specifics of doing an exercise called connections to create a full body orgasm and how it adds to her sex life with her partner.

“I love connections because it makes other sex acts even more sensitive and more sensual. I love it when I kiss somebody and I can feel that sensation, a direct connection to my clitoris…” ~Elle

Watch this educational video Connections for Full Body Orgasm online.

The entire transcript for this episode and online access to the educational video is available at the The Welcomed Consensus Podcast

(www.welcomed.com) Deborah talks of finding love with a partner who has sensual training. She expresses that DOing has added to her sex life. It makes sexuality an integrated part of love and their relationship. She has this wonderful sensual energy and connection with her partner throughout the day with DOing.

Here are some excerpts...

Deborah: One of the first concepts that stood out for me is about seduction because it has to do with me allowing the man to put all of his attention on me. It’s actually something that is a very new concept. But as soon as it started happening, I felt with my partner, because he has had a lot of training in this work, I felt like it was this thing that I’ve always wanted. It felt so right and yet very different from how I’ve been living my life and how I’ve been looking for a partner. So that whole way of putting the attention on the woman in order for both people to find happiness or to find pleasure is extraordinary and I think revolutionary.

Deborah: So what I mean when I say that my partner has training is that he’s gone through years of courses with The Welcomed Consensus and also living in the community. So that means that he is trained to give Deliberate Orgasm and also trained in a high level of interpersonal communication skills. He has a vision for how he wants to live his life that’s very specific and chosen and that is very rare for anybody. Specifically, I think for me, and if more men would do it, they’d find more women that really wanted to be with them. So I feel really lucky that I found one.

The entire transcript for this episode is available at the Welcomed Consensus website www.welcomed.com/podcasts/

(www.welcomed.com) What does it take to live with pleasure as a priority? In this episode listen to Mary, a successful business owner and mother, who decided to have it all with pleasure at the center of her life. She discovers an expanded definition of female orgasm and the role it plays in living a life that is sensually driven rather than stress driven.

I think learning about tumescence has helped me to get clearer about how to meet the goal of creating more of the orgasmic, sensual experience in my life. Recognizing that that need has been so big. It’s been huge and now I have tools to live a life that is sensually driven versus stress driven.

For instance, one of the goals was about enjoying home life as a mother with my kids and thinking a lot about dinner time. Back to this kitchen narrative - I got a chance to see and experience a way of sharing a meal and the narrative of that meal coming together in a very different and fun way versus a stressful way. That’s also beautiful and very pleasurable. So that was one goal that I had that I feel especially empowered around.

Before this weekend, my experience with orgasm had everything to do with a conclusion. Now, the way that I am thinking about orgasm is not this really big balloon pop but a building, a layering of experience that doesn't have to look a certain way, doesn't have to sound a certain way, doesn't have to produce a certain amount of material.

I was a part of a very privileged experience first and foremost because there’s no other place where we see a woman have pleasure. It’s so pornographic often, that we just don’t know what’s going on and we make a lot of assumptions about what’s going on. I got a lot of validation. I got that there were things about my body that I didn't want a lover to see, I didn't feel comfortable about and then to see her pleasure manifesting itself in the way it was demonstrated was tremendously validating. I saw myself in her.

Pleasure as a Priority in Daily Life - Full Transcript

(www.welcomed.com) Fun, more pleasure and menopause? Can these experiences go together? In this episode and the next, we present talk radio show host Rebekah Beneteau and her guest Yvonne Wray, a researcher from the Welcomed Consensus. These two women have a lively conversation exploring this paradoxical theme.

Some excerpts...

Rebekah: I love the idea that it’s not just limited to the bedroom, how you said, it filters out through your whole life. So what was the connection? How did you go from the sensual research then incorporate menopause into that?

Yvonne: I began to notice the signs of menopause in my body, which I didn't actually recognize at first as being menopause. But as I started noticing these changes that I thought were kind of weird, I was able to notice them pretty quickly because I was used to paying attention to my body. I was used to paying attention to my monthly cycles. I was used to noticing the changes in my sexuality and my response and my desires, all of those things.

Rebekah: What were some of the things going in that you suddenly found yourself forced to examine all over or anew?

Yvonne: Just that I was really uninformed about menopause. I really thought some of the things I’m sure commonly all women think. For example, you do lose your sex hormones, you lose your desire. That you're aging and therefore, you're going to be less valuable, less sexual, less -- you are just going to be less. Then all the terrible stories that you hear about how hard it is for women to go through menopause. I could not put pleasure and menopause in the same sentence except to say that menopause is not pleasurable. I had a big clash of beliefs that erupted into my life when I realized -- Hey Yvonne, you're going into menopause here.

Fun, More Pleasure and Menopause: A Paradox? - Full Transcript

(www.welcomed.com) Monika, from Sexploration with Monika, asks What's "the point" of having sex? Is the reason we have sex to achieve the climax of orgasm or is it to have the whole experience of pleasure and connection that you and your partner share?

In this interview from Monika's sex-positive show, Sheri a Welcomed Consensus instructor tells us that if you can relax into the sensations without getting fixated on a goal, you can feel even more pleasure. In fact, every day for the last 25 years this educator and mother has made time with her partner for a practice that is all about pleasure. It's called "Deliberate Orgasm" or "DOing," and it's a practice that focuses attention of the sensations of the clitoris.

Sheri says that you can start with even 3 minutes of this practice and start building more pleasure, actually changing your nervous system and allowing you to feel more pleasure, expanding your ability to feel the enegy in your own body. Both men and women can experience Deliberate Orgasm as givers or receivers, and Sheri said that the possibilities are unlimited, even a THREE HOUR ORGASM!

We also talk about how the practice of DOing cultivates a deep sense of gratification that overflows into every part of her life, work, family, and all her relationships.

Imagine how much easier it is to be nice to everyone after you've had a 3-hour orgasm!!!

Sexploration with Monika Interviews Sheri of the Welcomed Consensus - Full Transcript

(www.welcomed.com) Laurie Handlers, well known author and Tantra teacher, interviews Welcomed Consensus researchers Sheri and Rebecca on her talk radio show Sex and Happiness. They discuss and share in great detail about how they conceived of capturing an up-close and personal look into Rebecca's private masturbation practice based on Deliberate Orgasm and why such a practice is necessary for today's women.

Laurie Handlers: Today my show is about really my favorite topic - orgasm. Orgasm is really the thing that I feel runs the world. I don't know if all of you agree with me on that...

Rebecca: It was about a year that I was thinking about making a female masturbation DVD, considering what I wanted to express. It is my personal journey of sensuality. I do expose myself and it is very personal, but I felt it was the only way that people would feel it. Only if I really was having the experience of DOing myself, using Deliberate Orgasm to produce this kind of orgasm in my body. I really had a great orgasm that day. Boy it was a fun time...A person who watches it can feel what I am feeling.

Laurie Handlers: The Dalai Lama said something about women bringing the world into peace and harmony, doesn't this self pleasuring relate to happy and fulfilled women? Like women who are happy with their bodies and happy in their orgasm, this would make a huge difference.

Rebecca: Absolutely, it is not only about self pleasure, but with Deliberate Orgasm I have a deep connection with my partner.It is gratifying deeply in your soul, they know you, they're producing that kind of pleasure for you, it is a profound experience. It is not out of happenstance. That is what is so fun. It is available any time to anyone who wants to know these techniques and ideas that produce that kind of orgasm in your life.

Sex and Happiness Interview by Laurie Handlers - Full Transcript