Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, murder-suicide, and police-perpetrated abuse. Please take care while listening.

In this powerful and heartbreaking episode, Bruce Bieber joins us to share the story no parent should ever have to tell — the murder of his daughter, Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Deputy Abigail Rose Bieber, by her boyfriend and fellow deputy, Daniel Leyden, in an officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV) murder-suicide in January 2022.

Abby had planned to end the relationship during a weekend away in St. Augustine. What neither she nor her family knew was that Leyden had a prior domestic violence history — one that was known to the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office but never acted upon meaningfully. When Bruce and his family began asking questions, they were met with silence, deflection, and eventually complete shutdown by HCSO.

Bruce shares the gut-wrenching journey from grief to advocacy — his fight to uncover the truth, the betrayal by law enforcement leadership, and his mission to push for mandatory OIDV policies and accountability nationwide.

This conversation is not just about Abby. It’s about the wider, deeply hidden epidemic of domestic violence committed by those sworn to protect — and the systemic failures that allow it to continue.

If you’ve ever wondered what happens when the abuser wears a badge — this is the episode you need to hear.

📞 If you or someone you love needs help, please reach out to one of the following services:

🇺🇸 United States
National Domestic Violence Hotline
📱 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
🌐 www.thehotline.org
(24/7 confidential support via phone, chat, or text)

🇦🇺 Australia
1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service
📱 1800 737 732
🌐 www.1800respect.org.au
(24/7 support and information)

🇬🇧 United Kingdom
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)
📱 0808 2000 247
🌐 www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk
(Free and confidential, 24/7 support)

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Weddings should be one of the happiest days of your life—but when you have a narcissistic parent, they often become a masterclass in manipulation, guilt-tripping, and sabotage. In this episode, we’re unpacking the emotionally exhausting tactics narcissistic mothers, fathers, or in-laws use to hijack your big day and make it all about them.

From passive-aggressive comments during the engagement, to dress code drama, unsolicited planning control, and even last-minute emotional meltdowns—this episode explores the subtle and not-so-subtle ways narcissistic parents attempt to stay centre stage. We’ll also dive into how they use weddings to maintain power, enforce control through financial strings, and stir conflict between you and your partner or in-laws.

If you've ever felt like your wedding was more about managing someone else’s ego than celebrating your love, you’re not alone. This episode also explores why your partner may not see the manipulation, how trauma bonding and childhood conditioning can create blind spots, and the emotional impact of facing smear campaigns or guilt after the wedding is over.

Whether you’re planning a wedding, reflecting on one that didn’t go as planned, or trying to support someone in this exact situation, this episode offers deep insight into narcissistic family dynamics, emotional abuse, and the psychology behind sabotage during milestone events.

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Ever been accused of cheating by a narcissist — even when you’ve been nothing but loyal? This episode dives into one of their most toxic manipulation tactics: projection.

We explore why narcissists often blame their partners for cheating while they’re the ones actually betraying the relationship. This behaviour is deeply confusing and emotionally exhausting, often leaving victims in a cycle of denial, guilt, and over-explaining. But behind the false accusations lies a calculated strategy to control, distract, and destabilise.

Learn how projection protects the narcissist’s false self, shifts blame, and keeps you in a constant state of defence. We unpack how this tactic ties into narcissistic supply, gaslighting, and the broader cycle of emotional abuse.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself after being unfairly accused, this episode will help you understand the deeper motives behind the narcissist’s behaviour — and why it was never about you.

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Why do narcissists discard their partners in such sudden, cold, and brutal ways? Why is there never closure — only silence, blame, or replacement with someone new? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the psychology of the narcissist's discard phase and why it feels so horrific.

This stage of the narcissistic abuse cycle is where the mask truly drops. After months or years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control, the narcissist walks away without empathy, explanation, or remorse. Whether you were ghosted, publicly humiliated, or immediately replaced with new supply, the discard is designed to destabilise and devalue you one final time.

We unpack:

✔️Why the discard is so sudden and savage

✔️How narcissists use new supply to inflict pain

✔️The emotional aftermath for the victim

✔️Why trauma bonding keeps you stuck post-discard

✔️How to start untangling from their control


If you’ve ever been discarded by a narcissist, this episode will help you understand that it was never your fault — it was part of a toxic pattern rooted in control, not love.

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Why does it feel like the covert narcissist always knows how to ruin your mood—right before a party, dinner, or important event? If you’ve ever found yourself crying in the bathroom or cancelling plans because of a last-minute argument, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I (Nova Gibson, narcissistic abuse counsellor and author of Fake Love) unpack exactly why covert narcissists pick fights before you go out—and how this emotionally manipulative tactic is actually a form of social sabotage and control.

In fact, I was recently interviewed by Mamamia, Australia’s largest women’s media platform, to talk about this exact phenomenon—known as “Occasion Theory.” You can read the full, incredibly relatable article here 👇
https://www.mamamia.com.au/occasion-theory-spotting-a-narcissist

Covert narcissists may not scream or yell. Instead, they play the victim, sulk, guilt-trip you, or twist your words—right before you’re about to go somewhere that doesn’t revolve around them. The goal? To control you, keep you emotionally off-balance, and make sure you never fully enjoy yourself without them.


In this episode, we explore:

✔️ Why covert narcissists always pick fights before happy events

✔️ How these “arguments” are designed to isolate and control

✔️ The emotional toll of being sabotaged before you even walk out the door

✔️ Real stories from clients who’ve experienced this pattern

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t they just let me have one good night?” — you are not overreacting. It’s calculated. It’s common. And you’re not alone.

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Why do narcissists seem obsessed with keeping access to your emotions—even after they’ve discarded you or moved on to someone new?

In this powerful episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I break down why narcissists hoard your emotions as a form of control, dominance, and emotional manipulation. From love bombing to passive-aggressive guilt trips, I expose the ways narcissists use your emotional reactions as narcissistic supply—fueling their ego and avoiding their own emptiness.

Learn:

• Why narcissists panic when you detach emotionally
• How your anger, tears, and even silence serve their need for control
• What emotional hoarding looks like post-breakup
• How to protect your energy and fully detach from the narcissist’s grip

If you're feeling drained, confused, or like you're still "on the hook" emotionally—this episode will give you clarity, validation, and practical strategies to take your emotional power back!

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If you’ve escaped a relationship with a narcissist, you know the damage runs deep. From shattered self-worth to constant self-doubt, the aftermath of narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling like a shell of who you used to be. But healing is possible—and it starts with real, practical steps.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, host Nova Gibson—lead trauma-informed counsellor and author of Fake Love—shares 6 concrete, no-fluff healing strategies you can begin using right now to rebuild your confidence, trust your gut again, and reconnect with your true self.

You can order your copy of Nova’s best-selling book Fake Love - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse here 🩵 https://mybook.to/F3gm 🩵

💔 Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just affect your mind—it gets into your body, your choices, your relationships. Healing requires more than time—it requires action. Let’s take those first steps together.

🎙️ Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is your safe space for understanding narcissistic abuse and learning how to truly heal. Hosted by Nova Gibson, Director of Brighter Outlook Counselling Service and leading voice in narcissistic abuse recovery.

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If you’ve ever walked away from a narcissistic relationship feeling confused, unstable, or like you’ve lost your grip on reality, you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down why narcissistic abuse leaves you feeling crazy, emotionally exhausted, and unable to trust your own instincts. From gaslighting and manipulation to trauma bonding and cognitive dissonance, we unpack the psychological tactics narcissists use to keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt. Whether you were in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, parent, or coworker, this episode will help you make sense of the chaos, regain clarity, and understand how emotional abuse impacts your nervous system, mental health, and sense of identity.

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