Flying Monkeys Manipulate you on Behalf of the Narcissist: How do they do it?
If you’ve ever escaped a narcissist, you’ve likely faced another terrifying reality—their flying monkeys. These enablers, whether knowingly or unknowingly, act as the narcissist’s messengers, spies, and attackers, working behind the scenes to manipulate, pressure, and control you. But why do they do it? And how can you protect yourself from their toxic influence?
In this episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I’m breaking down the five most common tactics flying monkeys use to manipulate you for the narcissist. From guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail to smear campaigns and outright intimidation, these tactics are designed to keep you trapped in the narcissist’s web of control. I’ll also be sharing real-life examples from my counselling practice, helping you recognise these toxic behaviours and, most importantly, learn how to shut them down.
Expect to hear:
✅ Why flying monkeys get involved – Are they victims too, or just as toxic as the narcissist?
✅ The guilt-trip trap – How flying monkeys make you feel responsible for the narcissist’s pain.
✅ Smear campaigns and reputation sabotage – How they destroy your credibility to keep you isolated.
✅ The “forgiveness” pressure tactic – Why they push you to reconcile, even when it’s unsafe.
✅ How to set boundaries and protect yourself – Practical strategies to cut off toxic flying monkeys for good.
If you've ever been pressured to “just move on” or felt the sting of betrayal from people you once trusted, this episode will give you the clarity and validation you need. Flying monkeys might think they’re helping, but in reality, they’re doing the narcissist’s dirty work—and it’s time to take your power back.
🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Nova xx
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