Episodes

  • Happiness is a choice

    Happiness is a choice
    Dec 14 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen. Wa salatu wa salamu ala ashrafi al-anbiya wal-mursaleen. Muhammadun Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi sallam. Tasliman kathiran kathiran. Amma baadu, my brothers and sisters. I was talking to a friend of mine, and we were talking about the different kinds of things that are happening in the world, almost all over the world, and everyone seems to be in some kind of problem or the other. For someone it's financial, for somebody else it is political, for somebody it's health, it's old age, it's, you know, all kinds of stuff. And the conversation was kind of going towards, you know, a lot of negativity. And I was, then I remember I said, I said to them that I was really repeating something which I read many years ago and which I try to hold on to because of how beautifully it's done. And the story was about this lady who, an old lady, this Uber guy gets a call. And when he goes to pick up, there's this very elderly woman. And she just comes to the door. She says, will you, can you help me with a bag? So he comes, he goes up there. There's one single bag. And as he picks up the bag, he sees that it's a small little house. And he sees that it looks like she is vacating the house. The house seems to be, you know, completely empty. And so he takes the bag. Takes her, helps her down the stairs. And then they are going to the car. And this woman seems to be very happy. Absolutely, you know, top of the world. So he puts the bag in the car. And then she gets into the car. And he says, he has the address. So he knows that he's taking her to a sanitarium, an elderly care facility. So he asks her, you know, just, you know, a conversation. He says, you're going to this facility. And, you know, who is there? Anyone in your family? She says, no, I have nobody. I'm alone in the world. And I got to a stage where I can't really stay alone by myself. So I need to go. I need to take this. I need to go to this facility. Now, this Uber driver, he doesn't know me. Should he sympathize with her? What should he say? So he says, spontaneously, he says, you know, that's terrible. I mean, there's no one here. Even to go to this facility, you have to go on your own. She says, well, you know, I'm not going to go. I'm not going to go. I'm not going to go. You know, you are there. I mean, I'm so happy that you're there. And thank you very much for being there. So the man says, of course, absolutely. I am honored. I'm very happy to be with you. And so he said, how are you able to maintain this kind of equanimity, this kind of, you know, there's no anxiety. You're not upset. Nothing, you know, you seem to be so happy. And really, I mean, what is there to be so happy about? So she said something which is fantastic and which has, Anandila stayed with me. And I'm sharing that with you because I think it is such a beautiful thing. She says to him, every morning when I get up, I'm at an age where I get up, I have aches and pains. And every day I wake up, I think I have a new one. And so on and so forth. But she said, every morning when I get up, I realize that I have a choice. And my choice is, that I can either think about this new pain I have. And I can think about the fact that I can't remember things too well. I can think about the fact that sometimes because when I need to go to the bathroom, the need is so urgent that sometimes there is an accident. I can think about all kinds of things. Or I can look out of the window and I see this absolutely beautiful, glorious sunrise. I see this absolute glorious, you know, sunny morning. I see it's now winter, so I see snow everywhere. It's beautifully white. And then there is a cardinal sitting on a rock. It looks like a ruby which is on a bed of white silk cotton. I can listen to the thrilling, beautiful sound and song of the skylark. I can think about the fact. I can think about the fact that while it is true that I am old and I have these aches and pains and stuff, but alhamdulillah I am able to walk. I am able to move around. I am not in a wheelchair. I can think about the fact that I am able to more or less eat whatever I like to eat. I don't have any crippling diet restrictions. I can't even go to the doctor. I can't even go to the doctor. And so on and so on. So meaning that she says that I have a choice to think about many, many things. And she said that I thought to myself that all of those things are true. While it is true that I have aches and pains and the rest of the list that I mentioned to you, it's all true. It's also equally true that there are so many positives. Right? That I am not in a wheelchair. That I am able to move around and so on and so forth. And a whole lot of them. It's not just these things. There are more and many more. So she says, I therefore have in my life all these choices. Now, my thing is, which of these choices do I want to focus on? Right? Which of these choices do I want to focus ...
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  • Standard of success

    Standard of success
    Dec 14 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:اللہ رب العالمين اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلامہ اور سلام یہ مسئلہ یہ ہے جو سکہ ہے جو سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی قربہ ہے یہ سکہ کی کیونکہ دیسرے سندر سے ایک سوشل کرنا چاہتا ہے مثال سے اگر آپ کہتے ہیں کہ میں سرکار کرنا چاہتا ہوں تو کیا سرکار ہے؟ یہ سندر سے ہے، صحبت ہے، صحبت ہے تو آپ کہتے ہیں کہ میں سو ساٹھ فرماتا ہوں اور یہ سندر میں سہ ساٹھ فرماتا ہے یہ سندر ہے لہذا اگر میں سہ ساٹھ فرماتا ہوں اور 20 سیکنڈ میں سہ ساٹھ فرماتا ہوں اور اگر میں سہ ساٹھ فرماتا ہوں اور 14 سیکنڈ میں سہ ساٹھ فرماتا ہوں کیونکہ سہ ساٹھ اور 15 سیکنڈ یہ میرا سندر ہے آپ یہ نہیں کہیں جہاں آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ یہ آپ کیہیں جہاں آپ آپ کو بھی بیٹی نہیں ہوگی میں ایک انسان ہوں بیٹی نہیں ہوں بیٹی اور کٹس بہتر ہیں اور اس کے ساتھ لیکن ہم اس سے نہیں سمجھتے ہیں کیونکہ یہ ایک غیر سمجھتا ہے ہم انسانوں سے سمجھتے ہیں کیا انسان سردار ہے میں آپ کو ایک رانڈم نمبر دے گا کیا انسان سردار ہے آپ کو کہنا ہے ایک اولمپیک گولڈ میڈلسٹ سپرنٹ میں کیا کرتا ہے اسے سردار میں دینا تو میں میں کبھی نہیں دیکھتا ہوں لیکن یہ سردار ہے میں ایک اولمپیک گولڈ میڈلسٹ سے سردار کروں گا سپرنٹ میں ہندو سا میٹر دشت آپ کو سردار کر سکتا ہے ایک سردار تو کیا سردار ہے سردار کی سردار کیا ہے اب جو سردار کی حقیقت ہے وہ جو سردار کی حقیقت ہے تو ہمیں اس سردار کے باوجود ہے اور یہ اللہ سبحانہ وتعالی اور اللہ سبحانہ وتعالی ہمیں سردار دیا گیا ہے بہت سمجھا سردار اور وہ کہا اللہ نے کہا جو سردار کی حقیقت ہے اور جنہ میں دیا گیا ہے یہ شخص یہ فقط یہ شخص اس فیض سکسیسفل قرآن کریم اللہ نے دو لفظ لفظ لفظ مفلحون یہ لوگ ہیں مفلحون یہ لوگ ہیں جو سکسیسفل ہیں دوسرا لفظ فیض فائزون لوگ سکسیسفل ہیں فیض اور فیض دوسرے سکسیسفل مطلب ہے لیکن دوسرا لفظ ہے اس لفظ میں یہ ہے جو ایسی مطلب ہے لیکن یہ کبھی ایسا ہے یہ ہے آپ جانتے ہیں دوسرے لفظ فلا ہے سکس جو مطلب ہے مثال آپ کی بچہ سکتا ہے کہ یہ دوسرے سکس آئے جو سکس ہے وہ اس کے بارے میں سکس ہے درہندو اللہ میرے بچہ سکسیسفل ہے یہ سکسیسفل جہاں نہیں یہ سکسیسفل ہے جہاں جہاں جو کچھ جہہیں ...
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  • Kuwait Youth program – Importance of Seerah

    Kuwait Youth program – Importance of Seerah
    Dec 13 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. Alhamdulillah. As-salātu wa-salāmu ʿalā-i-rasūli-llāh wa-alā-ālihi wa-sahbihi wa-man walā. Wa-ba'āt. I am absolutely delighted to see all of you, mā shā'a Llāh. May Allah bless you and protect you. May Allah use you for His work, in shā'a Llāh. And the thing I want to remind myself of you is that the position of youth, of young people, in Islam has always been very, very important. And if you read the seerah of Rasulullah s.a.w., how many of you have read the seerah? One, two, three, four, mā shā'a Llāh, good, good. Mā shā'a Llāh. So, the others who have not read the seerah, please make the intention that you will read at least one book, any book of the seerah, the biography of Rasulullah s.a.w. Say now we are almost at the end of this month, so say by the 30th of December, before this year ends, in shā'a Llāh, you will read at least one book of the seerah, of the life of Rasulullah s.a.w. Right? Okay? Do that. In shā'a Llāh. Because the thing is that to love Rasulullah s.a.w., to love Rasulullah s.a.w., not just to love him, but to love him more than we love anything else, is a requirement of Islam. It is something which we as Muslims, we do and we should do. But also, a theological requirement in Islam. This has been commanded by Allah s.w.t. in the Qur'an. Allah s.w.t. in surah Tawbah, Allah s.w.t. says, أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّضِيمِ قُلْ إِن كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعْشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالُ لِتَّرَفْتُكُهَا وَتِجَارَةُكُمْ تَقْشَوْنَا كَسَادَهُمْ وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهُمْ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُمْ مِنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَالجَّهَادِ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّسُوا حَتَّى يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِقِينَ Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala said in Surah At-Tawbah Say to them, Ya Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam قُلْ Say to them إِنْ كَانَ خَبَابُكُمْ If your fathers and mothers وَأَمْنَاوْلُ and your children وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ and your siblings وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ and your spouses وَعَشِينَتُكُمْ and your extended family وَأَمْبَالُنِي تَرَفْتُمْهَا and the wealth that you accumulate وَتِجَارَةً تَخْشَوْنَا كَسَدْهَا and your tijara, your business and trade in which you fear a loss وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا and your houses, your palaces, your villas, your flats, your apartments which you build or you buy and you love them, you look at them, you feel happy about them أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُمْ If these are more beloved to you أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُمْ مِنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِ More beloved to you than Allah and His Rasul Allah says فَتَرَبَّسُ Allah says get away Go away فَتَرَبَّسُ حَتَّى يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ Go away and wait for the Amr of Allah Wait for the Azab of Allah Wait for the punishment of Allah And then Allah real forces that and says وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِ الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِطِينَ Allah does not guide people who are rebellious Right? So the love of the Rasul ﷺ To love Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And to love the Rasul ﷺ More than we love anyone and anything else Is not just a matter of discretion It's not just a matter of our nature It's a matter of our nature It's not because Rasul ﷺ was in any case a person Who is very easy to love Because he was such a beautiful being It is a religious requirement If somebody says I follow Islam But I'm sorry I don't love Rasul ﷺ This person is out of Islam This person has put himself in a place Where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala promised punishment He has said I will punish Right? Now how can you love somebody you don't know? To love somebody you have to know the right You can't love a stranger That is the reason why it is important To read the life of Rasul ﷺ To read his seerah Now the beautiful thing you will see Those of you who have read the seerah You will agree with me Those of you who have not read the seerah But you read it you will agree with me The beautiful thing about the seerah of Rasul ﷺ That unlike anyone else In the world Rasul ﷺ the more you know him The more the closer you get to him The more you love him The more you respect him Now this is not true of anyone else In English we say familiarity breeds contempt Right? This happens with a lot of people You look at somebody from a distance And say oh ...
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  • Some reminders about Salah

    Some reminders about Salah
    Dec 12 2025
    14 mins
  • Parenting skills #7

    Parenting skills #7
    Dec 11 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the Most Gracious is Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the Prophet, the Messenger of Allah, and upon all of his family and friends. Peace and blessings be upon him. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting. I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. And the last and most important, Akhlaq and Mahamirat. You know, I used to live in the US. I live again there now, but I used to live in the US in 1990. 1997, 2000. So, 2000, I came back to India. My father was not well, so I came back to be with him. Then I stayed for 20 years. I went back in 2019. Anyway, so I came back, and we had a flat, which we were renovating when we came to move into that flat. So, we were renovating the flat. And as part of the renovation, we wanted to put a water tank on top of the roof. So, the plan was, The guy who came and did the plumbing work and quite extensive plumbing work was a guy with big beard like this. And he said, I'm Hafiz Paran and so on and so on. So, I was very happy. Alhamdulillah, he's a Muslim guy. I'm very happy to give him this job. And he's happy to go to Paran and so on. So, he finished all the work. And I told him, get me a 1000 liter syntax tank, plastic tank for the roof. And install it. He brought the tank. Then the building people, you know, the committee, they said, we have a rule here. You cannot put a 1000 liter tank. You have to put only 500. I said, okay. I told the guy, take this back. Get a 500 liter tank. He did that also. He brought the tank, gave it. Now, I had given him the money for the 1000 liter tank. So, the 500 liter tank, the money was some 3000 rupees. Less. He did the work. He owes me 3000 rupees. He disappeared. Obviously, 3000 rupees won't kill me. But I thought to myself that, you know, at least I owe it to him that I should give him the opportunity to return the money. Right. Maybe I'll give it to him for free. But I don't want him to be a thief. So, I called him up. Once, I called him twice. I called him three times. I felt stupid calling him 3000 rupees. I said, what the hell. I mean, I can afford that. It's nothing. But I called him. Finally, I thought to myself, okay, one last call. By then, it was Ramadan. So, when I call him now, his wife picks up the phone. She says, he is in Etta Gap. He cannot talk. Huh? So, you steal somebody's money and you go into Etta Gap. And you cannot talk. This is our akhlaq. These are our mawila. We must be... The point is, you know, people watch. A job that is given to a Muslim must be super quality. By default. By default. Because you are a Muslim. Because you are the only one in the market who works or should work for the pleasure of Allah. Who works or should work with the knowledge that everything I do, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is watching that. He knows that 24-7. I have to answer him. Because that is your akhila. That's not the akhila of anybody else. Our akhila, your my akhila is what? Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, he is watching us 24-7. And I have to answer to Allah no matter what. Rasulullah s.a.w. said, if you take away somebody's rights, Allah will not forgive you until that person forgives you. And this is irrespective of whether the person is a Muslim or not Muslim. It doesn't matter. Muslims are not allowed to be unjust to non-Muslims. You can't say, no, I am stealing only from the Christians. No. You are not supposed to steal, period. No matter who. Right? Very important. Muammar al-Assad is, this is where, may Allah forgive us, this is where we Muslims, we get into trouble all the time. Because of our dealings. We must change that. Because remember, see something. We are having this gathering here. How many non-Muslims are here? Nobody. But when you drive on the road, I mean, in Kuwait, there are not that many, but still there are quite a number. But if you go to any other country, almost everybody else is non-Muslim. But they are seeing you there. Alhamdulillah, mashallah, you look like a Muslim, right? Your appearance and all that, they can recognize you as a Muslim. They say, ah, ah, there you go. This is how Muslims drive. I know it's an unfair statement. What else do you expect them to say? Okay. What else do you expect them to say? So, this is a great opportunity for us, that we live in pluralistic societies, we live in multicultural societies, it's a brilliant opportunity for us to showcase Islam, to show that this Islam, you want someone to behave responsibility, ask a Muslim. You want someone to give more than what they take, ask a Muslim. You want someone to give you quality work, ask a Muslim. You want someone to come and help you in the middle of the night, call a Muslim. This is the message that we should give. This is the message that we should give. With ordinary people on a daily basis. We are not talking about rituals of ...
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  • Parenting skills #6

    Parenting skills #6
    Dec 10 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the All-Merciful. May the Lord of the worlds be with you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting. I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. We are talking about life skills and as I mentioned to you, these are some life skills. One of the most important ones, encourage volunteering. It is very, very important. It is something which I tell you as Muslims, it is something we really must make an effort. You must see the number of committees, committees and number of volunteering work that is done. As I am saying, I live in America. I give an example. One of my friends is a Rabbi. He runs an organization called the Jewish Family Services in West Springfield. They bring in refugees from other countries and they settle them in the US. Guess which religious group is their largest customers? Muslims, right? And they do it all for free. They get funding from the government, they do it for free. Anyway, so his name is James. So I asked James one day, I said, you know, he was talking about his family. So he said, we have two daughters and we have two foster sons. So I said, you are doing fostering? He said, yes. He said, my wife and I were registered as foster sons. So people, orphans and people like that, refugee children, they govern, they send them to us. They live with us as our children in our home. He says, we have two foster children and both of them are boys and both of them are, they have problems. So one has a drug problem, the other one has a stealing problem. Tertuvian. Tertuvian. Tertuvian. Now I am thinking to myself, what is wrong with this guy? Why on earth would you become a foster parent? And on top of that, you take some druggy kid or something to look after. Why? You are mad or something, you are insane? He is not insane. He is a very sensible human being. He is concerned. Then he tells me, one day, and this whole conversation started because he had a pager in his pocket. We were going for a walk. He had a pager beeped. So he looked at it and said, no, it's not my car. So I asked him, what is this? And that's how the whole conversation started. So he tells me this. He said, then one day, this kid who was, I mean, this kid means that he is about maybe 17 or 16 or 17, about under 18. So he is still a foster parent. So this kid, he said, he broke into our safe. Right? He stole some money and he stole some stuff which is in the safe. So he said, we had to call the police. We called the police. And he says, to my surprise, when the police and the first responders, they came, he said, they were all my neighbors. So then I realized that in our town, the fire service and the police service is volunteers, which is our own people who live in the town. They volunteer so many hours a week for the police force. So then they put on a police uniform. They are trained. They are certified as police officers. They put on police uniform. And then they are driving cruise, cruising cruise cars. And then doing police work. Or they are driving, they are on ambulances. Or they are on fire engines. Right? He said, that is when I decided to do that also. So this guy is a rabbi. He has his whole synagogue to run. He has Jewish family services to run. Plus now he volunteers to be on the first responders team. So he is done. He is riding on an ambulance. He got trained. He did a whole course for a year and a half. He passed this whole course and so on. He is doing this work, all of it for nothing. Volunteering. No salary. No monetary compensation. Now imagine the goodwill that gets you. That's my point. Somebody's house is burning down. Some disaster is happening. Who lands up there? This guy. Imagine the goodwill he gets. Right? So people associate help with this person. But believe me, you have to hunt high and low to find a Muslim who can go there. Almost zero. I am saying almost. So maybe there is somebody. I don't know. But at least I don't even know it. He won't volunteer. He will not volunteer. He will not get out of our comfort zones. He will not even volunteer for Muslim children. Refugee children come who are orphans and they go into foster homes with other people of other religions. Now having said that, I have never seen a kid who is a Muslim. I have never seen a case where those people have converted that Muslim kid. They are not. They make it a point. They bring them to the masjid. I get called. They say, Chef, we have Imam Beg. They say, Imam Beg. I say, we have got only four Imams. So you see, but ...
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  • Parenting skills #5

    Parenting skills #5
    Dec 9 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the All-Merciful, and the All-Merciful. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you, and upon your family and friends, and upon your family and friends. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and friends. Peace be upon you all. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting. I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. So, we are talking about life skills and as I mentioned to you, these are some life skills. One of the most important ones, reading inculcates this habit every single day. I say to people, you must read at least one book. I say one book per week, but okay, so let me be… So, let me be… Kind on you. One book per month at least. Minimum. I don't care what book you read, read any book you like, but one book per month, make this an absolute rule for yourself. Then increase it, two books, three books, four books, at least one. And inculcate it in the children. My father, again, I'm sorry, I keep on coming back to my father, but this is a parenting thing, so I shouldn't be. He used to read three books at a time. I do the same thing. Three different plots. One will be a history book, one will be something else. I can run those same, those things in my head simultaneously. Have the lunch. Very good for the brain. He did that. What he would do is, he would bring the books to me. He would give me a book. And then he would come the next day. Or maybe give me a day, the third day. And he would say, oh, pade, did you read the book? I say, you just give it to me. He said, two days have passed. What did you just give? Sign in the book. So he then tells me, what do you think? So I start telling him, the author is saying, no, I'm not asking you what the author is saying. I know what the author is saying. I read the book before I give it to you. I want to know what you are saying. So don't regurgitate the stuff to me. The author said, forget the author. What are you saying? You read the book. What is your take on this? So I routinely read books. I do an analysis of the book. I write it down. I write down key points that I need to remember. And that helps me in my understanding of life and so on and so forth. And in my own writing, which I do. Right? And then, respect for law and order. Respect for duty. I don't know, some of you may have seen this thing of people saying, my 10-year-old drives a car beautifully. Why does your 10-year-old drive a car? Beautifully or otherwise? You're breaking a law. You're teaching a child to break the law. And parents do this very proudly. You're teaching a child to break the law. You know, in Islam, some of our ulama have said that if you break a law of a country which is for the benefit of all the people, you have exited Islam. You are a murtad. Even if you don't want to go that far, definitely in Islam, it is a crime. It is a very major sin. So for example, you go through a red light. Nowadays, of course, there are cameras everywhere. We fear the camera. We don't fear Allah swt seeing us. We fear the camera. Because then they'll send you a very expensive photograph. Right? Going through a red light. This is, in Islam, this is haram. Because you are, potentially, you can cause an accident. The law, you might say, where is the law in the sharia to say, red light? No, the draw doesn't have to be there. The sharia allows laws to be made for the benefit of all people. Traffic laws are such laws. And others. So teach them respect for law. And give responsibility. It's very, very important to give children responsibility. Give them daily chores. Each person has a role to do. Your job is to wash the dishes. Your job is to do this, do that. Whatever. And don't say, no, no, no, why should my child wash dishes? We have suffered. No. Teach them the, teach them dignity of labor. Once again, back to my father. Every Sunday, we used to, we had a ritual in our house. And that was, all the shoes would be brought. We brought, sit in the line. Brown shoes, black shoes and those days, you, all these sneakers and stuff, you could have. You wore canvas shoes. And the canvas shoes had to be white. So with, for white, you had that lime, which you rubbed on it. So black shoe with black polish, black polish application brush, and then black polish shining brush. Then brown polish and this. And my father used to sit there, and we all used to sit, each one with their shoes. And we would polish our own shoes. And we told you, we had servants. No. You do your own job. So you apply the polish with the brush. Brush it with that. Then you hold the shoe between your knees. And you take a polishing cloth. And you rub it like this. You would have seen the film, or those of you who are from Mumbai, you see the Mumbai railway stations. How do, I know how to do that. That whole ritual. You shine ...
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  • Parenting skills #4

    Parenting skills #4
    Dec 8 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the All-Merciful, and the All-Merciful. Peace and blessings of Allah be upon you, O Shafi'i al-Mursaleen, Muhammad Rasool Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and upon all of you. Peace and blessings of Allah be upon you, too. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting, and I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. So, we're talking about life skills, and as I mentioned to you, these are some life skills. One of the most important ones, number three, is the daily account, the mahasibah, and the learning journal. Learning journal is an interesting… tool that I teach people, which is, what you do is, take again your notebook. You do it in this sequence. First of all, what you do is, in the notebook, you write down three goals for tomorrow. Every night, you write down three goals for tomorrow in order of priority. And the priority has to be in keeping with your life goal. You are achieving these three… You're working on these three goals to achieve the overall goal, your life goal. So, first, you have to begin with writing down the life goal, and then going from there, writing every day three goals in order of priority, which will help you to achieve your life goal. Then, you… The following day, your day unfolds or unravels, whichever way you want to get it. So, you write down your three goals. And then, at the end of the day, you sit down, you open the book, and the book are the three goals you had written for the day. Now, you analyze these three goals and say, did I achieve it, did I not achieve it, what helped me to achieve, what hindered my achievement, and what am I learning lessons from that. Therefore, what did I learn with regard to achieving the goals? So, that you write down in a… In a… In a… You look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those and look at those happen, what are my learnings? Three columns. That is called the learning journal. This is very important and I strongly recommend that you start writing this. It's not a diary. It's not like every day in the morning I woke up at 8 o'clock I had breakfast, I ate this thing for breakfast and I don't know. This is only focusing on your learning. What are my learnings? This is what I experienced. This is my reflection on my experience and this is what I take away from it. Believe me, you start writing this, you will learn a hell of a lot. Because all of us go through life, we have experience after experience after experience but we all don't benefit the same from those experiences. Some benefit more, some benefit less. That has to do with the quality of the learning. And the quality of the learning to improve it, this is the way. It's to write a learning journal. I spoke to you already about friends, so I won't repeat that. This is a very nice quote. It's not one of mine, somebody has said it, but beautiful. It says that we must all suffer from one of two things. The pain of discipline or the pain of regret. We must all suffer from one of two things. The pain of discipline or the pain of regret. And the truth of it is that excuses don't change reality. So if you did not do something which you are supposed to do or you did something which you are not supposed to do and you make an excuse, it does not change the fact that you did something wrong. Right? If I lose something, for example, one of the amazing things that we give up, the biggest asset that we have, the only non-creatable, non-replaceable asset, which is called what? Time. We give it up for nothing. We give it up for nothing and the people who take it from us are making humongous amounts of money because we are giving up our life. Right? They have access to your most private parts of your life and you can't sue them because you gave them that access. If they got that, if they had got that access without your permission, you could have actually sued them for invasion of privacy. But you cannot sue them because you are putting it out there. Who is posting on Instagram? You or Zuckerberg...
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