• Spend to get
    Jan 8 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:My brothers and sisters, I remind myself anew that if you want to measure success and failure in life, how do you measure it? Any ordinary person. I want to measure, say take my career, if I have a successful career or my career going down the drain, how do I measure that? Marriage, is it successful or not successful? Children, I'm raising children, successful or not successful? How? Compared with? Others? That's one way. Pure reviews, pure comparisons. Effectively, whether you do it comparatively, you do it with pure reviews, you do it some other way, you are basically measuring your assets and liabilities, right? What did I gain? What did I lose? So what did I spend to get what? What is profit? Profit is where you spend less to get more. You cannot measure profit only by looking at what you have. You have to see at what cost did I get it. So if I got something which has high value at a lower cost, then I made a profit. But if I got the same thing at its regular cost, then it's not a profit. I got the market value. If I paid more for it, then I have actually the same thing, but I made a loss. I remind myself when you... that when we stand before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it is the same standard, the same criterion, the same measurement, measuring stick we should use. What did you spend and what do you get? What did you spend, what do you get? In this world, in our life, we have the opportunity to do two things. One is we have the opportunity to spend things which have everlasting value. Or we have the opportunity to spend something which has temporary value. So if you spend something which has temporary value and get something which has everlasting value, then you are on to a good thing. That is the best way of living life. I'm giving something which I would have lost anyway and I got something which is mine forever. But if I do the opposite, I'm giving up something which I could have had forever to get something which I would lose anyway. Makes no sense, right? If I give up something which I could have kept forever, an earning asset which would have been mine forever, I give it away and I got something which at the most is temporary, I will lose it anyway. That's a dumb deal. But the opposite, if I am spending something which is temporary, in any case I would have lost it. And in exchange for that I get something which is going to be mine forever, that's a fantastic deal. Just to give you an example, we talk about charity. We are coming to Ramadan, so we are going to get some fundraising here. We talk about charity. So give in the path of Allah, sacrifice in the path of Allah. I tell people, forget this word sacrifice. It's a lie. There is no sacrifice in Islam. What are you doing? You are taking some part of your wealth which Allah gave you. Let's face it, how many of us stand here and give the equivalent of the value of your car which you are driving? I am not saying nobody does it, but how many? So you give something and in addition, by giving that what are you getting? We are getting an everlasting reward with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Allah said this is with Allah and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will return it to you in keeping with His majesty embrace. The minimum of that is man ja'abil hasanati falahu ashur amasalia. Someone who brings one hasana, Allah will give him ten likewise. And then Allah said He will multiply that by 700 and begai risa. So something, now you say okay, if I don't give that, sure it's your wealth you can keep it. It's not haram not to give, but even if you keep it, how long will you have it? You don't have to die to lose it. You lose it probably but before that in many ways. Whereas if you take this and give it in the path of Allah, effectively what am I doing? I am transferring my wealth. Whenever I think about charity I think of it as wealth transfer. I am taking it from this account and putting it into another account. That's it, wealth transfer.
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  • Forget liking
    Jan 7 2025
    Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. All praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon His servants and messengers. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him and upon his family, and upon the companions of the Prophet, peace be upon him. And many more. My brothers and sisters, the other day we talked about... I talked about needs and wants. And I mentioned to you and I said to you that the root of all problems, the root of all misery is when people convert their wants into needs. But if you keep needs as needs, and a need is something which if you don't have it, it will result in harm. Dharuri. The absence of which will create Dharar. Something which is critical, essential, the absence of that will result in harm. It's a need. Anything which does not fall into that category, it's something which is nice to have, something which you will enjoy, something which is, you know, which will make you happy and so on. But it's not something which is essential for survival. That's not a need, it's a want. Now if you convert these wants into needs, if you bring them into that scope of needs, then automatically your stress goes up, the amount of money you need to earn goes up, the space you need to live goes up, the number of people you have to satisfy and make happy goes up. And when all of these things go up, your own happiness goes down. Now in this context, the thing I want to say to you is this, second step of this, which is that you will find in life, and either take my word for it now and look at yourself and if you need to change, change, or wait for the next ten years, wait for the next twenty years and you will discover for yourself. Except that if you take my word for it now and do something to change yourself, you will benefit and if you don't, if you wait, then you will discover in another way which will be highly painful and you cannot change that. Now and that is that discipline always beats talent. Discipline always beats talent. Discipline always beats talent. You can be the most talented person in the world, but if you are not disciplined, that talent will never flower, that talent will never do anything good for you. Now take for example, think of artists, think of musicians, think of since you guys are interested in sport, think of great basketball players, great soccer players, great football players, great cricket players and so on and so on. And people who seem to be tremendously talented, they say, but this person has absolute talent. And then go into their life and see the number of hours of practice per day that they put into their game. I was watching Tiger Woods tournament last night. It's almost magical the way the guy puts, the way the guy drives from one hole to another hole. And I have to remind myself, it's not magical at all. It's the result of playing golf from the time he was two years old. His father put him, he started training him from the time he was two years old. And he's been, he has hit more strokes, he has hit more shots than his competent, than the one who is competing against him. The same thing with Kobe Bryant, the same thing with, name the person you watch. Zach Hirosano recently died, the tabla player. Like any so-called talented person who is top of their job, top of their profession and who the world thinks is doing magic, it's not magic. It's sweat. It is sweat. This is something that people forget. people come to me and they say, you know, I don't like this job that I'm doing. It's okay. So what do you want to do? No, I want to give it up. I want to give it up. Okay, sure. Give it up. But do me a favor. Go to Walmart and buy yourself a plastic bowl. Why? Because then it will be useful when you have to stand on the street corner to beg. Plastic bowl is useful to have, you know, you can stick it out like that and people can throw money into it. Because if you are going to leave a job that y...
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  • Your greatest legacy
    Jan 6 2025
    https://youtu.be/_ba2G380D70 Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. All praise belongs to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honorable prophets and messengers. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him and upon his family and companions. Peace and blessings be upon him. I'm sitting under this tree and I'm literally within maybe 10 feet of these beautiful amazing birds. The Sandhill cranes, absolutely incredible. And it's a pair with two youngsters. The male is standing there on top, as you can see. He's the guardian, the custodian, the sentinel. And he doesn't see any danger from me, so he doesn't give any alarm call. And he hasn't, he says, there is no danger from me. And this is the one in front here. This is one of the juveniles behind him or her. I don't know how to distinguish. It's the mother and behind that is the other juvenile. Absolute privilege, Subhanallah. I thank Allah Subhanallah for granting me this privilege of being in such close quarters with these birds. My brothers and sisters, one of the big things to teach our children is the value of community, the value of togetherness. And that begins in the home, in the nursery, in the family. As many of you know, and those who don't know, you will know now that I consult with business families. Family business consulting is my specialty. I have a book on it called The Business of Family Business. And one of the things I see that I see with business families, and I am very sorry when I see it. But I wish I didn't have to see it, is internecine conflict, conflict between brothers, conflict with the father. I know a case in which where the sons filed a suit against the mother. Inna lillahi wa nna lillahi wa rajim. The mother of our two Muslim teaches us that under her feet is Jannah. And imagine a son filed a suit case against the mother. Over what? Not over that piece of Jannah under her feet, but for some, you know, father's property, a father passed away, a father's property, a piece of the business, and so on. Many times people come to me, wealthy people, all of these are wealthy people. Some of them are millionaires, some of them are billionaires. I have one client whose business is four billion dollars. So we're not talking about small money. We're talking about people who may Allah have mercy on them and us. Oh, all I can say is that they didn't raise their children right. And that's what I want to talk about now. How do you raise your children right? What is the meaning of raising them right? That is a squirrel. It's a peculiar squirrel to this place. It has this long tail and it has a black mark on its forehead. Anyway, let me stay with my cranes. So we don't bring them, we don't raise them right. And when I say we don't raise them right, the biggest mistake we do is we don't orient them towards their responsibility as community members. And as I said, that starts with the family. The community begins with the family. In Islam, the family is the fundamental foundational building block of the community. And that's why Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam said that a Jannah is under the feet of the mother and the father is the door to Jannah. When one of them dies, he said that both the parents are the doors to Jannah and the father is the door to Jannah. And the Jannah under the mother's feet is Jannah for the person or the son and daughter. And he said that when one of the parents dies, one door to Jannah closes for you and the other parent dies, the other door for Jannah closes for you. So take care of your parents, value them, serve them, be good to them. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala went to the extent in the Quran of saying do not even say oof to them. Do not express any displeasure with them. It is your job to please them. It is not their job to please you. And this is where we get caught up in our own, in the problem that we create for ourselves.
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  • Surest sign of a free mind
    Jan 5 2025
    https://youtu.be/hVMcHK4Zcig Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. Peace and blessings be upon the Prophet Muhammad and his family. And upon his family and his companions. Madhu, I've run the sisters. In my view, if there is one single differentiating factor which separates people who are free, not enslaved in their minds, from people who are enslaved, is to look at and see how they take care of their surroundings. Now, as you can see here, this is a development on a golf course, villas on a golf course. I challenge you to find one piece of plastic, one scrap of paper, one empty bottle, one anything that would qualify as trash, anywhere, near a house, away from a house, anywhere, on the golf course. You won't find a single thing. Even if this was to be said about one particular place, it would be remarkable enough, but this is the default. This is the default. Except in places where, and this is America, also in America where you have the poor, the homeless, refugees and so on. And the first thing that hits you is the filth, the garbage, all the trash around everywhere. Now, I'm not being critical of poor people. I've been poor myself. But I want to differentiate between having resources and taking care of yourself and your environment. The two do not go hand in hand because I know situations, in India, for example, where you go into a house of a person who is a, may not be a billionaire, but certainly a millionaire. And in India, millionaires have billionaire lifestyles. So you have this fantastic house. You have people who are all over, you know, doing wonderful things, living in beautiful lifestyles, fantastic houses, furnishings and whatnot. But clothes strewn everywhere, shoes everywhere, expensive stickers. You know, each one would be worth more than somebody's salary for a month or a year maybe, but just throttle. You get into one of their cars and it looks like a trash can on a wheel. In India, you go into somebody I've been in, somebody's people's houses, people who are not billionaires, but definitely millionaires. And in India, alhamdulillah, millionaires live the lifestyle of billionaires. You know, servants and this and that. But you go inside the house, it has, it's a beautiful mansion. Inside it has fancy furniture, expensive stuff. Some of them even have a kitchen to show and a kitchen in which actual cooking is done. So, as we say, in Urdu, we say, yes, it's okay, the teeth of the show are different, the teeth of the food are different. Which is not strictly true, but you know, so we have this Dikhanika Kitchen Egg or Khanika Kitchen Egg. Or the one in which food is cooked, the Dikhanika Kitchen, the one in which food is not cooked, it's only for show. We have the most fancy kitchen appliances and stoves and god knows what. Never touched. Absolutely pristine condition, but to show people. Allah have mercy on us. We've gotten used to this very, you know, lifestyles which are very destructive. So, anyway, to come back to my point. So we have people with all these resources, fancy places. We're talking about change in the mind, mental enslavement versus mental freedom, true freedom. So we have these people who are really mentally enslaved. So they are, they have the resources, but they don't take care of them. And to me, as I said, the biggest and best sign that somebody is free is that they take ownership of their lives. They don't live their lives as if it belongs to somebody else. Not my job. I don't need to take care of it. As I showed you, as you can see, as I'm walking here, place is taken care of. And obviously, some of it is taken care of because the development, the golf course does it. But the maintenance fee here is, it is roughly $500 per quarter, which means you're paying $2,000 per year. For your surroundings of your house to be maintained. So you may be doing some things yourself, as in by your own hand and some things you might be paying fo...
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  • Company of respect worthy adults
    Jan 4 2025
    https://youtu.be/hVMcHK4Zcig Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. All praise belongs to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honorable prophets and messengers, Muhammad and the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and his companions, peace and blessings be upon them. What is next? Brothers and sisters, I am here in Florida, standing by this lake, this pond, near the golf course, what we call a water hazard. And these are the American ibises, the American ibis. You see the long curved beak, see how they dig in the grass to eat. There is a, you can see one, they're all white and one colored one. That is a juvenile, it's a young one. And they feed him by the pond. Very pretty scenery, Alhamdulillah. On the pond, there are also ducks. Let's see if they come close. So, they are, they look like morgan serves of some kind, not sure what. The demand for myself and you is we're talking about things that we keep saying teach children, but I think it has to do much more with teaching ourselves. Because children are little monkeys. They imitate adults, they imitate their parents, they imitate other adults who they respect. They learn by taking their values from adults they respect. I think of myself, I think of my own childhood, that's exactly what I did and that's exactly what any child does. They take their values from the adults in their lives and that is the reason why it's also very important to ensure that your children don't lose out from the company of respectable and respect worthy adults in their lives. Make sure they are around good people. Because that's how they learn and depending on the kind of people they are with is what they will learn. So if they are around adults who are, who take pride from the pride in the disobedience of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, or who take their children to clubs and to partying and who teach their children, give them their first drink, Subhanallah, may Allah have mercy on us. These are statements I've heard from Muslims. My father gave me my first drink. My father took me to the race course. The first time my father got me membership in this gambling den, in this club, which of course obviously the club is created for clubbing, so it's created for the enjoyment of everything that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has disapproved of everything which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has prohibited. May Allah have mercy. So this is the danger. This is also how animals and birds learn from the company of elders. Here we have some more ibises and another youngster here, another juvenile one, which is flying off. I don't know why he is so skittish, but he is. The others are fine. Nobody bothers them here. The ducks people even feed, but these ibises, they are not fed. They don't need to be fed. If you notice the little black feather at the end of the tail, this is all the khudrat of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. The attention to detail is incredible. Let me make this bigger so you can see them closer. So among the things to do with children is to keep them around respectable, respect worthy adults. That's the first thing. Second thing is to ensure that they are exposed to the right environment. And that environment for most of us is the environment of the masjid. So make sure that your children go to the masjid. Now, there is a tendency to say, children will say, oh, you know, there is nothing attractive there and I'm not attracted to the masjid. If your child makes that statement, consider that to be a statement which is where the child is admitting to having a major psychological, a major spiritual illness. Don't take that as a norm. The biggest problem is that parents take that as the norm and then they want the imam of the masjid or whoever is an authority in the masjid to say, well, do something to keep my child interested, do something to keep my child engaged.
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  • Wants and Needs
    Jan 3 2025
    https://youtu.be/SDIKN0xlpsg Auto-generated transcript: This is Leo, my brother's cat. He's a Russian blue and not the friendliest of cats but he seems to like me. For reasons unknown. What I want to say here today is the importance of differentiating between needs and wants. And this is something that starts very early in life, in the way we raise children, the difference between needs and wants. So anytime the child says, mommy, daddy, I really, really, really need this. Very common in American families, really, really, really need it. Three times really, really, really need it. Is to help them differentiate between is it something you really need or is it a want, a desire. Nothing wrong with wants except that if you do not differentiate between needs and wants, you end up with increasing your cost of living. And by cost of living, I don't just mean the amount in terms of dollars or cents or rupees or whatever. I mean the price you pay for that life quality. So if I need an iPhone 16, then I'm adding that into my cost of living. Because when you're saying need or want, it relates to happiness. What is it that makes you happy? So the more the need you have to make you happy, two things happen. One is your chances of being unhappy go up because what makes you happy is more and more and more. And if I can't get that, then I'm going to be unhappy. So my chances of being happy go down and my chances of being unhappy go up. The second issue of the difference between needs and wants is of course the actual dollar value. What does it cost? And once again, the more the needs, the more it's going to cost. I therefore want us to, I remind myself on you, let us recalibrate our lives and say what is it that I truly need? Now a need, a good way of understanding that is to use the Islamic and Arabic and Urdu concept of zarura. What is zarura? What is something a zarura or zaruri is something that is essential for survival. Where if you don't have that, then it is dangerous to life. It is going to cause dharar, which is ham. So dharuri is something which prevents harm. So what is dharuri in terms of food? Say for example, what is dharuri? Dharuri is the hadith of the Rasul of Allah, he said eat enough to keep your back straight. And if you must eat more, then eat up to one-third of the capacity of your belly. One-third food, one-third water, one-third empty air. And he said the hadith doesn't begin there, the hadith begins with, he said the worst utensil, the worst vessel to fill is the belly. So it begins with that. And then he says well eat only enough, a few morsels, a few morsels, not handfuls, morsels, to keep the back straight. So we can do our work, we can worship Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, we can go about our daily business and keep it free from and never fill the whole belly. Now if you look at this, the whole issue of saying I want a triple chocolate sundae, is it a need or a want? To say I want, I need this, I need that kind of food, I need Hyderabadi biryani, right? I need Bihari kaab, I need this and that, all our desires, they are desires. Now remember I'm not saying that it is haram to have a desire, no, if you want to eat a particular kind of food, haram to ila. But don't say it is a need. It's not about semantics, it's about the psychological effect of calling something a need. If you call the thing a need, then it becomes a need. It generates unhappiness because as I told you, a need is something which if you don't have, it causes you harm. I need to breathe properly, if I don't have that air I will die. I need a certain amount of food, if I don't have even that amount of food, which is frankly being one meal in 24 hours, is a need. So one meal in 24 hours if I don't have, then I'm likely to you know have low sugar and I'm likely to experience the harmful effects of that. So that's a need. But anything more than that is a want. It's a desire. Again, it's not haram, but if I convert it into a need,
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  • Value the teacher
    Jan 2 2025
    https://youtu.be/1hrPIMPrOp8 Auto-generated transcript: We are on 75 going from Fort Toddy to Tampa and on the right is the Evacuates National Park. And almost for probably 50-60 miles we had the channel which they have cut, repeat the road in the park. We saw alligators, we saw cosplays, we saw cowherds, greater or lesser egrets, all kinds of things. So the reason I'm saying all this is because on highways, on roads, I always remind myself, I knew that this is a tariq, this is the way. And there are things about this which parallel our lives completely. Now the way is leading to something. You don't just get onto the road and start driving. You go onto a road and you're driving to a destination. And so also in life you can just live or you can live with a purpose to get to a destination. You get on the road and when you want to get to a destination, nowadays it's very easy because of GPS and so on, but otherwise even otherwise you would look for the shortest way to get there, the fastest way to get there which might not be the shortest but which has less traffic or you might say I want to take a scenic route because I want to see some stuff on the way and so on and so forth. So the choice of your routing is also a conscious choice that you're making. So also in life when we want to live our life and we want to look at the pathways that we choose, that it makes sense to do that consciously and say what kind of life do I want? And I don't mean just for us just to say that you know janla, janla is yes, that is default inshallah and we hope so, but what will get me to janla? What is the best way of living by life in a way that I can get to janla? So that is the detail of it. Now for that imagine that you are on this bus and you have a driver who's an expert driver and who is one of the best routing heroes, so what to do? So you go to the driver and say when this is I'm getting on this bus, this is the bus taking me and you know I like to see something and so on and he says we have to ride, go ahead. Then what you concentrate on is the quality of your journey. You don't spend time or I would say even waste time in trying to make friends with the driver, in trying to have a social life with the driver, in trying to have you know interactions with the driver and stuff. That's not your problem, that's not your focus. Your focus is to get on the right bus, stay on the right bus, see the sites you need to see, learn what you need to learn. What I'm saying is that because today we live in a world where society has among the many ways in which society fools us, it fools us into what has been called the tyranny of feelings and the tyranny of feeling this works like this. It says that whatever I feel is supreme. This must take supersede, this must supersede and take precedence over everyone else's feelings. It doesn't matter what anyone else feels, what I feel must happen and it is the job of everyone else to modify their behavior in order to suit my feelings and if they are not doing that, they are the problem. This is how our society works which is why you have for example children going to school and teachers are taught that you must engage the children, the children must be engaged in your class, the children must find your class interesting, the children must find your class entertaining. Whether they're learning something or not is not top of the line. I don't say that's not important but that's not what they ask teachers. They ask them about how engaged are the children and so on meaning that if they are engaged enough, if they are entertained enough, if they're happy enough, they will automatically learn. Nothing can be further from the truth. The reality is that you go to a teacher like you go to an oncologist because you have cancer and because this oncologist only Allah can cure and give life but for the sake of my example, this oncologist knows what to do to cure your cancer.
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  • Prepare for success
    Jan 1 2025
    Auto-generated transcript: In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful. All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honorable prophets and messengers. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, and upon his family and companions, who have accepted him many times. And what is next? Brothers and sisters, we have heard many people talk about the fact that the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, used to encourage the youth and he gave a lot of very serious responsibilities to young people. For example, we have the case of Usama bin Zayd al-Adha al-Anu, who was given command of the army, of a battalion which was going for a Ghazwa, and in that army were some very senior Sahaba. We have the example of Musa ibn Umayyad al-Raudilan, who the Prophet sent from Makkah to Madinah as his representative. And many of the great Sahaba, many of the great Ansari Sahaba of Madinah accepted Islam at the hands of Musa ibn Umayyad al-Raudilan, including Sa'ad bin Mu'adh al-Raudilan and Hussayb bin Hudayr al-Raudilan and others. Mu'adh bin Jawal al-Raudilan, another great Sahabi, who the Prophet sent as his governor and Qadi to Yemen. And we have the famous Hadith where the Prophet was holding the bridle of his horse and Mu'adh bin Jawal was holding the bridle of his horse. And Mu'adh bin Jawal was mounted on the horse and the Prophet led the horse out of Madinah. And he gave him advice. It's a lot of Hadiths, I won't mention it here. But he gave him advice, he asked him questions about how he will judge the basis of judgment from which we have our basis of our Sharia, which is the Kitab of Allah, the Sunnah of His Prophet, Ijma and Khayas. And there are others. But remember one thing, Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam gave these enormous responsibilities to these young people, not because they were young. So understand that. We get sidetracked, we say, oh, youth, youth. Youth has nothing to do with it. It is the effort that those particular youths put into learning the Deen. And they came up to the standard of the Nabi alaihi salatu wasalam, so he chose them. He didn't just randomly pick anybody. He didn't say, okay, all 15 year olds come and stand here. No, he picked one person. That person happened to be 15, that person happened to be 17, that person happened to be 20, that is immaterial. So don't get your priorities upside down. He didn't pick any 20 year old. He didn't pick any 17 year old. He picked Musab bin Umayyad, Radhe-l Anu, because he was Musab bin Umayyad, not because he was 17. So what does it tell us? It tells us that unfortunately in our society, all that our education system has done, it has postponed childhood. It has postponed childhood. It has postponed maturity. So we have 20 years old and 23 years old and 25 years old and 26 years old are still staying at home and their mother makes parathas for them and they eat that paratha and the father pays all the bills and they think they are, oh, they are cat whiskers. Seriously, they have not seen one single day of hardship in their life. They are not sweated anywhere. If you put them in one place and there is no air conditioning, they will have a fit. They freak out. This is what our education system has done, created adults who think they are children. This we have to break out of because the laws of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's world don't change because we have a Sikh society which has an education system which does not educate. What are Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's laws? Allah's laws are those who make the effort, who learn, who take hardship will win. No matter which year, whether it is the 7th century, whether it is the 15th century, whether it is the 20th century, whether it is the 15th century or any century, this is the law of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the one who makes the effort. Not your name, not your nasab, not your hasab, not your wealth, not your father's name, not how much money you have.
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