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  • You can never repay anyone

    You can never repay anyone
    Nov 18 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Alhamdulillah, Rabbil Alameen, wassalatu wassalamu ala al-sharafi al-anbiya wal-mursaleen. Muhammad Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sallam, tasliman kathiran kathiran. Firmabadu, my brothers and sisters. Alhamdulillah, bi-zinillahi ta'ala. My wife and I, we are going for Umrah just now. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to accept our Umrah, to make it easy and to fill it with khair and barakah and to accept our duas. Inshallah, we will make dua for all of you. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to accept all your duas with khair and afiyah, inshallah. We'll give you what you ask with afiyah, inshallah. And we request you for your duas for our Umrah. A friend of mine asked me this question. His mother passed away. He said, what can I do or can I do deeds for her which will compensate for the fact that I perhaps did not serve her enough while she was alive? I want to answer that question in two parts. Firstly, a man came to Prophet Muhammad and he said, Ya Rasulullah, I carried my mother on my back for Hajj. So he's talking about carrying her from wherever he lived to Mecca and through all the manasik of Hajj, all the rituals of Hajj. He carried his mother on his back and brought her home. He said, Ya Rasulullah, I have done this. Have I? I fulfilled whatever I owed her for whatever she did for me. Rasulullah said, the action you did was a good action and Allah will reward you. As far as fulfilling her right on you, fulfilling or repaying her for what she did for you, he said, this action of yours, which is to carry his mother on his back for the entire Hajj, he said, this action does not even, doesn't even repay one birth pang that she felt when you were born. Now, this does not mean that we need to lose hope. It does not mean that we need to feel guilty about this, the fact that you were born. But it just puts things in perspective with regard to what we owe our parents. May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la, whoever has parents, may Allah give them the tawfiq to serve them and to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, to, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la decreed and ordered us to do, which is to serve them. And for those whose parents have passed away, we ask Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la to forgive them and give them to fill their khubur with nur. We have the hadith of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam also. In Ramadan, where he ascended the mimbar three steps, and he said, Ameen, Ameen, Ameen. And when he finished his khutbah, he descended, the Sahaba asked him, Ya Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, we saw you doing something you have not done before, we have not seen before, which is that you ascended the mimbar and you said Ameen three times. Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, Jibreel Alaihissalam came to me on the first step, and he said, Ya Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, if somebody gets Ramadan and is unable, to get the forgiveness of Allah, he gets Ramadan, but he is unable to get the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala punish him and cast him aside, cast him far away. Say Ameen. So he said, I said Ameen. Now this means that somebody got Ramadan, meaning he was there in Ramadan, he found Ramadan, Ramadan came to him, and, but, he did not take advantage of Ramadan. Maybe he didn't fast, maybe he didn't pray, maybe he did something, which was prohibited. And therefore, the forgiveness that Ramadan comes with, this person is deprived of this forgiveness. The person deprived himself of this forgiveness. And Jibreel Alaihissalam is saying, may Allah punish this person and cast him far away. And he said, Jibreel Alaihissalam said, Ameen. And he said to Muhammad , you say Ameen. And he said Ameen. And he said, when I came to the second step, he said, Ya Rasulullah,
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  • Don’t try to find loopholes

    Don’t try to find loopholes
    Nov 17 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem. Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen. Wa Salatu Wa Salamu Ala Ashrafil Anbiya wal Mursaleen. Muhammadur Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Alaihi Wasallam. Tasliman kathiran kathira. Fahamabadu. My brothers and sisters, I said there are two problems with this whole issue of acquiring knowledge and the desire to acquire knowledge. May Allah protect us from shaitan. Shaitan does not leave any stone unturned and he uses everything that we do and turns it into, turns something which is potentially beneficial into something which is potentially harmful. And he does it in two ways. One of course is to prevent you from doing something which is beneficial, but the other way he does which is very effective is to take that beneficial thing and make you do it in a way which makes it harmful. Right? It takes the beneficial thing and makes you do it in a way which either it becomes harmful, but harmful in the sense that either it becomes completely haram or it reduces the reward of the thing. So, instead of getting, you know, full reward, you get partial reward. It corrupts the reward of the thing. For example, you might be, you know, inclined towards doing charity and alhamdulillah you say, no, I have to do charity. I will do charity. But, you know, you have to do charity. But, shaitan will put it into your mind and your heart to say, well, you're doing this charity, encourage other people by putting it all, putting all this stuff on Facebook and Instagram and so on. So now you are hiring Instagram photographers to take pictures of your charity work and then you're putting it on Instagram and whatnot. And with the idea that you are somehow encouraging people to do it, but also what is hidden in that and which is probably even more true, which is that now your own ego comes into play. You are fantastic. What a great guy I am. I'm a philanthropist. I'm doing this and that. And shaitan will get people to come and praise you and so on. And you know, your articles will be written about you in the newspapers and stuff. So all of this now completely corrupts your niyyah and the ikhlas of your niyyah, the sincerity of your intention. And from being, starting point of where you are doing it to please Allah , now it becomes a self-propagation method where you are propagating your own virtue. And you are not just a person who is doing it for the benefit of people and so that you can get a good name. Now this is something to really, really guard against. Now one of the ways in which shaitan plays games with religious people is by tempting them to use their religious knowledge to find loopholes in the laws of Allah . So what is shaitan doing? Shaitan is trying to make people believe that they are not the only ones who are the only ones doing it. No one else is doing it. Right? So now there is, you are tempted to do something which is wrong. You know it is wrong. You should not be doing it. But because you have religious knowledge, shaitan will put thoughts into your mind of trying to find a way of doing something which you know to be wrong. But because you have religious knowledge, you find a way now around it. Right? Now there is no way around it. This is something which shaitan has put in your mind. This is what I mean. Yeah. So, I mean, it's, I mean, it's a very difficult thing. So, I have to say, I don't know if I can do it in a very perfect way. heart and your mind and you're now finding these so-called arguments in favor of doing something which is actually prohibited. One of the most common ones is this prohibition on interest-based dealings, which is a very clear prohibition. It is something on which Allah declared war in His own name, glorious name, and in the blessed name of Rasulullah . And Allah said, if you will not leave this, if you will not leave this interest-based dealings, borrowing or lending money on interest, then take a declaration of war from Allah and His Prophet .
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  • Adab before Ilm

    Adab before Ilm
    Nov 16 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise belongs to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honorable prophets and messengers. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and companions. Many thanks and blessings. From now on, my brothers and sisters, one of the... Alhamdulillah, we are living in times where there is a lot of interest in Islam. I have lots of young friends of mine, some students, some not students, but people who are who I know in many countries, who are very interested in Islam. Also, similarly, people who are interested in... therefore, this interest in Islam, for a lot of them, it's... it translates into, you know, harakas and conferences and so on and so forth. Of course, lots of stuff on social media and so on. So people are interested in the deen. But there are two... simultaneously... two problems that I find which are... which seem to go hand in hand. The first problem is that, thanks to the deen, we are able to go to our home. Thanks to the ease with which information... I want you to distinguish between information and knowledge. Between malumaat and ilm. Information and knowledge. I want you to distinguish between these two things. They're very, very important. So, the one thing is that, because information is easily accessible, easily available, whether it is multiple translations and tafaseer of the Quran al-Kareem, whether it is the siyasita or other books of hadith, whether it is reference material, you go to chat GPT or you go and do any kind of a search, and you put a prompt and it gets you information from all over the place. So, because there is this ease of accessing information, there seems to be a loss of the awe and majesty of the knowledge. And people I see treat the knowledge of the Kitab of Allah and the teachings of Muhammad Rasulullah like they treat any other kind of knowledge. So, the awe and the majesty of this knowledge, that this is Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala Himself speaking, that awe and majesty seems to take a backstage and may Allah have mercy in the case of some people, it disappears. So, therefore, for example, when we hear the stories of the importance of adab, the importance of the manners, the methodology of preparing yourself to receive the knowledge. The famous story of Imam Malik bin Anas , whose mother used to . She used to tie a turban on his head for him to go to learn with Rabia Turai, Rahatul Ali, who was his teacher. And his mother used to tell him, learn from the adab of Rabia before you take from his knowledge. Take from his adab before you take from his knowledge. And this is when Imam Malik was a little boy and his mother used to take him, they say she would take him for, in time for Salatul Fajr to the masjid, the masjid of the Nabi wa Sharif. And she would leave him there all dressed up. So, imagine he's being woken up before the time of Fajr and then he is being prepared by his mother. And then she takes him there, walks him there, leaves him there. He is in the masjid of the Nabi wa Sharif immediately after Salatul Fajr, he is there in the class of Rabia Turai. And he is there in the class of Rabia Turai. And he is there in the class of Rabia Turai until the time for Zuhar and then after Salatul Zuhar, his mother would pick him up and bring him home. Now, I don't know whether there was a breakfast program at that time or what, or whether this little boy didn't even eat any food all the way until Zuhar. And that's the time when he would have gone home and he would have had a meal. These are things to think about and say that today people walk around with buckets in their hands, what amounts to buckets, saying that they get dehydrated, unless they drink this gazelle down, this liters and liters and liters of water. You need to have food like little babies every hour. But whereas these people,
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  • Voices in the head

    Voices in the head
    Nov 15 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Now, most of the time, this is not conscious. So, we just give people permission to come and occupy, to live rent-free in your mind, in your head. Don't do that. Don't do that. Your mind is a very precious, very precious, precious thing. The mind is like a fertile field. The mind is like a fertile field. The mind is like a fertile field. The mind is like a fertile field. The mind is like a fertile field. fertile field, it will, whatever you plant in it, it will give you a harvest for that thing. Whatever you plant in it, the mind will give you a harvest for that thing. It makes it grow and it gives you a harvest. That is the reason why it's very important for you to choose what to plant in your mind. Because you plant wheat, you get wheat. You plant rice, you get rice. You plant wheat and you want rice, you will not get. So you have to decide, what is it that I'm going to allow into my mind? What will I allow to live rent-free in my mind? So choose who you want to listen to. And then listen to them very carefully. That's the second part. For the first part, we listen to everybody. Which is detrimental because everybody does not have the competence to say or tell us anything that is beneficial for us. And then the other part of it is that we disregard, again, consciously or unconsciously, real advice which can benefit us. And this would be the advice from experts. And advice from people who are... Who are genuinely concerned about you. So that's the other thing. So therefore, it's very important to pay close attention to that advice. Advice coming from people who are experts. And understand that that advice is coming to you and most of the time it will come to you free, is to be appreciated, deeply appreciated. Because it's not your right. That people must... So, that's the third part. That's the fourth part. That people must spend their time with you. People must share their hard-earned life lessons with you. Right? It's not... It's not something that is necessary for those people to do. If somebody's doing it, they are doing you a favor. And that is something that we need to appreciate. Not just take it for granted. If somebody is sharing their knowledge and their experience, it must be respected. One of the very detrimental things that I have noticed, especially this Gen Z, is this completely arrogant assumption. That anyone who's not... I don't know. I don't know. I don't think anyone can do that. I don't think anyone who's under 20 is not worth listening to. That the only people who are worth listening to are people of your age, people of this generation. Now that's about the most stupid thing that you can think about. Because experience comes with age. Experience comes with living life. You cannot have 40 years of experience when you are age 20. The only way to have 40 years of experience is to be 40 plus. It's not... is to be 40 plus. Now, having said that, not everyone who has 40 years of life experience can teach you something useful because of another very important factor, which is the tendency to document that experience. Because what is not documented is not learned. It's as simple as that. What is not documented is not learned. People live the life. So I'm 70 years old. There are millions of people who are 70 years old. But the 70-year-old who can teach you something will be the one who has taken the time and trouble to live reflectively and thoughtfully and he or she has documented their learnings. If they have done that, then what they have documented is potentially useful for you. I'm not saying everything is useful, but potentially useful for you.
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  • See with our nose

    See with our nose
    Nov 14 2025
    https://youtu.be/rWvlGzItHqY Auto-generated transcript:I'm back again in my favorite place in Hyderabad, KBR Park. And as I'm walking, I'm hearing the bulbul calls. All kinds of names it has, Indian nightingale, also they call it and so on. I don't know what it is. It's a bulbul. And whenever I think about these zoological names, and I can't remember one, I console myself and say, well, I don't know or I can't recall the name of this bird, but the bird doesn't know either. I don't mean that entirely facetiously. Of course, you know, feel free to laugh. But the reason I'm saying that is because one of the downsides of knowledge is that it makes you jaded. I was speaking to a young friend of mine, may Allah bless him, very, very knowledgeable. He's a high school kid, but extremely knowledgeable about wildlife, birds. He has a special interest in, literally passion for, insects. I call him Spider-Man. He loves spiders and scorpions and all kinds of loving beasts like that. And knows a hell of a lot about them. And his bird identification is incredible. Knows all the names. But yesterday when I was having a conversation with him, I went over the weekend to Sarpanparli Lake, which is a very beautiful lake. I'm saying this for those who are listeners from here, who know the places on the way to Viharbas. And we saw a bunch of birds. So, point herons, cattle egrets, painted storks, stilts and What is turns, river turns and so on. So, as I was telling him these things, for every one of them, he said, Oh common, oh common, oh common. Meaning, these are common species. It's not a rare one. Thought that came into my mind was, that this is the first sign of being jaded. Where you're looking at, looking for some, you know, scintillating experience, some aha moment, every time in life. Now, the bad news is, it doesn't exist. Because most of life is repetition. Most of life is seeing the same thing again and again. So, you have two options. One is, you are constantly seeking this aha experience, this new thing. And so, therefore, when you see the same thing again and again, you're just bored. You don't want to see it again and again. But guess what? That's your fate. You will see it again and again. On the other hand, you have another person like me, for example. I don't care how many times I see the same thing. I never cease to be amazed. I never cease to be astonished. I never cease to marvel at the glory and magnificence of the creation of my Rab, Jalal Jalal Hu. I don't care if I see the same thing 50 times, 100 times, 1000 times. Incidentally, this is also the secret of my life. The secret of marriage, of a good marriage. As I have said many times before, I fall in love with my wife every morning, and every evening, and every afternoon. Same wife for the last 40 years. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. The thing is, if you find beauty in something, the beauty is there. And the more you can look at the same thing and enjoy that beauty, the happier person you are, the happier you will be. Because there are that many opportunities of enjoying that beauty. Whereas if you are looking for new things all the time, you will get them once in a while, but only once in a while. The major aha experiences of life, the major thresholds of life, are very few. Getting married, the day of the ceremony, the anticipation of it, and then the ceremony itself, and so forth, is one experience in your entire life. But your wife or your husband, you are going to be seeing them every single morning, every single afternoon, every single evening. And what happens to a lot of people, and I have seen this also happening, is that over time, they get bored. They get just used to seeing each other. They don't take care of their appearance. If you see them, if you turn up at their house, that's why I have, I make it an absolute rule, I always take an appointment before I go to some people. Because I want to share, save myself the shock of seeing this person,
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  • What do you want to be remembered for

    What do you want to be remembered for
    Nov 13 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honour of the Prophets and Messengers. Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and companions, is very, very peaceful. My brothers and sisters, yesterday one of our dear friends, Muhammad Ali Saab, whose children were all my students, prominent among them was his son, Hassan Zeeshan, who is currently studying, doing his Master's in Mechanical Engineering in UMass Lowell, Massachusetts. He passed away. And so I went to the Janatah last night after Isha. We asked Allah to forgive his sins and enter him into the Janatah for those without his Saab, to fill his Kaabar with his Nuh, and to give Sabah to his family. Mashallah, beautiful family, beautiful people. As I was there in the cemetery, the thought came to my mind about what do I want to be remembered for. That particular cemetery in Masjid al-Baqi in Hyderabad has, many of my friends in it, some relatives, some friends, some very old, very good friends. They all, thoughts about them flashed through my mind. That when I think of each person, what comes, foremost, what is the first thought that I think about them? What is the first thought that comes? What do I remember them for? There is Ikram Hai in that cemetery, with Ahmadineen Sheikh Imam Saab. And the thing that I remember, soon as I mention him, soon as I think about him, is how he used to come for Salatul Fajr. To our Masjid. Even when he had, started, he was getting, you know, physical health problems, he would get in his car and he would drive. And once or twice it's, the car got knocked here and there because of his driving. And we used to tell him, please, don't come on your own. And, and, may Allah bless Saib, he was there always, he would bring him. And Saib would tell him, look, you know, if, someday if I'm not there, because Saib had to travel and so on, so, he said, then don't go that day. But no, Ikram Hai would come. No matter what. Until he completely got incapacitated, he could not come at all. So the first thing I remember about him is, how he used to come for Salatul Fajr. Salatul Fajr. There is my dear, dear friend Zulfi in the same cemetery. And the thing I remember about Zulfi is his big smile. And the love and the affection that he had for me and I had for him. There's some, I mean, losses are losses, but there's some losses which are very, very, very, very serious and you literally feel them in your heart. And Zulfi is one of them. Zulfi's father passed away in Kuwait. And after that, I had gone to Kuwait for some programs. And Zulfi said to me, he used to call me Yawar Bhai, like everybody else. But after his father passed away, he said to me, can I call you Baba? Now what do you say to that? I said, there's no honor that is superior in my view, than that, that Allah is giving me through you, Alhamdulillah. And in that same cemetery is another one of my dearest and closest ones, Adnan Mahmud, whose death was such a shock. I was in Vermont, the Arabic courts, when I got news that he had died. And so on. I don't know. I don't think I will ever recover from that shock. He, that day was like, I mean, I tried to force, obviously control myself and so on, but everybody noticed. People came and sat around me. They said, what happened? Something has happened. What's happening? What's, you know, why are you looking like this? And the thing I remember about Adnan is, is always this tremendous sense of confidence. And he's always used to say, Allah is the one who gets our things done. Allah is the one who gets our things done. Allah is the one who gets our things done. Similarly, there's another dear friend of mine, Alhamdulillah, may Allah grant him a long and healthy life. Imtiaz Beg, who lives in Mysore. Imtiaz also has this thing. For everything. Allah is there. Anything,
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  • Remember that you are only a visitor

    Remember that you are only a visitor
    Nov 12 2025
    Auto-generated transcript:My dear brothers and sisters, in the famous hadith of Abdullah ibn Awar r.a who reported from the Prophet s.a.w. The Prophet s.a.w. took hold of his shoulder and said, Be in the world as if you are a stranger or a traveler. Be in the world as if you are a stranger or a traveler. Among the teaching stories that we hear, the story of a man who came to the house of a wise man and he saw that the house had no furniture, absolutely nothing. The story is also told about the house of a man named Farid r.a. So maybe this relates to him. So he saw there was no furniture. So he asked him, where is your furniture? So this wise man, he asked the man, where is yours? So that man said, I am a traveler. He said, so am I. Ibn Awar r.a used to say, if you survive to the evening, don't die. Do not expect to be alive till the morning. And if you survive to the morning, do not look forward to the evening. In a healthy condition, prepare yourself for illness. And while you are alive, prepare yourself for death. And these are in Bukhari. I will send you the references of this also, inshallah. Another hadith in Bukhari, in Ibn Bajah and in Musnad ibn Ahmad, Rasulullah, Rasulullah said, What have I to do with the world? In connection with the world, I am just like a rider who sits under the shade of a tree, then goes off and leaves it. And this is in Tilmidi, in Namaja and Musnad Ahmad. Rasulullah said, what do I have to do with the world? I am like a traveler, I am like a rider on a horse who takes, rests for a little while under a tree and then continues on his journey. The great jurist, Al-Fudail bin Yaad, Rahatul Ali, said to a man, he asked him, how old are you? The man said, 60 years. Al-Fudail said, you have been traveling to your Rabb for 60 years, which means that you are about to arrive at your destination. So the man said, Al-Fudail said, do you know what is the meaning of that? He said, when a person knows that he is a slave and that he will return to Allah, he knows that he is to be asked about his deeds. If he knows that he will be asked, he should prepare answers to the questions. So the man asked him, he said, he asked Al-Fudail, he said, what shall I do? So Al-Fudail bin Yaad, Rahatul Ali said to him, that is an easy matter. So the man said, what is it? How is it easy? Al-Fudail said, you should stick to the straight path, meaning do not disobey Allah, do not anger Allah. He said, you should stick to the straight path for the rest of your life. You already live for 60 years, whatever is left, stick to the straight path for the rest of your life and Allah will forgive your past. You will commit sins, inshallah. And if you commit sins for the rest of your life, you will be held accountable for those and for the deeds that you committed throughout your life. So at whatever point in time we get some guidance, Alhamdulillah, straighten yourself from that time onwards. Don't worry about the past. And this is one of the things that shaitan tells. Shaitan says, oh, but you know, your whole life you lived like this. Your whole life you disobeyed Allah. What is the point now? There is always a point, even if it is two minutes before you die. We don't know whether it is two minutes or two hours or two days or two centuries. So from the moment you get the enlightenment, the moment you understand, yeah, I've been doing something wrong, immediately stop. Now, in the light of the above, a poet said, if a man walks for 60 years to a destination, then the destination will be very close. The destination will be very near. Ibn Abbas narrated that Rasulullah SAW said, there are two blessings which people lose. What are they? He said, they are health and free time. And this is in Bukhari, health and free time. Two blessings that people lose. Especially if you think about it, you know, in youth, how much of free time there is. Schools, colleges and so on. In your, when you start working,
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  • Who defines you?

    Who defines you?
    Nov 11 2025
    https://youtu.be/bmGtVp8Gpe0 Auto-generated transcript:As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh. Wa ṣalātu wa ṣalāmu ʿalaykum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh. I am walking in Shiran Palace, KBR Park. And as you can see, they have this road. So, they installed these concrete blocks in a completely undrown chain. And then when they finished that whole work, then it rained. Heavy rain and the whole road got converted into a drain. And then somebody says, oh, how can we, we need water for the, we need space for the water to run off. So, then they hired a whole bunch of labor and removed these blocks individually, one by one. Every so many meters. Right? So, nobody thought that it would rain. Can you believe this? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. rains is a discovery for the forest department okay i think the way money is squandered is not funny anyway the park is very beautiful it's uh massively destabilized left alone so uh they haven't tried to improve it uh meaning destroy it so we have uh the natural vegetation and it's like an urban forest of grasses it has all kinds of different trees and lots of birds uh mammals reptiles small mammals uh reptiles and so on one of the most commonly seen things is peacocks absolute profusion of peafowl in this part what i want to talk to you about today is a thought which is that when we talk about careers we talk about life and so on we talk almost exclusively in terms of success in terms of victory right so what are the successes what are the victories and so forth and we run away from failures especially failures where the failure was not due to was not due to natural causes but was due to our own lack of judgment or wrong judgments we try to avoid that and pretend that it didn't happen or it couldn't have happened well after all how can i be wrong no i suggest to you that hooking your self-esteem hooking your self-image to success is a very dangerous thing and the reason is dangerous is because of how we are conditioned to define success our conditioning is that we from the earliest childhood whether it's a parent whether it's a teacher and then as we grow older it becomes a boss it becomes a individual boss and might become few rise enough in an organization and it could be the board of the organization but multiple external people our success what we like to call success depends on what they start doing and how they keep dealing with success this is what we are constantly moving on, my God, success is highly traveling fellow nano bio environmentalist andinary and 150 and display profile among other things as you walk along the screen or beyond the screen you have a long Parkinson who will say what can i do this or where I can do that or what can i do that or what can i do it this way there is an increasing strength of love it is a responsibility to keep growing lines across business since you are involved in it it is a complement in life okay so i have just been in the last several months over school you tried to define but instead they say about it. So if they say, oh fantastic, great job, we feel happy. If they say no, bad job, we feel unhappy. The job itself, what is my view about my work? We don't think about that. So our self-image and our self-esteem is hooked to success as defined by somebody else. Now that somebody is only looking at a final output or outcome without having almost no knowledge or very limited knowledge of what it took to get to that place. They don't have that knowledge, more than likely they don't care. But they will pass some judgment. So we also have this habit. We say, oh great, good job, fantastic job. Tommy, you're a great guy. And Tommy feels sad, glad, bad, mad. Now, as I said, the big problem with this is that then our happiness is always in the hands of somebody else. And if we are not able to get that good,
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