Auto-generated transcript:Bismillah wa alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala rasulillah. Wa ba'd. I am in my favorite place, which is in Florida. And you can see why I call it my favorite place. There are some mallards here, which are kind of resident. And this is a water hazard on a golf course. It's a man-made lake. And it has terrapins in it, turtles. It has these lovely oak trees, which border the course. I don't know if you can see the turtles. They dive pretty quickly. And then there is this family of mallards. Very beautiful scene. Some friend of mine asked me to talk about marriage. Because this year, my wife and I will be married. At least according to me, happily, for now 40 years. Alhamdulillah. We got married in 1985. On the 21st of March. So we married 40 years. And so this friend of mine said, she said to me, you talk about your parents in the different podcasts. And, you know, you talk about parenting itself, coming from that background of your parents. You have said many times that your wife has been a great support for you. But you didn't say much or anything about marriage itself. So can you do that? That's what I'm planning to do today. Talk about marriage. But before I go into the topic of marriage, I must talk about ambition. Because ambition is a very important thing. And it's important in terms of careers. Because in my view, and of course, I was going to say, I'm sure I will get pushed back on this. But there's no need for pushback because this is my view. And you're most welcome to have your own. My view comes not from reading a book or some intellectual exercise, but from, from, from the actual experience of 40 years of marriage and 70 years of life. And my opinion, a marriage is a career. So if you say marriage and career, at least for most people, I would say that's an oxymoron because a marriage is a career. And the secret of a successful marriage is if it's treated like a career. When you give it that importance, when you give it that prominence in your life, when it becomes the, the criterion for decision making, marriage is a career. Marriages come usually with the actual biological reasons, which are the reason for marriage, which is procreation of the species, meaning having children. And that makes it even more of a career. So I would say if you are thinking of marriage or career, first get that thing right in your mind and say that, and remind yourself, that marriage means career. Second very important thing is to, therefore ask yourself, what is my ambition? One of my very good friends says, my ambition is to get married. It's okay, Alhamdulillah. If that is your ambition, may you succeed. But if that is the ambition, that's my ambition is to get married, then, um, the chances are that that ambition is, I don't know what to say to that. I mean, I don't want to criticize somebody saying my ambition is to get married. But, if that is the ambition, then obviously you're not going to achieve anything much other than hopefully the marriage. But since marriages require, at least materially, marriages are not necessarily a marriage. But materially, marriages are a resource sink in terms of, uh, non-material, meaning emotional, um, emotional, uh, and other dancing awards. And I want to say spiritual, but certainly emotional, emotional, and other, uh, uh, aims. Marriages are, they are not sinks. Uh, they also give you some benefit, but materially in terms of money, time, energy, they are a sink. So you, and I'm speaking here now, both parties, both the spouses, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, the men and the women, and those are all the un Graduate classes and start when you're older and uh, but you're not going to be a Koh Kesar and be taken into a farewell one. You have to consider that you are going to be a Simen and never you have been epitomized for example a continuative romantic sticky artist Hardy or So you are going to you're looking at spending a lot
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May 9 202555 mins