Messing up as a parent: It’s not IF, it’s WHEN. 😅

Trust me, even I mess up and I speak on Emotional Intelligence daily, I run conferences on it, I have courses and a book on it... so let me give you permission to lose your cool too!!

However - we DO need to talk about the messy, completely normal experience of losing your cool, whether it’s yelling at the kids, snapping at your partner, or going quiet and shutting down. Especially what to do AFTER the blow-up, and how to handle it with your kids.

Because emotional intelligence isn’t about being calm all the time. It’s about learning how to repair, reconnect, and actually teach our kids to do the same.

I talk about:

💥 Why it’s 100% human to lose your cool sometimes

🧠 What’s going on in your brain and body when you snap or shut down

❤️ How to do a proper repair (not just a quick “sorry”)

🧒🏼 How to TEACH your kids to repair when they muck up too

😶 And what to do if you’re someone who goes quiet after conflict

If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “Ugh, why did I do that…”, this one’s for you.

Let’s normalise the mess-ups and get really good at the bounce-back. 💛 Steph.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

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Hi all, today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast I'm diving deep into a game-changing topic that will profoundly shift the way you view your child's behaviour: HIDDEN TRIGGERS.

Have you ever had a moment when your child or teen suddenly melts down over what seems like nothing? One moment they're fine, but the next, it's chaos over the "wrong" snack, the innocent question you asked, or a change in plans. You're left wondering, "What the heck just happened?!" Yep. I've been there too.

So today, I'm letting you in on the truth: your kids aren't being difficult; they're responding to unseen triggers that their brains and nervous systems register long before they can articulate their feelings.

Imagine if you could spot these triggers before they escalate into emotional blow-ups?! That’s the power of emotional intelligence in parenting! Trust me.

Today I've got 11 hidden triggers that can sneakily and instantly impact your child’s emotions and behaviour, along with a few practical solutions for each that you can implement right away to support them in a more emotionally intelligent way. I explore everything from sensory overload and hunger to the effects of parental stress and overwhelming expectations.

You'll hear about:

• Overstimulation and sensory sensitivities
• "Hangry” meltdowns
• Keeping your kids hydrated (seriously!)
• Creating a supportive emotional climate that models self-regulation
• How to create smoother transitions between activities
• Perceived injustices (definitely a hidden trigger for many kids!)
• Physical discomforts and pain that you can't see
• Adjusting your expectations to fit their developmental level (NOT age)
• Conflict exposure
• And the last one I'll keep a secret cause it's my ultimate favourite - sorry not sorry!

Here's where you can really deepen your emotional intelligence and see the results... less conflict, fewer arguments, reduced yelling - seriously! And more calm, connection, and understanding.

Tune in and let me give you a few more tools to navigate your kids' big emotions with grace and emotional intelligence.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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Ever hear people throw around terms like “fight, flight, freeze,” “nervous system,” or “relational safety” and think… what are they actually talking about? Yep, me too.

As a parent (and someone who works with families), I didn’t really understand what those phrases meant... until I came across Mona Delahooke’s work. And let me tell you, once I did, everything about my kids’ behaviour suddenly made a LOT more sense!

In this special re-release of our 2022 interview, Mona - who’s a clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience - breaks down the science behind those frustrating, baffling behaviours our kids send our way.

But this isn’t just theory—Mona shares practical, real-life strategies to help you stay calm and support your child when they’re overwhelmed.

This conversation feels even more meaningful today because, in 2023, Mona survived a brain aneurysm—an experience that’s led her to slow down and prioritize her health. I feel so lucky we still have her voice and wisdom to learn from, and I’m beyond grateful to share this life-changing conversation with you.

In this episode, we dive into:

✅ Why your child’s “bad behaviour” is often a sign their nervous system is in distress

✅ How understanding the brain makes parenting so much easier (and less stressful!)

✅ Simple, effective ways to respond without yelling, punishing, or losing your cool

If you’re ready to stop feeling frustrated and start feeling empowered, this one’s for you.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.