Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene.

The Four Moves That Changed Everything:

1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.

2. Build Your Network Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.

3. Pivot When You Hear "No" My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A "no" doesn't mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn't about you. It's information.

4. Ask for Help Closed mouths don't get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.

Your next chapter starts with one decision.

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You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?

Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.

Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships with men.

Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.

That's not your childhood trauma. That's decades of programming about what women owe men.

This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.

The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?

Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.

Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That's okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.

You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.

Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?

Schedule a dating consultation call with me and let's map out your path to a relationship that works for you.

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.

In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect because you've handled worse.

But just because you can handle something doesn't mean you should.

I share a coaching breakthrough with a client who discovered she was tolerating poor behavior simply to prove her strength. We discuss why your intuition knows something's off, yet you override it. We explore the dangerous question: "What's wrong with me?" And I challenge you to ask better questions: "Is this the experience I want? What does this relationship cost me?"

Your power, confidence, and resourcefulness deserve better than babysitting an immature partner. Stop throwing good years after bad. Start asking about your return on investment—not in a transactional way, but by documenting the truth of your experience.

You don't win a prize for enduring what you don't have to endure. Choose yourself.

Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a consultation call with me at [https://sadecurry.com/info].

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.

In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"

This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.

Here's what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don't beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn't, you move on. You hold the power.

Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald's if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn't exist, then ask men to change.

Stop that.

Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.

Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com and discover how to date with confidence and get married again.

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Sade Curry kicks off a new series on what it means to live a relationship-centered life—and why that might be the thing keeping you stuck. You’ll hear Sade unpack the social conditioning that trains women to prioritize everyone else first: partners, kids, bosses, siblings, even exes.

Sade breaks down why simply saying “decenter men” isn’t enough—because the issue runs deeper. Women are conditioned to center relationships, period. That’s why even after divorce, you might still feel pulled in every direction and unable to start the business, write the book, or just book your doctor’s appointment.

This episode gives language to what you may have been feeling: that you’ve been pouring out for others while putting yourself last. Sade shares stories from her own life and coaching practice to show how shifting your focus—centering yourself—is the first step to real freedom and clarity.

You don’t have to blow up your life to change it. You can make grounded, intentional shifts toward the life you want.

Ready to stop putting yourself last?
Let’s talk. Book a free consultation call with Sade Curry and explore how private coaching can help you reclaim your time, focus on your goals, and create the life you want—without losing the people you love.

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Welcome back! Sade returns after settling into Miami city life to share a powerful observation from her coaching practice: mental clutter drains your energy and blocks your goals—especially your dating life.

You might think romantic relationships cause most of your mental overwhelm. But Sade reveals the truth: women carry exhausting thought loops about everyone—parents, bosses, children, friends, even strangers in the grocery store. This hyper-awareness of other people's comfort steals your time, focus, and energy.

Sade shares real client stories: One woman spent nine hours each workday in a panicked rush, worried she wouldn't finish on time to make her dates. The rushing changed nothing—she left on time 50% of the time regardless. Another client obsessed over her husband's betrayal, unable to handle finances or make plans.

The solution? Identify your mental clutter. Notice what occupies your mind all day. Recognize how these thought loops drain you and prevent action on goals you care about.

This is the deeper coaching work Sade does—not just helping you meet a partner, but clearing the obstacles that stop you from doing what you know you should do. Your brain, personality, and situation are unique. Generic "ten-step plans" don't work because they ignore your specific barriers.

Ready to clear your mental clutter and achieve your dating goals? Schedule a complimentary consultation call with Sade before November 25th. Visit sadecurry.com/info or reply to any email.

Discovering the Best Version of Yourself After Divorce with Bee Quammie

Ready to meet the woman you become after divorce? This episode will change how you see yourself and your future.

Bee Quammie, multimedia storyteller and author of The Book of Possibilities, joins host Sade Curry to share raw truths about rebuilding after divorce.

Bee is a Jamaican-Canadian multimedia storyteller: a writer, podcast host, TV personality, and public speaker. She’s written for publications like The Globe and Mail, Men's Health, Chatelaine, Refinery29, Essence, and more. Bee is a guest host and commentator on several Canadian television and radio shows, like CTV's The Social and CBC’s The Next Chapter.

She’s also a highly sought-after public speaker with the National Speakers Bureau, offering keynotes across North America. She writes and speaks on topics like race and culture, parenting, mental health, and pop culture — and her debut book, an essay collection called The Book of Possibilities, was published by Penguin Canada in 2025. Bee lives in the Greater Toronto Area with her two daughters.

Bee breaks down the difference between being married, going through divorce, and thriving as a single woman - and why she loves the version of herself she is now most of all.

What You'll Discover:

• Why "know the version of you that you like best" changes everything about dating
• How to tell the difference between loneliness and being alone (they're not the same thing)
• The surprising way to reconnect with pleasure through your five senses
• Why nice guys aren't always the answer - and what to look for instead
• How to set boundaries that men actually respect
• The secret to celebrating small wins on your path to thriving

Bee shares her honest journey from losing herself in marriage to discovering self-love that creates armor against outside noise. She talks about solo trips to Curacao, learning to laugh at her own jokes, and why she approaches dating as fun rather than a job interview.

This conversation tackles the shame around divorce, the pressure women face to follow scripts that don't serve them, and why breaking those narratives leads to better relationships with yourself and others.

If you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to validate who you are and start loving the woman you're becoming, this episode is your wake-up call.

Connect with Bee Quammie:

• Website: beequammie.com
• Social Media: @beequammie (all platforms)
• Book: The Book of Possibilities (Penguin Canada, 2025)

Ready to create your own dating strategy that honors who you're becoming? Schedule your free dating consultation call with Sade and start building the love life you deserve - one that fits the incredible woman you are today.

234. Unshaming Divorce and Honoring Life with Kendell Lenice

About This Episode

What if divorce isn't a mark of failure, but a brave act of self-advocacy?

This week, I sit down with Kendell Lenice, certified life coach and author known as "The Remix Coach." Kendell shares her powerful story of being divorced twice, her healing journey, and how she found love again when she wasn't even looking for it.

If you've ever felt shame about divorce or wondered if you'll find love again, this conversation will shift your perspective completely.

What You'll Learn

Divorce Doesn't Define You

• Why walking away from a marriage can be the bravest thing you do
• How to stop letting shame keep you in bondage
• The difference between staying married for love vs. staying for reputation

The Real Work of Healing

• Kendell's HEAL acronym: Honor Everything About Life
• Why you must examine your childhood patterns and trauma
• How to forgive yourself for past relationship choices

Finding Love After Heartbreak

• Why Kendell wasn't looking for love when she met her current partner
• The importance of vetting (yes, we dive deep into this!)
• How to stay open to love without being desperate for it

Red Flags and Green Flags

• Recognizing gaslighting and emotional manipulation
• Why your discernment matters more than giving endless grace
• The difference between healthy and toxic relationship patterns

Key Takeaways

1. Divorce can be mature, not shameful. Sometimes two good people just can't figure it out together.
   
   
2. Do the healing work first. Know who you are so someone else can't persuade you to be someone different.
   
   
3. Vet, vet, vet. Don't give away all your requirements upfront - let people show you who they are.
   
   
4. You are enough with or without a relationship. A partner should be an addition to who you already are, not your completion.

About Kendell Lenice

Kendéll Lenice, affectionately known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, national speaker, author, and host with over 20 years of experience helping people transform their lives and relationships. Through her podcasts, powerful talks, and coaching, she mixes wisdom, humor, and heart to inspire growth and healing. A colon cancer survivor and advocate, Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. Whether on stage, on screen, or behind the mic, she brings real talk, real change, and a reminder that it’s never too late to remix your life. She's living proof that life’s remix can be better than the original.

Kendéll Lenice, known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, speaker, author/writer, and media host with over two decades of experience helping people heal, grow, and remix their lives with purpose and flair. Whether she’s dropping gems on her podcasts, lighting up a stage, or coaching one-on-one, Kendéll blends wisdom, warmth, and a touch of humor to spark transformation. A proud colon cancer survivor and advocate, she proves daily that reinvention is always possible. Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. It's all about the remix!

Kendell is the author of multiple books including:

• "Your Unhealed Is Showing" - About healing purposefully and aging fearlessly
• "God Thinks I'm Special" - A children's book teaching kids their worth

Connect with Kendell

https://www.instagram.com/kendelllenice
https://kendelllenice.com/
https://youtube.com/