Sade Curry, divorce coach, covers the pull to leave a marriage and then return. She says most women try to leave at least three times, sometimes up to seven, before they leave for good. She shares her own experience and how to move from that cycle to a clear, confident decision.

What's covered:

1:37: Why leaving takes several attempts, and Sade's own story of leaving and going back

3:28: Why leaving is so hard, and why a planned exit usually goes better than a sudden one

4:50: The "hoovering" pattern, and how repeated returns tighten the loop

6:12: What the cycle can do to you: despair, eroded self-trust, and a partner who learns to hide things better

9:18: Capacity to change: is your partner actually exercising it, or are you projecting it?

10:41: Why staying can be a valid choice, if it rests on your own plan and not on his changing

12:30: Why you can't search for options you don't know exist, and how a coach can show you the range

14:17: Making a clear decision before you announce it, and why decision comes before implementation

16:04: Why relying on an unreliable partner causes pain

17:00: Building self-trust and a plan so you can leave or stay with peace

Key takeaways

Decide based on who you are and what you value, not on what he says or does.

Making a decision is different from implementing it.

Whether you stay or leave, a plan and self-trust let you stop going back and forth.

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Episode: My Healing Journey After Divorce, and What "Doing the Work" Really Takes

Sade Curry, host of the Extraordinary Life and Dating After a Divorce podcast, tells the full story of how she healed and grew after her divorce. She explains what "doing the work" looked like for her and why it takes more than most people expect. She also describes how she compressed years of healing into about 18 months, and how you can start your own journey.

What's covered:

0:00: Why Sade is telling her whole healing story in one episode

0:53: Why you need an honest read on your own situation, and why a friend's or mom's advice may not fit yours

2:34: Her sudden separation after 17 years, and the shock and grief of that time

4:45: The turning point: realizing the "one plus one equals two" rules she'd been given weren't working

8:42: Redirecting the effort she'd poured into her marriage toward herself

10:49: Everything she tried: books, podcasts, coaching, therapy, meditation, a divorce community, 12 steps, daily 5Ks, somatic practices, tapping, breathwork and travel

14:05: Compressing about 10 years of healing into 18 months to two years, and starting her coaching practice

15:00: Why her second divorce didn't need the same healing, and how the earlier work made that possible

17:05: Why people call self-work "navel gazing," and how to handle criticism of it

19:19: Why real transformation takes detailed work, referencing the essay "Reality Has a Surprising Amount of Detail" by John Salvatier

22:13: The mind-body connection, including how tracking her hot flashes helped her manage them

24:18: Why signing the divorce papers doesn't make you feel better, and why the change has to happen inside

Key takeaways:

Check whether the information and beliefs you're working from are actually working.

Everyone's situation is different, so build a plan that fits yours.

Healing is an internal process, and it takes time, attention and often money.

Working with someone who has been through it can shorten the path.

Resources mentioned

"Reality Has a Surprising Amount of Detail" by John Salvatier.

Schedule a consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.

Today's episode is about how to feel better in the middle of the storm of divorce. Is it possible to stop feeling so terrible while the divorce is happening?

What do you do when it feels like the divorce is taking over your whole life? Do you have to wait until the divorce is over to enjoy your life again?

How can you stop reacting in the moments and respond calmly? If you’re in the middle of divorce and feel anxious or overwhelmed, this episode is for you.

Ready to feel better? Schedule a consultation call with Sade Curry at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.

Schedule a consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.

Today, I sat down with my longtime client Ozzy Isabu, and we went over her six-year journey of coaching and working through her divorce and rebuilding afterward.

We talked about the major milestones in her growth: reflecting on the divorce, and taking healthy responsibility.

We talked about the Relationship Audit tool that made all the difference for her. We also discussed how she learned to process her emotions and how she built a new identity and vision for her future.

Lastly we talked about how she got unstuck in building that future and learned how to overcome procrastination in her dreams to implement the steps it would take to bring her dream to life.

I hope you enjoy this episode and gain insights into what long-term coaching after a divorce can look like.

Connect with Ozzy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ozzyrefined/

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Every time Dr. Jennie Young used Bumble or Hinge, the same thing happened: high hopes on day one, horror by day two. Then she remembered what she does for a living.

Dr. Jennie is a rhetoric professor. She spent years doing critical discourse analysis on high school disciplinary handbooks — coding for toxic, gendered language patterns hidden inside official policies. One day, she turned that same academic lens on men's dating profiles.

What she found? Thirty-three distinct rhetorical patterns. The Blue Ribbon for Bare Minimum. The Cuddle Bears. The Test-and-Apologize. Patterns that reveal — before the first date — exactly what kind of man you're dealing with.

Over 260,000 women are now using her Burned Haystack Dating Method to stop calculating and start recognizing.

In this episode, Dr. Jennie and I get into all of it — the patterns, the political landscape of dating in 2026, why women are not too picky, and what a genuinely good profile actually looks like. She also shares how she used her own method to find her partner.

You've already seen these profile patterns. This episode will help you interpret them.

If you want to build your own dating strategy from your core values — not someone else's checklist — book a relationship strategy session with me:

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In this episode, I break down exactly how the halo effect shows up in dating, in difficult marriages, and in divorce — and why smart, high-achieving women fall for it just as hard as anyone else. (Maybe harder. Because we're good at building convincing stories.)

A man can pay for every dinner from the first date to the wedding — and still refuse to share anything that matters once you're married. A partner can be a good provider, a good father, and a terrible spouse all at once. These things live together. Your brain doesn't want to hold that complexity. I'm going to help you do it anyway.

I also talk about the flip side — the horn effect — where one weird moment makes you write off someone who might deserve more time. The goal for evaluating a relationship is clarity, not suspicion.

Whether you're dating, inside a hard marriage, or in the middle of a divorce — the most important thing you can do right now is learn to see people as they are, not as you need them to be.

If this episode lands close to home and you want support, book a complimentary relationship strategy session with Sade. Book a strategy session ↗

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In this episode of Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce Podcast, I pull back the curtain on one of the most destructive patterns I see in women who are smart, capable, and completely worn out. I share stories from my own first marriage — including the season I drove to sales calls while six months pregnant so my ex-husband could build a business he never built. I was functioning as his parent, not his partner.

This pattern doesn't disappear after divorce. It follows you into dating. It shows up when you calculate a man's schedule and decide he deserves grace for being unavailable — before he's even taken you on a date. You owe him nothing. Your job is to decide whether he fits your life, not manage the reasons he can't show up for it.

Over-responsibility creates under-responsibility — in your partner and in yourself. While you pour your energy into someone else's growth, your finances, your career, your relationships with your kids, your health — all of it sits on pause. That pause becomes years. Years become your life.

You deserve better than a life built around someone else's potential.

Ready to break this pattern for good? Schedule a relationship strategy session with Sade at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.

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This episode is for the woman who has ever looked back and said, "I knew it. Why didn't I trust myself?"

Sade unpacks why so many women dismiss their own instincts and how that dismissal — not the red flags themselves — leaves them most exposed. Memorizing red flags doesn't protect you. Situational awareness does. When you build that skill, no disguise fools you.

Your nervous system collects data. Fear, discomfort, that "off" feeling — those are not signs you are dramatic or paranoid. They are signals. The problem is that women spend decades in training to ignore those signals, and then wonder why they feel anxious, confused, and stuck.

Sade also names the two fears that keep women frozen: the fear of being wrong and the fear of being right. Both traps lead to the same outcome — doing nothing while things get worse.

The work is the same whether you're dating, married, or navigating divorce. Discernment. Self-leadership. Knowing what a safe relationship looks and feels like. Building your own life and emotional resources.

You didn't choose the conditioning that trained you to doubt yourself. But you can choose differently now.

Ready to build your situational awareness with real support? Schedule a free consultation with Sade at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment

Schedule a consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment.