You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.

Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want.

Think about it like this: imagine a room filled with puppies and kittens—everything you love. But a rattlesnake sits in the corner. You won't enjoy a single puppy because your eye stays locked on that snake. That's how your brain works with dating. One wrong thing captures all your focus while opportunities pass you by.

Women tell me they do everything right, yet feel stuck. I always find their attention lives somewhere else—on past hurt, on people's opinions, on what's not working. Your surface actions don't matter when your mind swirls with fear and frustration underneath.

This year, learn to direct your attention consciously. Stop the exhausting mental loops. Create space for the love life you want.

Ready to redirect your attention and momentum in 2026? Schedule a 90-minute Life Momentum Planning Session at sadecurry.com/info. Limited spots available before the holidays.

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene.

The Four Moves That Changed Everything:

1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.

2. Build Your Network Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.

3. Pivot When You Hear "No" My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A "no" doesn't mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn't about you. It's information.

4. Ask for Help Closed mouths don't get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.

Your next chapter starts with one decision.

Ready to build the confidence and clarity you need—in love and in life? 📞 Schedule your dating consultation call with Sade today.

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?

Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.

Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships with men.

Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.

That's not your childhood trauma. That's decades of programming about what women owe men.

This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.

The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?

Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.

Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That's okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.

You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.

Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?

Schedule a dating consultation call with me and let's map out your path to a relationship that works for you.