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NARCISSISTIC ABUSE RECOVERY | Narcissist, Co-Parenting, Grey Rock Method, Boundaries, Healing, Toxic Relationship

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE RECOVERY | Narcissist, Co-Parenting, Grey Rock Method, Boundaries, Healing, Toxic Relationship

By: Christy Jade - Narcissistic Abuse Coach Grey Rock Coach Gaslighting Expert No Contact Mentor
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Healing Tools for Women

Are you feeling lost after breaking free from a toxic relationship? Are you afraid you will get sucked back in, whether it is with the same narcissist or a new one? Are you ready to finally live in peace?

In this podcast, you will find healing methods and coping solutions to set you free from narcissistic abuse and its effects. My mission is to equip you to become strong and free through confidence building, proven healing methods and finding peace. If you’re ready to say yes to thriving after abuse and stop chasing everything that hasn’t worked for a plan that will- you’re in the right place!

Hey, I’m Christy. A mom, wife and a ruthless narcissist avoider! For years of my life, I went to therapists that didn’t understand narcissism, read generic abuse recovery books and tried things that didn’t help me truly disconnect and break the cycle of narcissistic abuse. I wasted money on tools that didn’t give me lasting results. I finally realized that if I was going to truly disconnect and heal, I had to understand narcissists’ minds and the effects on their victims. After years of education and endless conversations with victims of narcissistic abuse, I created a perfect plan to not just disconnect fully from the current narcissists in my life, but to avoid getting sucked in by future ones, while creating healthy boundaries and healing from the effects of abuse. A life of thriving, not just surviving. And I am ready to share it all with you!

If you are a woman ready to finally find a clear cut plan to stop the cycle and heal from narcissistic abuse -effective solutions that have results that are undeniable: like a peaceful night’s sleep, decreased overwhelm, and unshakable confidence, then this podcast is for you!
Grab that mocha latte, it’s time to dive in.

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Episodes
  • How to Handle the Selfish Label - 3 Fast Fixes (and Glitter Gate?)

    How to Handle the Selfish Label - 3 Fast Fixes (and Glitter Gate?)
    Sep 11 2025
    Ever been called selfish for protecting your peace? In this quick episode, I’ll share 3 powerful tools to reset your mind, body, and spirit—so you can release the guilt and step into your healing with confidence. Links & Resources: 💖 Grab your Copy.Paste.Peace Scripts (normally $37, podcast listeners get them for just $17 with code PEACE): https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 🌟 Ready for deep, 1:1 support? Check out my Reclaiming You Coaching Sessions: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ ---------- TRANSCRIPTS Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Hello, gorgeous queen. Has anyone told you how amazing you look today? I hope they did, but if they did not, I'm here to tell you, you look super fly. Like the super fly is to fly. Super, super fly. Alright, so welcome back to Thrive in five. It is Thursday. So it is that lovely thrive in five day on Tuesday. If you listen to that episode, we dug deep into the word people love to throw around selfish. So today I'm going to give you a quick reset to carry with you anytime. Whenever that guilt spiral tries to creep on in. So look, if someone calls you selfish for walking away from a toxic situation, what they're really saying is you're no longer abandoning yourself for my benefit. (01:12) Or if they're talking about someone you mutually, mutually, like the person you left and you're both friends with them or family, they could also be sticking up for them and saying that you're no longer abandoning yourself for this person's benefit. So that is not selfish, that is self-honoring. I'm going to repeat that again. I'm going to make a post about this line right here. It's not selfish, it is self-honoring. Alright? So every time you choose your piece, repeat this to yourself, okay? And put your chin up, shine your crown and say, I'm not being selfish, I am being healthy. We talked about this in Tuesday's episode as well, but we need to repeat it. Alright? So when the guilt hits, let's say it's still coming in, your nervous system feels it. You get that kind of anxious feeling, you're tight chested your shoulders may be a little tense. Try this quick somatic reset. All right? You can put your hand on your heart, inhale through the nose for two counts, and then exhale for four. And you do that a few times and then whisper, I'm safe, I'm healing, I'm free. And that longer exhale tells your body we okay? Now. (02:48) So remember, your boundaries aren't about controlling them. You're not being selfish. It's not about them and what you're taking from them or doing for yourself instead of them, it's just about protecting you, which is different from very self-serving actions like the greedy selfishness. That's not what you're doing here. You're literally protecting yourself. That loud pushback you get when you stop abandoning yourself. That's noise. That's the BS we talked about Tuesday. Let it bounce off your golden sparkly wall of protection. Okay? So I want you guys to, seriously, when you think about your boundaries, I want you to picture them as a beautiful golden glitter wall around you. How can you feel guilty about that? That's just glorious. Okay? So you are protecting your queen age with every right to do so. Okay? So this week, anytime someone throws that selfish label your way, or maybe you're just replaying what they have said in the past, we're known to do that, aren't we? (04:03) Right? Just smile. If they say it to you silently, thank them in your mind, okay? Yeah, you're right. I'm putting up this glitter, glittery, glitter. That's not a word. Glittery gold wall around me. And it's proof that you're not playing small anymore, that you're not going to be held under the thumb of a narcissist controlled by a narcissist walking on their eggshells. No, no, you are not selfish. You are brave enough to stop being their puppet, okay? You're not a puppet, you're a queen. Do I have to reiterate that with the gold wall? The gold crown, all the gold. Okay? So hopefully this helps. If not, there's plenty more somatic tools you can go through on my podcast every Thursday. Just go to any of the Thursday Thrive in five episodes and I will have more coming to you. We're going to get into some different stuff. (05:15) So make sure, actually, speaking of which, you have lots of fun stuff coming through soon. So go make sure you're following my podcast, okay? You do that by scrolling to my main page, whether it's on Apple, Podbean, wherever, and look for the little area. I don't know where it is on each platform, but it should be fairly obvious. And say follow. Click it so you don't miss an episode. And also all my fun things, right? Check out the description, the show notes. We have the ways to work with me, which is like if you really, you want to talk ...
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  • You’re Not Selfish: The Truth About Healing After Toxic Love

    You’re Not Selfish: The Truth About Healing After Toxic Love
    Sep 9 2025
    Have you ever been called selfish for leaving a toxic relationship… or for finally saying NO? You’re not alone — and you’re not selfish. In this empowering episode, Christy Jade unpacks why women are labeled selfish after walking away from toxic love, and how to reframe those accusations as proof you’re actually healing. You’ll learn: ✅ Why abusers (and even family) weaponize the word “selfish” ✅ The truth about protecting your peace after toxic love ✅ A simple script + somatic reset to stop the guilt spiral ✨ Special Listener Offer: Need the exact words to shut down drama and protect your peace? My brand-new Copy.Paste.Peace Scripts give you ready-to-use responses for co-parents, toxic exes, family, or anyone trying to guilt-trip you. No more freezing up or second-guessing — just calm, confident replies that stop the chaos before it starts. They’re normally $37, but as a podcast listener, you can grab them today for just $17 with code PEACE → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/?coupon=PEACE 💖 Join the Community: Connect with other women healing from narcissistic abuse inside my free private Facebook group → https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 👑 Work With Me 1:1: Ready to go deeper? Book a Reclaiming You coaching session and get personalized support to heal, rise, and rebuild → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello, gorgeous queen. You are looking beautiful today by the way. Just a side note. Alright, so we're going to talk about being selfish today. Okay? Have you ever been called selfish for walking away from your toxic situation? Whether it was a romantic situation, walking away from a family member or a lifelong friend, just someone at church, whatever it is, we're going to set the record straight. You are not selfish, okay? Protecting your peace after toxic anything is one of the most courageous and healing things you can do for yourself. So we'll dive in. Stay tuned. (00:41) Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear. Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christy wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there. And let's cue your royal glow up. (01:39) One of the most common things I hear from women who have actually left the toxic relationship is they said, I'm selfish or I'm cold, right? So this could be your ex, maybe it's your own mom, maybe it's someone from your church community, someone in your workspace if you quit a job and it stings because deep down you've already given so much. But here's the truth, women who finally stand up and say, I cannot do this anymore, almost always get slapped with the label of selfish, cold, or even narcissistic themselves. Why? Well, because abusers and controlling people need to keep you in their system. And one of the easiest ways to guilt you back in is to make you question your goodness. So if you're a caring, empathetic woman, which you are, they know that calling you selfish will hit you right in the heart. They know that is your soft spot because that's actually your comfort, your pride in yourself is that you're not selfish. (02:53) You are an empath. You are giving and caring, and you do put people often before yourself. You're finally putting yourself first because you absolutely rock bottom, have to. And now they're going to twist it to call you selfish or a narcissist, right? Sometimes it's not even the abuser, usually it is, but it can also be outsiders. It can be mutual friends with the abuser. It can be family like other family members. If it's a family member, friends, people in religious circles who have been taught women should sacrifice endlessly no matter what. They don't get it. Or they've also bought into the idea that if you're not pouring yourself out 24 7, you're failing. And that's just a no. We're in 2025. People welcome. Okay? So let me tell you, being called selfish in those moments, it's not a sign you're doing something wrong. It's a sign you're finally doing something, right? (03:56) So you know what? From now on when someone says selfish, just say thank you in your head. Thanks. Because you know why they're saying it. It's for their own selfish reasons. It's not actually about you, okay? It's often just the word people...
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  • A 5-Minute Practice to Quiet Self-Doubt After Narcissistic Abuse

    A 5-Minute Practice to Quiet Self-Doubt After Narcissistic Abuse
    Sep 4 2025
    When self-doubt creeps in—“Did I overreact? Am I being too much?”—it’s easy to spiral. In this mini-episode, I’ll guide you through a simple 5-minute somatic practice to calm your body, quiet the guilt loop, and anchor back into your truth. 👑 Resources & Links Mentioned in this Episode ✨ Freebie: Grab your Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 💻 Coaching: Work with me 1:1 to reclaim your peace & power: Reclaiming You Session (90-min) → 00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to Take a breath Queen, this one's for you. Hey Queen, welcome to your Thrive in five, your quick reset to calm the chaos and reclaim your sparkle. Yes, it looks so good on you. Alright, if you caught Tuesday's episode, which was called Still Doubting Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse, here's how to break the cycle. Then we talked about why the narcissist trains you to question yourself and how to rebuild that self-trust. Well, today I've got a somatic practice you can use anytime that doubt creeps in, think of it as a five minute body reset to quiet that guilt loop and anchor back into your truth. Alright, so step one, name the doubt. Start by simply naming the thought or question running in your head. (01:07) Maybe it's, did I overreact or am I being too much? Say it out loud or whisper it if you must or scream it on the top of a hill. Naming it gives it less power. It stops being this swirl that's on loop in your head and becomes something you can actually observe. And we do a lot of this in somatic healing. If you've done sessions with me, we can beat the observer of things, which helps heal them. It puts a light on them, helps heal them, helps us move in a different direction, have a different perspective. So even just naming it is a step in the right direction. So number two, you can do a body. You can place one hand on your chest or stomach and take a slow grounding breath in through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. This is a halo breath. And ask yourself, what is my body feeling right now? Is it tightness? Is it fear? Is it calm? What's going on in there? This pulls you into the present moment instead of letting your mind spin in the past, right? So it's that present moment, body check-in. Step three, the truth anchor. Okay, so here's where we shift the energy. Repeat after me or you can make it your own. If I set this boundary, it's because I needed peace. (02:43) Peace is not wrong, right? Let's say that last part again. Peace is not wrong, it's right, okay? And you keep breathing slowly as you repeat it. Letting nervous system soak in its truth. You can swap in your own phrase like protecting myself is love, or my feelings are valid. That's a huge one that we really need to reiterate to ourselves after going through abuse. Alright, then step four, a visual reset. So look around the room and find one comforting thing to rest your eyes on. It could be a candle, a favorite mug, a photo that makes you smile. I have a palm tree in my bedroom and that is my favorite place to focus when I'm trying to do a visual reset. I love palm trees, I love the beach. It just brings me to that happy space. So find whatever happy, comforting object you can and let your gaze stay in there. (03:54) Stay there until your body softens. So just keep staring. Might feel weird at first, but just let your gaze stare and eventually your body will soften, you will relax more. Your nervous system is focusing on this comforting thing, this comforting feeling. And it's starting to say, I'm safe. I'm safe in this moment. I'm safe with my palm tree. So look, the narcissist may have trained you to doubt yourself. Yeah, they did. But every time you pause, you breathe, you anchor in your truth, not their narrative. You're retraining your body to trust you again. So you can practice this anytime that your self-doubt sneaks in and save this episode. These little thrive in fives are great to just play. Any time you're having spinning out in your head or your body feels tense, any mind, body, spirit, deflation is a great time to just come back to one of your saved episodes. (05:14) That's why I try to make them nice and quick, but effective. So if you Miss Tuesday's full episode, definitely you want to go back and listen to that because pairing these insights with the somatic support is how you really break the cycle. I talk about the mindset and the somatic side. So we do a lot of the mindset and discussing the why's and how's and more logistical stuff on those Tuesday episodes. And then Thursday it's all about the body because the body remembers. So we want to rewire, reset and just chill the hell out and sparkle. Alright, so you guys, you're not broken. You're not damaged. You're that solid gold block that just got a bunch of shit poured all over you, a bunch of dirt and mud, and...
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