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Life Bite Series. We all at times go through some sort of struggle. It doesn't matter what it is, to us it is very real and we feel very much the implication of what that struggle means to us. Our struggle may be greater or lesser than those around us but that serves no place in how we feel nor how we deal with it. The good news is that we are far more resilient than we think we are and we overcome it all and come out the other end ready to join life on better terms than before, even if in somewhat different ways.

Life Bites Series. We all need love in our lives whether it comes from our parents, best friend, significant other. We are a love based race, take love away from it and we are no better than robots or drones. Love makes us feel special and wanted and gives us a purpose. Love is a natural process as it is inherent within us. Some however find that love is a difficult thing to manage and become frightened that all may disappear.

Life Bites Series. Relationships of all sorts whether they are personal friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, neighbours or those significant others need working on. You cannot take any relationship for granted then expect it to stay the same forever, it just doesn't exist. A relationship is give and take, it doesn't have to be 50/50 it can even be 90/10 provided it equals 100 then it is a success.

Life Bite Series. Loneliness can be very debilitating. You can feel lonely right in the middle of a bunch of friends and family that love you. You don't have to isolated to be lonely. However the most common cause of loneliness is a degree of selfishness, a selfishness that thinks of oneself more than sharing with others. It can even become habitual and self consuming so that one lives in a bubble of "all about me" and then starts to feel that "I can't be bothered" or "it will be late" or "An excuse here" and so on.

Life Bite Series. We need to take ownership of our lives otherwise life will literally drag us where it wants to go which is more likely nowwhere near where we want to go. We don't need to let others decide for us what we want either just because they think it is a good idea or things to do. You don't have to be loud or bombastic, just be yourself with a clear and straightforward resolve as to what you want to do, or if you don't know at least you know what you don't want to do.

Life Bites Series. Happiness should be with us 24/7, even if it isn't at full steam it should be with us otherwise it means we are looking at the darker side of life which will not do. Postponing Happiness is when we chose some other point in life such as a holiday or when the children go back to school or whatever it is so that after that event all will be fine.

Life Bites Series. Selfishness is not a very nice trait to have. The result of selfishness can lead to loneliness, illness, being cranky, having no friends, missing out in life, isolation and disrespecting yourself. Strangely enough it is selfish people that think they are generous and the generous think they haven't given enough. Selfish people always stand back in life unless something is free then they are at the head of queue, they become mean and calculating in everything they do.

Life Bite Series. Good communications are paramount if we are to enjoy life, feel good, be happy, understand where we are and those around us. We all know those who are bad communicators in life because they expect everyone else to call them and feel badly done when it doesn't happen. But communications are a two way thing and a lack of communication can lead to you not only being left out in life or lose business but end up lonely and isolated.

Life Bite Series. Blame culture is relatively new, although blame itself is as old as the hills. If we are to make anything from our lives and gain respect we should be able to accept what is and not make excuses as to why it isn't the way it should be or the way we would like it. Life will rarely be the way we want it to be, which doesn't mean that it can't be better. But blaming others who have no control over you or even know you exist is stupid.

It's good to have nice memories, and with them often comes a few not-so-nice events, too, that linger in our mind - it's just the way it is. Time for most of us heals the past so that it is way down the pecking order of our thoughts and thus more recent events keep us bouyant and bright. Certain people and certain events for some however hold on to the past as if it is some kind of justification for life and gives them credibility, etc. Politically correct morons often do this as they are held back in the undercurrent of low life and worthlessness. Life moves forward, we don't have to look back because we don't go that way.

One has to try and enjoy each day and offer no excuses as to why that can't be accomplished. Granted some days are heavy with certain burdens in life that we have to endure, but making them a feature of our lives is purely for the pathetic and stupid. We shouldn't "Postpone Happiness" either, saying that in the future things will get better or look forward to a future date - even if it is valid in itself. Every day is part of our life and we should, as such, make the best of it and be positive. If we start to make excuses as to why we aren't happy then we are on the slippery slope downhill.

Life Bite Series. Being generous is not about wealth, although it could be at times. It is about "giving" of yourself to friends, family and others. It speaks volumes about you and the type of person you are. Giving of your time, experience, knowledge, love, compassion, understanding, listening (an art today as everyone wants to speak), etc. In short helping others.

Life Bite Series. Religions are a construct of God, whichever God you worship. God is the ultime in love. Where love exists there is no evil, it just can't be there in any form. If you worship a God that has evil and killing then ask yourself what is the Devil supposed to do? Religions have been amended, altered, changed, added to over the years and are now commercial aspects of God rather than what God offers.

Life Bites Series. We all get good fortune and at times not so good fortune thrust upon us, how we react and what we make of it is down to us. The vast majority of Lottery winners lose their money from silly spending within 5 years so with good things comes a responsibility and knowledge and not just acting like children in a sweetshop eating all in sight then getting sick very quickly.

Life Bite Series. Our Attitude is a culmination of how we think and feel as well as our perceptions in life. We are viewed by our attitude as we view others by theirs. Our attitude can make us or break us. Good attitudes always come out on top bad attitudes do quite the opposite. The good news is that you control your attitude so you can make it good at any time you wish. This concise 6 min bite deals with just that.

Life Bite Series. Happiness is something that we all have within us, it is nowhere else in life. Despite endless books and CD's and such like happiness is well within our control, farming it out or outsourcing it is a stupid thing to do. Thinking that "out there" someone has the key to happiness is like admitting you are already brain dead. Life may not be swimmingly fabulous every day but that doesn't negate the fact that you have to be unhappy either, unless of course you choose to do so.

Life Bite Series. Bereavement is going to hit us all at some point in our lives. It is the one inevtiable thing that's guaranteed. How we think of death is partly due to our religion and the stilted morbid way that we have been taught about it. Yet if you believe in God then death is not that bad. If "love" was in the equation then it still existes even after death (escept in Islam where love is purely conditional).

Life Bite Series. A Concise look how if not careful we can become embroyled with our circumstances and let them control us as opposed to allowing ourselves to control ourselves regardless of the circumstances. It's often an easy option to blame circumstances or hide behind them as an easy opt out of doing something in life. But it all holds "no water". We should be in control of what we do as circumstances can change in a flash.

Life Bite Series. Failure is an essential aspect of our lives. Possibly not for the ignorant, stupid and pathetic but for everyone else it is. To fail means you have tried and in the process gained knowledge and information for which you get 10/10 for trying. You get nothing for doing nothing. You are if you have failed already a success in life, and whilst things may not have gone as planned you have endured and tried and that is success in a nutshell.

Forgiveness is essential if we are not to burden our minds with events that have passed. It is not always easy but it is essential. Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive it only comes from the strong," and it is so true. The ignorant, those who worship evil religions, and the stupid can never ever forgive as to them it's a lack of face so they harbour hatred and evil and carry it around with them as a moribund justification. Hence they are great failures in life as they can't move on. Anger within hurts yourself more than anything, it's like drinking poison and expecting others to die, it never works.