Episodes

  • The Most Honest Couple on Earth

    The Most Honest Couple on Earth
    Apr 23 2021
    Here's an intimate conversation between husband and wife Marcela and Rock about the obstacles in their marriage of 7 years. It's a fan favorite in The Skin Deep community. It premiered at the Sundance Film Festival. It launched The New Yorker digital channel. It's an incredibly powerful conversation — an incredibly profound story with a profound truth. If you've never heard Marcela and Rock you're in for a treat. Trust me. Play {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    18 mins
  • Navigating the Friend Zone

    Navigating the Friend Zone
    Apr 16 2021
    What's the value of boundaries in friendship? Alberto and Gaby were friends for a while and Alberto started to develop some romantic feelings. Gaby then set the boundaries and made clear they will be friends and not romantic. That actually deepened the relationship. On top of that, they're also sober buddies. As Alberto says, he's been jumping on and off "the sobriety bandwagon." So they're both navigating that challenging journey of sobriety together. They support each other on that path. We all have friends in our lives and we're always navigating those friendships. What's the place for boundaries? This conversation illuminates some beautiful ideas around the meaning of friendship, the commitment of friendship, the payoff of friendship, as it walks its way through the experience of life. Play {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    20 mins
  • A Father Recognizes His Abusive Behavior

    A Father Recognizes His Abusive Behavior
    Apr 9 2021
    11 years together have given Sala & Danette a loving foundation to navigate their blended family and the opportunity to grow intimately with one another along the way. Drop into their moving conversation as they break down the ethos of their connection and Sala reveals an incredibly important realization around behavioral patterns of abuse that he may have never recognized if it weren’t for Danette. Play {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    25 mins
  • They Found Out They Were Adopted

    They Found Out They Were Adopted
    Apr 2 2021
    Teenage brothers Julian and Thomas only found out they were adopted recently. Growing up together all that time without knowing the truth didn't get in the way of them building a strong sibling bond, and now they're figuring out together what family really means. They're questioning everything, facing some health challenges, and realizing they’ll always have each other.  Play {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    20 mins
  • I Feel Desired as a Trans Person

    I Feel Desired as a Trans Person
    Mar 26 2021
    Nicole and Jin are a gender nonconforming couple of trans experience. How are society's labels used against us and how do we allow them to shape us? What is it like to break them? And what do you face when you break them? Nicole and Jin are sharing and supporting each other as they face those challenges. This conversation is incredibly illuminating for those that identify as cisgendered and heteronormative. For those that are gender nonconforming it may reinforce experiences, questions, or feelings they've had. International Transgender Day of Visibility is March 31st and we wanted to share this conversation because it's real, it's raw, and it's honest. It sheds human light on what it means to be transgender today. FROM THE EPISODE: NICOLE: My first memory that I liked a lot was when we went to McDonald's bathroom. I'm going to cry. I felt very safe with you. And I liked that we both used the women's bathroom. And I felt really protective of you when you used the bathroom after I did, because there were men giving you stares and I got really pissed that they were looking at you. And I didn't want you to see that... JIN: Yeah, that was fun. Wasn't it? NICOLE: How do you describe our relationship to others?  JIN: Sometimes I like to say that you're my boyfriend...If they ask, I say, "Yeah, I have a boyfriend. He's really cool. He has a lot of tattoos." NICOLE: That feels good.  JIN: Yeah, I figured you'd like it. NICOLE: Do you ever say "girlfriend"? JIN: No. NICOLE: Do you ever say "partner"? JIN: Yeah. Sometimes. NICOLE: Do you ever say, "My gender nonconforming so-and-so? My trans..."?  JIN: No, I don't feel like that's super relevant or people don't really need to know...or maybe it's that I don't feel like that's my thing to disclose. NICOLE: What would you like me to describe you as, when I'm talking to people? I say "girlfriend" or "partner." JIN: That's fine. Do people see me as a girlfriend? Are you sure?  NICOLE: I'm like, "Isn't she hot?" JIN: What do you get from me that you don't get from your other relationships? NICOLE: I don't get relate-ability on this level...I don't feel reflected in some of my other relationships, meaning the trans part, yeah, we're reflecting each other's lives sometimes. In a way I don't see with like my cis male partners. I feel the femininity portion a lot with you and I also feel...what's the opposite of reflection? I feel like a boy. Not because I think you're a boy, but because I feel like your boy,  JIN: I like that.  NICOLE: That feels good. It feels really good. I hate talking about things in this way, but I want to protect you like a boyfriend. JIN: That's awesome. I think that's cool. I'm a sucker for weirdly internalized patriarchy things, but only in the sense that they make me feel more like a girl. For example, this isn't with you, but with my coworker who is a cis man, he's a little older than me, he's Latin American. So he comes from this machismo sort of experience and certain things that I guess would piss off a typical feminist, he'll just be like, "Hey, mami." Or "Hey, muñeca" and say stuff that's objectifying...it's common sense to be like, "get the f*ck out of here, but at the same time, I kinda I like that. It's weird cognitive dissonance there. Needs some clarifying... — Play {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    21 mins
  • Husband Confesses Last Thoughts on His Deathbed

    Husband Confesses Last Thoughts on His Deathbed
    Mar 19 2021
    Mauricio came very close to death. He's recovering from COVID and in this conversation you'll hear his oxygen machine in the background. Because we just passed the one year anniversary of when COVID was declared a pandemic in the US, we're presenting this conversation between Mauricio and his wife of 20 years, Daysi.  This is somebody whose wife thought he was going to close his eyes for the last time. You'll hear him confess how he spoke to his god and you'll be surprised to hear what came up for him in those last moments. You'll hear what his wife experienced and how she reacted to this experience of facing death and not knowing if her husband would live. It's an honor and a privilege for us that Daysi and Mauricio trusted us and stepped into this space to share their experience. To have more meaningful conversations like you hear in this podcast, try {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    23 mins
  • Sometimes I'm Just a B*tch To My Daughter

    Sometimes I'm Just a B*tch To My Daughter
    Mar 12 2021
    In honor of Women's History Month, here's two unashamedly strong women: mother and daughter, Dorian and Tyla. How honest can you be with your parents? How honest can you be with your children? 18-year-old Tyla has an extremely honest mother — often she thinks Dorian is TOO honest. Dorian says she has a commitment to being truthful, and not "sugar-coating," putting on a face, or playing a role, which she feels doesn't serve anyone, especially her daughter. It's easy to forget just how hard parenting is. Nobody hands you a manual. So you have to use love, respect, and compassion to fumble your way through. TYLA: What is our greatest misunderstanding and what can we do about it? DORIAN: My delivery. But I'm honest. The truth is the truth. Whether you sugarcoat it or whether you just bluntly say it.  TYLA: But people listen more... DORIAN: No they don't. TYLA: I would. DORIAN: No you don't. There are instances where I'm like, "Tyla, could you do this?" or "I suggest this" and you're like, "BUT MOM! I DON'T WANNA DO THIS" So I'm like, "the hell with it." And then I'll be mean and the brutally honest part comes out and that's the part that sticks with you for a few days. But when I was trying to be nice? TYLA: You make me feel so insecure. DORIAN: But I don't mean to. This world is hard, you're going to get your feelings hurt. I feel like why not hurt them first? I don't want to, but I say things in my honest opinion... I love you. I love you to death but not everybody's going to love you. People are going to give you their honest opinion and at least you'll be prepared. But I'll work on it. To have more meaningful conversations like you hear in this podcast, try {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    22 mins
  • 4 Minutes on Womanhood

    4 Minutes on Womanhood
    Mar 8 2021
    To honor International Women's Day, we explored our "database of human conversations" that we make accessible to everyone and highlighted moments exploring womanhood. These are parts of conversations uplifting and supporting women, reflecting on the power of women, and articulating the experience of being a woman. We're presenting this bonus episode on womanhood as a recognition and acknowledgement of the powerful women that surround us. To have more meaningful conversations with your loved ones try {THE AND} Relationship Card Games: TheSkinDeep.com/Store
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    5 mins