Episodes

  • The True Meaning of Authority
    Aug 18 2024

    The concept of authority is frequently confused with harshness and power. The “authoritative” person places themselves in a position of superiority and shows others who is the boss. This causes people to feel humiliated and disrespected. The result is that people either resist defiantly or comply for fear of consequences.

    We receive these messages about authority from our caretakers in our childhood. Many of us were treated from a top-down position by them. We felt hurt, but we learned from them and did the same as they did to us. We pass down to the next generation what was passed down to us. We don't remember how we felt hurt and humiliated by this kind of treatment, and we lose the ability to be empathic to our children and subordinates.

    In this video, Tricia and I introduce a different type of authority. One that is born from a deep sense of respect and belief in the good of the other person. We focus mainly on parenting and how we can change the narrative of power and force to kindness and respect.

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    18 mins
  • The You & I Story
    Jul 2 2024

    In this edition of the Thriving Your Love Podcast, Shalini Dayal, MFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW, speak about their work and how they have shared their knowledge of EFT and John Gottman with therapists in India and other countries.

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    20 mins
  • The South Asian Story
    May 27 2024

    In this special edition of Thriving Your Love, we interview Shalini Dayal, LMFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW. They discuss the importance of tailoring couples therapy to the needs of each culture, in their case, the South Asian community. They raise awareness of the challenges of interracial marriage and the influence of in-laws. They also discuss what made them decide to become therapists and their specialties as couples' therapists.

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    21 mins
  • Being A Responsive Partner
    Apr 21 2024

    We talked about the negative cycle that happens between partners. One partner seeks connection through blame and control, while the other avoids it for fear of being hurt. In this episode, we explain how one partner can bring the other close by being responsive.

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    17 mins
  • Reassurance Soothes Jealousy
    Apr 16 2024

    We talked about how reassurance helps people feel more secure. When people are afraid of losing their attachment figure, reassurance of one's love goes a long way toward helping them feel safe.

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    17 mins
  • Belonging with Your Partner
    Apr 8 2024

    Do you believe you belong with your partner or sometimes feel like an outsider? Many partners don't feel desired by their partners and see themselves as inadequate or not good enough. This may affect their self-esteem because their perception of themselves is tightly connected to how they think their partners see them.

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    18 mins
  • Jealousy
    Mar 24 2024

    Jealousy is caused by fear of losing a significant attachment figure. It may be based on reality or in our imagination. When it's based on reality, it may help us guarantee that we don't lose a loved one. However, if it's in our imagination, we might cause relationship problems. Sometimes, the fear might push the other person away from us instead of bringing them closer.

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    24 mins
  • The Science of Love
    Mar 13 2024

    In this video, we discuss how attachment theory helped us understand love and the need for someone we can count on.

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    25 mins