𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐍𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲?

𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐟𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞.

I've recently been thinking a lot about narcissistic supply-- that is, the things or behaviors that narcissists seek out because they make them feel good about themselves.

Narcissistic supply isn't just the people they have tethered to themselves with damaging behaviors, like gas lighting and abuse.

What if the things that a person needs in order to avoid feeling terrible about themselves (like drugs, high-risk sexual behavior, or even just excessive partying) are harmful to their life? I would say that's narcissistic supply.

I would also say it's highly likely that all of us have experienced some form of connection with someone for whom certain behaviors or relationships (or maybe even certain people) were "supply" - meaning, they made the person feel more important or powerful. And many of us who have had this happen to us can attest - it's not pleasant.

It feels awful, and we don't want more of it. But how do we break the connection? How do we get rid of it?

Most of the time that we aren't aware that it's happening-- and if we are aware, we aren't sure what to do about it.

So in this episode I talk about what narcissistic supply is and why we should be aware of