In this week’s episode I chat with Audrey Davidheiser, licensed psychologist and Certified IFS therapist and IFSI-approved clinical consultant about working with grief and anger through the Internal Family Systems lens.

We discuss:

• How tenacious parts like grief and anger hold on, often because they feel they are protecting something important, like legacy or family loyalty. What can we learn by befriending these tenacious parts rather than fighting them?

• How your cultural background can influence your emotional experience, and how you can work with legacy burdens in your healing process

• Grief as a multi-dimensional experience – it's not just about sadness, but can include anger, regret, or even relief

• Religious Grief and Trauma – how religious trauma can exile parts of ourselves, such as those feeling grief or anger, and the need for compassionate acknowledgment of them

• All parts grieve differently and how to welcome all parts into the grieving process. How can understanding the different ways we grieve help us heal?

• Honoring angry parts – befriend anger by understanding its role in protecting something important

• IFS and Grief – how IFS uniquely holds space for grief

Favorite Quotes:

• “It's not just that everybody grieves differently, but every part of you grieves differently as well.”

• "Angry parts are there because they are protecting something valuable.”

About Audrey Davidheiser:
Audrey Davenheiser is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, and the author of the forthcoming book, Wholehearted Grieving. She specializes in working with trauma survivors, with a focus on grief and spiritual abuse.

Audrey is leading a session at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, October 24-25, 2024, called Working With Grieving Parts.

• Audrey’s website: AimForBreakthrough.com

• Follow Audrey on Instagram: @DrAudreyD

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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In today’s episode I chat with Dr. Natalie Thomas, a psychotherapist and philosopher specializing in climate distress and ecological grief. Natalie, a presenter at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, explains how nature influences our internal parts and the role of Self Energy in healing, both individually and globally. We explore the connection between humans, animals, and the planet, and how slowing down to engage with nature can shift how we relate to ourselves and the world around us.

We discuss:

• How can we reconnect with nature and access our self-energy for healing?
• The concept of ecotherapy, which includes "walk-and-talk" therapy, inter-species healing, and other outdoor- and nature-focused approaches
• How nature can be a third entity (triad) in the therapeutic process
• Simple practices for connecting with Self in nature, including forest bathing and engaging the senses
• Animals have parts too
• What is “inter-species” healing?
• Parts-driven vs. Self-led activism, and how inner healing can lead to more effective, compassionate, and sustainable actions
• Climate Cafes: hosting a safe space for eco-emotional healing

One of my favorite quotes from the episode:

"When we’re in nature, we can access our Self Energy and our parts in a different way—it’s like being part of a larger ecosystem, both inside and out." — Natalie Thomas

To learn more:

• Climate Cafes

• Natalie’s upcoming session on ecotherapy and climate distress at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference.

• Natalie’s article in Parts & Self magazine

• Natalie's website

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.

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On today’s episode I chat with Sacha Mardou, a graphic novelist and artist, known in the IFS community for her IFS-inspired webcomics. In her new graphic memoir, Past Tense, Sacha brings readers along on her deeply personal, years-long journey to heal trauma, uncover legacy burdens, and connect to her true Self.

She began illustrating her IFS and therapy experience privately in her sketchbooks. Those evolved into webcomics vividly depicting her inner system and healing process which she shared with the world through social media, and now in her new graphic memoir.

We discuss:

• How her private therapy session sketches grew into webcomics and a book

• How IFS can shift our inner world and multi-generational family dynamics

• Breaking the chain of legacy burdens for her daughter

• Sharing her family members’ private details and stories in her comics

• Using comics to visually represent the complexity of therapy and inner healing, making the IFS therapy process more tangible, relatable, and approachable for many people

One of my favorite quotes from this episode:

"How many of us carry shame or trauma that isn't even ours to begin with? Legacy burdens, passed down through generations, shape who we are until we take the courageous step to face them." – Sacha Mardou

Sacha will join in a discussion hosted by Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session called, Bringing IFS to Life, where they will discuss how Sacha's comics have helped demystify the IFS therapy process for clients.

You can connect with Sacha on her website, on Facebook and Instagram @Mardou_Draws

Learn more about her new book, Past Tense, here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714479/past-tense-by-sacha-mardou/

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

Enjoy this lovely embodiment meditation led by IFS lead trainer Kay Gardner. And be sure to check out ep. 171: IFS and Legacy Burdens to listen to my full interview with Kay.

My guest today is Mary Kruger, an IFS lead trainer and therapist specializing in addiction and eating disorders. Mary helped develop the IFS Level 2 training for addiction recovery and treatment. This episode is a re-release from Season 2.

Episode Summary:
In this episode Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12-step model.

We explore:

• How can we shift the way we approach addiction, eating disorders, and shame?
• Have traditional approaches to addiction recovery, such as AA or 12-step programs, left us demonizing our behaviors rather than understanding them?
• What happens when we stop viewing addiction as a "moral failure" or "genetic defect" and instead see it as a system out of balance
• What role does shame play in maintaining cycles of addiction, and how can IFS help us unburden that shame?
• How can we learn to work with, not against, our addictive parts?
• Can group work enhance healing by reducing shame and helping us feel connected to others with similar struggles?

One of my favorite quotes from the episode:

"What if we stopped demonizing our addictive behaviors and instead asked, 'What are they trying to teach us?' When we befriend the parts of us that struggle, we unlock the door to true healing."

Mary will host a workshop on October 10 and 11, 2024 with Life Architect on working with polarized parts. Use this link to stay informed and let them know you heard about it on The One Inside: https://bit.ly/ifs-in-group-settings-workshop

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Loch Kelly's Free 90 minute workshop

Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

This episode is sponsored by Life Architect. As the IFS Institute's international partner, they organize IFS training and online workshops about IFS and other therapy modalities for those new to IFS and experienced practitioners alike. Life Architect is committed to advancing the professional development of mental health professionals around the world.

On today's podcast, I chat with Tamala Floyd, a psychotherapist, author, IFS lead trainer, consultant, and retreat leader with over 25 years of experience. Her latest book, "Listening When Parts Speak: A Practical Guide to Healing with Internal Family Systems Therapy and Ancestor Wisdom," focuses on healing personal and generational trauma.

We discuss:

• Ancestor wisdom in personal and generational healing
• Accessing the internal system with guided imagery meditation
• The importance of therapists and practitioners doing their own internal work
• Her love of travel and legacy burden work and combining the two

Mentioned in this episode:

IFS Institute 2024 IFS Annual Conference

Loch Kelly's Free 90 minute workshop

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To find out ALL the amazing things Tamala is doing:

LWPS BIPOC Consultation Group

LWPS BIPOC Retreat: Healing Legacy Burdens with Ancestor Wisdom

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Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside Podcast - YouTube

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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If you are interested in sponsoring episodes of The One Inside please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

On today's episode I chat with Certified IFS Therapist Joanne Twombly. This episode, which premiered in Season 3, is one of the most popular and most downloaded of the entire series.

We discuss:

• Why we still need coping skills
• The "Fire Drill" exercise to quickly unblend from parts
• Integrating IFS into Phase Oriented Treatment
• Why diagnosis is helpful - Burdens (and Self!) in Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles
• Safe spaces - Hypnosis and trance states

TW: We discuss trauma in this episode. There is discussion about 49 minutes into the episode that may be upsetting to some.

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Get Joanna's book here: Trauma and Dissociation Informed Internal Family Systems: How to Successfully Treat C-PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders: https://a.co/d/icIF2ja

Joanne wrote a chapter entitled "Integrating Phase Oriented Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Disorders" in the IFS: New Dimensions book, found here: https://a.co/d/aMQWiMJ

Learn more about Joanne here: https://joannetwombly.net/

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 Practitioner.

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.

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If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Pisgah Coaching