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  • 131: Breaking Free from the Nice Guy Syndrome with Coach Raph

    131: Breaking Free from the Nice Guy Syndrome with Coach Raph
    Nov 27 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton and men's relationship coach Coach Raph delve into the complexities of modern relationships, focusing on the challenges men face in dating and maintaining healthy partnerships. They discuss the importance of personal responsibility, the impact of past experiences on current relationships, and the necessity of establishing boundaries. Coach Raph shares insights on breaking the 'nice guy syndrome' and emphasizes that kindness must be paired with boundaries to foster healthy relationships. The conversation highlights the significance of emotional intelligence and self-awareness in navigating romantic connections. In this conversation, Coach Raph and Ted Phaeton delve into the intricacies of relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding love languages, establishing boundaries, and defining personal values. They discuss the significance of time management in relationships, the necessity of having a structured routine, and the role of accountability in maintaining boundaries. The dialogue also explores the power struggle phase in relationships and how embracing pain can lead to personal growth and deeper connections. Takeaways Modern men often lack the resources for healthy relationships. Men need a safe space to discuss their emotional struggles. Personal responsibility is crucial in relationships. Breaking the nice guy syndrome is essential for growth. Establishing boundaries is key to maintaining respect. Kindness must be paired with boundaries for effective communication. Women appreciate men who are disciplined and stick to their routines. Setting boundaries can lead to stronger relationships. It's important to allow partners to feel their emotions. Men should prioritize their mission and purpose in life. Understanding love languages helps in effective communication. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining personal time. A structured routine allows for better relationship management. Accountability from partners reinforces personal boundaries. Identifying personal values is essential before establishing boundaries. Positive traits in a partner should align with personal values. The power struggle phase is a natural part of relationships. Embracing pain can lead to personal growth and resilience. Communication during conflicts strengthens relationships. Self-care is vital for maintaining healthy relationships. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 02:04 Understanding Men's Relationship Challenges 05:51 The Importance of Personal Responsibility in Relationships 11:53 Breaking the Nice Guy Syndrome 17:53 Establishing Boundaries in Relationships 23:47 The Power of Kindness with Boundaries 30:46 Understanding Love Languages and Time Management 32:13 Establishing Boundaries in Relationships 34:36 The Importance of Structure and Routine 36:41 Setting Personal Boundaries and Accountability 39:38 Defining Values and Establishing Boundaries 42:19 Identifying Positive Traits in a Partner 47:41 Navigating the Power Struggle Phase 53:55 Embracing Pain as a Path to Growth Coach Raph’s Links: Instagram: raph_youcalm Threads: @raph_youcalm Youtube: @raph_youcalm Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    58 mins
  • 130: The Active Dad Movement with Modd Torrance

    130: The Active Dad Movement with Modd Torrance
    Nov 20 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, Ted Phaeton speaks with Modd Torrance, founder of Active Dad, about the importance of community and support among fathers. They discuss the challenges and joys of fatherhood, the significance of fitness, and the need for vulnerability in male relationships. Modd shares his journey of creating a space for dads to connect, learn, and grow together, emphasizing the impact of shared experiences and the importance of affirming one another in their roles as fathers. Takeaways Active Dad was founded to create a community for fathers. Fatherhood lacks support systems compared to motherhood. Building relationships with other dads is crucial. Fitness provides clarity and mental health benefits. New fathers should give themselves grace and adjust their plans. Involving kids in fitness promotes active lifestyles. Community helps fathers feel less isolated. Vulnerability is key to forming strong male bonds. Life is too short; pursue your purpose. Affirmation among fathers can significantly impact their confidence. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Active Fatherhood 02:29 The Birth of Active Dad 05:02 Impact of Active Dad on Fatherhood 07:29 Building Community Among Dads 10:00 The Importance of Vulnerability 12:43 Fitness as a Foundation for Fatherhood 15:54 Advice for New Fathers 18:11 Encouraging Active Lifestyles for Kids 22:18 Surprising Revelations in Fatherhood 26:31 Living a Purposeful Life 39:03 Connecting with the Active Dad Community 40:30 Lessons from Loss and Life's Impermanence Modd’s Links: Website: www.theactivedad.com Instagram: _activedad LinkTree: Rleetorrance Merch: https://the-active-dad-brand.myshopify.com/ Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    49 mins
  • 129: Building Your Brand: The Key to Success for Men with Michael Sartain

    129: Building Your Brand: The Key to Success for Men with Michael Sartain
    Nov 13 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton engages with Michael Sartain, a retired U.S. Air Force captain and founder of Men of Action. They discuss Michael's journey from military service to building a successful brand and community focused on self-improvement for men. Key themes include the importance of social dynamics, networking, personal branding, and actionable strategies for men to enhance their lives and relationships. Michael emphasizes the significance of taking action, understanding intersexual dynamics, and the role of leadership in both personal and professional contexts. The conversation also touches on behavioral activation therapy as a means to combat depression and the necessity of maintaining a strong social presence. Takeaways Building a personal brand is essential for success. Social media presence can significantly impact dating and networking. Men should focus on taking action to improve their lives. Understanding intersexual dynamics is crucial for dating success. Creating a strong social circle can enhance opportunities. Behavioral activation therapy can help combat depression. Leadership skills are vital in both dating and career. Having female friends can improve social dynamics for men. Men need to be aware of their attractiveness and status. The present moment is key to personal growth and happiness. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 01:19 Michael Sartain's Journey and Experiences 05:32 The Concept of Social Circles and Networking 07:55 Building a Comprehensive Self-Improvement Program 19:33 Intersexual Dynamics and Social Proof 30:32 Behavioral Activation Therapy and Taking Action 51:40 The Importance of Abundance and Leadership 56:32 Life Lessons from Personal Tragedy Michaels Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelsartain/ Skool: https://www.skool.com/men-of-action-free Website: https://www.moamentoring.com/ Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • 128: Resilience Strategies for Men with Brian Reeves

    128: Resilience Strategies for Men with Brian Reeves
    Nov 6 2024

    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton engages in a deep conversation with Brian Reeves, a former U.S. Air Force captain turned relationship coach. They explore authenticity, vulnerability, and the importance of real conversations among men. Brian shares his transformation journey, emphasizing the need for men to connect, support each other, and navigate life's challenges together. The discussion also delves into the complexities of relationships, conflict resolution, and the evolving definition of masculinity in today's world. Brian highlights the significance of community and trust, encouraging men to embrace their emotions and seek help when needed. The episode concludes with practical strategies for resilience and personal growth, reinforcing the idea that true strength lies in vulnerability and connection.

    Takeaways

    • Authenticity is crucial in conversations among men.
    • Men often bypass grief to seek immediate relief.
    • Building a trusted network is essential for support.
    • Conflict in relationships is normal and can be navigated.
    • Real conversations can lead to deeper connections.
    • It's important to acknowledge when life is hard.
    • The magic in relationships lies in the repair process.
    • Men need to explore their definitions of masculinity.
    • Safety and danger can coexist in healthy masculinity.
    • Community support can help men feel less alone.

    Chapters

    01:00 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast

    02:27 Meet Brian Reeves: A Journey of Transformation

    04:21 The Importance of Authenticity and Vulnerability

    06:12 Navigating Life's Challenges: Strategies for Resilience

    12:18 The Role of Real Conversations in Men's Lives

    16:21 Building Trust and Support Networks

    21:31 The Power of Community and Connection

    23:05 From Military to Coaching: Brian's Transition

    27:19 The Impact of Relationships on Personal Growth

    31:18 Understanding Conflict in Relationships

    35:22 Skills for Navigating Relationship Challenges

    40:17 Exploring Masculinity and Identity

    43:42 The Balance of Safety and Danger in Manhood

    49:30 Conclusion

    Bryan’s Links:

    Website: bryanreeves.com

    TikTok: @bryanreevesinsight

    Facebook: bryanreevesofficial

    Youtube: BryanReevesOfficial

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    59 mins
  • 127: Strategies for Responsible Gambling with Dr. Michael Orkin

    127: Strategies for Responsible Gambling with Dr. Michael Orkin
    Oct 30 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton engages with Dr. Michael Orkin, a distinguished professor and author, to explore the intricate world of chance, probability, and gambling. They discuss the fundamental principles of gambling, the dynamics of sports betting, and the psychological aspects that make gambling captivating. Dr. Orkin shares insights from his book, 'The Story of Chance,' emphasizing the importance of understanding expected value and money management in betting. The conversation also touches on the distinction between luck and skill in gambling, providing listeners with valuable advice for responsible gambling practices. Takeaways
    • Gambling games serve as a metaphor for randomness in life.
    • Understanding chance and probability is crucial in gambling.
    • Never bet more than you can afford to lose.
    • Craps and roulette are games of pure chance.
    • Blackjack involves conditional probabilities and strategies.
    • Various changing factors influence sports betting.
    • Gut feelings in sports betting can be informed by knowledge.
    • Skillful sports bettors can outperform luck.
    • Money management is essential for successful betting.
    • The psychology of intermittent rewards can lead to addiction.

    Chapters

    00:13 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast
    02:44 Understanding Chance and Probability in Gambling
    10:43 The Dynamics of Sports Betting
    17:12 Luck vs. Strategy in Gambling
    21:05 The Role of Skill in Sports Betting
    28:14 The Psychology of Gambling and Chance
    32:48 Insights from 'The Story of Chance'
    38:08 Advice for Responsible Gambling

    Dr. Orkins Links:

    LinkedIn: Dr. Mike Orkin

    Book: Dr. Mike Orkin

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    56 mins
  • 126: Purpose at Work: Why It Matters with Davin Salvagno

    126: Purpose at Work: Why It Matters with Davin Salvagno
    Oct 23 2024
    In this episode of The Modern Man Podcast, host and guest Davin Salvagno explores the concept of purpose, its importance in personal and professional life, and how to cultivate it. They discuss the idea of multiple purposes, the significance of being present, and the impact of work on overall fulfillment. Davin shares insights on the 'thieves of purpose' that can hinder individuals from stepping into their true potential and emphasizes the journey toward significance over mere success. In this conversation, the host and guest explore the profound impact of purpose on individual lives and organizations. They discuss the Purpose Summit, a platform designed to connect people amplify their voices, and share personal stories that highlight the importance of finding and living one's purpose. The discussion emphasizes that it's never too late to discover purpose, the significance of measuring life by its impact on others, and the necessity of being intentional in our pursuits. Takeaways Life should be measured by the impact we have on others. Community and support are essential in pursuing potential. Purpose is defined as the reason for being, distinct from motivation. Individuals can have multiple purposes that coexist and overlap. Presence is crucial in fulfilling one's purpose. Work plays a significant role in shaping our lives and relationships. Finding joy in any job can provide meaning and purpose. Unique gifts and talents contribute to our purpose, regardless of job title. There are various thieves of purpose that can distract us from our goals. Pursuing significance is more fulfilling than chasing success. It's all about being a faithful steward of time. Success can be found in small, meaningful moments. The Purpose Summit was created to amplify voices. Purpose can transform individuals and organizations alike. It's never too late to find your purpose. Measuring life in faces can bring clarity and fulfillment. Intentionality is key in today's world. Pursuing purpose is worth the discomfort. The ripple effect of purpose can lead to significant change. You have one life; make it count. Chapters 00:00 Measuring Life by Impact 01:07 Introduction to Purpose and Community 02:01 Defining Purpose 04:47 The Concept of Multiple Purposes 07:57 The Importance of Presence 09:49 Purpose in the Workplace 14:08 Cultivating Purpose 16:46 Thieves of Purpose 20:52 The Journey to Significance 24:47 The Impact of Purpose 30:49 The Purpose Summit: A Catalyst for Change 34:40 It's Never Too Late to Find Purpose 37:56 Measuring Life by Faces 40:28 The Worth of Pursuing Purpose Davin's Links: Linkedin:purposepoint Website: www.davinsalvagno.com Facebook: PurposePoint Youtube: PurposePoint Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    48 mins
  • 125: Motivation Beyond the Why with Mick Hunt

    125: Motivation Beyond the Why with Mick Hunt
    Oct 16 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton engages with Mick Hunt, a CEO, keynote speaker, and mental health advocate. They discuss the importance of childhood promises, the significance of motivation through a 'because', and the pillars of the 'Mick Factor' which include mastery, imagination, character, and persistence. Mick emphasizes the need for creating standards in life, being present in the moment, and the importance of legacy. The conversation also touches on decision-making as a crucial skill for success and navigating life's obstacles with resilience. Takeaways
    • Mick made a promise to his mother at age 10 to improve their lives.
    • Childhood experiences shape our motivations and decisions as adults.
    • Understanding your 'because' can drive you to take action.
    • The Mick Factor consists of mastery, imagination, character, and persistence.
    • Creating standards is more important than setting goals.
    • Being present is crucial for personal and family life.
    • Surround yourself with like-minded individuals for growth.
    • Decision-making is key to overcoming obstacles and achieving success.
    • Legacy is about keeping your name clean for future generations.
    • Resilience is built by breaking down big obstacles into smaller tasks

    Chapters

    00:13 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast
    01:23 Meet Mick Hunt: A Journey of Promise
    04:27 The Significance of Childhood Promises
    12:35 Understanding Your 'Because' for Motivation
    19:20 The Mick Factor: Mastery, Imagination, Character, and Persistence
    26:13 Creating Standards for Personal and Professional Life
    33:41 The Modern Man: Presence and Community
    40:57 Legacy: Keeping Your Name Clean
    44:42 Decision Making: The Key to Success

    Micks Links

    Instagram: gbianchini

    Youtube: Modern Leadership with Mick Hunt

    (X) Twitter: MickUnplugged

    LinkedIn: mickhunt

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    52 mins
  • 124: The Power of Inner Clarity in Leadership with GS Youngblood

    124: The Power of Inner Clarity in Leadership with GS Youngblood
    Oct 9 2024
    In this episode of the Modern Man Podcast, host Ted Phaeton engages with men's coach and author GS Youngblood to explore the themes of masculinity, relationships, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of being grounded, the masculine blueprint for healthy relationships, and the detrimental effects of 'Nice Guy Energy'. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to cultivate emotional connection and leadership within their relationships, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. GS Youngblood discusses the importance of inner clarity and emotional leadership in relationships. He emphasizes that true leadership begins with understanding oneself and being grounded, which allows men to navigate conflicts effectively and create emotional safety for their partners. Youngblood also highlights the significance of embodiment practices to manage anxiety and trauma, and he encourages men to take responsibility for their relational dynamics. The discussion covers practical advice for single men preparing for relationships and the broader benefits of embodying a masculine blueprint in various aspects of life, including career and friendships. Takeaways The journey of personal growth often starts from within. Groundedness is essential for effective leadership in relationships. Emotional connection is key to maintaining peace at home. Daily practices of embodiment can help settle the nervous system. Nice Guy Energy can undermine attraction and relationship dynamics. A healthy masculine embodies leadership and emotional safety. Men need to be aware of their own needs to avoid resentment. Relationships thrive on mutual leadership and connection. Understanding the masculine blueprint can enhance relational success. Iron sharpens iron; community support is vital for growth. Leadership starts with inner clarity and self-awareness. Men often react instead of lead due to lack of inner clarity. Emotional leadership involves feeling and supporting your partner's emotions. Creating emotional safety is crucial for healthy relationships. Groundedness in men can enhance attraction and connection. Practicing embodiment helps manage anxiety and emotional intensity. Stop blaming your partner; take responsibility for your role. Emotional safety in teams leads to better productivity. Small changes in behavior can lead to significant improvements in relationships. Self-discovery through writing can reveal areas for personal growth. Chapters 00:13 Introduction to the Modern Man Podcast 01:17 The Journey of GS Youngblood 03:24 Understanding Masculinity in Relationships 06:33 The Masculine Blueprint Explained 08:53 Groundedness: The Foundation of Masculine Energy 11:20 Leadership: Leaning into Your Role 12:31 Nice Guy Energy: The Attraction Killer 12:32 The Noble Knights Martermind Commercial 13:00 The Foundation of Leadership: Inner Clarity 15:09 Navigating Conflict with Emotional Leadership 18:37 The Importance of Embodiment in Relationships 22:17 Preparing for Relationships: Groundedness and Leadership 24:45 Empowering Young Men: Taking Responsibility 27:21 Benefits of the Masculine Blueprint Beyond Relationships 29:55 First Steps for Men Feeling Overwhelmed 31:35 Self-Discovery Through Writing and Reflection GS Youngblood Links: Website: www.gsyoungblood.com Instagram: gsyoungbloodmir Facebook: gsyoungblood1 Youtube: @gsyoungblood8437 Relationship Repair Bootcamp: Bootcamp Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://rebrand.ly/m2ebook ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernmanpodcast.com/thenobleknights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: themodernmanshow.com Follow us on Twitter: TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: @TheModernManShow Subscribe to our YouTube channel: The Modern Man
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    39 mins