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  • 1414: Ex Cheated and Retreated, Now Custody’s Heated | Feedback Friday

    1414: Ex Cheated and Retreated, Now Custody’s Heated | Feedback Friday
    Nov 13 2026
    Your ex blew up your family and now barely parents. Is full custody the holy grail, or just a faster way for everyone to fail? Welcome to Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1414On This Week's Feedback Friday:You found your wife in bed with the best friend you’d been told never to worry about — then learned it was a five-year affair. Now you have your daughters five days a week, pay support, and watch your eldest sob every Friday. Is it time to fight for full custody, or would that only make things worse?A good friend asked you to be his best man, and you said yes without hesitation. But the friend you’ve known since kindergarten has always been the brother you’d pick for your own wedding someday. Do you owe the first friend the same honor in return, or does each friendship call for its own answer?You enjoy the show, but hearing the same Avocado mattress ad three times within 120 seconds has you ready to lose your mind — and it keeps happening on other podcasts too. Is this a deliberate memory trick from advertisers, or is something more technical going on behind the scenes?Recommendation of the Week: More/Less Protein Gummies (Use code JORDAN for up to up to 35% off your first order) — five gummies pack 10 grams of protein into just 60 calories, no shaker or fridge required. Jordan loved the prototype so much he invested in the company. Will a bag last longer in your pocket than it does around his kids?You finally moved in with your older boyfriend after a long legal saga, and those unpacked boxes were supposed to hold a fresh start. Then came a stage 4 cancer diagnosis. How do you handle sudden tears in public, keep your friends close, and find the stamina to care for him over the long haul?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Xero: Find out more: xero.comProgressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.comQuince: Free shipping & 365-day returns: quince.com/jordanWayfair: Start renovating: wayfair.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 18 mins
  • 1413: Attia Qureshi | Master Big Negotiations by Practicing Small Ones

    1413: Attia Qureshi | Master Big Negotiations by Practicing Small Ones
    Nov 12 2026

    From cartel bosses to cranky neighbors, Attia Qureshi explains how to build negotiation muscle memory in 30 seconds a day — before the stakes get high.

    Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1413

    What We Discuss with Attia Qureshi:

    • How Attia stood up to a cartel-linked boss derailing a Colombian farming cooperative with a drone, and why showing strength works against bad-faith actors while relational negotiation that meets everyone’s needs wins the other 95 percent of the time.
    • Why small, no-strings gestures of reciprocity (like a box of cherries) can thaw even a hostile relationship and pave the way for a big ask — and the simple test that separates influence from manipulation: would they be upset if you told them exactly what you were doing?
    • Why the “conqueror mentality” and worst-case-scenario thinking keep so many of us from ever making the ask — like the client who took on two promotions’ worth of responsibility over 18 months without getting the title or raise to match.
    • What makes knowing the other side’s interests the silver bullet of any negotiation, how to uncover them by voicing tentative guesses and asking where you’re wrong, and why making two offers you’d happily accept reveals what they value most.
    • How to train negotiation like the performance skill it is: practice one technique for 30 seconds a day where a no won’t wreck your day, recruit a buddy for accountability, and escalate deliberate rejection from off-menu orders to discount asks to haggling at a car dealership.
    • And much more...

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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • 1412: Leo Mann | Don't Sign That Contract Before You Listen to This

    1412: Leo Mann | Don't Sign That Contract Before You Listen to This
    Nov 10 2026
    Four seconds of awkwardness or $7,000 in regret? Lawyer Leo Mann reveals how to spot (and strike) contract traps before you sign on the dotted line.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1412What We Discuss with Leo Mann:Why the most boring, “standard” contract language is often the most dangerous — and how four stacked psychological traps (social awkwardness, a decision that feels already made, the authority gap, and manufactured confusion) keep smart people from reading what they sign.How a salesperson’s verbal promises can vanish the moment you sign, thanks to integration (or merger) clauses — and why anything you were told out loud needs to be written into the contract before your pen ever touches the paper.What employees should know about invention assignment agreements and non-competes — from listing preexisting side projects (even ideas) on the PIIA schedule to negotiating more consideration, a shorter term, and a narrower scope.How car dealerships make most of their money in the finance room through stretched loan terms, pricey add-ons, and fake deadlines — and why negotiating price, trade-in, down payment, and financing separately (or bringing your own financing) keeps them honest.How a 20-minute contract audit can save you thousands: search for words like “automatically,” “terminate,” and “reserve the right to,” calendar every cancellation deadline, and remember that almost any term is negotiable if you’re willing to ask — or walk away.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Article: Visit article.com/jordan for $50 off your first purchase of $100 or moreBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanBoll & Branch: 15% off first set of sheets: bollandbranch.com, code JORDANCometeer: Go to cometeer.com/jordan for a free 8-pack and travel mug when you sign upSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 42 mins
  • 1411: Banned Books | Skeptical Sunday

    1411: Banned Books | Skeptical Sunday
    Nov 8 2026
    On this Skeptical Sunday, Nick Pell reads between the lines of banned book lists to show how outrage moves units — and what real censorship looks like.Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined byFull show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1411On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:Why most so-called banned books aren’t banned at all — they’ve been challenged, moved to another shelf, or pulled from a school, yet remain on Amazon. No US book has faced a legality trial since Naked Lunch in 1966, while the Bible is outlawed in nearly 60 countries.How underground cartoonist Mike Diana became a rare modern exception: convicted in Florida in 1994 over his comic zine Boiled Angel, barred from drawing anything obscene even for himself, and subjected to warrantless searches — yet his work never appears on banned-book displays.Why the real fight is over who decides what kids read: Florida’s laws let residents without kids challenge school library books, which are often pulled during review, while the Supreme Court’s Pico ruling says schools can’t remove books simply for the ideas they contain.How the old banned in Boston effect still sells books: a challenge lifts a title’s public library circulation by about 12%, Maus hit #1 on Amazon after being challenged in Tennessee, and marketers have long staged protests to make readers crave forbidden fruit.How to read between the lines: check whether a banned book is actually unavailable, save your outrage for real censorship like the death threats against Salman Rushdie, read troubling books to understand and counter their ideas, and turn controversies into age-appropriate talks with kids.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Sequencing: 10% off: sequencing.com, code JHSConciergeMD: 20% off all services/memberships: conciergemdla.com/jordan, code JORDANFlyKitt: 15% off: flykitt.com, code JORDANThe Cybersecurity Tapes: Listen here: thecybersecuritytapes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 16 mins
  • 1410: Age-Gap Beau Wins Over Dad; His Kids Still Mad | Feedback Friday

    1410: Age-Gap Beau Wins Over Dad; His Kids Still Mad | Feedback Friday
    Nov 6 2026
    Love won over your skeptical dad, but his adult kids still treat you like an interloper. Is it about you, or the inheritance? Welcome to Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1410On This Week's Feedback Friday:A year and a half ago, you were torn between your older Australian boyfriend and a family convinced it was all daddy issues, so you wrote us for some advice (episode 1187). Now you’re back with an update involving a courtroom, a secret house, and one very surprising convert — but his kids are still icing you out. Can the last holdouts ever be won over?You keep 100 greenhouses running by day, and in your off-hours you’ve built a working prototype that solves one of the industry’s most nagging problems. A friend could help you sell it, but the business side is a total mystery. LLC, patent, contracts — what do you actually need, and when do you need it?Four months ago, a company snapped you up with a 50%-plus raise for your niche skills — then filled your role with contractors who know things you don’t. Now you’re stuck on vague “pathfinder” tasks and bracing for a termination letter. Should you retrain, take a pay cut, or is there a smarter move?Recommendation of the Week: Only the Lonely — Gabe’s YouTube find, a short documentary by Violet Du Feng that follows young men in China, including a delivery driver, trying to find love in a country with far more men than women. Why did it leave Jordan feeling both heartbroken and riveted?It’s 2006, and Jordan has freshly arrived in New York. He points out a stop to a subway rider with a paper map and two huge cases, who snaps that he’s a local. Jordan keeps chatting anyway — and that weekend, he winds up hauling audio gear into a jaw-dropping upstate estate for a 90th birthday party. So who's playing?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: SimpliSafe Home Security: 60% off: simplisafe.com/jordanGusto: Three months of free payroll: gusto.com/jordanMint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/jhsProgressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • 1409: Lindsay Owens | How Your Own Data Is Used to Overcharge You

    1409: Lindsay Owens | How Your Own Data Is Used to Overcharge You
    Nov 5 2026
    Gouged author Lindsay Owens explains how corporate America reinvented the ripoff with algorithms and surveillance pricing, and how shoppers can fight back.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1409What We Discuss with Lindsay Owens:How price-fixing went digital. RealPage software allegedly let landlords share sensitive data and follow the same rent recommendations, complete with a hard price floor, a soft ceiling, and advice to leave units empty rather than offer discounts.What happened when 400+ shoppers filled identical 23-item Instacart carts at the same stores. 75% of items varied in price from person to person, by as much as 23%, and the average 7% gap costs a family of four roughly $1,200 a year.Why surveillance pricing, which taps your location, device, purchase history, clicks, and even what you confess to AI shopping agents, doesn’t just soak the rich — it monetizes urgency, like a sick kid, a funeral flight, or a last-minute prom dress.How repair locks on everything from McFlurry machines to John Deere tractors create a daisy chain of price gouging on purchases, parts, labor, and replacements — and why threatening to void your warranty over third-party repair is illegal.How to fight back by turning the experiment around: compare prices logged in vs. out, in the app vs. on the website vs. in store, and with or without loyalty cards. Have friends check the same fare, limit tracking, and speak up — backlash made Coke and Instacart retreat.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: The Perfect Jean: 15% off first order: theperfectjean.nyc, code JORDAN15BetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanHomeServe: Find the plan that's right for you: homeserve.comHostinger: 10% off: hostinger.com/jordan, code JORDANSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 21 mins
  • 1408: Patric Gagne | How a "Sociopath" Decides Right from Wrong

    1408: Patric Gagne | How a "Sociopath" Decides Right from Wrong
    Nov 3 2026
    Forget Hannibal Lecter. Sociopath author Patric Gagne shares what secondary psychopathy really looks like — and why it’s more treatable than we think.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1408What We Discuss with Patric Gagne:Psychopathy is a spectrum, and “sociopath” is clinically obsolete. Patric’s diagnosis is now called secondary psychopathy. Unlike rare primary psychopaths, secondary psychopaths feel hardwired emotions and can learn social ones like empathy, guilt, and shame, so treatment is possible.As a kid, Patric learned that admitting she didn’t feel guilt got her in trouble, so she learned to mask and lie — not out of malice, but survival. Her acting out, from stealing a barrette to stabbing a bully with a pencil, was about releasing building pressure, not causing pain.Punishment doesn’t work on psychopathic kids or adults — they’ll just find another way. Re-socialization does: reverse emotional instruction by making it about the child first (hit Susie and you can’t go to the pool), then build empathy for others from that understanding of self.Patric rejects the idea that morality only counts if it comes from the heart. She makes good choices through logic — her kids’ wellbeing, the cost of prison, the bandwidth lying burns — and argues emotion-driven morality can justify almost anything, as crimes of passion show.Stuck in a destructive loop? Borrow Patric’s CBT approach — journal the beliefs driving it and ask, “Is this really true?” Find your money, drinking, or anxiety story, name your demons, and catch the sequence early. Many beliefs are just echoes of childhood lessons you’re free to unlearn.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Arca Wealth Management: Book a free 30-minute call: arcawealth.com/jordanBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanNorthwest Registered Agent: Get more at northwestregisteredagent.com/jordanOats Overnight: 25% off first box + free shaker: oatsovernight.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 19 mins
  • 1407: Paging Hezbollah | Out of the Loop

    1407: Paging Hezbollah | Out of the Loop
    Nov 1 2026
    How do you get your enemy to buy its own bomb? Paging Hezbollah filmmaker Justin Folk brings us in from Out of the Loop here!Welcome to what we’re calling our “Out of the Loop” episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media’s news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them. Filmmaker Justin Folk, whose documentary Paging Hezbollah reconstructs Israel’s exploding-pager operation, is here to help us understand how Mossad got Hezbollah to buy, distribute, and carry its own booby-trapped pagers, how everything from the alert tone to the sales pitch was engineered to work, and how the operation weakened Hezbollah and Iran’s wider network.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1407What We Discuss with Justin Folk on This Episode of Out of the Loop:How Israel got Hezbollah to buy, distribute, and willingly carry the very weapon used against it, and why Hezbollah’s own fear of Israeli cellphone surveillance created the vulnerability Mossad exploited.Why Mossad reportedly reduced the explosive charge to maim rather than kill — reasoning that dead fighters become martyrs, while thousands of visibly injured ones become walking warnings and a lasting drain on medical resources.What Mossad learned by having its own people carry test pagers and filming how they reacted, which led to a louder, more irritating alert and firmware requiring two buttons pressed at once to read the message.How Mossad licensed Taiwan’s Gold Apollo brand, hired the sales manager Hezbollah already trusted, and built a fake company convincing enough to survive due diligence by an organization that assumed Israel was trying to penetrate everything it did.Why even the most sophisticated technology still depends on understanding people — a familiar salesperson, a desirable product, and habits nobody thinks about. Notice which of your own routines run on autopilot, and you’ll make wiser choices about whom and what you trust.And much more!Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on an Out of the Loop episode, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 23 mins