• Go Upstream: The Social Wounds Trauma, Physical Illness, and Suicide in Foster Care
    Sep 18 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Courtney and Brian Mavis delve into the critical social wounds affecting youth in foster care, focusing on trauma, physical illness, and suicide. They discuss the complexities of trauma experienced by foster youth, the link between trauma and physical health issues, and the alarming rates of suicide among this vulnerable population. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding these issues to foster healing and support for these children.


    Takeaways

    • The term 'trauma' is often overused and misunderstood.
    • Foster youth experience complex trauma that can lead to various mental health issues.
    • Physical health is significantly impacted by trauma and neglect in foster care.
    • Many foster youth enter care with pre-existing medical conditions.
    • Neglect can be as harmful as abuse, often leading to long-term effects.
    • Suicide rates among foster youth are alarmingly high compared to their peers.
    • Healing relationships are crucial for the recovery of foster youth.
    • Community support is essential for foster families and youth.
    • Understanding the root causes of behaviors in foster youth can lead to better support.
    • Hope and belonging are vital for the mental health of foster youth.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    51 mins
  • Practical Tips and Patient Perseverance in Dealing with Challenging Behaviors with Danny and Ashley Smith
    Sep 17 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, hosts Travis Vangsnes and Courtney Williams welcome Danny and Ashley Smith, who share their journey as foster parents and their experiences working with children in foster care in various settings. They discuss the importance of consistency, understanding root causes of behaviors, and the challenges faced by foster parents.

    They also have some really practical tips to help navigate difficult behaviors. They remind foster parents to focus on the big picture and have patience to know that they may not always see dramatic changes in their kids at the time. However, that doesn't mean foster parents aren't making a huge impact in their lives.

    Danny and Ashley have lots of encouragement for future and current foster parents and share some of what they've learned and experienced talking to the kids (previously in their care) who are now adults. The conversation really highlights the transformative power of relationships and in the lives of kids in foster care.

    Listen to their music from their band Wasperjaws

    Empowered to Connect Training

    Takeaways

    • Foster care can start as a job but evolve into a calling.
    • Understanding children's behaviors requires patience and training.
    • Consistency is key in fostering relationships with children.
    • It's important to regulate your own emotions before addressing a child's behavior.
    • Building relationships through challenges can lead to deeper connections.
    • Children in foster care need to feel cared for and valued.
    • Consequences should be addressed after emotions have settled.
    • Foster parents should seek community support and mentorship.
    • Children often test boundaries to see if adults will remain consistent.
    • The way we communicate with children shapes their self-perception.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    50 mins
  • Representing All Parties Involved in Foster Care with Ryan O'Donnell
    Sep 10 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, host Brian Mavis and co-host Courtney Williams engage with Ryan O'Donnell, a tech entrepreneur and former foster parent, who discusses his journey from organizing a record-breaking food drive to creating a technology platform aimed at improving communication and collaboration within the foster care system.

    Ryan shares his personal experiences as a foster parent, the challenges he faced, and how these experiences inspired him to develop 'Your Case Plan', an app designed to streamline communication among all parties involved in a child's welfare. The conversation also touches on the importance of legal representation for families, the need for affordable housing solutions for foster youth, and the broader implications of technology in enhancing the foster care system.


    Takeaways

    • Ryan O'Donnell is a tech entrepreneur and former foster parent.
    • He organized a record-breaking food drive during high school.
    • His experiences as a foster parent highlighted communication issues in the system.
    • 'Your Case Plan' was developed to improve collaboration in foster care.
    • The app is free for families and aims to streamline communication.
    • Ryan emphasizes the importance of legal representation for families in the system.
    • Affordable housing solutions are crucial for youth aging out of foster care.
    • The foster care system often lacks transparency, leading to poor outcomes.
    • Ryan's work aims to break the cycle of families entering the system.
    • The conversation highlights the need for multifaceted solutions in foster care.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    39 mins
  • Go Upstream: A Powerful Book About Foster Care and 10 Social Wounds
    Sep 3 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Courtney Williams, Travis Vangsnes, and Brian Mavis discuss Brian's new book, 'Go Upstream,' (releasing soon) which explores the connection between foster care and various social issues such as homelessness, addiction, and trafficking. The conversation emphasizes the importance of early intervention in children's lives and the role of family in healing social wounds. Brian outlines ten social wounds that often affect youth in foster care and shares his vision for a future where every child feels loved and cared for. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to get involved in supporting foster care and the families that provide it.

    Checkout all the resources and ways you can get involved fostering, adopting from foster care, or supporting foster families.
    https://americaskidsbelong.org/


    Takeaways

    • The book 'Go Upstream' addresses the connection between foster care and social issues.
    • Early intervention is crucial for healing children's trauma.
    • Foster care is often overlooked in discussions about social wounds.
    • Good families can provide better outcomes than programs alone.
    • The ten social wounds include trauma, physical illness, and homelessness.
    • Every child deserves to feel loved and cared for.
    • The system is a response to harm, not the cause of it.
    • Not everyone is called to foster, but everyone can care.
    • Communities play a vital role in supporting foster families.
    • Awareness and understanding of these issues can lead to change.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    38 mins
  • Transformed: From Foster Care to Miss Kentucky with Ariana Rodriguez
    Aug 27 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, hosts Travis Vangsnes and Courtney Williams interview Ariana Rodriguez, Miss Kentucky 2025. Ariana shares her inspiring journey from being a homeless child in foster care to winning the title of Miss Kentucky! She discusses her advocacy work through The Lucky Ones Foundation, which aims to empower youth in foster care and educate the public about the foster care system.

    Ariana emphasizes the importance of amplifying the voices of children in care and the need for social support. The conversation also touches on the role of pageantry in advocacy and the life skills necessary for youth aging out of foster care. They also discuss the critical importance of equipping kids in foster care with crucial life skills. This is a great conversation and Ariana's resiliency and drive to dream big while amplifying the voices of others is really inspiring.

    Checkout Ariana's nonprofit, The Lucky Ones, which provides essential resources and support for kids in foster care.

    She also has a podcast--The Lucky Ones


    Takeaways

    • Ariana's journey from foster care to Miss Kentucky is inspiring.
    • The importance of social support for youth in foster care.
    • Advocacy for children's voices in the foster care system is crucial.
    • The Lucky Ones Foundation aims to educate and empower foster youth.
    • Life skills education is essential for youth aging out of foster care.
    • Ariana's podcast amplifies the voices of those in the foster care system.
    • Social workers need to listen to children to make effective changes.
    • The pageant platform can be a powerful tool for advocacy.
    • Ariana's initiatives focus on both foster care and agricultural education.
    • Community support is vital for the success of initiatives like The Lucky Ones.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    30 mins
  • Fostering to Adoption to Advocacy: Building Stronger Communities with Greg and Valerie Buccola
    Aug 20 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, host Brian and co-host Travis welcome Greg and Valerie, a couple who have made a significant impact in the foster care community. They share their journey of becoming foster parents, the challenges and joys of raising four adopted children, and the lessons learned along the way. The conversation touches on the importance of sibling relationships, the chaos of parenting, and the resilience required in foster care. Greg and Valerie emphasize the need for compassion and understanding in their home, creating a supportive environment for both their children and the foster kids that come through their doors. In this conversation, Greg and Valerie share their journey in foster care and advocacy, emphasizing the importance of community support and engagement. They discuss their experiences with fundraising, the role of faith in fostering, and how businesses can contribute to the cause. Their insights highlight the ripple effect of advocacy and the need for more families to step up and support children in need.


    Takeaways

    • Valerie is the driving force in their household.
    • Fostering involves taking risks for the sake of children.
    • Every yes to something means a no to something else.
    • Horses teach us about beauty and unpredictability, similar to parenting.
    • The couple went from zero to four children in under a year.
    • Chaos in a large family can lead to happiness and bonding.
    • Their children learned compassion through welcoming foster kids.
    • The dynamics of fostering can be complex, especially with biological children.
    • It's important to remember the trauma that foster kids have experienced.
    • Creating a stable environment helps foster kids feel secure. Foster care requires community support and advocacy.
    • Fundraising events can significantly impact foster care initiatives.
    • Corporate support is crucial for fostering awareness and funding.
    • Faith communities have a unique opportunity to engage in foster care.
    • Normalizing foster care can encourage more families to participate.
    • Building relationships is essential for successful foster care outcomes.
    • Awareness is as important as recruiting new foster families.
    • Foster care impacts various societal issues, including homelessness and mental health.
    • Every individual can contribute to foster care in meaningful ways.
    • The journey of fostering can be rewarding despite its challenges.

    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    46 mins
  • Creating Safe Spaces of Belonging for Every Youth with Kim Botto
    Aug 13 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly podcast, host Brian and co-host Travis welcome Kim Botto, an author and advocate for children in foster care and those with disabilities. They discuss the importance of trauma-informed care, the need for inclusive spaces in churches, and the role of hope and belonging in the lives of children. Kim shares her experiences and insights on how to create environments where every child can thrive, emphasizing the need for safe adults who believe in them. The conversation highlights practical strategies for churches and communities to better support children facing challenges, ultimately aiming to foster a sense of belonging and hope.


    Takeaways

    • Every child deserves to belong in a safe environment.
    • Trauma-informed care is essential for supporting children.
    • Churches need to change their mindset to be more inclusive.
    • Hope is the expectation that something good will happen.
    • Belonging is about being accepted for who you are.
    • Children with trauma need safe adults who believe in them.
    • Behavior is a form of communication for children in distress.
    • Visual schedules can help children feel secure and prepared.
    • It's important to connect with children before correcting their behavior.
    • Creating inclusive spaces benefits all children, not just those with visible disabilities.

    Checkout Kim's resources including her book and podcast:
    https://kimbotto.com/


    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    44 mins
  • Fostering Front Door: An Exciting New Initiative From America's Kids Belong with Laura Mobley
    Aug 6 2025

    In this episode of the Foster Friendly Podcast, host Brian Mavis and co-host Courtney Williams welcome Laura Mobley, who shares her extensive experience in the foster care and adoption space. They discuss the launch of the Fostering Front Door initiative, aimed at providing a curated resource for individuals interested in foster care. The conversation highlights the importance of community support, the differences between fostering and adoption, and the need for accessible information to guide potential foster parents on their journey.

    They also discuss the challenges and needs of the foster care system, emphasizing the importance of providing resources and support for potential foster parents. They explore the necessity of creating a space for individuals to learn about fostering, the role of continuing education, and the significance of relationships in the lives of children in foster care. The introduction of FosterCon as an educational initiative is highlighted, along with the various support options available for those involved in the foster care system.


    Foster Front Door website:
    https://americaskidsbelong.org/lp/fostering-front-door-program


    Thank you for listening to this episode of The Foster Friendly Podcast.

    Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

    Meet kids awaiting adoption.

    Join us in helping kids in foster care by donating $18 a month and change the lives of foster kids before they age out.

    Visit AmericasKidsBelong.org and click the donate button to help us change the outcomes of kids in foster care.

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    34 mins