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Men, stop letting the same snake crawl back into your life wearing a new skin. If they tried to destroy your name, your integrity, or your relationships, they forfeited access. Period.

“Never re-friend or re-family a person who tried to destroy your character, your integrity, or your relationships with others. Asnake only sheds its skin to become a bigger snake. if others fall victim and fall away from you because of that...LET THEM! Sooner or later that snake will bite them too.”

This comes down to three words: forgiveness, trust, access.

• Forgiveness is letting go of vengeance. You release it to God.
• Trust is earned. It is built by fruit produced over time.
• Access is proximity. Inner circle. Influence. Information. A seat at the table.

WHAT DOES “TRIED TO DESTROY YOU” LOOKS LIKE:
Here is the simple difference. - Normal Conflict is repairable.
They own what they did. They apologize clearly. They change. They rebuild.

SABOTAGE IS STRATEGIC:
They twist your words.
They leak private info.
They plant doubt in people’s minds.
They recruit others to turn on you.
They frame you as the villain so they can be the victim.
They apologize with tears, then repeat it with new packaging.

A snake sheds its skin to become a bigger snake. That is not repentance. That is an upgrade.

SOTD - Titus 3:10 (ESV)
“As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him.”

THE THREE GATES TEST
Before anyone comes back in, they must pass these three gates...

Gate 1: OWNERSHIP
Do they admit what they did without excuses, blaming, or word games?

Gate 2: FRUIT.
Do you see consistent change over time, not one emotional conversation?

Gate 3: RESTITUTION.
Did they repair what they damaged? Did they correct the lie they spread? Did they clean up the mess they made?

If they fail a gate, they do not get access. They get distanced!

Men, forgiveness sets you free but it does not mean you hand your throat back to the person who tried to cut it.

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Men, grief doesn’t just hurt, it haunts. And if you don’t learn how to carry it like a man, you’ll start bleeding on everyone you love.

WHY IT MATTERS
Because grief you don’t process doesn’t disappear, it leaks into other things.

• It leaks into your tone, parenting, marriage, Job, discipline.

SOTD - Psalm 34:18 (ESV) “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”

HOW NOT TO DEAL WITH GRIEF (The wrong playbook)

Men usually run one of these plays:

1. Numb it
   • booze, weed, porn, scrolling, gaming, binge anything.
   • You’re not healing, you’re sedating.
2. Bury it
   • “I’m good.” “It is what it is.” “I don’t want to talk about it.”
   • That’s not strength. That’s a delay tactic.
3. Outwork it
   • hustle as anesthesia. stay busy so you don’t have to feel.
   • Your schedule becomes your hiding place.
4. Explode it
   • anger, blow-ups, picking fights.
   • You’re not “tough,” you’re untreated.
5. Isolate and go lone wolf
   • Isolation turns grief into a prison.
6. Spiritualize it instead of surrendering it
   • quoting verses while refusing to mourn.
   • God isn’t asking you to fake it, He’s calling you to bring it

TACTICAL APPLICATION:

1) NAME IT OUT LOUD
You can’t lead what you won’t admit.

• Say the loss plainly.
• Say what it took from you.
• Say what you miss.

This is where men stop performing and start healing.

2) BUILD A CONTAINER FOR IT (A grief discipline)
Grief needs a place to go that isn’t your wife and kids catching shrapnel.

• Daily 10: 10 minutes alone, walk, pray, journal, talk out loud to God.
• Weekly check-in: one brother/pastor/counselor “Here’s where I’m at. Here’s what I’m carrying.”
• Body regulation: lift, ruck, run, sweat, not to escape, but to discharge stress and stay grounded.

3) MAKE IT MEANINGFUL WITHOUT MAKING IT YOUR IDENTITY

• You don’t deny the pain.
• You don’t worship the pain.
• You let God shape you through it.

Ask

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In this episode, we expose certainty as a drug that sedates responsibility and delays obedience. We break down the “loophole language” men use to stall their calling, why our culture is addicted to guarantees, and what uncertainty actually does to forge courage, leadership, and faith.

You’ll walk away with a tactical certainty detox: a loophole audit, a 24-hour decision rule, and a simple next-step execution plan to stop negotiating with your future and start moving like a man.

WHY CERTAINTY IS DANGEROUS (What it costs you)
Certainty doesn’t just delay decisions. It delays destiny.

1. It delays obedience.
2. It kills momentum.
3. It rots leadership.
4. It trains cowardice.
5. It steals years.

7 Loophole Phrases (and what they really mean)

1. “I’m praying about it.”
   Translation: “I’m stalling and calling it spiritual.”
2. “I’m waiting for the right timing.”
   Translation: “I want conditions to remove the cost.”
3. “I need to think about it more.”
   Translation: “I’m hoping the pressure goes away.”
4. “I just need more information.”
   Translation: “I don’t want to be responsible if it fails.”
5. “I don’t know what to do.”
   Translation: “I do know. I just don’t want to do it.”
6. “I’m not ready.”
   Translation: “I’m afraid of exposure and discomfort.”
7. “What if it doesn’t work?”
   Translation: “I’d rather stay stuck than risk loss.”

WHY WE NEED UNCERTAINTY (Uncertainty is not the enemy)

1. Faith. You learn trust without controlling the outcome.
2. Courage. You move with fear present, not fear absent.
3. Ownership. You stop blaming “lack of clarity” and start taking responsibility.
4. Adaptation. You learn to correct mid-stride instead of freezing.
5. Maturity. You stop needing guarantees and start needing conviction.

You don’t get a future without uncertainty. You get a future by moving through it.

SOTD: Ecclesiastes 11:4 (ESV)
“He who observes the wind will not sow, and he who regards the clouds will not reap.”

MARCHING ORDERS: This week, kill one loophole sentence.
Pick the area you’ve been “waiting to be sure,” and take the next step within 24 hours.

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We’re not doing “20 goals.” We’re doing three moves. Clean. Focused. Violent. A new year doesn’t upgrade a weak man. It exposes him. Most guys aren’t failing because they lack motivation, they’re failing because the urgent keeps stealing the throne. In this episode, we go to war: we diagnose the truth in the mirror, we build a cut list, and we send the habits that don't serve us to the killbox!. No hype. No vision-board nonsense.

"If resolutions keep failing you, it’s time for a revolution in your life!"

THE THREE MOVES TO MAKE IN 2026:

• FACE THE MAN IN THE MIRROR
  • What matters the most in the next 12 months?
• BRING IT INTO THE KILL BOX
  • What things need to be subtracted for me to succeed?
• BUILD THE NEW MAN
  • Where am I "trying" that I could be training?

“If you won’t kill what’s killing you, don’t pray for a different year.”

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Most men think accountability is admitting failure. It is not. Confession without cost is just guilt relief, and it trains you to repeat the same cycle. In this episode we break down what real accountability actually is, what it is not, and why consequences are the missing weapon in most men’s lives.

“If failure stays cheap, you will keep buying it.”

HOW ACCOUNTABILITY WORKS
You need five parts. If you are missing one, it collapses.

1. Standard. What are we measuring. Make it specific.
2. Visibility. Can the truth be verified. Secrets breed weakness.
3. Frequency. How often are we checking. Monthly is fantasy!
4. Consequences. What happens when you fail. Not punishment. But a fixed cost for failing.
5. Restoration. How you rebuild with truth, repentance, and a new plan.

REAL WAY TO HAVE ACCOUNTABILITY
Give someone permission and dont get butt hurt when they call you out!

Step 1. Pick a lane.
Choose one area you keep losing in. Name it plainly.

Step 2. Set the standard.
Write the weekly win condition in one sentence.

Step 3. Set visibility.
Weekly text/call at minimum or meetup is non-negotiable.
If the issue is digital, remove hiding places and add real guardrails.

Step 4. Set consequences.
When you fail, comfort gets taxed! Pick one consequence that hits fast and hard. Examples include removing a privilege for the week, adding an early training session, service that humbles you, tighter check-ins for seven days, and confession to the person you impacted

Step 5. Set restoration.
Answer three questions every time. What triggered it. What guardrail gets installed today. What is the replacement action next time.

4 WEEK ACCOUNTABILITY TRAINING PLAN
This is how you become a man who can actually be held accountable.

Week 1. Exposure.
Write the real pattern. Triggers, timing, location, mood, device, or cope.

Week 2. Guardrails.
Cut off access points. Replace weak/loose hours with rigid structure.

Week 3. Speed.
Shorten the distance between failure and consequence.

Week 4. Raise the standard.
What used to be a win becomes your new baseline. We are not managing failures. We are killing them.

“A man who cannot be corrected, cannot be trusted.”

SOTD: James 5:16 (ESV). “Therefor

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Most men aren’t weak by design, they’ve been domesticated. House-trained by other people’s opinions. Afraid to offend. Afraid to stand out. Afraid to actually live at full strength. In this episode, Rory goes straight at the domesticated mentality. The destructive mindset that makes us water down who we are so that those around us can stomach us.

If you’ve ever walked away from a moment knowing you played small, this one is a line-in-the-sand episode.

Today is an intervention for the man who keeps diluting himself down to be “tolerated.”

HOW TO DEVELOP – TRAINING FOR FULL, AUTHENTIC POTENCY

1. WHERE AM I DILUTING MYSELF

• Ask: “Where do I pretend to care less than I actually do?” “Where do I hide the real me?
• Ask your wife or a close brother: “Where have you seen me shrink back?”

2.OTHER PEOPLES COMFORT ISNT MY COMPASS

• Daily declaration:
  • “I fear God, not man. Their comfort is not my compass.”
• Stop editing your answers: when people ask what you believe, what you’re building, or what you’re about, give the real version.
• Let people filter themselves out if your full-strength life makes them uncomfortable.

3. CRANK UP THE VOLTAGE (turn it up to 11!!!)

• Decide: “I will stop apologizing for my intensity, my standards, my discipline, and my CONVICTIONS!!!

Focus: on the people you’re assigned to build, not the crowd you’re afraid to lose.

SOTD : Galatians 1:10 (ESV) - “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? … If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

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Most men don’t fail because they have bad intentions. They fail because they trust their intentions more than their actions. In this episode, we expose the dark side of intention and how meaning well can still cause damage, how effort becomes self-deception, and why behavior and execution is the only thing that builds a man. Stop deceiving yourself and Close the gap.

QOTD: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”

SOTD: Proverbs 14:12 (ESV)
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.”

WHAT IS IT? The self-deception of intention.
believing that a good heart, sincere effort, or emotional desire equals action. It doesn’t. The behavior builds a man.

TACTICAL APPLICATION STEPS

1. Expose It:
Name one area where you’ve hidden behind “I meant well.”

2. Align It:
Hold that intention against Scripture. If it doesn’t align, kill it.

3. Execute It:
Finish one thing this week you’ve been “meaning to do.”
Execution is the antidote to self-deception.

DANGEROUS FOCUS FOR THE WEEK

Stop trusting your intentions. Start proving your obedience.

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In this episode of The Dangerous Man Podcast, We sit down with Ralph Brewer from HelpForMen.com to talk straight about divorce, betrayal, dead bedrooms, and what happens when a man’s whole world explodes. Ralph has lived it. Infidelity, divorce, single dad life, identity in pieces. He didn’t stay the victim. He rebuilt.

We unpack why so many guys stay stuck in bitterness and denial, what it looks like to take ruthless ownership, and how brotherhood changes everything when you’re trying to rebuild your life as a man. If you feel lost, rejected, or hollow in your own house, this episode is a call to stop bleeding out in silence and start rebuilding on purpose.

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