• Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

  • By: A.J. Mahari
  • Podcast

Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

By: A.J. Mahari
Listen for free

  • Summary

  • A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 34 years experience working with those surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
    A.J. Mahari
    Show More Show Less
Psychology Hygiene & Healthy Living Social Sciences Personal Success Relationships
Show More Show Less
activate_samplebutton_t1
Episodes
  • BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance

    BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
    Oct 3 2024
    BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance

    BPD discards (final or not when unknown) fuel codependent fantasy and leave people with Codependency essentially pissing into the wind - as if that would be any reality of "taking a shower". These relationships ruptures often ending over and over again, also can be likened to the title of Judge Judy's book, "Don't Pee on My Foot and Tell Me it's Raining" Trying to continue in the
    Codependent fantasy as this commenter I respond to does (with quite a twist near the end) means that in the cognitive dissonance of it all, the intermittent reinforcementof the still not broken trauma bond, so many with Codependency, on/off partners, Ex's in a limbo place as well continue to actually "piss into the wind" in a fantasy illusion that to do wo would mean you have taken a "shower".

    In a relationship with an undiagnosed and/or untreated person with patterns of or with BPD being stuck in cognitive dissonance trying to figure out the Borderline, continuing to abandon yourself, perhaps as this commenter, while believing a desperate delusion that his Ex is getting closer to recovery or somehow will is the most agonizing height of so much pain and all of its rumination that
    you feel like you just can't stop obsessing on.

    See if you relate, at least in part, to this commenter and his torment of Codependent denial and not really understanding BPD while at the same time he truly pisses into the wind as if he awaits an actual shower.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
    Show More Show Less
    2 hrs and 5 mins
  • BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
    Aug 25 2024
    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    So many people who have been in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD with Co-Morbid Narcissistic Personality Disorder are caught in a trauma bond ruminating and trying to figure out who is the person behind the idealization and love bombing when there isn't a "real person" inside at all, only a false self.

    The intermittent reinforcement within the trauma bond with someone with BPD or BPD/NPD keeps Codependents stuck in circles of (often misinformation) trying to give their own explanations or
    offer up erroneous ones or misinterpretations taken from perhaps listening to or reading too many contradictory sources online.

    The person you fell in love with doesn't exist. The person behind the idealization and the love bombing is the false self that protects the lost self in Borderlines and Narcissists.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
    Show More Show Less
    23 mins
  • BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal
    Aug 8 2024
    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or discard is so painful and so confusing for so many people
    who have, but may not realize it, Codependency. Getting into therapy and
    going no contact is the way to identify your codependent part in the dynamic
    and to heal. Choose to no longer stay stuck in excessive obsessive focus on
    the Borderline and what they did, why they did it because that focus will
    keep the trauma bond in tact. You need to break that betrayal bond in order
    to heal.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
    Show More Show Less
    47 mins

What listeners say about Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

Average Customer Ratings

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Audible.com.au reviews

Amazon Reviews
No Reviews are Available
In the spirit of reconciliation, Audible acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.