• Simplify Cancer Podcast Episode 087: Patient to Patient Movement with Trevor Maxwell
    Nov 20 2022
    Hello, my friend, and welcome to Cancer Can Give! in this special series of the Simplify Cancer Podcast, we share inspirational stories of people who went on a grueling journey through cancer and yet, they found their own way to live, grow and give in a way that helps others. Today, it is my absolute pleasure to speak to Trevor Maxwell, a proud man, men's health champion founder of the incredible Man Up To Cancer. Links MAN UP TO CANCER Man Up to Cancer Podcast Man Up to Cancer - The Howling Place - Facebook Man Up To Cancer (@cancerwolves) • Instagram Video   Full Transcript Glad you can be here. Let's talk to Trevor. Great seeing you. Thank you. again, thanks for your patience and willingness to speak with me. The cancer journey is full of bumps and crazy turns. Then when you become an advocate, things kind of like the map to cancer movement has kind of been taken off. Just kept me super busy. I appreciate it.   I was so thrilled to have you so thrilled to talk about you and your story. I really want to I first of all, I want to go back in time. I want to go back in time, what was life like? What was life like before cancer? Life was great. I was 41 years old. My wife and I live here in Maine, on the on the Atlantic Ocean, basically, about a couple hours north of Boston, and been here most of my life. We have two daughters. sage, and Elsie, they were 12 and 10, at the time of my diagnosis, and everything was just trucking along. Before cancer, I was a pretty healthy guy very active. just enjoyed all the outdoors. Living here in Maine is a great place for the outdoors. I was a journalist for many years. Then, at the time of my diagnosis, I was doing my own public relations, consulting, just like a one-man company. My wife was a teacher, and the girls were just going through school, and it was like prime of life. It was good.   You're on a kind of trajectory through life. Things are going your way. Then it just hits you, so tell me the moment. How did you find out? You're right, you're just kind of going along, and you have all these like illusions in your head, you tell these stories yourself. I'm going to live till I'm 80. I'm going to see my grandkids you just have this imagination of what the steps are. Then cancer comes along. I say, sometimes I use the phrase life asteroid, because it's an asteroid has hit you and your family. It’s like my God, I went from a 41-year-old mid middle of life, dad and husband and worker to “a cancer patient” facing metastatic colorectal cancer at age 41. With young children, and boom, life asteroid.   That's a beautiful way of putting it because exactly. It is like an asteroid that just blows up into your world. What was what was the biggest change for you, Trevor? I mean, I think at first it was just real physiological shock. People don't talk about that enough. The shock to your system. It’s like you're in the matrix. Then one day you realize oh my gosh, this might kill me like and soon so there's the shock. I went into a period, a period of deep mental health struggle so I think the biggest change was like I'd always been a pretty positive person, outward person I struggled before cancer a little bit with typical depression, anxiety so many others do. When cancer hit, and the idea of possibly dying at a young age and leaving my kids behind, and my wife behind, it just crushed me emotionally. I went into a pit of despair man, clinical anxiety, depression, the whole works like I was on the floor. There was a lot of days when I would just be even functioning. It was that bad. I thought I was going to have to go into the hospital for my mental health, not even my cancer. Right. For the first thinking like six to eight months of my journey. It was it was like a pit, and it was crushing. It was just emotional turmoil.   I'm so glad that you brought this up, man, because it's something that does not get talked about.
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  • Simplify Cancer Podcast Episode 086: Popping the Bubble of Cancer with Olivia Clarke
    Nov 6 2022
    Hello, my friend, and welcome to Cancer Can Give! in this special series of the Simplify Cancer Podcast, we share inspirational stories of people who went on a grueling journey through cancer and yet, they found their own way to live, grow and give in a way that helps others. Today, it's my absolute pleasure to introduce Olivia Clarke and we talk about being young adult with cancer and finding the humour where you least expect it. Olivia's got this incredible message of making sense of your experience, through cancer, through humor, and stories and connect and she started Humor Beats Cancer, and she's just this magnificent ray of light out in the world. Links Humor Beats Cancer | Chicago | Young Adult Cancer Humor Beats Cancer | Chicago IL - Facebook Humor Beats Cancer (@humorbeatscancer) • Instagram Humor Beats Cancer (@Humorbeatcancer) / Twitter Video     Full Transcript Olivia. Well, so good to have you.   Thank you. It's always been so good working with you on different things and stuff. You talked that at our last event about a year ago. Really, your story was funny, but also very moving to and so people really walked away from it feeling so many emotions and stuff. I heard it was especially with yours too, your just your story that you shared about cancer and about just it just made people laugh, but also made them cry too. You hit all of the emotions. It's really nice to be able to be on your podcast.   Thank you so much. I really appreciate your kind words. I remember you opening that fundraiser for humor beats cancer. I think it's been during COVID because we were all online, but it’s just been such a beautiful thing to be there and to see all these amazing people there for this great cause. You put so much care, love into everything that you do like you really you really pour your heart into all of this. It really comes across. It obviously makes a difference for your incredible because, but I want to ask you how does it feel for you? I think it's a big part of it is how does it also make you feel on the inside?   A little bit about me, I had cancer first, breast cancer stage two in 2015. Then in 2017, created Humor Beats Cancer, which is a nonprofit, that encourages using humor and writing as coping tools to deal with cancer. We have to do funny care packages for people going through cancer, we have a grant program, and we do open mics, where people read their funny stories, either virtually or in person. Then we also tried to think of interesting ways on social media to get people's attention and to get them to share funny stories and to connect, so they feel less alone. For me, when I had cancer the first time and so then I was diagnosed again in last fall, in 2021. This time, it's stage four, and it's metastasized to different organs and such. It has different meanings depending on where I'm at in my cancer journey. When I was in remission, it really was about how can I take my experience and try to find ways to make people feel less alone and to feel and to get them to laugh when that's the last thing they could possibly think about doing? Usually that's through crude humor and just like having a good time is showing the real point of it is to show two things to show people feeling that they can feel alive while having cancer that they're not gone and they're still you're living and to just to connect people who feel alone. For me, that's what it's done for me is it really has reminded me, I'm going through the beginning stages of stage four. It's interesting to learn about people who've been going through it for years, and it gives me hope. If someone would have told me stage four cancer, I would have been freaking out and thinking. You can live with it. It can be like something that you live with. Sometimes it's not, sometimes it hits you; you find out you have stage four, and you have a few months to live.
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  • Simplify Cancer Podcast Episode 085: Doing What Matters Most with Rod Ritchie
    Oct 15 2022
    Hello, my friend, and welcome to Cancer Can Give! in this special series of the Simplify Cancer Podcast, we share inspirational stories of people who went on a grueling journey through cancer and yet, they found their own way to live, grow and give in a way that helps others. Today, it is my absolute pleasure to be talking to Rod Ritchie who is a health activist and a beautiful soul who brings a unique voice in the world of cancer as health activist speaking for male breast cancer. Links Male Breast Cancer (malebc.org) Male Breast Cancer - awareness and beyond Video   Full Transcript Rod, I stumbled upon your manifesto on your website and the work that you're doing. What really struck me is your dying for change, we’re dying for change and the urgency that you have in this manifesto, tell me, how did it come about?   When I was diagnosed in 2014, obviously, that's a shock. You are pretty much concentrating on getting treatment, as you know very well for cancer. Then I suddenly started realizing when I am looking around websites, that it's a sort of pretty pink disease, and how does it cater for men.  Obviously, I got to the conclusion that it wasn't catering very well for men. I have to say, in the last eight years, there's been a lot of changes. That manifesto, which, by the way, was written by me and the late Rob Fincher, who was stage four breast cancer patients from Wollongong.   That manifesto has made a difference. When I look at the list of quite a few points, probably half of them we've made progress on and things like the de-gendering websites, adding a bit of blue for the pink and sort of making it more inclusive, making the text more inclusive. If a guy gets over there on the site starting to hear stuff that doesn't really apply to blokes, I don't think that's good. The stigma attached to this disease, for a man, I mean, you, you could probably talk about stigma as well with your particular cancer, testicular cancer, but for a man to have breast cancer, it seems gee, what's wrong? Are you a bit effeminate or what's the problem?   Absolutely. I couldn't agree with you more that the stigma, these cancers, they go to the root of who we are as men. I think that's the root of all cancers, they affect us at the at such a deep level that affects our body, it affects how we think about ourselves, it affects how we are around people. I'm just inspired by the bold vision that that you guys had around this manifesto, and to see that progress is being made around it. Let's get back to your steroid because I really want to talk about that and your story with breast cancer. I mean, because we all kind of have this moment when we when you kind of find out that you have cancer. What was it like for you?   Pretty surreal but not unexpected. I had a lump behind my left nipple for a little while. I presented to the general practitioner, and we both agreed, maybe it was nothing. A month later was still not nothing. I came back and anyway, long story short, the third time I turned up, I said, I need a scan or some sort of and she said, but none of those times that you do a clinical examination and I just sort of wondered if I presented with breast problems as a woman, I think I probably would have been seen a bit earlier. That made the diagnosis at a little bit of a later stage than I would have liked. I had excellent treatment, just locally up here, and I couldn't really complain about anything. I have to say, as a guy, there's a lot of women out there as breast surgeons, oncologists, radiation oncologist, and we're lucky in a way, as guy having this disease, we're lucky that we can just slip into a system that's really geared up maybe for women, but a lot of the treatments really are just as effective on guys.   That's fantastic. Rod, I love how you talk about that you were even at those were very early stages you were the advocate for let's get it checked out,
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  • Simplify Cancer Podcast Episode 084: Choose Your Own Adventure with Heather Hawkins
    Oct 1 2022
    Hello, my friend, and welcome to Cancer Can Give! in this special series of the Simplify Cancer Podcast, we share inspirational stories of people who went on a grueling journey through cancer and yet, they found their own way to live, grow and give in a way that helps others. Today, it is my absolute pleasure to be talking to Heather Hawkins, ovarian cancer survivor, she is a health advocate, the most adventurous spirit I know, a beautiful person doing good out in the world that advocated for health, for hope, and living beyond your comfort zone! In this conversation, we talk about hope, choosing adventurous life after cancer and making a positive difference out in the world. Links Heather Hawkins: Adventurous Spirit on Facebook Heather Hawkins: Adventurous Spirit on Instagram Adventurous Spirit by Heather Hawkins on Audible Adventurous Spirit by Heather Hawkins on Amazon Video Full Transcript Heather, I have a bit of a thing for a first sentence in the book. In your book, the first sentence is: Sometimes our paths in life take us in completely unexpected directions. It's certainly true, right?   It is.   For yourself as well, and I think when cancer makes an entrance into your life, and for you Heather, a decade ago, your life really took this really unexpected turn, right? Tell us how did all of that play out?   Yes, my goodness, it was 2006, December 2006. I was a busy working mom, I had a 14-year-old daughter and 11-year-old son, and life just is so full of school after school activities, dropping kids off, working hard at the office. I did start to notice this fatigue creeping in and then also a little bit of abdominal bloating, and I was 41 at that stage. I remember thinking, this is probably either menopause creeping in, or I'm overdoing things. Or maybe it's middle age has spread that I need to get a little bit more fit, a bit more active. Then throughout that Christmas time of December 2006, and then going into 2007, there was some more symptoms that then started to occur. I was off to the toilet more often than not with frequency with urination. I'd eat small amounts and start to feel really full quickly. My abdominal bloating just continued to grow. It also continued -- for every woman at that particular time of month, you do get bloating, tiredness, but when it persisted between periods, that's when that intuition kicks in. You think, this is not right. This is not normally how my body operates. I thought, I need to go and have a chat with my GP. I'm so glad we have a great relationship with our GP, that I could feel confident to go and talk with him. I didn't feel embarrassed. I knew that he would take me seriously just talking about a raft of very general symptoms. Then he would take me seriously and also seek to find answers and have that investigated. That was really the beginning of my fear that this massive shift in my life going from a completely normal world, to suddenly hearing those two words in the same sentence as my name those two words of ovarian cancer.   So many interesting things you said that I want to pick up on, you talked about watching out and listening to your body, things that you knew what not right, and you picked up on those patterns. Then it is about having that courage to speak to your treating doctor, and to bring those things up and to get those things looked into. It's so vital, isn't it?   It certainly is and it's about understanding that this is not how my body normally operates and to sit down with your doctor and to go through all those things that you're concerned about. I found it really helpful. I wrote out a list so I could go in there. You're so emotional at that time. If you can refer back to your list, you're not missing out on things that perhaps are going to be really important with helpful with your diagnosis. Talking that through, he said, “Yes, that does sound serious,
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  • Episode 083: Serving with Spirit with Peter Anthony
    Sep 11 2022
    I was lucky to guest on Men With Spirit radio show - Peter and Steve are doing an amazing job in inspiring men to live a spirited life. Turns out, Peter has been going through prostate cancer so I knew he’s going to bring his unique way of seeing things - and we have got that in spades! Tune in to the episode as we discuss: How living a spirited life can help us cope Getting your priorities to serve you in a time of need Making a difference that supports you, your values and your way of life Links Men With Spirit on Facebook Men With Spirit on Instagram Episode 072: The Magnifying Glass of Adversity with Lee Silverstein     Don't Forget To Sign Up for Your 7 Day Challenge to Take Your Life Back After Cancer!People expect you to bounce back after cancer, but it’s not easy – you’ve got to deal with changes, fatigue and worry that it might come back… Over seven days, I am sharing practical ideas that helped me get the life I want after cancer – sign up free today: #btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .text {font-size:16px;color:#ffffff;font-weight:bold;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 {padding:5px 25px;border-color:#000000;border-width:1px;-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;background:#38b6ff;background:-webkit-gradient(linear, left top, left bottom, color-stop(0%, #38b6ff), color-stop(100%, #38b6ff));background:-webkit-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-moz-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-ms-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-o-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:linear-gradient(to bottom, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);filter:progid:DXImageTransform.Microsoft.gradient(startColorstr=#38b6ff, endColorstr=#38b6ff, GradientType=0);box-shadow:0px 1px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5);}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .gradient {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .shine {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .active {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .hover {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}Sign Up Today I will never give out your email - view my Privacy Policy
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  • Episode 082: 5 Insights on Life After Cancer with Lee Silverstein
    Feb 2 2022
    This is a conversation I have been looking forward to for a long time: My friend Lee Silverstein, cancer veteran and a beautiful soul! It's hard to make sense of our life after cancer experience, but the way Lee can distil the essence of our shared experience is a joy to behold! Every time we speak, I learn something new and get a valuable lesson. Here is what we cover on this week's episode: The Whac-A-Mole of Cancer What it takes to be an informed patient How to live in the moment Taking your power back after cancer Another way to be mindful each day How people respond to you after cancer Links Episode 077: How To Apply Mindfulness After Cancer with Dr Ronald Siegel Episode 075: Meaning of Life After Cancer with Dr William Breitbart Episode 072: The Magnifying Glass of Adversity with Lee Silverstein     Don't Forget To Sign Up for Your 7 Day Challenge to Take Your Life Back After Cancer!People expect you to bounce back after cancer, but it’s not easy – you’ve got to deal with changes, fatigue and worry that it might come back… Over seven days, I am sharing practical ideas that helped me get the life I want after cancer – sign up free today: #btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .text {font-size:16px;color:#ffffff;font-weight:bold;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 {padding:5px 25px;border-color:#000000;border-width:1px;-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;background:#38b6ff;background:-webkit-gradient(linear, left top, left bottom, color-stop(0%, #38b6ff), color-stop(100%, #38b6ff));background:-webkit-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-moz-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-ms-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-o-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:linear-gradient(to bottom, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);filter:progid:DXImageTransform.Microsoft.gradient(startColorstr=#38b6ff, endColorstr=#38b6ff, GradientType=0);box-shadow:0px 1px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5);}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .gradient {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .shine {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .active {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .hover {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}Sign Up Today I will never give out your email - view my Privacy Policy
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  • Episode 081: 5 Ways To Liberate Yourself From Worry
    Dec 27 2021
    This is the worst part about cancer - the nameless worries that creep into your life, tugging behind you wherever you go... But it doesn't have to be that way! We can put worry in its place where you can enjoy the things that you love with people that you care about the most. And it's critical that you do it NOW. Because how you deal with worry right now will determine the quality of life from this point on. I had no one talk to about it and it seemed like nothing would ever even change... But it can, and it does! This is why I want to share the five big strategies that can help you lead a happier, more fulfilled life after cancer that you deserve to feel more calm and in control of what is going on around you. Here is what we cover on this week's episode: How to bring your worries out into the open so they lose control over you Clawing back your sense of control How to make sense of what is going on to find greater clarity Set clear boundaries to stop worrying from taking over your life How to take focus away from worry Video Links Episode 039: Exercise Boost Through Treatment and Recovery Episode 002: How Exercise Helps Crush Cancer Register for Stable and Predictable Life After Cancer Webinar     Don't Forget To Sign Up for Your 7 Day Challenge to Take Your Life Back After Cancer!People expect you to bounce back after cancer, but it’s not easy – you’ve got to deal with changes, fatigue and worry that it might come back… Over seven days, I am sharing practical ideas that helped me get the life I want after cancer – sign up free today: #btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .text {font-size:16px;color:#ffffff;font-weight:bold;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 {padding:5px 25px;border-color:#000000;border-width:1px;-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;background:#38b6ff;background:-webkit-gradient(linear, left top, left bottom, color-stop(0%, #38b6ff), color-stop(100%, #38b6ff));background:-webkit-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-moz-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-ms-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-o-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:linear-gradient(to bottom, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);filter:progid:DXImageTransform.Microsoft.gradient(startColorstr=#38b6ff, endColorstr=#38b6ff, GradientType=0);box-shadow:0px 1px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5);}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .gradient {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .shine {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .active {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .hover {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}Sign Up Today I will never give out your email - view my Privacy Policy
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  • Episode 080: Roadmap to Thrive After Cancer
    Nov 6 2021
    It is only when I look back at life after I finished treatment that I realise how much of a struggle it's really been. I had no one talk to about it and it seemed like nothing would ever even change... But it can, and it does! Having spent three years of deep work to get on top of worry and stress I am here to share with you five big things that can help you get there that much FASTER. In each of the big five, I give you practical tools and mindset to make these come to life. Because you don't need theory, but real world implementation! Here are the top five ideas we go through on the roadmap to thrive after cancer in this week's episode: Get your energy levels up Redirect your worry Recharge your relationships Set yourself up to win Make giving a way of life Video Links Episode 039: Exercise Boost Through Treatment and Recovery Episode 002: How Exercise Helps Crush Cancer Register for Stable and Predictable Life After Cancer Webinar     Don't Forget To Sign Up for Your 7 Day Challenge to Take Your Life Back After Cancer!People expect you to bounce back after cancer, but it’s not easy – you’ve got to deal with changes, fatigue and worry that it might come back… Over seven days, I am sharing practical ideas that helped me get the life I want after cancer – sign up free today: #btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .text {font-size:16px;color:#ffffff;font-weight:bold;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 {padding:5px 25px;border-color:#000000;border-width:1px;-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;background:#38b6ff;background:-webkit-gradient(linear, left top, left bottom, color-stop(0%, #38b6ff), color-stop(100%, #38b6ff));background:-webkit-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-moz-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-ms-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:-o-linear-gradient(top, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);background:linear-gradient(to bottom, #38b6ff 0%, #38b6ff 100%);filter:progid:DXImageTransform.Microsoft.gradient(startColorstr=#38b6ff, endColorstr=#38b6ff, GradientType=0);box-shadow:0px 1px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5);}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .gradient {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .shine {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .active {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}#btn_1_5095f450e13754607e74fd13894c14a2 .hover {-moz-border-radius:6px;-webkit-border-radius:6px;border-radius:6px;}Sign Up Today I will never give out your email - view my Privacy Policy
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