Real Talk with Barbara and Nicole

By: Barbara Bray and Nicole Biscotti
  • Summary

  • Our podcast is about "Authenticity in a Polarized Society."

    We may feel like we can't be authentic about having conversations with some people.

    Our beliefs are valid, yet the problem could be that others are not really listening or already have their minds made up about their beliefs. Then the walls go up and we're not engaging or we're just listening to respond. When that happens, it gets in the way of our relationship. If we only talk with people who believe as we do, then we tend to live in an echo chamber.

    What we see that could work is finding commonality around something even if we don't agree on something else. It is all about growing the relationship; that is, IF you want to grow it.

    We might not be able to share beliefs, but we can share values that may stand for things that we can believe in. If someone can give us a perspective that was thought out and meant a lot to them, we can listen to understand even if we don't agree. Listening matters!

    We are Barbara Bray and Nicole Biscotti ready to talk about WHY we want to have REAL TALK with you. We're learning all about authenticity as we talk together and have these conversations with experts on critical conversations around multiple issues.

    Listen. Enjoy. Join us at #RealTalkBN

    © 2024 Real Talk with Barbara and Nicole
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Episodes
  • Episode #6: Polarization Series #2 of 4: How does Polarization occur?
    Nov 5 2024

    How does polarization play out in societies, countries, and different periods?

    • What need(s) does it meet? dissent, to belong, safety in groups, belief systems, right vs wrong, fear, misinformation
    • Social Theories - Democracy vs Fascism/Autocracies
    • Examples: First Amendment, Campus protests about Gaza/Israel, Historical Protests such as the Civil War, etc.)

    Group Polarization: Theories and Examples

    https://www.verywellmind.com/group-polarization-theories-and-examples-7547335

    Group polarization is a psychological phenomenon in where beliefs, attitudes, and decisions in groups are more amplified and extreme than those held by individual group members. Group polarization happens when a choice shift intensifies that initial attitude. Adopting the views of the group helps people feel positive about themselves. They may feel compelled to shift their ideas to identify with the group to achieve a sense of belonging.

    Understanding these factors is crucial for mitigating polarization and promoting more constructive and inclusive dialogues within societies.

    "Do I contradict myself?
    Very well then, I contradict myself,
    I am large, I contain multitudes…"

    —Walt Whitman

    Increased Polarization
    https://news.vanderbilt.edu/2024/02/14/latest-vanderbilt-unity-index-shows-the-u-s-continuing-its-trend-toward-increased-political-polarization/

    Historically, polarization often starts with a combination of social, economic, political, and cultural changes that challenge existing structures and identities. When groups form around particular beliefs in opposition, polarization can become entrenched, influencing everything from personal relationships to international politics.

    Examples in Other Cultures & Times

    Democracies encourage free speech. We mention the First Amendment, the campus protests, and democracies vs autocracies. Some examples of different times include the French Revolution, Tianon Square, and how the American Revolution against the British.

    Protests in the US: the Women's Suffrage movement, campus protests about Vietnam including Kent State. Currently: Black Lives Matter and protests around women's rights.

    Affective Polarization

    https://www.brown.edu/news/2020-01-21/polarization

    A phenomenon in which citizens feel more negatively toward other political parties than toward their own. In the U.S., affective polarization has increased more dramatically since the late 1970s than in the eight other countries they examined — the U.K., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Germany, Switzerland, Norway, and Sweden.

    Polarization: Navigating the Divides in Today’s Society

    https://lambdageeks.com/polarization/

    Polarization can lead to increased hostility and a breakdown of communication between different groups. It can result in the formation of echo chambers and misinformation. Understanding polarization is crucial for promoting dialogue, empathy, and finding common ground.

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    Unity can empower societies to achieve collective goals and face common threats while polarization can lead to significant strife and conflict, but also to societal change by highlighting critical issues that need addressing.

    Ideally, a healthy society balances a degree of both elements. Encouraging diversity of opinion (mild polarization)


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    31 mins
  • Episode 5: Polarization Series #1 of 4
    Aug 10 2024

    This is Episode 5 of Real Talk with Barbara Bray and Nicole Biscotti. We share why Polarization is an important topic and why we needed four podcasts to discuss the implications of a polarized society.

    The podcast “Real Talk with Barbara and Nicole” focuses on Authenticity in a Polarized Society. Our podcast started from conversations we were having on the concerns about communicating with people we didn’t agree with. The first four episodes focused on Authenticity and invited inspirational guests to share how to be authentic even when it was difficult.

    We start Series #1 on Polarization with this question:

    What is polarization and why does it happen globally?

    What is Polarization?

    People become polarized through a complex process influenced by various psychological, social, and environmental factors. Focusing on the “divides” rather than the “whole.”

    Definition of Polarization
    https://techiescience.com/what-does-the-term-polarization-mean-understanding-the-concept-and-its-impact/

    4 Key Elements Involved in Polarization:

    1. Social Identity and Group Dynamics
    2. Echo Chambers and Information Bubbles
    3. Confirmation Bias and Selective Perception
    4. Emotional Engagement and Moral Conviction


    Details of the Elements:

    1. **Social Identity and Group Dynamics**: People often define themselves in terms of their group affiliations, such as political, religious, or cultural groups. This can lead to an "us vs. them" mentality. When group identity becomes central to a person's self-concept, individuals may start to view the world primarily through the lens of group allegiances, promoting polarized perspectives.

    2. **Echo Chambers and Information Bubbles**: With the rise of digital media, people have more control over the information they consume. This often leads to selective exposure to viewpoints that align with one's own, reinforcing pre-existing beliefs and minimizing exposure to conflicting information. Social media algorithms further enhance this effect by feeding users content similar to what they have previously engaged with, thereby creating echo chambers.

    3. **Confirmation Bias and Selective Perception**: People tend to favor information that confirms their pre-existing beliefs and views. This cognitive bias can lead individuals to dismiss, ignore, or misinterpret information that contradicts their viewpoints, further entrenching polarization.

    4. **Emotional Engagement and Moral Conviction**: Political and social issues often involve strong emotions and perceptions of moral and ethical stakes. When individuals perceive that their core values are threatened, they may adopt more extreme positions and view compromise as unacceptable, leading to greater polarization.


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    After listening to our podcast and reviewing what we have here, please share your thoughts below on this post and/or on X using #RealTalkBN to answer this question:

    What does polarization mean to you?


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    21 mins
  • Episode 4: Real Talk about Privilege and Authenticity with Evan Whitehead
    Jan 19 2024

    About Evan Whitehead

    Evan Whitehead is the Executive Director of Private Therapeutic Day Schools that focus on working with students with Autism, Intellectual Disabilities, and Severe Learning Disabilities. He’s also a national consultant, trainer, and presenter with Dr. Ruby K. Payne’s Aha! Process, Inc., provides local and national training, presentations, and speaking engagements. Evan is also a certified mindset and accountability coach.

    Throughout his 20+ career, Evan has served as a special education paraprofessional and teacher, Latino parent outreach coordinator, dean of student discipline, community outreach coordinator, Director of Title 1, Special Services, Bilingual Education and ELLs, and Assistant Superintendent. He is also a passionate mental health advocate, mindfulness practitioner, and proponent of equity, diversity, and intercultural competency.

    Evan's 3Bs, Balance, Boundaries, and Breaks, promote a lifestyle of self-advocacy in the areas of mental health, mindset, self-care, and well-being. Evan’s 3Bs made it to the mainstream and pop culture in 2022 when platinum-selling recording artist, actress, and Entrepreneur Saweetie adopted and implemented them into her life. Saweetie has shared the 3Bs wisdom with other celebrities and entertainers such as Mary J. Blige, Oprah Winfrey, and Kelly Rowland.

    How to reach Evan
    Bio at https://www.ahaprocess.com/consultants/evan-whitehead/
    Twitter (X): @evanwhitehead00 #BalanceBoundariesandBreaks


    Topic and Question for this episode:
    Does everyone have the privilege of being authentic?

    Questions we discussed with Evan:

    1. How does privilege affect authenticity?
    2. In what spaces or situations do you feel that authenticity is a privilege?
    3. We generally think of authenticity as a form of freedom of speech but how does authenticity and privilege relate to other areas of self-expression? (i.e. The CROWN Act)
    4. Do you think that anyone has the privilege of authenticity in reality? (Marx quote)
    5. Even once we’ve identified that privilege exists and is consequential, the question remains as to what we should do. (Unearned Privilege: Psychology Today)
    6. What will it take to be ready to challenge our blind spots and embrace discomfort? (Privilege Awareness and Authentic Allyship)
    7. How can society or people in their interactions mitigate this issue and create more equity around authenticity?


    Some of the resources we mentioned in the podcast:

    “Authenticity & Privilege”
    http://freedavid.co/posts/authenticity-and-privilege.html

    The CROWN (Create a Respectful and Open Workplace for Natural Hair) Act (SB 188) https://www.wikiwand.com/en/CROWN_Act_(California)

    Privilege Awareness and Authentic Allyship: A Journey to Equity
    https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/privilege-awareness-authentic-allyship-journey-equity-cheraine-ncube/

    Unearned Advantage: What to Make of Privilege?
    “Anyone can be ‘privileged’ if it suits someone else’s argument.”
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/202007/unearned-advantage-what-make-privilege

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    44 mins

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