How can you find the courage to live life on your terms? Tom explores Principle 1: You are more than enough, be yourself. Show your authentic self to attract what you desire. Together with guest Brian Bloom, a relationships coach, they discuss how we can discover and unleash our authentic selves.
Selected Links
· Connect with Brian Bloom
Website | LinkedIn
· Connect with Tom Marshall
Website | LinkedIn
· Landmark education
· Non-Violent Communication workshop series, Marshall Rosenberg
· Burning Man
· Nowhere, regional Burning Man in Spain
Show Notes
Tom’s personal story about why he created this principle. [1:25]
Challenges with the principle that are explored in this episode. [3:50]
Introduction to Brian Bloom. [4:27]
What does authenticity mean to Brian? [05:40]
How Brian realised he’d succeeded by the societal scripts but was incredibly dissatisfied. [06:45]
Brian shares how he redefined the meaning of divorce. [08:45]
How does Brian now relate to his ex-wife? [11:20]
Not everyone will understand your life choices and it’s not your responsibility to make them. Don’t bow to the expectations of others. [13:00]
How Brian explored his sexuality and alternative relationship structures. [14:10]
Thank people who express concern about your life choices. [15:55]
How does Brian find the courage to be his authentic self? [17:15]
How showing his authentic self has helped Brian attract what he desires. [21:35]
Surrounding yourself with people like you gives you permission to be more self-expressed. [22:10]
Why Brian deserves the “purple heart of weirdness” medal. [23:55]
How Brian invests in finding his people by being his authentic self [25:50]
Brian shares his experiences of radical inclusion at Burning Man, an experiment in creating community. [27:45]
Unconditionally accepting people around you helps them be authentic. [29:03]
Brian shares his exploration of wearing dresses. [30:02]
“Until you try stuff on, you don’t really know who you are.” [32:03]
What advice Brian has for early career professionals who have trouble being fully authentic [33:11]
Brian shares how he “threw his hat over the fence” to overcome the challenge of moving to Europe. [35:21]
Always accept free samples. [37:51]
How to use social accountability to live more authentically [39:32]
“How much energy are you going to waste trying to live up to others’ expectations instead of exploring your own?” [42:15]
Summary of the episode. [42:27]
How Brian’s story challenges us. [43:49]