Mark talks to the tremendous Rebecca Huseyin, who is a blogger, trainer, neurodiversity advocate and Mum of a neurodifferent son (13, diagnosed autistic with a PDA profile and suspected ADHD). They swap tales of the ludicrous lengths they go to when trying to navigate personal hygiene tasks, such as cleaning hands, wiping faces, brushing teeth, having baths, cutting fingernails and wiping bums.

There are some hilarious anecdotes of the lengths to which Mark and Rebecca go to encourage their kids to engage in hygiene tasks - from fake drowning them in the bath, cleaning their teeth like a Victorian ghost and introducing the concept of "special dry".

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

The Lighter Side of PDA Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/LighterPDA/

Rebecca Huseyin blog (A Boy Less Ordinary) - https://aboylessordinary.com/

SENDIASS - (Google for your local county SENDIASS details)

PDA Society - https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/

Proprioception and Interoception: https://www.autismspeaks.org/sensory-issues

Oranurse unflavoured toothpaste - https://oranurse.co.uk/unflavoured-toothpaste/

Little teeth toothpaste - https://www.aquafresh.com/en-gb/our-products/kids-oral-care/little-teeth-toothpaste/

Big teeth toothpaste - https://www.aquafresh.com/en-gb/our-products/kids-oral-care/big-teeth-toothpaste/

The Prism Cat - https://linktr.ee/KyraChambers

Tesco Mobile Sensory Box - https://bettersociety.net/tesco-mobile-sensory-box.php

Insanity Arcade, Poole - https://www.insanityarcade.com/home

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Mark welcomes back the phenomenal Heidi Mavir, who is an  author, a neurodivergent advocate, activist, public speaker and Mum of a neurodifferent son (20, diagnosed autistic with a tic disorder, as well as suspected dyslexia and  Ehlers Danlos Syndrome). They pick up on a topic they very briefly touched on in the previous episode they recorded, which is whether there's any truth to the commonly-held belief that autistics don't feel empathy (spoiler alert - that view is abject nonsense).

They dissect the very concept of empathy to try and understand why it's viewed as so important to neurotypicals, what "the double empathy problem" is and why our kids' way of displaying and responding to empathy is so varied.

This is a genuinely insightful episode that gives a lot of food for thought when considering whether our own kids are able to feel empathy.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Heidi Mavir EOTAS Matters website - https://www.heidimavir.com/

"Your Child Is Not Broken" by Heidi Mavir - https://amzn.eu/d/8di4y0X

"Why Can't I Just Enjoy Things?" by Pierre Novellie - https://amzn.eu/d/fd51tDR

"How To Win Friends and Influence People" - https://amzn.eu/d/fd51tDR

The Double Empathy Problem - https://reframingautism.org.au/miltons-double-empathy-problem-a-summary-for-non-academics/

"I Didn't See You There" by Charlotte Gail - [Available end of January. Link will be added here later]

Sesame Street Introduce Autistic Character - https://youtu.be/dKCdV20zLMs

Muppet Christmas Carol - https://youtu.be/JXaVI60BFJM

Heidi Mavir on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@heidimavir

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In response to several requests from listeners, this episode is all about the complexities of giving medication to our neurodivergent kids.

Mark speaks to the tremendous Danielle Jata-Hall, who is an author, award-winning blogger and a disability campaigner. She has three children (13, 11 and 8 - all diagnosed Autistic with a PDA profile, as well as a blend of ADHD, Anxiety and potential bipolar disorder).

Mark and Danielle discuss the medication journeys they've been on with their own kids, from overcoming their initial misgivings and dealing with the judgement of others, to the administrative nightmare of trying to get medication prescribed by medical professionals.

They compare different prescription pathways and share their experiences of the difficult process of titration - not to mention the rigamarole of actually getting their kids to take the medication we've fought so hard to get for them.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

"The Journey Into S.E.N.D Fatherhood" book - https://amzn.eu/d/0qwN0il

Danielle Jata-Hall blog - https://pdaparenting.com/

Newbold Hope - https://www.newboldhope.com/

FII (Fabricated or Induced Illness) - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/fabricated-or-induced-illness/overview/

"The Parent's Guide to ADHD Medicines" book - https://amzn.eu/d/i2e73JM

Shared Care - https://www.england.nhs.uk/medicines-2/regional-medicines-optimisation-committees-advice/shared-care-protocols/

"I'm Not Upside Down, I'm Downside Up" book - https://amzn.eu/d/avsMxy2

"Black Rainbow" book - https://amzn.eu/d/he1Nd8K

"Steph's Two Girls" blog with tips on getting your child to take medication - https://www.stephstwogirls.co.uk/2020/01/top-tips-when-your-child-wont-take.html

"A boy less ordinary" blog - https://aboylessordinary.com/

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What was it like to raise an autistic child 30 years ago? Mark has a fascinating chat with Stephanie - his wonderful neighbour from over the road, who has a 31 year old son (diagnosed autistic with moderate learning difficulties, OCD and anxiety).

They discuss how parents of autistic children were able to navigate the process of understanding how best to raise their kids, without access to the internet, social media or the breadth of information we have available now?

This is an enlightening and surprisingly uplifting episode, which shines a light on just how far society has come in a relatively short space of time, when it comes to understanding, supporting and championing our neurodivergent kids.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Disneyland, Paris - https://www.disneylandparis.com/en-gb/

Echolalia - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Echolalia

The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Eric Carle - https://amzn.eu/d/boDv6wN

Rain Man - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rain_Man

The Essential Different, Simon Baron Cohen - https://amzn.eu/d/3Y5xgWv

Gentle Parenting - https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/on-babies/202405/gentle-parenting-doesnt-mean-permissive-parenting

Leonardo Da Vinci - https://www.independent.co.uk/news/health/leonardo-da-vinci-adhd-health-mona-lisa-a8927641.html

Social Stories - https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/communication/communication-tools/social-stories-and-comic-strip-coversations

Supported Employment - https://www.base-uk.org/about/members/brighton-hove-city-council

Fare Share - https://fareshare.org.uk/

Oxfam - https://jobs.oxfam.org.uk/jobs/home/

Leonardslee Gardens - www.leonardsleegardens.co.uk/

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Mark welcomes back former guest "Belle", as they discuss the perils of transport. "Belle" has two neurodivergent children - a 9-year old girl (diagnosed autistic with sensory processing disorder and a PDA profile), and a 7-year old boy (diagnosed autistic with Tourette Syndrome and suspected ADHD). Alongside Mark's three neurodivergent kids (with a giddy blend of autism, ADHD, anxiety and PDA), they have a trove of transport-related horror stories to tell.

As well as discussing tales of travelling on buses, planes, trains, boats and cars, there are also more Neurodiversity Champions, Tiny Epic Wins and What The Flip moments, as well a particularly insightful proposal to create a demand-avoidant sat nav.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Gatwick Airport Special Assistance - https://www.gatwickairport.com/passenger-guides/special-assistance.html

Ferry cabins (DFDS) - https://www.dfds.com/en-gb/passenger-ferries/onboard/newhaven-dieppe/sleeping

Jen Marillat, Dramatherapist - https://jenmarillat.com/

Health and Care Professions Council - https://www.hcpc-uk.org/

The British Association of Dramatherapists - https://www.badth.org.uk/

EMDR Therapy - https://www.bacp.co.uk/about-therapy/types-of-therapy/eye-movement-desensitisation-and-reprocessing-emdr

Riding For the Disabled Association (RDA) - https://rda.org.uk/

Aspens, East Sussex - https://www.aspens.org.uk/

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Mark chats to the magnificent Lisa Lloyd about the judgement they regularly receive from outsiders as parents of neurodivergent kids. Lisa has two children - an 11-year old boy (diagnosed autistic) and a 7-year old girl (diagnosed autistic, with a PDA profile) and, as a prominent content creator on social media (@asd_with_a_g_and_t), she is no stranger to being judged by people who don't have a neurodivergent child, much less a clue about how to raise one.

Mark and Lisa swap tales about comments they receive from people judging their children ("He's not autistic, he's just naughty"), judging their parenting ("He wouldn't act like that if he was my son") and judging the entire concept of neurodivergency ("It's just a label"). They discuss the misconceptions that cause people to act this way, as well as the appropriate responses you can give them in return.

This is a great one to listen to if you've ever been told that "He doesn't look autistic" or "Everyone's a bit on the spectrum".

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Raising the Sen-Betweeners, Lisa Lloyd - https://amzn.eu/d/4hm6Sb0

SEND Reform England - https://www.sendreformengland.com/

Lisa Lloyd Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/asd_with_a_g_and_t/

Lisa Lloyd TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@asd.with.a.g.and.t

Lisa Lloyd Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ASDwithGandT

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Mark discusses the innate human desire to "keep up with the Joneses" with returning guest Samuel Wilson, who is an author and parent of two children: an 8-year old daughter (on the autism pathway, with Cerebral Palsy, Cerebral Visual Impairment and Sensory Processing Disorder) and a 5-year old son (suspected neurotypical).

They discuss how unhelpful that can be in the early days of your diagnosis journey and how liberating it is when you finally let go of the expectations of being "normal" and embrace your family in all of their neuroshambolic glory.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Simpsons clip - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=784seqWxsMk&t=469s

Dad La Soul - https://www.dadlasoul.com/

BBC Woman’s Hour - https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0022ss7

India Croc replacement saga - https://www.instagram.com/p/C9hLMewpBH6/

"Lend a Hand", Samuel Wilson's book - www.littlestepspublishing.co.uk/books/lend-a-hand

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A potentially controversial episode, this one, where Mark chats to an old friend, Kate Ebbutt (Mum to 11 year-old neurotypical and 9-year old diagnosed ADHD/suspected autistic humans). They talk candidly about something they've both found themselves worrying about in their darker moments - am I raising an arsehole? They dissect the behaviours that qualify someone as being "an arsehole" and discuss to what extent they can be fairly applied to our neurodivergent kids.

They also discuss to what extent the gentle parenting approach could be contributing to this behaviour, as well as recounting experiences of times where they've had to explain their parenting choices to neurotypicals who struggle to understand their approach.

Please note, if you are offended by the word arsehole, it is sprinkled liberally throughout the episode, so this one might not be for you.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

"The Explosive Child" book - https://drrossgreene.com/the-explosive-child.htm

Gentle Parenting - https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/style/what-is-gentle-parenting/

National Trust - https://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/

RAM (Random Access Memory) - https://www.ign.com/articles/what-is-ram

Sheffield Queer Parents - https://sites.google.com/view/sheffield-queer-parents

Angling 4 Education - https://www.angling4education.com/

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