• Ep. 178: My MOST Unpopular Opinion
    Sep 30 2024

    Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Here’s my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, I’ll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?

    Tune in to discover:

    • The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse

    • How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown)

    • Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better

    • Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!)

    • What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!)

    • The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when you’re able to really listen and validate them!)

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    32 mins
  • Ep. 177: I Thought My To Do List Was Already Too Long
    Sep 23 2024

    Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, it’s time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.

    In this episode, I’m getting real about the stress I’m feeling in this season of life. I’ll share how I’m handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.

    Tune in to discover:

    • The very first thing to do when it all feels too much

    • How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others

    • Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner

    • The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported

    • Why it’s essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it

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    30 mins
  • Ep. 176: One of the Main Reasons Your Marriage Feels So Challenging After Having Kids
    Sep 16 2024

    No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and I’m surprised I’ve never seen it framed this way before.

    Tune in to discover:

    • A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything

    • How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating

    • The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle

    • How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges

    • The key thing you and your partner are probably missing that’s creating conflict - and how to fix it

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    28 mins
  • Ep. 175: The Tool For Defensiveness You Aren’t Going To Like
    Sep 9 2024

    Here’s the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if you’re serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you can’t afford to skip. Ready to try the tool you’ve probably been avoiding but absolutely need?

    Tune in to discover:

    • A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples)

    • The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage

    • What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective

    • How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive

    • Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage

    FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

    Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

    Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

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    26 mins
  • Ep. 174: Parenting and Loneliness
    Sep 2 2024

    We all know that feeling of being surrounded by people yet feeling completely alone—like no one truly sees or notices you. Parenthood can make it all too easy to lose yourself and your sense of joy. In this episode, we normalize those feelings and explore how to reconnect with who you are and what you need to feel more fulfilled.

    Tune in to discover:

    • The hidden shame of not knowing who you are or what you truly enjoy

    • The key to unlocking your unique path to feeling less lonely (hint: it’s different for everyone)

    • Practical steps to take when loneliness hits

    • Thought-provoking questions to help you discover and prioritize YOUR needs—not everyone else’s

    • The one crucial thing everyone should know about themselves (that no one else can tell you)

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    Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie


    Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

    https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call


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    31 mins
  • Ep. 173: 5 Red Flags To Pay Attention To In Your Marriage
    Aug 26 2024

    If you're waiting for things to magically improve in your marriage once the kids are older or life calms down - think again. Change doesn’t just happen; it requires active, intentional effort. If you notice any of these red flags in your relationship, start acting on them today.

    Tune in to discover:

    • The misconception that everything will return to the way it once was “someday”

    • How you might be blocking your spouse from validating you without even realizing it

    • Whether your actions are truly justified when your spouse makes you mad - and vice versa

    • The one thing you should prioritize above all else to fuel your marriage (and it’s not about scheduling date nights)

    • How your assumptions about your spouse can shape your relationship and your happiness

    • What to focus on to ensure your marriage works for BOTH of you

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    Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

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    33 mins
  • Ep. 172: You’ve Done Everything Right and STILL Your Needs Aren’t Being Met
    Aug 19 2024

    You’ve asked for what you need. You’ve given examples. You’ve worked on your mindset. And yet, nothing in your relationship has changed. It’s heartbreaking to feel like you’ve tried everything, but don’t lose hope - this episode is your light at the end of the tunnel. There are still ways to create the marriage you desire!

    Tune in to discover:

    • How learned helplessness can sneak into your marriage and why it happens so often

    • What to do when you feel like it’s not even worth bringing up what’s bothering you anymore

    • The one major factor researchers found to avoid marriage shutdown

    • How to shift from "I’m never going to get what I need from my spouse " to "we just haven’t figured it out YET"

    • The key to using realistic thoughts

    • What more you can do when your needs still aren’t being met

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    Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

    Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

    https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call


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    28 mins
  • Ep. 171: How To Have Fewer Fights With Your Spouse
    Aug 5 2024

    Conflict is a key aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship.

    It doesn’t mean having screaming matches all the time. Instead, conflict can involve respectful disagreements and deep conversations that come from a loving place. If this seems completely foreign or impossible to you, then this episode is for you. Loving well is crucial, but in my opinion, fighting well is even more important.

    Tune in to discover:

    • The importance of identifying both your and your spouse's fighting styles

    • One essential question to ask yourself about conflict - especially if you find yourself having the same argument repeatedly

    • Tips for having effective and productive arguments

    • How to argue without getting defensive

    • What to do if you fall back into old, unhealthy patterns

    • Why establishing rules for conflict in your relationship is vital and what to consider when creating them

    FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar

    Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

    Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

    https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call


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    34 mins