Fair Play has changed the conversation around mental load for so many couples, and it is an incredible starting point. But after using it myself and walking clients through it, I’ve seen that sometimes it doesn’t go as far as we hope, and it can even leave couples feeling stuck or disappointed.

In this episode, I’m sharing where Fair Play shines, the gaps I’ve noticed, and what else needs to be in place for this tool to actually create the change you want. If you’ve ever tried Fair Play and still felt frustrated, unseen, or like something was missing, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools to move forward.

Tune in to discover:

• Why Fair Play was groundbreaking and why I still recommend it

• The most important gap the system leaves out (and why it matters so much)

• How life circumstances like travel or shift work complicate the system

• Why divvying up tasks is only part of what makes marriage work

• What else your marriage needs beyond Fair Play to truly thrive

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

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What if the changes you want in your marriage could happen faster than you ever thought possible? Most couples assume that improving their relationship has to take years of work, but that’s not actually true. There’s one shift that can speed things up dramatically, and it might not be what you expect.

In this episode, I share the biggest reason progress often feels painfully slow and the exact mindset and approach that will collapse time and help you see results much more quickly. You’ll hear real-life examples from my own marriage and from clients, plus the key to moving from frustration and disconnection into real, lasting change.

Tune in to discover:

• Why so many couples get stuck spinning their wheels on the wrong issues

• The hidden ways traditional methods slow down progress

• What creates hope and momentum when you feel like nothing is working

• How to get unstuck even if you’ve been in the same cycle for years

• The #1 hack to collapse time and get results faster in your marriage

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Marriage and motherhood are challenging enough, and when ADHD is in the mix it can feel even more complicated. But a strong, connected marriage is absolutely possible. In this episode, I am joined by Sara Wiles, mom, wife, and business mentor, for an honest conversation about what ADHD looks like in her marriage and parenting, and the strategies that create more balance and connection at home.

We also talk about what it means to build a business that supports your life instead of the other way around. Sara’s openness about marriage, motherhood, and entrepreneurship is a breath of fresh air for anyone who has ever felt “too much,” “not enough,” or simply wired differently in their relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• Why marriage after kids feels like building the plane while flying it

• The role of repair in relationships and why it matters more than getting it perfect

• How ADHD shows up in both business and marriage and how to make it work for you

• The truth about highlight reels, comparison, and what we don’t see in other people’s marriages

• What it means to build a life-first business (and why it matters for moms and families)

Connect with Sara on Instagram: @sara_wiles

Learn more about becoming a Virtual Assistant: startandgrowco.com

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

If you want to prevent resentment, reduce conflict, and protect your peace as a parent, one of the most powerful skills you can build is setting boundaries.

I know boundaries can feel confusing, even controversial. Maybe they’ve been used against you in the past, or maybe you’ve thought of them as walls or ultimatums. But the truth is, healthy boundaries are what allow you to show up as your best self, feel emotionally safe, and create a marriage that actually feels good after kids.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact boundaries that protect your marriage from resentment and burnout, plus how to put them into place in a way that feels kind, loving, and effective.

Tune in to discover:

• What we so often get wrong about boundaries

• The 5 categories of boundaries that matter most for parents (and how to set them)

• How clear boundaries reduce conflict and increase emotional safety in marriage

• The most common mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and what to do instead)

• How to know where you need a boundary most in your relationship right now

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Double standards can show up in any marriage, but over time they can quietly erode connection and trust. The tricky part is, they’re not always obvious and sometimes they hide in the everyday routines and unspoken expectations you’ve had for years.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how double standards show up, why they can feel so frustrating (even if you can’t put your finger on exactly why), and what to do if you suspect they’re taking a toll on your relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• How to spot double standards you may not even realize are there

• Why these patterns feel so personal and emotionally charged

• A simple way to talk about them without starting a fight

• What to focus on if the dynamic feels unfair but hard to change

• The shift that can help you feel like you’re on the same team again

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

There’s one sneaky force behind so many disconnections in marriage, and most couples don’t even realize it’s happening until they’re deep in resentment, withdrawal, or feeling like roommates.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the hidden link between the mental load and marriage shutdown, and why it’s about so much more than just who does the dishes. I’ll walk you through the three layers of mental load, the emotional toll it takes (especially on moms), and the subtle but powerful ways it impacts connection, intimacy, and teamwork.

Whether your spouse “helps” or not, this episode will help you understand why it still feels like too much and what to do about it.

Tune in to discover:

• How the mental load contributes to emotional burnout and disconnection
• The 3 H’s of the mental load and why one part in particular is the hardest to share
• Why your partner might not get it and how to talk so they finally do
• The real reason you feel stuck even if you’ve talked about this before
• What to focus on if your spouse can’t help more due to work, travel, or other commitments

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You may have heard the headlines: men are doing more housework than ever before. Sounds like great news, right?

But in this episode, I’m breaking down why this seemingly positive trend can actually be really harmful for moms, and the very important piece that’s missing from the conversation. If you’ve ever been told you should feel grateful for your partner’s “help” but still feel unsupported, unseen, or like you’re carrying the mental weight of everything, this one is for you.

I’m sharing personal stories, research, and practical tools to help you move beyond “help” and toward true co-leadership in your home and relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• Why it’s not just about doing more—it’s about who’s managing it all
• The dangerous message moms get when they’re still overwhelmed but told to “be grateful”
• The key difference between household chores and the mental load (and why it matters)
• How to talk to your spouse about sharing the invisible weight (without a fight)
• The surprising long-term risks of ignoring this dynamic in your marriage

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

That quiet mental tally you keep? The one that says, “I’ve done bedtime three nights in a row” or “I handled the birthday party and the laundry and the grocery run”… that’s called scorekeeping. And while it might feel totally justified, it’s also slowly eroding the connection in your marriage.

In this episode, I’m diving into where scorekeeping comes from, why it shows up so often after kids, and what it actually does to the trust and emotional safety in your relationship. Most importantly, I’ll show you what to do instead so you can get more of what you need without falling into the resentment spiral.

Tune in to discover:

• Why scorekeeping is a symptom of a deeper issue in your marriage
• How keeping track of “who does what” quietly chips away at trust
• The surprising ways scorekeeping damages emotional safety and intimacy
• What to do when it actually is unfair but you don’t know how else to say it
• Tools to shift from competition to connection (and get your needs met)

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids