Episodes

  • #8 DATING YOURSELF - HOW, WHEN & WHY

    #8 DATING YOURSELF - HOW, WHEN & WHY
    Jun 22 2024

    Have you ever found yourself jumping from relationship to relationship without ever figuring out what you actually want from it?

    Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? Realising that you never knew what you wanted in the first place.

    How do you actually figure out what you want from a relationship? short answer: date yourself.

    But what does that mean?

    Evie and Ben talk in this episode on how Ben used to distract himself with countless situationships on the „seeing each other“ level that didn’t come to fruition and how Evie and her female friends thought that they would be the bad guys if the guy didn’t like them. ‚course you‘ll get tons of tips from pur fuck it toolkit - like deleting all your dating apps (obvs).


    This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love

    1. Why self-reflection is an important part of it
    2. What steps it takes to date yourself
    3. How dating yourself ACTUALLY benefits your relationship


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    57 mins
  • #7 WHO ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP? (AND AFTER...)

    #7 WHO ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP? (AND AFTER...)
    Jun 8 2024

    If you ever thought; wow, I didn’t know who I was in that relationship. That wasn’t me - this episode is for you!

    I didn’t know who I was in that relationship. Does this resonate with you? In this episode it’s all about identity in relationships. Not only what makes your identity, but rather how you ARE in a relationship and how you CHANGE.

    Ben proposes 3 stages in a relationship: The pre, the during and the post relationship phase. So basically with which identity you went into the relationship, how you developed your identity during the relationship and how you reflect on your identity after the relationship, aka. which things on your identity have permanently changed.


    This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love

    1. What the important factors are before entering a relationship
    2. How you can actively check on if you feeling like yourself during the relationship
    3. What to do after a relationship to get back on the ground and align you with yourself again


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    55 mins
  • #6 SOME ARE ACTIVISTS & OTHERS PACIFISTS

    #6 SOME ARE ACTIVISTS & OTHERS PACIFISTS
    May 28 2024

    Who's the person that fights for their ideas and who's the person that wants to save the relationship?

    In this episode we're talking about the two types of relationship dynamic: the activist and the pacifist.


    This episodes take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love

    1. Why some people are more prone to say yes in a relationship (pacifist)
    2. Why some people fight for their ideas (activist)
    3. Why fighting over power isn’t fighting over power


    Things we’ve talked about:

    Jay Shetty & Esther Perel Episode


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    56 mins
  • #5 WHY FALSE ASSUMPTIONS ARE SH*T

    #5 WHY FALSE ASSUMPTIONS ARE SH*T
    May 11 2024
    Because you said xyz, your partner thinks you hate them now. Sounds familiar? Welcome to the world of false assumptions (yay). False assumptions are beliefs we make up in our heads and we tend to believe are true simply because we assume so. In this episode Evie and Ben will chat about how they formed their false assumptions and how they started to resolve them. How? Listen to the ep and get ALL of the insights! Take-away for #Sh*t-Free-Love Be aware of the existence of false assumptions Never underestimate your imaginative power Don’t stop resolving false assumptions 🙏 Join our community here: https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com 😘 Get in touch with us on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit Mail: info@lovedoenstneedtobeshit.com
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    42 mins
  • #4 SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR PARTNER EVERYTHING?!

    #4 SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR PARTNER EVERYTHING?!
    Apr 28 2024

    Early in their relationship, Ben met a friend he used to have sex with and was wondering whether or not he should tell Evie…

    So, do you need to tell your partner everything you get up to? Or are some things easier to just keep to yourself?

    In this episode you'll hear all of the uncomfortable truths we've had to share in our relationship, what really happens when you're honest, and if we think that complete honesty helps or hinders a relationship.

    If you’re trying to build trust and open communication in your relationship, this episode is for you.


    #Sh*t-Free-Love episode highlights:

    • The real reasons we’re scared to tell our partners everything
    • What happens when you **are** completely transparent in your relationship
    • Get the answer to “Who’s responsibility is it to deal with the consequences of transparency”
    • How to actually be transparent in your relationship and support each other with this


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    43 mins
  • #3 ASK 3 SIMPLE QUESTIONS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP (YOU, ME & WE)

    #3 ASK 3 SIMPLE QUESTIONS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP (YOU, ME & WE)
    Apr 14 2024
    Have you ever felt like your partner is, instead of finding a solution, just trying to prove you wrong? If this sounds familiar, you should definetly listen to this episode where Evie and Ben unpack the magic of mutual understanding, respect and empathy. A.K.A the basics of a healthy relationship. It won’t surprise you that this magic is all about the holy f$%&ing trinity of a relationship: The YOU, the ME and the WE. What will surprise you, however, is, how widely you can use this tool/concept/framework. Because it does not only help to understand, as Evie puts it, “what do I want/think/feel, what do you want/think/feel and what does that mean to us” but also to realise for yourself whether you’re just blinded by the moment or if you really want something. Oh and be prepared for Ben to butcher the English language… 😅 Take-aways for #Sh*t-Free-Love - You’ll learn how to implement the YOU, ME & WE - We’ll teach you the premises of this concept - And we’ll give you a wide range of use cases in your relationships (spoiler: it’s more than just resolving conflicts…) Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:01 Start Episode 24:03 Community Question 36:08 Community Quest 38:39 Outro 🔥 ⁠Join our community⁠ 🤳 Get in touch with us on 🫡 ⁠Insta⁠ 🤤 ⁠Youtube⁠ 🫨 ⁠Mail
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    40 mins
  • #2 COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS IS SO F#%$ING POWERFUL

    #2 COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS IS SO F#%$ING POWERFUL
    Apr 12 2024
    Have you ever been in a situation where you got super frustrated because your boyfriend / girlfriend / partner didn’t understand what you said? Spoiler: It’s not because they’re a bit slow, daft, OR because they DON’T WANT to understand you. The real reason? Communication. Evie and Ben talk in this episode how they misunderstand each other but also how they worked on improving their communcation. Their credibility stems obvs from Bens degree in communication (which is also why he comes up with frameworks and theories 🙈). Also 65% of marriages break down due to poor communication…so hit the play button! Your take-aways for #Sh*t-Free-Love - Learn how to understand each other better - Tools to have more in-depth communication - Easy applicable Do’s and don’t’s when you speak with your partner Things we’ve talked about: - Non Violent Communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3l8l4prc-_Q - Four ears / four sides model: https://www.nottingham.ac.uk/helmopen/rlos/practice-learning/communities/transcultural-healthcare-practices/transcocon-germany-uk/screen07.html Join our community here: https://www.lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com Get in touch with us on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lovedoesntneedtobeshit/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lovedoesntneedtobeshit Mail: info@lovedoesntneedtobeshit.com
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    52 mins
  • #1 WHY IS TRUSTING EACH OTHER SO F*CKING HARD?

    #1 WHY IS TRUSTING EACH OTHER SO F*CKING HARD?
    Mar 18 2024
    Arguably THEE most important thing in a relationship, is trust. BUT WHY IS IT SO HARD TO TRUST EACH OTHER? Well, trust comes in many facettes and has a lot of faces. Find out, how you can improve the trust in your relationship and why it's really f-ing helpful to trust each other in this episode.
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    56 mins