In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pathological counterparts, tonic masculinity represents the unique texture of masculine love that's deeply caring, attuned, and focused on creating positive change. I delve into how this manifestation of masculinity calls forth the best in everyone, creates containers for growth, and serves as a creative force rather than a destructive one. This form of masculinity that doesn't rely on domination or control is desperately needed in our culture, as it empowers others and create structures that support collective flourishing and safety.

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven professionals can't feel their own exhaustion until it's too late, and share the breakthrough solution we've discovered through our work with countless men. If you're winning at life but feeling empty inside, this conversation could be the wake-up call you've been ignoring. Learn why slowing down might be the most powerful move you'll ever make.

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In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives.

• The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away.
• The importance of expressing our needs directly and taking ownership of them.
• How neediness often stems from a sense of urgency and a lack of clarity.
• The empowering nature of owning our needs and the vulnerability it entails.
• Practical strategies for cultivating a supportive network to help meet our needs.

Tune in and learn how to transform your approach to needs and neediness for a more fulfilling life!

Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening your bond. Whether you're struggling with sexual challenges or looking to elevate your passion, this episode can revolutionize your approach to intimacy and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode is your roadmap to unprecedented sexual connection.

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• Short on time? You can also experience 12 Epic Dates at your own pace and reignite the fire of your relationship

In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional disregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introduce our new programs, Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates, designed to help couples build stronger, more resilient relationships through skill-building, emotional connection, and polarity. Tune in for an honest conversation about the challenges of love, and how to navigate them with grace, tools, and support.

Find out more about Evolutionary Couples which starts October 19th and has Early Bird until October 7th, and sign up for 12 Epic Dates anytime at https://evolutionarycouples.us

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely?

The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passion, resolving conflicts, and growing together over the long term. Many couples are stuck in unfulfilling patterns, feeling more like roommates than lovers, or constantly bickering over small issues. Without the right tools and support, it’s easy for relationships to stagnate or deteriorate over time.

My wife Violet and I created the Evolutionary Couples program as a structured experience to help couples revitalize their relationships and foster deeper connection. Through 12 carefully designed “epic dates,” couples are guided to explore key areas like communication, intimacy, finances, and shared purpose. The journey provides a mix of themed dates addressing practical issues and polarity dates to reignite passion and play. With options for self-paced learning or a more immersive experience with coaching and community support, couples can choose the level of engagement that works for them. By dedicating just two hours a week to intentional relationship building, partners can develop new skills, heal old wounds, and cultivate a thriving, passionate partnership that just keeps improving over time!

Learn more and sign up at evolutionarycouples.us

In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of "nice guys" in the men's work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutionary leap in masculinity as it brings online kindness and sensitivity in men. It's not about killing or getting rid of our nice guy, but instead is all about integrating him along with our power.

In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity - nervous system, emotional, and polarity - that can skyrocket your personal growth and relationships. Learn how mastering these skills can help you effortlessly navigate stress, emotions, and social dynamics.

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