Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Good morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child.

My experience certainly included an adult child, but it was more than that and I'm finding that many of you struggle with it too. Next generation relationships such as daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, grandkids, great grandkids and other complex family members.

And, the realization that I could replay those hurtful conversations all day long and feel justified in my resentment but it didn't move the needle toward peace one iota!

The only thing that I could change was me and I wanted to reconnect with God and start the process of working on my growth. My peace. And that's where you'll find a newly tweaked website at www.beckykolb.com.

I hope you'll check it out and send me some feedback on what you want to hear and how you want to move this peace in your life to full throttle! Connect at www.beckykolb.com/contact.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

I’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement with a loved one.

I’m betting that you, like many others, are elated the holidays are behind you and the emotional pain goes dormant until the next trigger such as a birthday.

My friend, are you tired of living like that? Do you long to find peace? Lasting peace to fill your heart so that there isn’t room for the pain? I have a solution for you so settle in and let’s explore this together.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/50.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding.

And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well.

Today let’s consider what God is saying to you in these intense emotional days and months. I’ll share a story that I think you’ll relate to about being in the crucible and the amazing work that God is doing in you right now.

Ask God to open your spiritual ears and eyes and let’s dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/49.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Move on - how many times have you heard that phrase? Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just flip a switch and close the door on hurtful relationships?

For so many, the estranged relationship involves a family member, and it isn’t so easy to just walk away and close the door. So, how do you move on? I feel your pain and if you’re like me you’ve closed that door so many times, only to crack it open now and then.

My husband and I are in the process of a big move from Arizona to Texas and the term move on has brought new light to estrangement that I want to share with you. Turn off distractions and stay tuned for today’s message.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/48.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

Have you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged.

Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing some days. Seeking to follow God, you try to forgive only to be reminded of the wrongs and once again you deal with those negative emotions.

Today, I want to go a little deeper to share the impacts of estrangement and offer some tips to help you address those hurtful areas. You can find peace but sometimes it involves revisiting places you would rather avoid. Stay tuned and let’s walk through this together – one sister to another.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/47.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

Surrender and cooperation are two words that helped me discover the peace I was seeking as I experienced estrangement in a relationship.

Admittedly, these are not two words we readily think about. Surrender conjures up the thought of giving up control. Cooperation may not be as fearful depending on what we are being asked to cooperate with.

Whatever you are struggling with today, I want to encourage you and help you discover peace. If you are estranged today from someone you care about, no doubt you struggle with guilt, shame, anger, resentment, right?

I’ve been there and the passage from scripture I’ll share with you today is a game changer. Stay tuned and let’s dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/46.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

Healing your emotions is critical when you are estranged. And its hard work that will take time and commitment.

Take a moment to think about the emotions you’ve experienced in the last few days when you think about the person with whom you are estranged.

Do you feel disappointed? Sadness? Anger? Resentment? Bitterness? Do you feel the need to defend yourself? Do you wonder why it happened? Do you have imaginary conversations in your head with the other person?

My friend, all of that is commonplace when you are estranged from a loved one. Let’s unpack some of these emotions today and learn how to begin to heal you. Because it is essential before you can have a healthy relationship with that person.

Ready? Let’s go!

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/45.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what topics would you like to hear?

If you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes.

You replay the hurt over and over so much the record is warped and scratched. Yet you really want to forgive – or you don’t. But you know that you want to get unstuck and move on.

How? That’s the question that I struggled with and many women tell me they do too. Let’s dive into today’s episode and figure it out together.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/44.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact