Deacon James Keating reflects on how suffering often feels unbearable precisely because it touches innocence and faithfulness, which can make pain seem like punishment. Rather than avoiding those questions, they lead directly into the mystery of Christ, whose own innocent suffering on the Cross draws human pain into the life of God. In this light, suffering is not something God inflicts from a distance but a place where Christ chooses to dwell with us, transforming isolation into communion and opening a path toward redemptive love.

Heaven is the true “light at the end of the tunnel,” a reality already tasted through prayer, the sacraments, and especially the Eucharist. There is a spiritual danger of self-sufficiency with the freedom of poverty of spirit: the parable of Lazarus to shows how dependence on God opens the heart to grace. Meditation on heaven does not remove us from the world’s pain but equips us to endure it without despair and to love the poor more deeply. Embracing the Cross ultimately means embracing the Person who hangs upon it, trusting that every sharing in Christ’s suffering is already oriented toward resurrection, healing, and lasting joy.

1. How do I react interiorly when suffering touches innocence or faithfulness in my own life or in the lives of those I love?
2. In moments when I ask God “why,” do I allow that question to draw me closer to Christ on the Cross rather than into isolation or resentment?
3. How have the Eucharist and the other sacraments become places where Christ meets me personally in my suffering?
4. In what ways might my own sense of self-sufficiency keep me from deeper dependence on God and openness to grace?
5. How does meditation on heaven shape the way I endure present trials and relate to those who are poor, sick, or lonely?
6. When I accompany someone who is suffering, am I aware of how God is also ministering to me through that encounter?
7. What does it mean for me, concretely and daily, to embrace the Cross as a Person rather than as an abstract idea?

Deacon James Keating, Ph.D., is a professor of Spiritual Theology and serves as a spiritual director at Kenrick Glennon Seminary in St. Louis, MO.

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Be blessed, O most pure Virgin, for having vouchsafed to manifest yourself shining with light, sweetness and beauty, in the Grotto of Lourdes, saying to the child Saint Bernadette: “I am the Immaculate Conception!” O Mary Immaculate, inflame our hearts with one ray of the burning love of your pure heart Let them be consumed with love for Jesus and for you, in order that we may merit one day to enjoy your glorious eternity. O dispenser of His graces here below, take into your keeping and present to your Divine Son the petition for which we are making this novena.

(make your request)

O Brilliant star of purity, Mary Immaculate, Our Lady of Lourdes, glorious in your assumption, triumphant in your coronation, show unto us the mercy of the Mother of God, Virgin Mary, Queen and Mother, be our comfort, hope, strength, and consolation. Amen.

Our Lady of Lourdes, pray for us.

Saint Bernadette, pray for us.

DAY ONE
O Mary Immaculate, Our Lady of Lourdes, virgin and mother, queen of heaven, chosen from all eternity to be the Mother of the Eternal Word and in virtue of this title preserved from original sin, we kneel before you as did little Bernadette at Lourdes and pray with childlike trust in you that as we contemplate your glorious appearance at Lourdes, you will look with mercy on our present petition and secure for us a favorable answer to the request for which we are making this novena.

(make your request)

O Brilliant star of purity, Mary Immaculate, Our Lady of Lourdes, glorious in your assumption, triumphant in your coronation, show unto us the mercy of the Mother of God, Virgin Mary, Queen and Mother, be our comfort, hope, strength, and consolation. Amen.

Our Lady of Lourdes, pray for us.

Saint Bernadette, pray for us.

In this episode of Building a Kingdom of Love, Msgr. John Esseff reflects on the Beatitudes as the true path to joy and happiness, drawing directly from the Gospel of Matthew. He explains that “blessed” does not mean successful by the world’s standards, but joyful in the deepest sense because one is living in union with Christ.

Msgr. Esseff walks through the Beatitudes as a pattern of life that runs against worldly expectations. Poverty of spirit, mourning, meekness, mercy, and perseverance in suffering are not signs of failure but places where Christ lives most fully within the soul. He draws on the witness of St. Francis of Assisi to show that joy reaches its depth when a person can remain interiorly free and joyful even amid rejection, hardship, and misunderstanding.

The reflection turns inward to the obstacles that block joy, especially anger, judgment, and unforgiveness. Msgr. Esseff speaks candidly about how bitterness toward others, wounds from parents or spouses, and the refusal to forgive oneself fracture interior union with Christ. True unhappiness, he explains, flows not from suffering itself but from separation from Christ’s way of love.

A significant portion of the episode focuses on forgiveness as essential to Beatitude living. Msgr. Esseff shares pastoral encounters with those burdened by guilt, grief, abortion wounds, addiction, and self-rejection. God’s mercy is infinite, yet joy remains elusive until the heart accepts forgiveness fully, including forgiveness of self.

The episode culminates in a profound meditation on identity. True humility is not self-condemnation but recognizing oneself as chosen, loved, and uniquely created by God. Joy flows from allowing Christ, who lives within through baptism, to shape one’s attitudes, relationships, and daily responses. The Beatitudes become not ideals to admire but a lived way of being Christ in the world.

1. Which Beatitude challenges my understanding of happiness the most right now?

2. Where do anger, judgment, or unforgiveness interrupt my interior joy?

3. Is there someone I need to forgive, including myself, so Christ’s joy can deepen in me?

4. How do I respond when suffering, rejection, or misunderstanding comes into my life?

5. What would change if I truly lived each day from my identity as one loved by God?

Msgr. John A. Esseff is a Roman Catholic priest in the Diocese of Scranton. He was ordained on May 30, 1953, by the late Bishop William J. Hafey, D.D., at St. Peter’s Cathedral in Scranton, PA. Msgr. Esseff served a retreat director and confessor to St. Teresa of Calcutta. He continues to offer direction and retreats to the sisters of the Missionaries of Charity worldwide. Msgr. Esseff encountered St. Padre Pio, who would become a spiritual father to him. He has lived in areas around the world, serving in the Pontifical Missions, a Catholic organization established by St. Pope John Paul II to bring the Good News to the world, especially to the poor. Msgr. Esseff assisted the founders of the Institute for Priestly Formation and continues to serve as a spiritual director for the Institute. He continues to serve as a retreat leader and director for bishops, priests, sisters, seminarians, and other religious leaders around the world.