One of the most important stops we can make on our healing journey is figuring out how to sit with uncomfortable feelings. Often, this will appear in the form of others being upset with us. In this episode, we discuss one approach to others' upset: the ability to hear the message even when couched in a clumsy delivery.

We consider:

• 2:00 How can I speak with a friend who's always on her phone?
• 9:22 The key to a difficult conversation? How to elicit more care for more people.
• 14:34 My daughter doesn't want to spend time with me and is often mean. What is a healthy response?
• 18:10 Can you hear the message and ignore the delivery?
• 21:59 Key practices when others are upset with us.

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Today, we’re bringing you three heartfelt and deeply relatable conversations:

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist:
How do you protect your children while maintaining your own emotional resilience? We’ll dive into strategies for setting firm boundaries, minimizing conflict, and creating a safe and nurturing environment for your kids—all while managing the complexities of dealing with someone who prioritizes control over collaboration.

Reconnecting with an Adult Child
How do you approach a grown child with whom you’ve had a strained relationship, especially when the past is filled with pain? We’ll explore ways to lead with vulnerability, take responsibility without burdening them, and open the door to reconnection with respect and care.

Navigating Boundaries with a Difficult Roommate
Sharing a home can be a minefield of misunderstandings, especially when personalities clash and past trauma comes into play. We’ll break down how to manage a tense living situation with a roommate who struggles with passive-aggressive communication and territorial behaviors.


We consider:

• 2:15 How can I co-parent best?
• 15:20 Will my requests make a sticky situation worse?
• 20:30 A helpful hint when dealing with narcissistic defenses
• 26:50 How can I open the door to a deeper conversation with my adult child?
• 32:35 What I'd want to hear from an estranged parent
• 38:02 How can I invite my roommate into a conversation?
• 48:30 Closing thoughts

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Thank you for listening!

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Let's dive into the complexities of communication, parenting, and emotional connection as we explore:

1. How to handle projections in relationships when someone assumes your
thoughts and reacts defensively.

2. What do you do when your child doesn't like your "tone of voice?

3. What do you do when you want a deeper connection with a friend but fear their response? Or when a friendship feels unsafe, leaving you unsure how to proceed?

4. The art of creating emotionally safe conversations in the face of judgment or blame.


Want to skip to the good part?

• 1:02 My friend gets angry at me because they imagine I'm thinking things that aren't even in my head. What can I do?
• 8:42 How do I respond to "Don't psychoanalyze me?"
• 11:13 How can I alter the criticism my child hears in my voice?
• 16:47 1 way to reduce power struggles
• 21:18 3 tips to shift our mindset from control to connection for parents
• 27:28 How can I be authentic if I don't feel safe?
• 32:10. What is the "turnaround defense"?
• 39:24 A response to "You're too sensitive."
• 41:12 A response for "Don't take it so personally."
• 47:05 I want to speak with my friend but I'm afraid she'll tell me no.
• 53:53 How can I invite my friend into an authentic discussion?

If you’ve ever struggled with parenting, vulnerability, or feeling "too much," this episode will resonate deeply. Tune in to gain a roadmap for cultivating deeper connection, shared humanity, and self-sovereignty in all your relationships.

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If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with your family and friends!

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Thank you for listening!

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Become a member of my online learning community
• Winter 2025 Retreat: Getting Grounded in Your Goodness
• Join our calls live
• Set up a private session
• Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus