As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?
In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:
- whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
- whether people with high conflict personalities can change
- if change is possible:
- what is the likelihood of change
- what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
- how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that
NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.
Links & Other Notes
BOOKS
- 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner
- The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families
ARTICLES
- Fire or Keep High Conflict Employees
Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- 00:00 - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
- 01:08 - Does an HCP recognize they need to change?
- 04:34 - Can an HCP change?
- 06:36 - Borderline Personality Type
- 07:56 - Narcissistic Personality Type
- 09:37 - Histrionic Personality Type
- 10:03 - Antisocial Personality Type
- 11:10 - Helping Borderline HCPs Change
- 12:16 - What It Takes to Help Them Change
- 15:02 - Developing Empathy
- 17:08 - Time and Repetition
- 19:08 - Adapting to the Change in HCPs
- 20:10 - Approaching an HCP About Changing
- 25:42 - Reminders & Coming Next Week: What if I'm high conflict?