It can feel soul-crushing if your partner asks for a separation, but what if it’s actually an opportunity in disguise? This week Luke welcomes Amie Woolsey on the podcast. Amie is a certified betrayal trauma coach with Choose Recovery Services and is a Brainspotting practitioner. She has helped hundreds of people reclaim their lives after abuse, betrayal, and divorce. Listen in as Luke and Amie talk about how couples can use separation as a catalyst for profound individual healing and growth which can bring about lasting change in their relationship. Takeaways Separation allows space for individual healing and growth. Separation can break codependent, unhealthy relationship patterns. Separation allows the betrayed partner to connect back to their body and allows the betrayer to work on healing individual attachment wounds. Chapters 01:45 Luke Introduces Amie 03:32 Emotional Activation That Occurs When Considering a Separation 05:52 Tension Is Necessary During Healing 08:25 Fears Associated With Separating 09:29 Space Allows For Individual Healing 14:10 Risks and Rewards of Separation Connect With Amie: Amie’s Website Book a consultation Subscribe to her Choose To Be podcast Don’t Miss This! In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. Connect With Us: Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here. Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Help. Her. Heal - Program for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
