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You’re Not the Problem

The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal

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You’re Not the Problem

By: Katie McKenna, Helen Villiers
Narrated by: Helen Villiers, Katie McKenna
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The Instant Sunday Times Bestseller & Top 10 Irish Bestseller

'Helen & Katie's advice will change your life. It did mine.' - Kay Allinson, co-founder of Pinch of Nom

This book will show you what a narcissist looks like and how their emotional abuse impacts the lives and relationships of their families.

Many emotionally abusive behaviours from parent to child have become socially acceptable; because they're so prolific, they're normalised. Furthermore, humans often repeat relational patterns, passing the baton of trauma from generation to generation, until someone decides to change things. You're Not the Problem shows you how to recognise these behaviours and realise the profound impact they have had, and still have, and to see the patterns they form in our relationships with parents, partners, friends and colleagues. Using stories and examples from their clinical experience and extensive research, psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna share:

· What Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
· How to recognise emotional abuse in family relationships
· The immediate and long-term impact
· Practical strategies for healing
· How to avoid repeating these behaviours

With a compassionate, sympathetic approach to looking at your familial patterns, Villiers and McKenna show you how to truly break free from these toxic relationships and reclaim your life.

©2024 Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers (P)2024 Hodder & Stoughton Limited
Dysfunctional Families Emotions Relationships Self-Esteem

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No longer drowning

I started to listen to these ladies last year and was eager for them to finally release their book. I HAVE NOT BEEN DISAPPOINTED! I honestly couldn’t recommend this book enough to anyone that has suffered the injustice of narcissistic abuse at the hands of the ones they trusted the most. I have felt myself get so much stronger whilst forming my identity in my late 30’s, I wouldn’t be where I am in my journey today without Helen and Katie.
From the bottom of my “black heart”, thank you💜.
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Felt violated by the accuracy. Very helpful in understanding the patterns of narcissism and it’s aftermath

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Validating and practical

Incredibly helpful. I will continue to refer to the book in the future. A great resource to help navigate challenging relationships

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This book will change your life

I adored listening to Helen and Kate help me have so many aha moments and equal quantities of shame release during this book. I think I will be playing it on repeat.

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Must read for kids who suspect their parent is a narvissist!

Helen and Katie have done a great job of helping identify, explain and heal the wounds created by emotional abuse. Absolutely perfection ladies, thank you!

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Brilliant insight and practical examples

A truly authoritative dive into identify and recovering from emotional abuse. if you identify as having emotionally immature parents, partners, bosses or existing in abusive or toxic systems like bad workplaces, religions and cults, then do yourself a service and read this book.

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Like they were talking just to me

Mind blown. I thought I had a handle on my healing however this helped me feel off more layers. At times I thought they had interviewed my family as it was almost word for word. Highly recommend this read.

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