In Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, Dr. Warren Farrell teaches us how to handle personal criticism without becoming defensive. He explains how being defensive evolved biologically when criticism was the sign of an enemy--and “putting up our defenses” was necessary for physical survival. However, Farrell says, “Defensiveness is the Achilles’ Heel of love.”

In love, our primal need is to feel understood. In Dr. Farrell’s words, "I have never heard someone say, 'I want a divorce, my partner understands me.” Ironically, the deeper our love, the more vulnerable we feel, the more defensive we become. Soon, couples feel they are walking on eggshells. Raising children means less time for communication, but more reason to stay together. The result: passion fades, and we are legally married but physiologically divorced. Or in a minimum-security-prison marriage.

The solution? In Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, Dr. Farrell teaches us how to emotionally associate being criticized with the potential for being loved. Since being defensive is biologically natural, Dr. Farrell creates an alternative method--similar to a “work-around” that we might create to avoid faulty hardwiring in our computer’s software.

Dr. Farrell’s methods are the culmination of thirty years of experience with thousands of men and women in workshops, groups and seminars. He shows how to use the strategies that create love at home to also produce success and respect in the workplace.

In this audio book, Dr. Farrell, selected by the Financial Times as one of the world’s top 100 Thought Leaders, personally summarized and reads the books content. A Book-of-the-Month Club section that has been praised by celebrities, therapists, and couples as brilliant. See warrenfarrell.com/136-2/.